Great to hear from you CM! I'm afraid after work today I just slept. It was raw here -- like you CM I just add on the clothes to stay warm.

Hope everyone had a good day. I shredded some papers but not enough.

Good Morning Everybody 🙂

Hi Tatoulia 🙂
Me too 🙁 Missing Diane
Having a 20% goal is a great plan to help you keep in mind just how you want to get this done.
Without a clear plan we tend to get side tracked and then frustrated that nothing seems to be getting done.
My having fewer things really helps me to keep the house clean and frees up lots of time for me to play and enjoy things instead of always fretting about doing chores.

Yesterday morning I heard a strange little scream from the carport and ran out to find Twinkles with a baby cotton tail bunny in his mouth.
I yelled at him to let it go and chased him until I caught him by his tail.
Tossed Twinkles in the house and checked on the bunny. The bunny was stunned but otherwise alright. 😀
I wish the carport was cleared out so the bunnies would stop nesting in there.
Will keep all cats in the house for the next several days to give the baby bunnies a chance to fledge the nest without becoming "cat toys".

Hi Everybody 🙂

Hi Tatoulia 🙂
WAY TO GO!!!! for a sweet relaxing place to sleep. 😀
Sounds like it could be fun having your friend rearrange and freshen up a few rooms for you.
I get too much enjoyment just from something simple like a new curtain. 😉

Hi CriticalMass 🙂
WOOHOO! Great job! 😀
Looking forward to hearing all about it when you have the time.

Hi Anonymoniker 🙂
This is the best time of year to enjoy the outside of our homes.
When summer heat gets here we will have to spend more time inside.

Hi Porter 🙂
Keep up the wonderful job you are doing thinking through every aspect of the move.
Great thinking as to how to help your wife with her things by having friends do that with her.

Yesterday I decided to water everything in the yard then I took a nap.
Today I went grocery shopping, everything is put away now.
Just sitting here watching Youtube videos and reading stuff on the interwebs. 😉
Spoke with my neighbor who has horses.
Evidently, Scooter (the cat) has been going over to my fence along side the stables and playing with the horses.
Some cats form very strong attachments to their horse friends.

Hi SubC! Good work on the coffee mugs! Can you tell me more about the plastic? Do you find it hard to get rid of because you can think of uses for it? Or does the non/biodegradable nature of it bother you?

I used to have an issue with saving jars, largely because I thought they were cute. I don't have even one left, I got rid of them all. Now that I'm mentioning it I can think of a few uses for them, if I still had them. But then I like to remind myself that just because I can think of a use doesn't mean 1) that I needed them 2) that they are useful and 3) that I should have kept them.

My day settled down. I visited with BF then with mom. I still have to pack for trip. I forgot to buy milk so no coffee for me tomorrow AM. Drats.

Good Morning Everybody 🙂

Hi CriticalMass 🙂
Hi Tatoulia 🙂
Hi Anonymoniker 🙂
Hi Porter 🙂

Weather has been sunny and bright.
Chilly in the mornings but soon gets warm.
Lightly breezy but not the raging winds we have been having.
Perfect weather for washing a lot of stuff like drapes and blankets, which is what I've been doing.
Once my ribs are all better I think I need to dust those high hard to reach places like ceiling fan and cupboard tops.
I noticed there are dust bunnies congregating up there. 😛

Tatoulia, i like that 'editing my house' thats a great phrase!!! 😀

Trying to plan only 1 large thing at a time from upstairs.I'm more worried about getting hurt . I know it can happen, and I'm too vulnerable.

At least my stairs has a landing half way.
And I have made holes in the wall getting the large things . My plan will be to use plaster to fill the holes. So it better I empty the upstairs so any chance of injury or repairs will accomplished prior to moving day.
Plus moving downstairs, across town and the back upstairs is too much + everything else.

Last time I moved my mother decorated my daughters room, but I had to sacrifice a a moving day and a moving van rental to deal with her and her moods.
In the end , last time, my neighbors. Stole 1/4th of my valuables out my garage, because Isidro have time to get to it because of doing for them.

I see it coming again.

My mom ! If I let her in she wants me to do as she would do. And she can be Curt to us..

She doesn't get it. It's not that don't appreciate her help. It's that it causes tension and harsh statements if I allow her help. I'd rather get do nothing and just enjoy time together doing trivial things without needles and pins.

So now she's offended that I won't let her decorate the 13 year olds room. It's a sore spot for me.
Not the bad experiences, but going up I never got to have anything in my rooms of my own. Not even a poster or sticker, I left home and my first wife was the same way. My second wife , the one that I live with now , we have our own rooms. And boy do I hear about it. But I cant live in the same room with her anymore, she's abusive, and dirty. I don't want to say anymore about that. But I just look at my daughter sometimes, and think , if I don't let her have pride in space, she never want to put in the effort , and become like her mother.

So her room stinks , but is covered in rock band posters and music boy bands. She has no siblings , so her friends. Like coming over and spending time in the empty house that always has food.

Grandma wants it to look like a pretty room without function. But just want to see the floor, and not smell dirty clothes. I'll know more when I find a place. I don't think my daughter has much to complain about and I shield her from people like her mother and grand ma when they are high horses.
Teens need a sense of identity, and for now her friends come because she has a room that reflects their culture. At least for now, before she meets a boyfriend .

Good night. Best wishes.

Glad your day got better!

Sending anything to the landfill bothers me. It's a non-renewable/consumption of resources issue. I wish I could think of another use for theplastic containers!

I also have a hard time giving up something that could be reused or recycled if I think that will result in it being thrown away instead.

Hello Everybody sorry I'm late and new

Tatoulia, i like that 'editing my house' thats a great phrase!!! 😀

I love the thought of the kitty having horse friends, Tillie!

I'm working from home today. I need to accomplish a lot both work wise and home wise. Plenty to do all around.

Good Morning Everybody 🙂

Hi Tatoulia 🙂
Hope the second half of your day went smoothly.
Have a fun and safe trip! (((hug)))

Hi Anonymoniker 🙂
Hi Porter 🙂

It really bugs me too when the food comes wrapped up in so much plastic.
Only suggestion is to find a recycling bin and put it in there.
Our dump transfer station has large bins set up for us to dump our recyclables into at no charge to us.
Unfortunately, a lot of food still comes in plastic that is not recyclable.

Two weeks ago I planted some "cat grass" seeds in a little pot and had it on the window sill.
The grass was about two inches tall yesterday.
When I was not present, Somebody ate every little blade of it.
Nothing but a pot of dirt left.
So, I planted the rest of the seed packet in the little pot and hopefully this time the grass can get a little bit taller before it's picked clean. 😀

Drive by.

Sticking to the regular schedule.
And on the day that the room her hoard is in is scheduled . I'm going in and putting it all back. Period.

Very difficult day for me.
Given only 20 days to find new place.

I'm ready, but as with anything.
With change we feel vulnerable.
I cashed out all my vacation time to ensure we have enough for all things planned and unexpected.

I will not say it can't get worse.
It feels like a disaster to me, but to my wife is like giving my daughter and I a fresh start before she leaves for hospice.

I know I'm up to the challenge , and I will never think about vacation pay the same again.

I got $1500 no questions asked.

In my excitement , when I got the letter today.
I was bewildered. I knew I needed creative outlet.
So I could think on the matters before reacting.
So I had bought a set of practice drums.for my daughter. An spent 40minutes resplicing the wiring and finding other equipment to matxh the specs in the online Manuel. My hoarding was organized and I found just what I needed to get it working.

Pleased that is now completed, daughter says she's going to sleep with it tonight. Music is her outlet. Got it from let go for $90. Same setup at the music store was $210 . If I have money left over . I'll send her to the music store for lessons. Oh god does she need lessons.

Two big bags of garbage out and one bag of recycling. Going to get dishwasher ready and started. Feeling good about my progress.

Putting the music on really makes a difference.

Tillie, I'm sorry your hoarder isn't ready to change. Does he talk about it at all? Please forgive me if I'm prying and ignore if you want.

I recycle as much as possible, although I try to avoid even recyclable plastic. It's the non-recyclable stuff that is really a problem for me. Styrofoam is the worst! Local styrofoam recycling would literally change my life. The first big step in my dehoarding came with easily available paper recycling.

Maybe you could put a piece of screen over the top of your pot so that the poor plants can't get eaten all the way down?

Hi all!
Thanks, Tatoulia!
There is a big fire in my area that im having to keep watch on in case it gets close enough to have to get the cats & go to a motel. It is scary. The scariest part is having to trap the feral cats. It definitely has me evaluating what 'stuff' is important. ~☆♡☆~

Saturday night--very hot here. Did the usual, saw brother, did mom's grocery shopping, etc. then came him either and fell fast asleep. I did get some things to the donation center today.

Was out late last night having dinner with friends--well past 1 AM, which is late for me.

Going to make something quick to eat and head back to bed.

Thinking of you all--hope the fire continues to be contained, hope Tillie is healing, hope everyone is well.

Hi Everybody 🙂
The pain is getting better, not constant.
The depression from hurting is lifting too.
Just read all your posts in this new thread and in the old "wonky" thread too.
Thank you for your well wishes and good suggestions (((HUGS)))
WAY TO GO! for all you have done.
YIPPPEEE! for all the good news.
Tomorrow would be a good day for all of us to play.

😉

May already.
I'm getting stuff done , but there's too much drama in the house. I usually think it's my fault admit it , and move on. But she just keeps on till I have to respond. And then she says I'm a beast.
Enough of that right?

At least I still have my small list of things to do.
Usually when I'm distracted by her moods, I don't feel like doing anything. But with the lists always present and the priorities clearly laid out. When I'm taking an adult time out. I can start doing something on my list. So that when she calms down and wants to start it up again I can ask her to wait till I Finnish WHat I'M DOING! LOL
In this case I clearly know its not me. So I have to just keep listening and taking time outs when it gets heated.

The simple 18 task formula for this weekend I may adopt as a go to for when moods are dominating the home .

3 meal times a day X Fri,Sat,Sun = 9
1 before and 1 after 9meals = 18
I'm thinking if it's an entire moody week.
Then Mon,Tues,Wedn,Thur I can count on doing one right after meals so I can plan 22 one hour tasks a week.

In this way I would always be able to try and avoid an argument I see coming from her side. Or at least a planned task for time outs.

Thing is on my side I'm extremely moody when my house is so cluttered I can't I vote people in.

Now that we're definitely moving within 30 days.
There going through everything I had already packed. And it's a huge mess all over again.

Sounds like a disaster.
However it's not my disaster.
It's hers.
I already moved everything to the storage bin that belongs to me. Nothing in her mess is mine , or my daughters. So wife has alot of anxiety, and comes and finds me to verbalize her frustrations.
For whatever reason. I get caught up in it.

I dont think I'll be able to change the way we dance to those moods. But maybe , possiblely I can not allow the moods to stop my ability to move forward and make progress.

At this point we have more than can fit in the next house. And we don't have the ability to through it away with trash. It will need heavy trash dump .and a truck to dump it.

I could go on and on.
We the plan was to split apart. My plan was to have her people help her move. Last time we moved her people set up situation where I had no place to my hoard. Her stuff filled all closets, porches and living spaces. I lost alot. So now she's wants to do the same thing. And we're going back and forth .
If hers isn't in tubs it'll take over the entire area. Where as if all the small clutter is in tubs then there is enough room for everyone's stuff.

I prefer tubs either , but there's no way to keep it from becoming a pile again.

So I'm struggling too.

Tillie
You said you got hurt from a fall on your stuff?

I had that issue in my former garage.
My hoard got so high. I had to put it in the largest tubs I could find. And what was so large couldn't fit in largest tubs, I put to one side.
In a large area.

That's when I started removing piles in favor of tubs. It's wasn't something I liked. It was something I could live with. My garage was filled on the long wall with tubs. From floor to ceiling.
In the middle was things on Wheels , bikes,mowers, and more bins. Then a pile , and opposite the wall of tubs the large things.

I think I could live out my days as a garage troll.
But I prefer to be inside with my daughter. And my wife. The drama not so much.

Hope you recover and are able to make your pla e safe again.

Good morning Tillie & Porter!

Thank you for coming over to the next phase!

I slept again a lot last night. Feeling fresh today. Have a friend in from out of the country and will enjoy her company this afternoon, then my BF will join us for dinner. Looking forward to all of it.

Sneaking in a load of laundry while I make my coffee.

Tillie take care of yourself. Porter, keep up the good work.