| Tatoulia | Posted: 28 April 2017 - 07:01 AM |
Hello everyone--I've started a new chapter as the other one is getting unwieldy and this should solve Anony's missing button problem! Tillie, take good care of yourself today. I've asked Dr Scooter and Nurses Marty and Twinkles to check in on you. Porter, your three-day plan sounds terrific! WTG! | |
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| CriticalMass | Posted: 10 May 2017 - 03:08 PM |
I see we have a new person - welcome, may I call you SubC too? And most here call me CM! 😀 I've enjoyed reading your posts. Good motivation going on there! I'm not doing much today as I think I need to rest. I went to my quilting guild at church, and we quit an hour early - it had started to rain and we were at a stopping point. I'd told my quilting buddy I'd meet her for lunch, but right after that as we were all heading out, it started pouring and the wind picked up. I was driving and kind of freaking out - visibility was I'd estimate 1/8 of a mile if that. I was trying to get the radio weather but having trouble. Street was getting flooded. (And it was dripping onto me in my van from where the roof leaks - yuck.) So I pulled into an apartment parking lot for awhile. It let up enough after a few minutes I was able to get to the restaurant. But inside I felt oddly woozy for a moment. Then I was okay, we ate, she went home, I went to Hobby Lobby a few minutes then home to walk the dog. I'd been wondering if it'd clear and maybe I could go to my storage unit and work on my six boxes of papers. But as I was contemplating getting ready, I kept seeing a bright spot in my vision. Like the sort I get at the start of an optical migraine. It didn't develop into one but it didn't go away for quite awhile either. I got to thinking about the full moon and the fact that my pet tree frog has croaked 3 days in a row, which usually means he is sensing atmospheric changes associated with storms. And I haven't had all that great of sleep lately. That's when I decided to blow off the afternoon and have a nap, as soon as I finish this post. I hear we may get some heavy storms later - hope they aren't too bad. I think I also have oak mite bites on my legs - probably from when we were clearing out those tree branches in the backyard. That's what the gals at quilting thought anyway. Whatever it is, those suckers ITCH. 😛 I put Chigarid on but will need to reapply. Oh well, minor annoyance. I'll probably stay home tomorrow and do stuff, even though I'm impatient about the storage unit, but Friday's forecast is better. And hopefully my legs will itch less too, LOL! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 10 May 2017 - 12:14 PM |
Hello everyone! SubC it's good to have that feeling of clean counters. I cleaned my bedroom earlier this week and it is just so nice. I need to remember this feeling for the times I "don't feel like" cleaning! Good shopping, Tillie! I am working from home today and trying to find some moments to pick up a little. I am taking mom for haircut later tonight. It's cold but a short walk/wheelchair ride. I'll report back soon--I need to pack for an overnight for this weekend. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 10 May 2017 - 06:36 AM |
Thank you for the welcome Tatoulia, and Tillie for the enthusiastic cheering! As I am reading more, it appears that Tillie, you are not the hoarder but the hoarder's partner? How do you keep up your enthusiasm for supporting people cleaning out? Has the hoarding improved at your house? I don't know the backstory on the chandelier, but I am a big fan of getting the things you really want and not getting things you don't want. We are currently building an addition (long story) and I think we will have bare bulb porch lights for a long time because we can't find any we actually like and don't want to spend money on one we don't like. It was really nice to get up this morning and have clean counters to fix breakfast and pack lunches for dh and dd! A good start to the day. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 09 May 2017 - 11:41 PM |
Hi Everybody 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Slept in this morning and it made a world of difference. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 09 May 2017 - 09:24 PM |
Welcome, SubC! Glad you are here! Congratulations on your accomplishments! Great work! CM thank you for the nice ,ing posts! You are doing great. So very pleased for you! Dear Tillie--please take good care of yourself. I've been feeling so much better since taking vitamin B. Quick post re designer & chandelier--she only wants me to be happy. I told her I wasn't sure on chandelier and she completely focused in on the reason: just not feminine enough for me. She thankfully isn't like the ones we see on TV who fight about stuff and need to be right. When I find my one, I'll pick it up. And meanwhile me if she sees anything overseas, she can send me a photo. I'm hoping for something with a French influence, Must go--thinking of you all. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 May 2017 - 04:37 PM |
I did it! I recycled all the mail except one envelope for dd2 who is living with us this summer. I went down to my file drawer to try to find three sheets of paper (my guess, since I didn't open her mail) and discovered that I still had all my check statements from 2004-2006 - shredded and recycled! Counter is clean - I moved everything to the room it belonged in (if that was the kitchen, I put it away) and I took the recycling out to the car to drop off tomorrow. I even put one item in the trash. trash is a flashpoint for me and I am working very hard at avoiding things coming into my life that will eventually be trash in order to avoid throwing things "away" - there is no "away". I cancelled the trash service and now drop the trash (mostly plastic food packaging) in the wastebasket in my classroom - with permission - or the trash can at the grocery store (I bought it there, seems fair). This is usually an empty chip bag refilled with trash or a ziplock quart bag that used to have nuts or lunch meat in it. One or two a week. Tomorrow I work all day, so my household goals are simple - to bring in less than I take out, and to go to bed with clean kitchen counters. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 May 2017 - 01:15 PM |
Hi, I'm new. I posted a little bit about myself in the welcome forum and Tillie said it was ok to come in. It's going to take me a while to get to know people and I can't see the other posts when I'm replying, so please forgive me if I mess stuff up. I'm interested in the storage unit progress already, criticalmass, right? - not sure about the capitalizing. Getting rid of cardboard is always good! It doesn't make good storage. Today is a hard day because I have nothing scheduled to give it structure and it's been raining all day. I'm going to try to clean off the kitchen counter before I need to make dinner in three hours - which I realize "normal" people would consider a slam dunk, but I'm hoping that here I can get recognition for an accomplishment. I also want to walk up (my house is a tenth of a mile from the road) get the mail, process it, and put enough paper in the recycling bag to balance the mail plus one page. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 09 May 2017 - 09:44 AM |
Part 2 of 2 - my own updates It's gotten a little mushed up in my mind since I had hoped to update more frequently, but that's okay. I'm sure I can at least convey the gist of it. Last week I went to the storage with the idea I'd had of extracting breakables so that when moving time comes (so exciting to say that as it feels like more and more of a reality!) no one need worry about breaking anything, and I won't be nervous about it either. So I found my angel collection, which I decided to pare down to just the favorites. Then I packed up the keepers. My cat figurines - one of which did get an ear broken when the social worker picked them up and they fell - I brought home, and repacked carefully. I had found the ear on the floor and figured out what it was, then I found the cat it went to. I glued it on. It needs a little filling in with putty and repainting, but that can be done later when I unpack them in my new place whenever I finally get one. I was very energized with all that I was doing. The more I did, the more I wanted to do. I also brought home important paper files, and merged and purged that with files here. Eliminated a fair amount of paper in the process. I used to have so many metal filing cabinets of paper. I think it was 2-3 of the 4-drawer and 4 of the 2-drawer, something like that. And I carried those babies up and down stairs, loaded them into vehicles, etc. No wonder I developed hernias! They are long gone. I'm hoping 2-3 medium tubs will hold any papers I absolutely need. I took some of the repacked collectibles back to storage yesterday. Seems kind of redundant as they will be getting moved again, but they were in the way here at the house. I also did some moving of stuff in the unit, and made a discovery that was a bit dismaying - about half a dozen more cardboard boxes of assorted papers that had been hiding behind other stuff. Sigh. But it'll be okay - I'll just have to set a day to tackle those. Or more than one day if that's what it takes. I can have a system - there's a wastebasket already for "Shred" and I can make temporary boxes for sorting a few keepers. Hopefully the vast majority will end up in trash or shred. Some of these papers are memory triggers good and bad. My college stuff - the awards and all, then the plan for the master's thesis that never got rolling because I crashed and burned emotionally . . . the home foreclosure stuff (shudder), and some good memory stuff as well. I kind of had to laugh at myself because when I thought the other day that I was down to just two boxes, I had this nagging feeling at the back of my mind that it had been too easy. Now I know! It will all be okay. Even the sad memory triggers. God's got my back, and it will be okay. 🙂 In between all that storage and other organizing of my stuff, my roommate and I tackled yard work that hadn't been doable during the rainy days in April. Cleared out the remains of a dead tree, emptied a big compost bin, weeded some in the garden beds, etc. I'm not the hardcore gardener she is, and I tend to view it more as a chore these days. But there's still some satisfaction in getting it done, and right now the bugs aren't as bad as they will be. I'm not going to plant much of my own except stuff for my bunnies to eat. If I plant any flowers, I'll be sure to get ones that will obligingly DIE come fall, so that neither of us will be tempted to bring them indoors for the winter. The house gets overcrowded with plants, IMO. I can at least do my part to not add to that. So, I have been very busy. But it's all worth it! Glad to be back on the board and now that I've said where I'm at with things, there'll be a context for update posts that aren't a mile long - provided I can get them made promptly! | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 09 May 2017 - 09:17 AM |
This will be Post 1 of 2 - responding to everyone's recent posts. Then I'll make a 2nd post for my own doings of late. It's been a busy time! Porter - When you get more time again for your creative outlets - I still think you ought to write a futuristic novel! 😀 Here are some of my thoughts about that. I'm afraid I'd be a bad candidate for the flying car thing, though, as I'm agoraphobic with a fear of heights. Unless it could skim along not too far off the ground, but that would seem rather boring and kind of defeat the purpose, wouldn't it? 😉 Don't know about the moving sidewalks - I also have difficulty taking public transportation with my weird complex phobia. But I could see a lot of people liking that. As long as there were various options for those of us with different needs, I could be okay with it. My point is, you'd have a percentage of the population who would be afraid of it; they'd want to keep some of the old ways available. And maybe that'd just be necessary anyway for various reasons - but if the low energy consumption of the newer technology helped, it might all work out. How would the need for "air traffic control" and the potential for "air rage" akin to road rage be dealt with? What about spying on one's neighbors, no-fly zones over parts of town - see, this is why you need to write a novel! You have all the elements for conflict and resolution built in - just need to flesh it out with characters and a plotline. It'd be a great creative project. But as busy as you are just creating the real thing, and dealing with your everyday situation, maybe there are only so many hours in a day. I just can't resist pointing out novel or movie ideas to folks when I spot them, LOL. Back to reality for a moment . . . What sucks about any "off the grid" or renewable solutions to our dependency on fossil fuels and so on, is that if the government can't regulate it and the big corporate fatcats can't cash in on it, it ain't gonna happen. I hope someday this changes, but I doubt I'll live to see that day. Sorry for the Debbie Downer moment. I think we still must try to do what we can. Forge bravely ahead! Tatoulia - "editing" your house - as a writer, I love it! 🙂 Re the chandelier - perhaps you could find one you prefer and show it to your decorator and act really excited about it, say you got a great deal on it and it just "called" to you - and she will get caught up in your enthusiasm and there you go! Tillie - glad the baby bunny was okay! It's a wild and crazy time in nature. We walk the dog between 10:00-11:00 p.m. and see adult bunnies doing their mating dances, leaping up in the air and dashing about. The dog goes crazy. Squirrels are everywhere, birds... it's sad to see the inevitable fatalities of those who dashed in front of a car, or drew the attention of a cat. Also hope that by now your shoulder is healed - but still, protect it, as it's going to be vulnerable to reinjury for awhile. Anony, good to have you pop in again - keep us posted! I think it's okay to work on the part we're having success on - because success breeds success. Eventually the day should come when you have an "Aha!" moment about one area of the interior, and you go and do that, and it leads to more such moments. That's kind of how my storage unit work kicked into high gear. My social worker suggested we work on eliminating the sad, sagging cardboard boxes. From that simple idea came the purging of many papers, or reorganizing of non-paper items, the pitching of the boxes, more space to walk through, and a sense of excitement and eagerness to keep going. I think it gave my ADD-indecision a place to focus and NOT have to dither, just target the next cardboard box in my line of sight and dig in! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 08 May 2017 - 11:05 PM |
Hi Everyone 🙂 Hi Porter 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Everybody! 😀 Did almost diddily-squat today. | |
| Tatoulis | Posted: 08 May 2017 - 07:49 PM |
Two big bags of garbage out and one bag of recycling. Going to get dishwasher ready and started. Feeling good about my progress. Putting the music on really makes a difference. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 08 May 2017 - 09:18 AM |
I love the thought of the kitty having horse friends, Tillie! I'm working from home today. I need to accomplish a lot both work wise and home wise. Plenty to do all around. | |
| Porter | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 11:06 PM |
Trying to plan only 1 large thing at a time from upstairs.I'm more worried about getting hurt . I know it can happen, and I'm too vulnerable. At least my stairs has a landing half way. Last time I moved my mother decorated my daughters room, but I had to sacrifice a a moving day and a moving van rental to deal with her and her moods. I see it coming again. My mom ! If I let her in she wants me to do as she would do. And she can be Curt to us.. She doesn't get it. It's not that don't appreciate her help. It's that it causes tension and harsh statements if I allow her help. I'd rather get do nothing and just enjoy time together doing trivial things without needles and pins. So now she's offended that I won't let her decorate the 13 year olds room. It's a sore spot for me. So her room stinks , but is covered in rock band posters and music boy bands. She has no siblings , so her friends. Like coming over and spending time in the empty house that always has food. Grandma wants it to look like a pretty room without function. But just want to see the floor, and not smell dirty clothes. I'll know more when I find a place. I don't think my daughter has much to complain about and I shield her from people like her mother and grand ma when they are high horses. Good night. Best wishes. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 07:09 PM |
Hi Everybody 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Hi Porter 🙂 Yesterday I decided to water everything in the yard then I took a nap. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 07:06 PM |
Anony & Porter--great to hear from you! I have no fear of leaving house while designer works with my place. She has excellent taste and will work with my existing things and art. She has a very good painter who will paint and paper as necessary. She may make slip overs for furniture and she might do other things but she won't be painting my antiques. She and I antique when she is in the US and she know my taste and I know hers. I am not afraid. Kitty and I will go stay at BF's during the process. She initially thought she'd need 4 days but if I send her the dimensions of the rooms she will be able to plan it out and may only need two days. I'm very excited. She has wonderful taste, with one of her houses (that she lives in) having been featured in an overseas version of Architectural Digest. I have seen many pictures of her homes and although we do not have the same taste, she will be working with my existing items and artwork, she is free to do essentially whatever she likes. I trust her completely and she will take into account that I have a pet. Had such a good cleaning day today. I'm no Porter, to be sure, but excellent day. BF and I also went to mom's to help out and make a few adjustments to how her house is arranged. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 05:51 PM |
Hello to all!!! | |
| Porter | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 03:11 PM |
I love a clear bedroom , with clean sheets. | |
| Porter | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 03:10 PM |
I think that fabulous tat. CM Tillie, although I've always know about play time, creative outlet, it wasn't until you said it , right when I needed to hear it and do it. I do go on and on about things, many totally unrealistic and unrelated to hoarding. It's apart of my process though. For now I have way too much to do to move. I can't afford a single 4hour lapse over the next three weeks. So I'll put my ego house with hydrogen heliport on hold. But I'll be thinking all about it. It's my escape from the real world. No , the clusterphuq property management gave us only 20 days to move, and my wife won't help me with moving expenses. So I'm stuck . Currently I'm moving everything down stairs except the bed and drum . Those will be the very last things to move. I started her early. She may be held back if I choose to so. My thinking is if she becomes depressed after her mother passes, I send her to online school and get a tutor to help her with math. And then restart as freshman again at a new school . But that's the back up plan, for now. I'll see how she does if she makes good friend and has great study habits, otherwise. I'll need to pull on cord , and readdress expectations. She's to prepare for college. That means doing well with college prep courses. I'm all for her going to aunts after my wife's passing , and if doesn't work out I can play parent hold back card. And repeat that year somewhere else. But I understand how hard it is to lose a parent , and then the other remaining parent send you away. So I'll just let it play out, and see how things are going , before I put any ideas out there for them. It's a good day. I have a plan . And moving everyone's packed items into separate rooms. Daughter and I are already fully purged. I have asked for help from tow of my wife's friends. I'm asking then to help transport and organize the the closets. Nothing consumes my time during a move than arguments about closet space . And having to cut shelving and making adjustments. So I'm handing that off to some other person. I made sure it wasn't her closest of friends though, I can foresee a possibility where my turns turn into a grimalkin. Well I gotta get back the next thing in the list. Sorry for rough draft and not editing | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 01:56 PM |
Bedroom clean and clear! Dusted all surfaces, clean sheets, all clothes put away, about to vacuum! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 11:10 AM |
CM you have motivated me!! Thank you!!!! I'm puttering away! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 07 May 2017 - 08:57 AM |
Congratulations, CM! Looking forward to your longer post! | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 06 May 2017 - 11:34 PM |
Drive by - I've literally been getting so much accomplished that I haven't had time to post about it! I want to catch up on you all's happenings and write a "real" post about mine soon. In the meantime best to everyone! 🙂 | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 May 2017 - 03:07 PM |
Hello everybody! Tillie glad you are up and running again! Anony thanks for the shout-out. It's easier to think of it as editing at this point. I need a professional editor, I'm afraid, but I'm doing it myself in the meantime! Hello Porter! My friend from overseas (an artist and designer) said that next time she's in the US, she wants to redo the living room, dining room and library area of my house. She wants me to leave for a day or two while she does it. She has beautiful taste. She picked out the drapery fabric already and although she found a good antique chandelier, I'm not sure it's the one I want. But I do like it and the drapery fabric is beautiful. She will make drapes and then for small window in library she will make a shade. I'm pretty happy about this! This will also help me make decisions re some of the artwork I'm not quite ready to get rid of. She'll be able to help me with that. She said I just leave out the stuff I want her to use and/or choose from and she'll get it all done. I will likely buy the fabric in the next week or so. I'm not convinced on the chandelier and will see what I think when I go to see it again. I have to go through my things and find more to take to consignment shop. I liked getting a check earlier this week! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 May 2017 - 12:04 PM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi Porter 🙂 The reason that play time, crafts & hobbies and just taking the time to enjoy the day is so important is that "life goes on" even when we have a hoard to declutter and a house to clean. Overcast & breezy today. | |
| Porter | Posted: 06 May 2017 - 09:03 AM |
Before I started posting on this message board. I'm along a similar vein. What is cheapest way to live a robust life. To build your own mansion, and now unexpectedly how to commute to and from employment. I assume it's where we spend 65% of our lives . At home and on the way to work. For a long time years and years , I was not spending much time on my creative outlet. I consider coming here and writing a post. A form of this time out process. Rather than yelling or venting. To my spouse , I avoid the discord , and write it out , my strategy has been finding the path to do everything myself. So I feel my house design is in the direction of cheap homeowner ship. That's upgradeable. Then I've also starting to see the implementation of hydrogen harvesting, and how it could power a small bike. Morbid us understand the energy needed to pedal a bike. It's mostly for going up hill. Where going along flats isn't as difficult. Further I've discovered other the new FYI g technologies that could make these ultralite flying g bicycles powerfully enough to overcome the wind and fly rather than walk or ride. . While fossil fuels won't go away. Friday morning while I was daydreaming with a thought experiment. I had Eureka moment. A hybrid of bicycle and flying cycle. I'm now taking the thoughts into a basement and working on it. . This idea is so hard for me to ignore as just a random. This idea has so much potential that I must try it. The second obstacle it would face would be how it is copied. If it is marketed as a gasoline powered flying vehicle then it's potential will be as impactful as dynamite In The theaters of war. My creative outlet has turned from the rammed earth /foam core home. To the hydrogen fueled flying bicycle. Takes off vertically, fly's like a velocopter , lands like an airplane. Fits in a lane of traffic. Parks in parking spot. Is cheap as pee to refuel. It's just one alternative. Just like thorium lftr. I find it interesting enough to , keep some of the ideas on my phone. And is a cool to me way to spend a time out. As long as I keep time outs to small five minute breaks , just to calm down. Moving almost all my things to storage today. | |
| Porter | Posted: 05 May 2017 - 03:57 PM |
Very difficult day for me. I'm ready, but as with anything. I will not say it can't get worse. I know I'm up to the challenge , and I will never think about vacation pay the same again. I got $1500 no questions asked. In my excitement , when I got the letter today. Pleased that is now completed, daughter says she's going to sleep with it tonight. Music is her outlet. Got it from let go for $90. Same setup at the music store was $210 . If I have money left over . I'll send her to the music store for lessons. Oh god does she need lessons. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 05 May 2017 - 11:40 AM |
Tatoulia, i like that 'editing my house' thats a great phrase!!! 😀 | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 May 2017 - 11:29 AM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Yesterday morning I heard a strange little scream from the carport and ran out to find Twinkles with a baby cotton tail bunny in his mouth. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 04 May 2017 - 09:49 PM |
Hi Tillie! You are right, I will be happy with the decisions I make, Anything to reduce. I know saying 20% is arbitrary but I need to work toward something. I just need to keep paring down. Constant edit. I just need to keep editing my house. I took the day off to spend with my visiting friend. We went to the consignment shop and I picked up my check. Both of my items had sold, I didn't bring more items but I will do so very very soon, I have one large piece of furniture that I am not sure of just how to get it to the shop. I will worry about that some other time. For now, I just need to keep moving forward I know I can do this and I know I'll feel better. This is about feeling better not keeping stuff. I need to remind myself that a dirty messy house in the summer really hurts me to the core. Glad you are feeling better dear Tillie, Hello to everyone! Diane, if you ever read these, I think of you a lot, and I miss you, it doesn't matter if your house is perfect or terrible. I just miss you, | |
| Tillie | Posted: 04 May 2017 - 11:15 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hi Porter 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Beautiful calm warm morning here. | |