| Tatoulia | Posted: 28 April 2017 - 07:01 AM |
Hello everyone--I've started a new chapter as the other one is getting unwieldy and this should solve Anony's missing button problem! Tillie, take good care of yourself today. I've asked Dr Scooter and Nurses Marty and Twinkles to check in on you. Porter, your three-day plan sounds terrific! WTG! | |
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| Tillie | Posted: 27 June 2017 - 04:48 PM |
Hi Everybody 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Porter 🙂 Hi Joan 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Only been getting up to 99 degrees ;P TTYL 🙂 | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 06:34 PM |
Hi all! Porter, I will often have trouble with the "feel" of a space when I get it cleaned up. Your are also dealing with a lot of other changes! It will take time. CM, I definitely think a target date is a good idea. No don't think I would ever get anything done without deadlines. Although, I usually gave to make them external - even if it is only by asking someone to hold me accountable. I hope your Dr Who gets fixed. I did a lot of things today, but I avoided most of the things I really needed to do. My bunny got brushed and a fresh litter box at least. I had phone calls and e-mails, and a bank deposit and class, and in the middle of everything I stopped at the thrift store again and bought some cookie cutters for my studio that I don't actually need, but really like. So I'm feeling conflicted about that. I did take another bag of landfill trash out and give my teacher a box of syringes (for decorative slip trailing - clay work) because I had too many stockpiled in my studio. I brushed my bunny while I was avoiding other jobs, and changed her litter box, so she is happy. And I am cooking dinner. I'm trying to keep my people from eating out and use up the food that is in the fridge before we leave on Thursday (going to see my parents, then his) | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 04:32 PM |
Hi CM! I like your idea of s deadline--esp if there's some flexibility so you won't feel trapped or pressured by it. It's good to work toward a goal. I need to make some goals too. Beautiful day here. I washed my big blanket and will put it away til the Fall. The light quilt will need to go to laundromat. I have a big day tomorrow--day off so I'm pretty excited. I cleaned cat's eating area today and I'm about to run the dishwasher. Usually I run it at night. It might as well go now. I'm going to watch the news and maybe nap. Took out two big bags of recycling (I hear you SubC, unbelievable amount of packaging) and I'll take out garbage later. Hope everyone is doing well--glad you & bunny are better SubC. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 01:53 PM |
Hello everyone - Joan, glad you dropped by, hope those allergy drops come real soon. It's good when we find one thing that is so very helpful. Porter, glad your creative projects are a channel for the difficult times. And a positive accomplishment to boot. Thanks for all the well wishes on my stomach and back - happy to report stomach seems all better. Back is 90% better. I went to the Y on Friday and just got in the warm pool and did mostly stretches for my back and general flexibility. I'd hoped to get in the hot whirlpool too but it was out of order. Still, what I was able to do seems to have been beneficial. I'm also sitting up in a chair at the kitchen table with my laptop instead of cross-legged in bed. The bunny is eating like a champ, making up for lost time. I even suggested to increase her food a little since she had gotten rather skinny. We took the other 3 bunnies for a nursing home visit yesterday and the residents just loved them. It's so heartwarming to watch. My roommate got BritBox so we could watch all the Classic Doctor Who in order. But we're having trouble getting it going - her Roku box is an older model, so maybe there's a back-compatibility issue, dunno. She's emailed tech support. I'm going to keep decluttering stuff here in the house as per my plan. While I was swimming, I had a "pool reflection" (that's one thing I love about swimming, I can relax and think with fewer distractions, and a lot of times I come up with good ideas that way). The thought was this: re my storage unit move, I wonder if it wouldn't be a good idea to set a "target date" in the fall. Even if it had to be changed (say it took longer to get helpers or money, etc.), if I treated it as a "deadline" it might help me set mini-deadlines along the way. I see this tip in a lot of articles for people with ADD, or articles on time management, and it makes sense. So I'm going to pick a time frame in the fall and then narrow it down. And I'll mention it to the social worker at next month's clutter meeting. I think she'll think it's a good idea too. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 11:26 AM |
Porter instead of paying cable you could get a Netflix subscription for under $10 a month. I also have Amazon Prime, which includes free shipping, free music, free streaming videos for about $100 a year. I cut my cable cord over five years ago and have never looked back. I do use a Roku to stream directly to the TV as I don't find it comfortable to watch tv on a computer. Plus I got rid of my computer-only use iPhone and iPad now. I bring my work computer home with me when I'm working from home. You have a lot of adjustments in a very short period of time. Joan's advice is solid advice--get to know you. | |
| Porter | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 10:13 AM |
Hello everyone Joan I'm trying to deal with the fact that everything is in its place. but i will give this me and myself with I time a a serious effort to make the best of it and pursue happiness. On the creative front sigh. I just got home after a 3rd shift | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 09:05 AM |
SubC--our posts crossed! Congrats on the nearly clean kitchen and the fresh bed! I am so pleased for your vision of being able to wake up to a clean and clear environment! I need to remember to do that. I do need to tackle this art work. I have to move a few around. I have hammer and hooks, do the only thing stopping me is me. I will report back later! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 09:02 AM |
Joan, so happy to hear from you. I hope you get your drops soon and I hope they can be delivered to you. Life is a delicate balance and it is amazing how much the systems are interconnected. When I first got my brother on oxygen, I remember with amazement that the swelling in his legs subsided and that he stopped sweating profusely. Beautiful day here. Going to try to forge ahead work-wise and home-wise. Cat is asleep on my bed. I still haven't tackled my microwave. I would love to get rid of it. I need to clear it off and deal with whatever had collected beneath it the last 20 years. Just not there yet mentally. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 08:59 AM |
Hi Joan! Hi porter! And of course tatoulia, Tillie, and everyone else. Joan, I'm glad your stomach feels better. I hope your drops come quickly. Do you have a way to watch video on-line? That might give you more choices. Porter, I'm glad you are getting a chance to explore your creative side. I have this fantasy where I wake up in the morning, eat breakfast, do my chores, spend a few minutes tidying up my kitchen and then walk over to the studio where everything is organized and ready for me to get right to work.... I did go to bed with an almost clean kitchen last night. I am going to try really hard to go to bed with an all the way clean kitchen tonight. it is so much nicer to get up to. Tatoulia, I went to bed with clean sheets last night too. I thought of you when I was making the bed. Do you think you could make a small start on your art? Maybe find one thing you want to hang and hang it up? I have done things in my house that (in theory) I change seasonally, but I just looked up and realized the pens are still in the snowman holder instead of the red beach pail. I think I will fix that right now. Ok, done. Also changed the picture in the living room. Now I need to go deal with some things I'm avoiding in my barn, and I have a class to leave for at noon. There are supposed to be drywall guys in my addition, but they are not here yet. | |
| Joan | Posted: 26 June 2017 - 03:19 AM |
Hi Tillie! Hi Porter. Sorry to hear you're going through a lot, and feeling abandoned right now. I hope that you use the time to get to know yourself even better. Getting to know yourself is really the name of the game. Hah, yes, and then you can introduce yourself to others as your "best friend". Hi Tat. You sound like you are taking things in stride. Good. Hi Anony. Hi SubC. I am awake. I had a stomach ache when I decided to write a post, but I took a remedy and already it is better. I was hoping the remedy would help, but did not realize how badly I needed it. I spend most of my time paying attention to how I am doing, and keeping myself balanced out with an array of remedies, Rx, and supplements. It keeps me well enough to cover survival tasks, and most importantly, improves my health over the long run. What I really need now is a new batch of allergy drops. The allergy drops that I began last fall have proved to be a key component of my health-improvement regimen. They affect almost all my difficulties very profoundly, not just what people think of as allergies. They affect my sleep, my mood, my digestion, my ability to eat more foods and not get sick - the list is endless. The drops need to be custom-made, and they have a new bookkeeper at the doctor's office who is asleep at the wheel. So there was some delay getting my order started. Drops should be ready very soon. There is very little on TV. I really depend on TV a lot, not because I want to, but because of health issues. Yesterday I began watching the Einstein series (Genius show on the History channel). It is excellent. Big Brother is starting Wednesday. I enjoy following Big Brother in the doldrums of summer. Take care everyone. | |
| Porter | Posted: 25 June 2017 - 09:57 PM |
Very bored with nothing to do and no one doing anything either. spent the day working om the Cobb wall machine concept. It amazes me . When I was occupied with my clutter I rarely came up with original thought. to bad tillie you can't harvest hot rocks in an insulated cooler at the end of the day and keep in the insulated box until the room cools to 62 then open the cooler near you. Once I had no gas heat but had electricity. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 25 June 2017 - 09:23 PM |
Great work on the trash & recycling! Also, congrats on finding a dress for your mom! I hope it fits and she likes it! That's exciting that your son is getting married soon! I think you mentioned it before but maybe it didn't sink in. I didn't do much here today but tonight at mom's I changed her sheets and worked on her laundry and brought the rest of her laundry here. We had a very pleasant evening together and I'm thinking about taking Tuesday off and taking her to the art museum. We shall see. Getting rid of the lamps is fine. I'm trying not to form too many attachments to things. I'm trying to say that I've loved things enough. These lamps I liked but not loved. Plus I have no room once the new ones are here. I'm very excited about my new ones. I think we'll be picking them up on Tuesday. I'm ready in any event. I'm showered and have clean sheets. Think I'll climb into bed. I don't know if we will ever be finished but we're trying, right? I have so much artwork to sort through and hang. I think I'd feel a lot better if I could make some decisions on my art right now. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 25 June 2017 - 04:24 PM |
Tatoulia, that is very good with the lamps. I would have a hard time getting rid of the ones I liked. The biggest step for me is not getting things in the first place. It has been easier the last couple of years because my parents and in laws - who are gifts people - have been willing to give us gifts for the addition - dedicated checks for specific parts of the job - which has been really helpful. If we built the addition more slowly, it would cost us less I guess, but we are already on year three (we are doing a lot of the work ourselves) one or two more Christmases and it will be done. I went to the grocery store today. I stocked up on hot cereal for winter (2 bags) and spaghetti sauce (6 jars) because they were really cheap and had far away expiration dates. Besides that I stuck to my list. I dropped off three big boxes of recycling on the way there and took a plastic grocery bag of trash. I also stopped in the thrift store. I need a dress for my son's wedding in September. I didn't find one for me, but I found one I think my mom will like (she is trying to find one too) and bought it ($2.66) I am going to take it to her next week, so it doesn't really count as an in. I cleaned up the kitchen and put some things into the landfill bag. (why is there so much plastic on food?!) I put the laundry away and I found a scarf I can give up. Sometimes the slow pace wears me down. I really believe it is getting better, but at this rate, when will I feel done? Ever? | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 25 June 2017 - 01:04 PM |
Tillie, I'm doing a little bit not a lot. Please don't be sad--it is hot where you are and you'll have the time to clean! I am drinking lots of water and trying to get some small stuff done. I got a bag to donation center yesterday. That was satisfying. I have changed my sheets and decided to take one of the layers off. I like the weight of more layers but I need to be realistic too. I'll take the quilt to the laundromat snd have them wash it for me. I'm getting two lamps tomorrow-a pair, so I need to box up the two lamps in my bedroom for the consignment shop. The two I'm getting are beautiful. I really like the lamps in my bedroom but they must go. I don't have my car today--loaned it to a neighbor--so I won't be able to get the lamps to the shop this weekend. That is what next weekend is for. We have a long weekend due to holiday--Monday & Tiesday off. We will likely have a short day on Friday but I'll stay late anyway. End of quarter and I have a lot to do before I start in on my reports. I'm pushing thru the frustration. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 25 June 2017 - 12:10 PM |
Good Morning! 😀 Hi Porter 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 I am tired... | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 25 June 2017 - 11:27 AM |
I'm playing music to putter by but I'm feeling really frustrated and I don't feel like doing anything. I am super frustrated and going to try to push throughout it. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 24 June 2017 - 06:42 PM |
Hello everyone! Porter I'm sorry about your family situation. I'm not sure why your wife doesn't want to see you and I encourage you to keep the door open, just in case she changes her mind. This is s difficult time for everyone and I wish you much peace. SubC, I take the train to work and then walk home. Generally on Tuesdays my BF picks me up and drives me home, otherwise I walk. It's more than a mile but under two miles. I have trouble once it's hot out so generally stay at work til about 7/8 before walking home. Bear in mind I work from home a minimum of two days a week, which is a very nice benefit. Congrats on having your daughter compliment your space! Anony keep up the good work. It's a struggle but we are doing it! CM I hope your stomach is better. Tillie, the never ending need to kitty litter! It's sometimes the only thing that gets me out of the house. The temp swings are terrible and stressful. Oh, to be 40F right now! Love the cool weather. I don't know how you survive the triple digits and hope you are using your evaporative cooler. Time with brother was short today and it didn't get too difficult. Then I came home and slept. Going to make dinner then maybe get dressed and go visit mom. I can tell the humidity has passed. BF was going to go home today and do some cooking and cleaning. We will spend time together tomorrow. The air was very heavy this AM and afternoon. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 24 June 2017 - 04:36 PM |
Porter, I'm sorry. I hope your daughter will come back, at least to visit. She may just feel like she needs her aunt right now. I assume you will still have legal custody? Meanwhile, it sounds like you are taking a healthy approach to settling in. I'm glad your coworkers are keeping you company. Tillie, I have a skunk too! Mine hangs out in the barn and sometimes eats my eggs. I've been fattening him up on the free bread. Those temperature swings sound awful! I haven't been worrying about the bin labels right now since I may not have to move them. They don't need labels inside because they are uniform. If you open one and see Legos - it is all Legos. If you see mohair, it's mohair all the way down... I got to the bottom of the stack of playmobil I've been carrying in from the studio barn, and when I picked the bin up, it didn't feel right. I opened it and it was K'nex. The good news is I was able to redistribute the contents to other bins so that they would fit in the space already given to K'nex - and I got an empty bin! I think the label fell off and somebody stuck it back on the wrong bin. Anony, sorry about all the bugs! My friend moved to Texas and released a chameleon in her house to catch her bugs. Today my dd2 was able to come out to my studio, take a 3 minute tour including which materials she could help herself to, and throw pots for two hours. That made me feel really good! She also complimented me on the shelving. | |
| Porter | Posted: 24 June 2017 - 03:08 PM |
Hi gang. when i try to write about it i just get chocked up. I know ill go on, but it hurts. I haven't been alone in a very long time. I can barely afford my place. I know ill eventually feel better, but I'm just bummed out for now. my male coworkers are planning a card game at my house. I'll wait till my wife passes before removing anything else. I plan to get a cat. In my solitude. I plan to work on both my hobbies. So I think I will pour myself into this work for short period. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 24 June 2017 - 12:35 PM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Going from temperatures in the 40s to three digit temps has taken a toll on me, the cats and the garden plants/grass. TTYS ;D | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 24 June 2017 - 08:41 AM |
~♡~Good Morning!~♡~ | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 24 June 2017 - 08:14 AM |
Hi tatoulia, Did you get dinner? Do you usually walk to/from work? Or take a bus? Anony, Lots of progress on your home! What kind of bugs are you fighting? I finished the drawer. We had 23 decks of cards. When I sent the photo of the discard pile out to the kids, I held a guessing contest and dd1 was spot on. The other two were way too low. 3 decks got thrown out because they were missing cards and nine are going to goodwill. So we still have way too many cards, but if I got rid of half of everything in this house it would be amazing. I purged two card based games, one of two old maid decks, two slinkies,three puzzles, and a magic trick. Ds wants one of the puzzles. The drawer is still full, but it now opens and closes easily and you can get anything out by moving no more than one extra thing. I slept really late this morning, but I feel less tired. And the sun is out. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 23 June 2017 - 11:42 PM |
I am hoping the painted shelf put back in the kitchen, with the new sofa on the screen porch, will be a whole new pretty direction to look in! Im gonna vacuum it tonight! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 23 June 2017 - 07:28 PM |
Hello everyone! Good yo read your posts! Anony getting unstuck is a thing of wonder. How nice that you can admire your clean cupboard! I feel that way myself sometimes, and it's a good reminder to take a step back and appreciate the fruits of your labor. I know it's hard. SubC you are very organized re your closets--great work! I have a bag here ready to be donated and I'm pretty excited about that. Very humid here. Just got home from work. I was fortunate that someone offered me a ride. I need to make dinner and then relax. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 23 June 2017 - 02:59 PM |
Anony, I am not "friends" with my mom because I don't have a Facebook account. That's why I use hers to see my kids' photos. Everybody knows and is ok with that. I love that feeling you are talking about from your cupboard. Do you think you can make the porch feel that way? Is it a big job? I wanted to go to the studio where I take classes today, but I am feeling overwhelmed and pinned down by the rain and the dark. I switched out all the colored hangers in my closet for white, which made it look nicer, but I also realized I really need to go through my clothes again. I didn't buy the white hangers. I had hangers left over from the last time I cleaned out my closet, and the person who runs the community closet at the food bank said I could trade hangers. I do still have 4 red hangers in my closet - those are the "too small but I have not given up" clothes. I have also dumped a drawer of card games and puzzles all over the living room floor. How many packs of regular playing cards do you think a family needs? We do not have bridge parties. Also, I think I should get rid of the slinky. You can still buy metal slinkies, and this one has a very small stretch. You can even get a fancy brass slinky in a pretty wooden box. I am not going to, but knowing that I could helps. Dd2 went shopping after work yesterday and bought more clothes. She says she is going to get rid of old clothes, but she already has too many clothes. She says, "but shopping and getting something new makes me happy." I told her that is the dopamine hit from the hoarding gene - "you know how your sister can't drink? (Begin sarcastic tone) I gave you guys great genes. (End sarcasm.) I'm sorry." | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 23 June 2017 - 11:33 AM |
~☆~Hello, Happy Hoarders!~☆~ | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 22 June 2017 - 08:51 PM |
Ok, I did a respectable amount of shredding, I changed the I've showered and out the AC on in the bedroom. I def worked up a sweat. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 22 June 2017 - 07:05 PM |
Great work, SubC -- congratulations on getting so much done! I'm going to vacuum before I take the garbage out tonight. I know it will upset the kitty but it needs to be done. Plus her upset lasts only as long as the vacuuming; she doesn't suffer beyond that. Time to put on some music and get going! | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 22 June 2017 - 07:03 PM |
I don't know what happened to the beginning of my post. I HAVE LABELLED my bins | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 22 June 2017 - 06:58 PM |
Hi everyone! Tillie, I hav l shelled my bins but not all of them. The laels keep falling off from temp and humidity changes. I' tried masking roe, packing tape, and stick one. It looks like I am going to have set leat a temporary reprieve from the duct work, so that is good. The area where you live sounds really interesting. Anony, I am definitely not a clean freak! If you could see my house, you would think I never to housework. It sounds like you are making good progress with your home too. Sometimes I log on to Facebook using my mom's account so I can see pictures my kids post. My mom is only "friends" with my 3 kids and my cousin. CM, I hope you feel better soon! I don't think it matters where you work on your stuff, as long as you are making progress. A better place to work is definitely progress. I started my day by putting away the dry tools and washing some more and reloading the shelf. Today I have three accomplishments - 1) I recycled two magazines - so I'm down one for the month. But then I didn't make the trip, AND I stopped crushing. But today, I crushed six paper grocery bags of cans, drove to the recycling drop (a short trip past picking blueberries at a friend's house) and turned in four big garbage bags of crushed cans. I am going to set the $12.60 aside for thrift shop buys that will help organize my studio, and now, I am done sorting out the cans. Then this evening I helped at the food bank. People. I am tired. | |