Beautifully said, Diane. I'll write more later, just checked in on Tillie. Thank you also for the kind things you said to me the other day. You are so sweet.

Tillie, I keep thinking about you and hope you are sleeping ok and taking good care of yourself in this stressful time. You have helped us so much, I know I can speak for all of us on this thread, we love you and really want the best for you.

Sending much love to Tillie.

Still living at the hospital playing that long boring
"wait and see" game.
Sleeping at Nate's house, he insisted.
Neighbor friend baby sitting the cats.

Missing you all.
Take care and keep up the forward progress even when you don't want to.
(((HUGS)))

Tat, you said everything was a mess at home, instead of giving up, look what you did, got to work!! So proud of you, regrouped and took action.
This morning I looked at small amt of dirty dishes, thought "later" then got dish washing tub down, put dishes in with hot water, no motivation, just know it is the right thing to do, they are soaking and I am on here to read and get support to get things done today. Tanners mom always needs to use bathroom, so cleaned the toilet this morning, ranks as least favorite . Still have plenty to do so she does not have to pee in a bucket in the yard.
Tillie, sweet friend, thinking good things will come out of this

That is a long day, Diane. Glad that Tanner is coming for a visit! I need to go to bed now and wanted to stop in to say goodnight to everyone. It is nice to have bedroom vacuumed, one bed table clear, and all the garbage and recycling out of the house.

To day was my work day 6:45am to 4:30pm with only one 25 minute break, that is a long day. When I got home, made a smoothie and sat in my rocks in the yard and searched for cool rocks, shopping in my yard, just as much fun maybe more fun, than I used to do after a long day (store shopping)
Just got online and read all of your posts, so wonderful to hear from all of you. Tillie, so sorry you are dealing with such a difficult situation Sounds like it is time for him to turn the car keys over to you. You are a survivor and whatever comes your way, you will deal with it with and life will be better soon. We all send you love and support.
Tonight is tv and relax, so grateful to stay home tonight and tomorrow.
Tanner is coming to stay for the weekend, so nice to have my boy here. I need to sneak away for a couple of hours and go to Costco, have been saying this for weeks, but really am out of food soon.
So happy to hear from each of you, hugs and clinks to all

Oh gosh. Tillie I am so sorry. Check in when you can. I wish I could help. Sending you love , prayers and strength.

Hi Guys/Gals :D

Thank you (((hugs)))

Still working on stabilizing him.

I am so exhausted. Need to sleep.

(((HUGS)))

Roxie, nice to hear from you. I will be sending you warm thoughts and wishes--we want you to be healthy and strong! I bought myself 50 daffodils. They are so pretty--haven't opened up yet but I know within an hour or two I'll start seeing at least a couple open. I took the 20 daffodils I bought myself last week in the hallway of my building. They have another day or two left in them.

Cold here but beautiful and sunny. Working from home with the occasional house work break.

I must tell you, Roxie, you sound terrific! And that was nice, solid advice you gave to someone new on one of the other threads. (Not that I would expect any less from you...it was just nice to read).

Vacuumed bedroom, cleared off and dusted one of the bed tables. Only put 1/2 of the stuff back on. Finding homes for the rest of the stuff. Cleaned and dusted table between windows (didn't have anything on it). Pleased with myself.

Tillie, I am praying for you and your lioved one. I know you mentioned fears and I'm sorry I didn't inquire further, sometimes I just think about things and don't verbalize. Much love. You can count on me. I know you are scared. Much love.

Tillie
Prayers your way.

Diane,
You are a most energetic and determined person. I think I am not quite that way. We'll see about the dishes. I go slowly. I also deferred that to do other things.
Earning money is great. I know you were worried about your finances. The license help is nice too. Many companies today are controlling costs to the point they won't do things like that.

Tat,
My mother had a friend who would come over and they would sit at the kitchen table and talk. You have all the ingredients. A clean, shiny table and pretty flowers. A place to have coffee with a friend.
One clean shiny spot is an encouragement to more clean shiny spots when you teach yourself to think that way.

Dear Tillie,
We love you. We really appreciate the special food,ear scratches, play time and cardboard boxes. Thank you for taking me to the doctor. We are very sorry the other human in your life is sick. We hope you and the doctors will have him well and home soon.

This morning I mentioned having fears and worries.
Unfortunately most have been realized.
Been at the hospital where he was admitted for a large blood clot in an artery in his leg.
There will be a surgical procedure, he could lose his leg.
He could lose his life.
Please send some positive thoughts/vibes/prayers this way.

(((HUGS))) :(

dave, when the timer is set and I see how many dishes I can wash in 15 minutes, I surprise myself how much I can get done, have you tried the timer dave? I am very competitive so look at it as beating the timer.
Got clean sheets on bed.

PS special shout-out to Scooter!

Good work, everyone. Bitsy, that sounds like hard work! Congratulations! Keep it up and remember not to push yourself too hard physically.

Really, we all did so much today, although my accomplishments fell short of my goals, I did all dishes and promptly emptied the dishwasher, I did three loads of laundry, all of which has been folded and put away, I cleaned the area where kitty eats (clean placemat) and then I napped.

Yes, dear Tillie, doing it together is the key. Congratulations to us all. Diane, don't want to ignore you--appreciated your post very much!

I tackled a gross area in my bathroom today. 1 foot by 3 foot area. I filled a large goodwill bag full of heavy wet groady stuff. The floor there is not clean yet but the bag of yuk is out of the house and on the front porch. Tomorrow I will put it on the hood of the car and drive it to the trash can.

I also did an online search for "Bright-Fey". Did not take time to read anything yet but plan to check out the 15 minute routine
Tomorrow after I pay some bills and check bank balance.

I can so relate to Roxie's "nest". Having needed things within reach. Things like meds, water, glasses, book, flashlight, cane, etc.

Thanks for letting me be

Hi Grace, happy to hear you are still working on the hoard, and making progress.
Tillie, Tat, Dave, our chat this morning really helped me get some things done. Washed dishes, cooked good stuff, washed those dishes, took a shower, washed, curled hair, started to change sheets, got distracted, will go back and finish. Matching sox for tomorrow. Food for work. Really appreciate our talk this morning, so much better working together.

Tatoulia and Dave,
You two are cracking me up! LOLOLOL :D

WAY TO GO DAVE!!! :)

WAY TO GO TATOULIA!!!
for cheering Dave on to VICTORY!!! :D

Hello Grace! Congratulations! Good work!

Dave, that is a victory in my book! You found space inside the diaper wipe box. Now to make more space by putting the wipe container in recycling? Maybe? And no, mrs Dave didn't tell me to say that. Maybe.

Hi everyone! It has been a while. I miss you all. Long cold winter but spring is in the air. (Well, at least for a couple of days.) Still cleaning since my husband left all of his hoard behind. Sometimes I want to just give up but guess what? I never did! This group is very encouraging. One space clean in the basement . Much more to go. But, with people like you supporting me, I'll get there. Thanks

WAY TO GO!!!
everybody.

Together we CAN do it!

So far today I have fed the cats
scooped litter boxes
put down fresh water & filled kibble bowls.
swept the floors
took a shower, got dressed
made my bed
straightened up, put stuff back where it goes
spent time with each cat apologizing for there not being any sunshine today

Soon I will go to the neighbor's house and relate to their pets to get them nice and spoiled before they are in my care for a whole week while their people take an anniversary vacation.
It has been a long time since I last baby sat them.

WOW! Good work Dave and Diane! Everyone,is getting it done today! Together!

Oh my goodness we are all posting at once--haven't read all of them but Tillie, reading about your daily chores is extremely helpful to me. It hasn't gotten me to act....but it will. Just you wait and see! (Insert little hearts here)

Rainy here too, no smoothie in yard, guess could set up one of 10 umbrellas, tee hee. Sure enjoy the active chit chat!!

Dear Bitsy, my heart thinks of you often. Please know if I had a magic formula, I would send it to you before I sent it to everyone else.

Diane (((HUGS)))

Wonderful inspiring post.
Thank you for working so very, very hard and sharing all your struggles and successes with us.
You have been an inspiration to many.

I understand the psychology behind the attacks and that helps me to not take them too personally.
;) (winky face smiley emoticon)

WAY TO GO!!! finding the check and being reimbursed! Always nice when shown appreciation at work. :D

Raining & cloudy here today.
Hope you have a chance to sip a smoothie in your garden today.

15 of minutes of dish washing now
clean counters
cook something healthy
I did call for tax appt

Dave, I threw away 5 containers today that I was starting to save, thanks you yelled "toss it"

(((HUGS))) Tatoulia :)

It helps so much knowing you are there cleaning and plugging along right beside me as I clean and plug along too.

Good morning all-and I do mean all of you. Bitsy, so sad to read of your desperation, I have been there, so angry at my situation, feeling helpless, like a failure, with no way out. Motivation never came. I took advice on here, visualized an area set timer, got off my butt and started. Posted on here daily for over a year ups and downs. Tillie gave me support and suggestions. As did others, Tillie was the one consistent in my life. Shopping has always been the thing that brought me instant happiness, really was painful to stop, have had plenty of slips, but never went back to the addiction to shop. When I stay away from the board, usually because of arguments, attacks, mostly of Tillie or me, then I back slide, so now I know to just keep connected, I need the support.
Tat, I relate so closely to everything you said. Except, I do have my finances together, as together as they are going to get at my age, that is. I only buy things with cash, pay bills on time. Work even though I am 67 this year. Maintenance and excess still plague me, and the burden of not consistently changing my behaviors. The positive is we have accomplished soooooo much and we have hope now. We will continue to improve if we keep connected here.
Dave, enjoy your thinking so much, and your honesty.
When I was in pain I often struck out at others, and really felt it was my duty to point out their flaws, when in truth my pain misinterpreted others behaviors and words. I still catch my thoughts going to that place, stop and focus on what I am grateful for. My job tomorrow, gives me the weekly chance to have a condensed course in responding with love when criticized, or left out.
I made $150 yesterday, found the check for nsg. license, printed it off, and will take to work tomorrow, they offered to pay it, would not have happened if I was a grump.
I agree Dave, doing nice things for others, is a reward in itself. Doing nice things for myself, other than shopping also is heart warming. I love you Tillie, and you will be a target, people love to shoot at things that shine.