Posted: 01 January 2023 - 06:13 AM | |
Happy new year! I have almost all of the dishes and most of the laundry done from the Christmas chaos. The laundry is not put away. I am leaving the decorations up at least this week. Today I got up at a reasonable hour. The weather is supposed to be good, so I want to work in my barn. I have less a plan or even list of goals for this year, and more a random collection of thoughts. We'll see how that goes. Keeping road in my thoughts, and hoping everyone else is doing well. Shout out to any lurkers or newbies - come say hi! | |
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| Lila | Posted: 01 July 2023 - 10:44 AM |
That is really good, SubC. It has me thinking about what other small steps I could take to recycle more. Just a bit more. I have been so overwhelmed that I only recycle what the place near me will take, but I really have not check on what they take easily beyond cardboard and electronics. It would be easy for me to have a small recycle box for papers, junk mail, etc that I could take to them when I take cardboard, if they take paper, which I am guessing they do. I like your thoughts on giving being unselfish. I often use Facebook's Buy Nothing group to give away things that I have that are nice that someone else could use, for free. Saves them money, and I feel better about that. Enjoying another peaceful morning. Last night I got the kitchen mostly clean and then Son did the rest. When I was getting ready for bed, I finished putting away things on the vanity. Now only things that belong on the bathroom vanity are on it, and are on one side so I can scrub off the other side today. Then will move them again and do the other side and the sink. Then put everything in its place. One big benefit is I have a water pik, and I have not been using it due to the mess. So I will set that up on the counter and start using it again, which will help my gums. I want to use some more veggies today. I have yellow squash, zucchini, onions, cabbage, lettuce. I love fried squash sandwiches. Also may saute some cabbage with onions. I have half a red cabbage too... maybe some kind of slaw? And zucchini bread, if I have time. All of this over the next 3 days probably. I have started boxes to donate in my garage but it has been insanely hot in there. If I get a little energy this morning, I will go in there and consolidate, sort my clothes and put a box to donate in my car. Will share on the Daily Tally! Looking forward to hearing what you all are doing this weekend. Anything for Independence Day? | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 01 July 2023 - 11:55 AM |
Anything I can do to reduce waste. 😉 I took my load to the drop site. They were very nice and helpful. I learned more things I can drop! I did bring home a big yellow lidded bucket someone left with them to recycle - for clay. I really need less clay and fewer buckets, but for now.. I also stopped at a newly remodeled thrift store on my way home. Not overly impressed, but I got two pairs of jeans for work in the fall for $4 each. Unfortunately most of my current jeans are either too tight or in farm work only condition. I'll only be teaching two days a week, so two pairs should be plenty. Maybe I will lose some weight... | |
| Lila | Posted: 01 July 2023 - 02:47 PM |
Scrubbed one side of the bathroom vanity plus the sink. Wore me out! Taking a break and then will go back and do the other side and make it nice. Feels good to scrub that grime off of there. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 01 July 2023 - 07:40 PM |
Well, I had some energy today. And met a friend for breakfast and had regular tea so I've had a reasonable amount of caffeine - I put loads of ice in my tea so that probably makes it half-decaf, which is perfect. All the motivation, none of the jitters, lol. Also when I got back I figured out a better plan for watering roommate's yard and gardens. Yesterday I'd hurried to do it for her before she left because she had so much to do, but it felt like it took forever and then today I realized that was just because I was hurrying so hadn't formulated a systematic plan of attack. One of the kitties is kind of under the weather, though perhaps improving slightly. He is the longhaired one, and seems to have a stubborn hairball. I don't want to be too graphic, but I hope it moves one direction or the other on its own. This is the semi-feral who won't tolerate handling, who hides whenever anyone besides roommate or me enters the house, etc. So there's no catching him to give meds. He did eat a reasonable amount of his food, not his usual intake but at least he's not refusing everything. Trying to tempt him to hydrate a lot by mixing lots of water with the wet food. SubC, I didn't realize you had air quality warnings - are you sort of near a larger city? It was less hot here today, and I'm not sure if it's acting like it might pop up a little storm here. Supposed to get some rain later in the week. I wouldn't mind at all if we got some now, because it'd save me some work watering plus make things less flammable when people start shooting off fireworks. I was thinking too about something similar to the deal about mail or whatever that comes in, getting more items out than come in. And I really don't get that much mail, so I'd probably be ahead much of the time. Also thinking, okay, I gripe about ADHD, but it actually has a feature that could work in my favor - hyperfocus. How to focus the hyperfocus! There is my challenge. How to do it without getting bogged down or indecisive with regard to whatever item in the pile I pick up to decide the fate of. Hmmmm.... | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 30 June 2023 - 06:57 PM |
Lila, I had started my post before you posted the second time. Yay for throwing out that miserable lotion! One of my trouble spots is a basket of little hotel sized lotions in my bathroom cabinet. I keep thinking I will use them eventually and then I can wash out and recycle the little plastic bottles. And kids keep giving me lovely lotions for holiday gifts... I watched a video during lunch today called the "use it or lose it" challenge. It was about craf5 supplies, but it could've about anything. Maybe next week I will switch my tally project to "use it or lose it" I feel like I've got hitting an area every day down at this point. | |
| Lila | Posted: 30 June 2023 - 08:53 PM |
Wow SubC, good work on the recycling! I am a minor recycler myself. I take in cardboard and old electronics to the recycle center. The rest, I can't right now, but goals. I made beer battered onion rings, zucchini strips, and pickles from scratch! They were very tasty but after a few I knew I couldn't eat many. Not used to the grease. But some veggies got used, the kids liked them too. I will probably freeze what did not get eaten so they can air fry them when they want some. My kitchen is a floury, oily mess though. I will clean it. Son can help if I run out of steam. I am still working on the bathroom vanity. I got a lot of partially full bottles of really old stuff put in the trash. I put probably 7 items from there into the kids' bathroom, mainly body washes and shampoos I don't use. Then I straightened the vanity cabinets and started putting things I DO use in there on the shelves. So the counter is about 60% cleared off. I will go back in and continue to put things in their places. I picked up a plastic bin off the floor and washed it, and anything without a home that I am not ready to let go of will go in that little bin and I will find room in the bathroom closet for the bin. I hope I can get it done today, but if not, I will finish it tomorrow. I am pretty tired now. Well thanks for reading. I feel more motivated when I share and read about what you guys are doing too. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 01 July 2023 - 07:01 AM |
Lila, to be clear, a lot of that recycling has been building up for about a year. But the stored recycling was in my basement. So now there is more space in my basement. Remember, I have no "curbside services" (also no curb) every item that leaves my property has to be transported by a person (usually me) to a location. Recycling is really important to me. Also not bringing in things that won't be kept or consumed because everything else is just more work. It is easier to find recycling drops than to find places to leave real garbage. Some of my neighbors burn their garbage - which stinks and is really bad for the environment. I burn a few things, but they are things like butter wrappers, not plastic. Do your kids want those body washes and shampoos? Remember, you just cleaned that bathroom out.. I ordered myself a new pair of shoes last night. My everyday shoes are so worn I can only wear them with heavy socks, and it is summer. I am going to make do with dressier shoes and my mud crocs and farm boots until the new shoes get here, because it is too hot for socks and the shoes are one of the things I can drop off today. Recycling is a gift to me. I do not feel selfish when I hold on to items nobody wants or needs because I think I might find a use for them, but if somebody else has a use for them, then keeping them is selfish (and stupid). When I clean out my paper piles, I am saving trees and fuel. Park benches can be made from my used and sometimes broken plastic instead of freshly piped oil. My shoes can become track surfaces. That helps motivate me. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 29 June 2023 - 05:06 PM |
We're going through some 100+ temp days but hopefully only a few before it changes. It's oppressive, the air is thick to breathe, and a person can't help but sweat. I hate the feel of sweating. So I've been indoors a lot. Also, it's like the dopamine has been sucked out of my system and it's ridiculously hard to initiate any task whatsoever. But today I feel a little more energetic than yesterday which was the first day the heat shot up so high. I Googled foods that give you dopamine and one was watermelon. That sounds very appealing. Roommate is leaving tomorrow morning to visit family for the weekend. I might procure us a watermelon if I can manage to get to the store at a time when it isn't bedlam. Some of this week was taken up with our hunt for a new phone for roommate - I was along in a tech advisory capacity. We did find a good one, it had to be ordered but it arrived quickly, yesterday, and she has it mostly set up. When I am ready to get a new phone, which won't be too much longer, I may get the same model, because it looks like a good value for the price and it will have loads more memory than my current one which is pretty much at capacity, and doesn't hold a charge as well as it should. I need to start backing up my photos and stuff so that I won't be pressed for time when I do make the switch, even though like I said, it won't be right away. I have some ideas for things to accomplish while roommate is away, but I don't even want to say just yet what those are, for fear I will jinx the little dopamine receptors and they will scurry back into their caves. One must coax them gently out with warm milk, poetry, and unicorn tears. Or at least watermelon. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 29 June 2023 - 06:39 PM |
CM, I hope you have a sense of accomplishment. I worked in the studio more, but I am still just moving things - sorting and grouping and rearranging. It is exhausting and discouraging. But I can't really make progress until I see what I have. I do have one big black plastic bag of stuff to drop at the recycling place. And it is a little neater with more open floor space. | |
| Lila | Posted: 30 June 2023 - 12:46 PM |
Hellooo, I am back. I was working and working and working. Now I have some days off and am really thrilled to have them! I too have a record player. Peter and the Wolf gave me an immediate flashback to listening to that in my childhood! Wow, I had not thought of that in decades! Sometimes I wonder what other memories are buried in there. I appreciate the thought - pros and cons- of 90% and finishing. I think both sides have merit. If I am able this weekend, I plan to vacuum the downstairs hallway which is full of dog hair dust bunnies, and then mop it and the bathroom with Lysol. I will report back. Probably not today. Today I: Now I am on hold waiting to talk to an airline about Son going on a trip. I want to book him a ticket with my miles. I hope I can get a good deal. Their website and app are too glitchy, so I hope they can get me a good deal. I had coffee. I looked up a crustless quiche recipe and will be using a lot of veggies in the fridge to make it shortly. I am getting hungry. I will have some fruit with it. I have cherries! Oh, I need to update my decluttering the pounds and daily Tally! | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 30 June 2023 - 04:46 PM |
Hi all from still hot Kansas. I keep nodding off, possibly didn't sleep enough last night. My roommate made it to her destination okay, and she's been having aches and pains that have really messed with her sleep. I was a bit concerned about her driving. And whether she'll get any decent rest up there; she has said the bed at her relatives' is hard and she never sleeps well on it. I pray things improve for her. Lila, yeah, I may walk back what I said about 90 vs. 100 percent - take it with a grain of salt at any rate because I don't always practice what I preach. I think there's a tendency in all of this trying to find the secret sauce to make decluttering suddenly take off and flow smoothly and get done once and for all. I pounce on a concept that sounds good in the moment but it may be more realistic to be flexible and adjust our strategies to varying conditions. SubC, you are slogging, and right now I don't even have it in me to attempt slogging. So I admire your tenacity. I got one thing accomplished today though it's not a decluttering thing. Aside from the routine of pet care and such fixed items on the agenda, that is. Wondering if one problem is simply lack of caffeine, because I had been buying bottled tea for the convenience but I hated knowing I was spending more money than I should, so I got a jumbo Mason jar for sun tea - but my teabags I had are decaf! I don't want to overdo caffeine and get jittery, but perhaps I need some. I had bought English Breakfast because it can be like Ritalin for me but it can also have residual jitters. So I am not sure if I want to make it while I'm here by myself, in case I overshoot the mark and get anxiety. The temperature will drop by tomorrow supposedly so hoping my energy will return. Projects seem too elaborate to set up and get started on, and then have to either finish in a short time or teardown the entire setup in this house where it's so hard to find workspace. My mind just jams its gears even thinking about how I would go about it. Just in a slump, it will end, I hope. I will try to at least find a few papers to throw away or something. Did that earlier, it didn't feel like much but it was better than nothing. | |
| Lila | Posted: 30 June 2023 - 05:44 PM |
CM, I liked your caffeine reminder so much that I went and made myself a cup of real coffee! Drinking it now. I was feeling sluggish myself, so hopefully this will help. It is not even 4 yet here so while it is slightly late for me to have coffee, maybe it will help me make use of the rest of that day. I have been sitting too much, but getting things done while sitting. I cleaned out the fridge (well, not really "cleaned", but sorted and tossed anything old and wiped off the top shelf). I am always so horrified, sad and guilty when my veggies spoil before I use them. I am trying to work on this. I just made a cucumber and red onion salad, so that is 2 more veg that will not go to waste. Son and I are going to make beer battered onion rings and zucchini strips for dinner. He might have some meat with his. I know fried food is not idea, but once in awhile, I do love to make something really tasty that is fried, like this. If this coffee perks me up, I will work on decluttering. I am a little sad I did not get up early and fill the trash bins for trash day, but they were 3/4 full so that's something. I want to sort my clothes and put more that don't fit me into boxes to donate, so I have more room in my bedroom. This day is more of my rest and decompress day. I have all weekend to work more on the house, too. Although the caffeine is starting to kick in and I have a strange urge to clean off my bathroom vanity, which is totally cluttered and dusty and makes me sad. So maybe that will be my task I tackle. | |
| Lila | Posted: 30 June 2023 - 06:07 PM |
Funny experience note - I went in my master bathroom to clean, as I stated in the last post. I took a trash bag and started looking for things to throw away. I admit to being a hoarder of bottles of lotions, face creams, oils, hair and skin products but rarely use them. It is hard for me to purge these. Some I have had for over a decade. (I threw out 6 partially used bottles this time). So as I was tossing, there was the bottle of Clinique Happy lotion. Ohhh, my dear d*ckhead husband gave me that lotion as a gift long long ago when he loved me. Had to be a dozen or more years ago. I loved it. I saved this half full bottle because it was one of the rare gifts he gave me in love. I though, "oh, I should toss this since he is gone" but I had to have one last sniff for the memories. I opened it and couldn't smell it so shook/squeezed it a little and POOF, a squirt of liquidy lotion came out, all over my upper lip (and shirt!) Ugh, had to wash it off but now all I can smell is that damned lotion, reminding me of him! You can bet it got thrown away! LOL. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 30 June 2023 - 06:29 PM |
Lila, I hope you get your vanity done because I don't like it making you sad. CM, heat is really debilitating. Stay hydrated! Accomplishing a thing is better than not accomplishing a thing. How many pieces of paper came into your house today? If you can recycle that number plus one, that is progress. The back of my suv is full to go to the recycling drop tomorrow. The whole back. With the car seat out and the seats folded down. I even added in a bunch of plastic things that my brain said "I could use this for." I was like "I don't need you! Get out of my house! Go be a park bench!" My Dh has decided to mow the lawn in the heat and humidity during an air quality warning. I think I need to go move the hose, because there arelowoddsof stopping him. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 June 2023 - 10:06 PM |
Yay for the record player! Peter and the Wolf was a favorite of mine! No argument on 90% is good enough! I hear you and agree. For me, I need that extra 10%. I need to finish it. Because now that I live in an orderly house, that 10% is clutter and noise. And there I was tonight, telling myself to put all the cat food cans away. Not just all but five. And not only fold and put away the pjs, but get all the socks in their space too. So I'll work on finishing things because that's where I fall down. Had a work dinner tonight. Very fun evening. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 27 June 2023 - 05:43 AM |
Good morning. I'm having a hard time getting started today. It's an early day for Dh at work, and his alarm went off in the middle of my dream. I did finish that last inch of papers yesterday. I brought more stuff up from the basement, but I am starting to have an overwhelming number of categories. I need to start filing or use fewer categories and "none of the above" I'm starting to run into some hard stuff. My dishwasher door is broken - it doesn't lower itself slowly any more, it is eitherlatched or drops hard if you don't lower it by hand. I put a box on the floor so it won't fall on my foot. Dh has now put the repair on his short list, which means I need to get the scullery clean enough for him to work in. More pressure than I want right now. I feel like I should have more time and energy by now to accomplish lots of things - school has been out for a month. The goat and I are walking. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 27 June 2023 - 10:59 AM |
It's noon here so do I say good morning or good afternoon? I was sick all night. Something in my dinner did not sit right. I was up and in the bathroom during the night and then this AM I started to add vomit to the mix. No fun. I'm now washing towels I used to clean up the mess. I may end up having to take the towels to the animal shelter if they are stained. I just wiped down the bathroom and I have showered. I think I need to change my sheets, too, just to be extra clean. The sheets will be changed again tomorrow when the cleaners are here but that's okay. Two days in a row of clean sheets would make me very happy, to be honest. Okay off to a meeting. I had to do my early AM meeting in a camera-off situation. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 28 June 2023 - 01:01 PM |
I have been working in the studio today because the air quality is too bad to be outside. I haven't actually been making anything, just doing a lot of cleaning up, sorting, and organizing. Generated a little trash and a bag of recycling. Also broke a few things. I don't actually care that much right now, I just need a stronger sense of order and control. This is really just a first pass - for example, I'm trying to get all the glaze jars together in one area. Later I'll sort them by color and then figure out which ones are still usable and which ones need to be rebatched. And then I will rebatch them one color at a time for months.. (Because it takes 5 minutes, and then 5 minutes tomorrow, and then 5 minutes the next time you go out. and then in a few weeks or months, depending on how often you walk by and shake/stir, you have a jar of usable glaze and a bunch of containers to reuse or recycle. And otherwise you have a very large bag of "hazardous waste" (that is actually safe to use by 5 y.o.s - eyeroll!) I did find a really significant amount of floor space today. I feel good about that. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 29 June 2023 - 05:08 AM |
Good morning. Terrible air quality again today. I wore my Covid mask to class last night. My eyes were sore by the time I got home. Sometimes I think about how hard I try to avoid waste and recycle things and how little all my efforts compare to one building burning to the ground. It seems like that might help me accept that a few bags of trash are not going to make much difference to the planet, but all it actually does is make me feel sad and hopeless and ineffective. It's supposed to rain tomorrow, so hopefully that will clean some of this smoke out of the air. I am going to stay home and probably work in the studio again. Hopefully making things this time though. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 29 June 2023 - 06:14 AM |
Ok! I was feeling discouraged, but then I got an email that is making me feel bette4 and more motivated. There is a really cool place that will take a lot of hard to recycle items, but it is in the city, over an hour drive, and in a difficult area to navigate. It is also open only limited hours that are not great for me, so I've managed to get there twice. Meanwhile, I have a large recycling center set up in my basement. The email was to tell me that there is now a satellite drop off on the first Saturday of every month (this Saturday!) in a large town only 27 minutes from me. So, I am going to really focus on getting everything together, filling my car, and dropping off on Saturday! The other thing that is good is that the big center in the city has a "shopping area" where you can help yourself to useful items to reuse. So far I have resisted that, but it is hard. I am definitely not ready to make good choices in their "shopping area". The satellite drop does not have a shopping area. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 26 June 2023 - 12:28 PM |
Dh bought me a record player! It is self contained in a little blue 1950s retro case with silver corners. I have two cases of records I saved from my childhood and now I can 1) see if they are even still usable (I'm a little scared) and 2) hopefully share them with Bean! Also, I'm remembering how much I loved the listening center in my preschool. I would put the padded headphones on, shut the whole room out, and listen to the grasshopper and the ant - over and over. I can still feel the headphones and see the record turning. Yeah. I'm pretty sure that was an early sign of autism. Now where am I going to put my listening center... | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 25 June 2023 - 02:55 PM |
Goid afternoon! Tatoulia, I hope you had a good lunch with your brother and feel better today. I have been sorting through school papers - lesson plans, resources, ideas, records, notes, forms, pictures, dating back from this past year to prepandemic for an hour and a half. I am recycling about half of it. Currently I am only sorting into 3 piles - recycling, pottery class related, not pottery class related. I am hoping to get all the "pottery class related" into a plastic drawer that is 9"x12"x7.5" tall. - from this round, but there are more papers in the basement. I only brought up one "stack" (actually, it was the drawer, which was sitting on a table because it was too full to go back in the frame and then got more stuff stacked on top.) I relabeled the drawer, took everything out of it, and started it with the pottery class things from this year I had stacked on the table on the porch. I am hoping to put the drawer back in the frame before I go to bed, but I had to take a break. I've been working for an hour and a half and can't stand it any more. | |
| Lila | Posted: 25 June 2023 - 07:52 PM |
SubC, I hate sorting papers. I want to keep everything remotely useful or nostalgic. I need to do it sometime, or it will be impossible to find anything. Tatoulia, I hope you feel okay now! Someone did pick up the stroller I put in the yard, so that's one more big item gone. I worked, then went to lunch with a friend. Then came home. Teen is off doing something for a few days and has been complaining about the "gross disgusting bathroom" they have to use downstairs. I reminded them that I never use that bathroom, so they and Son should come up with a plan to alternate cleaning it. Or work together. But Teen has been so depressed and stressed out that I decided to surprise them by cleaning it while they are away. omg it was so much work. It was not really "gross" as there was not pee everywhere or anything, but it was messy and dusty and needed a good scrub. I got Son to help me - he scrubbed the inside of the shower and wiped down the toilet and took the trash and laundry out of there. I sorted dozens of bottles of cleaners and personal care products, wiped out shelves and organized, scrubbed the sink, and swiffered the floor. It took us TWO HOURS. It is a small bathroom too. It is so much better. It really needs another once-over with a mopping with lysol cleaner, but that can wait. I threw out a while trash bag full of very old or never-going-to-be-used bottles of stuff. Like a soap everyone hates, aerosol hair spray for 10 years ago, bottles of cleaner with next to nothing left in them. I consolidated like bottles to make more space. Now instead of every surface being covered with stuff, it is nice and neat. I hope Teen appreciates it, but if they don't, I am still happy we did it. And that is my task for the day. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 25 June 2023 - 10:42 PM |
SubC, when I first read your line about singers of that era were notorious for tension problems, I got a mental image of a rock star who was uptight and caused trouble. The tabloid fodder type. What can I say, my mind takes some strange twists and turns. The funny thing is, my Singer sewing machine has behaved quite well all the time I've had it; that's why this all came as a sudden surprise. It's a 5830C, if by any chance you are familiar with those. The sewing on the jumpers finished late in the afternoon, after numerous back and forth with finding another one, needing a button sewn on, etc., and my cousin just made it on the uniform exchange deadline. I guess she will find out if they sold later. I'd needed a nap this afternoon after the tiring (yet satisfying - it is going to be much easier for them, and less allergenic) carpet ripping at the bunny shelter house yesterday. I was sleepy when I got up and wondered if I'd have trouble staying awake in church. Did all right there, came home, was getting ready to make chicken and noodles then crash. Then got a text from my cousin about one of the unexpected jumpers that still needed some work. Since my machine has decided to misbehave again I ended up borrowing roommate's. Alas, no nap, though, so I hope to go to bed earlier tonight. Must get my sewing machine in shape if possible, or if not figure out what to do, because I have already gone longer than I ever meant to without working on sewing projects. Still have those knit shorts needing pockets - remember them? And the crafts such as doll clothes, and most likely some sort of assembly of quilt components still; even if my church doesn't need them I'll find a different charity. Having the machine out of commission has made me realize I took it for granted. Won't do that again. My cousin has still been working at my grandma's house off and on. It is sad that my aunts ended up with so much out of control. It gets harder the older a person gets and the more health and mobility problems they have. I look at the hoarding and/or clutter issues on that side of the family and I do wonder if there is that genetic factor involved, the Chromosome 14 thing - and if so, what the implications are for me. And that isn't even the side of the family with the ADHD and autism. Yikes. Double whammy much? I really need to keep my eyes on the prize and not slack off or I will pay dearly. I've hated how it got before I decided to make changes, and I've been gobsmacked by how hard it can be to reckon with it all even when I am desirous of a different way of living. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 26 June 2023 - 05:13 AM |
Good morning! I did not finish my drawer yesterday. A friend called and offered me some flowers she was digging out. They are exactly what I wanted to finish off my new flower bed, so I went over and picked them up. And, drum roll.. I brought them straight home and planted them! I finally got the last of the pussy willows planted yesterday too, so there are no plants languishing in my house or yard. CM, I hope you get your machine fixed. I understand how roadblocks like that can derail everything. Lila, yay for the stroller being picked up! And excellent job on the bathroom! It was really nice of you to give them a reset. And really awesome job on the products! Now, every time a product is requested, do a quick sweep to see if it is needed or something less desirable needs to leave before it goes on the shopping list (example - teen requests shampoo, there are 4 shampoos. if teen does not find any of them acceptable and son is not using them, they leave the bathroom! I dusted my bedroom yesterday. Except my dresser. My dresser is still buried under a stuff drift. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 26 June 2023 - 08:42 AM |
Have not read all the posts. Came on here because I wanted to comment on Lila's post. Great job cleaning the bathroom! As I read it, I thought, I hope they throw out some of the bottles of stuff. Too much. Should have been tossed years ago. I know it will stress out SubC, and me to an extent, that the bottles weren't recycled but desperate times call for desperate measures. When dealing with a hoard, you need to do what you can and not get hung up on some of the other stuff. That will come with time. Two other comments. One, teen will appreciate it. Whether they express the appreciation is a different matter and you need to know in your heart that you are a good mom and you did for them what any good mom would do. I'm here to say you did a good job and I'm thrilled you and son worked together. Second comment comes from my own experience. I know you are tired and have other things to do but please finish the job with the final swipe with Lysol. I tend to do things almost and I have to tell myself, no finish. I'll make my bed but not fold the thing by the bottom or tell myself that I'll come back. I literally say to myself, put that final spoon in the dishwasher now. So if you can't finish it or ask son to help. I fight against this every day. Coffee clinks! | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 26 June 2023 - 09:05 AM |
I second that what Tatoulia said about doing the last part of a job - because boy, do I struggle with the same thing! It's like I get past the absolute worst part of the work to where it's sort of done, and my brain says "That's enough, no more." Let us all pledge to be accountable to finish all the way. Maybe at first we won't be perfect at it but keep building the habit, find incentives to keep ourselves going, whatever it takes. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 26 June 2023 - 11:15 AM |
I'm going to play devil's advocate. Sometimes 90% is enough. Obviously I don't want to leave that last inch of papers on my table for weeks, but this is not Lila's bathroom. This is a bathroom used by another adult and a teenager, each of whom is capable of wiping with Lysol. If wiping the bathroom down would give Lila a sense of satisfaction, great! But if not, she has plenty to do and this may just be a case of "done is good enough." And move on. | |
| Lila | Posted: 23 June 2023 - 08:01 PM |
hi again all. Hi CM, I didn't mean to ignore you before! I hope you get the sewing machine figured out. I have one in my closet that I rarely use. But they do come in handy once in awhile. I had a really great day. Even after the stuff I listed on my morning post, I got more done! - I did 3 loads of laundry and now all my clothes are clean and most of them put away. Then I went out and got some tamales for Son and I to enjoy together for dinner. What a great productive day! I might still put some things in the donate box, and then will update the Daily Tally before I go to bed. I hope you all are enjoying your day too! | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 24 June 2023 - 06:33 AM |
Good morning! You know CM, singers of that era are notorious for tension problems. I have one too. Drives me nuts. Lila, you are doing an amazing job making progress. I keep feeling like such a slacker. I have to remind myself that I am currently in a "healing" stage. It helps to look at my goat. After a month, she is finally standing up on her own and taking wobbly steps across the stall to the food without being led. I tell myself I am the same as that goat. I am also recovering (and still dealing with setbacks) and if I can be happy that she is now able to take care of her own basic needs, I should be able to feel that way about me as well. It is dreary and overcast here and going to be hot later. My family is all gone home. A good day to rest. Chores and maybe a bit of light garden work this morning, and an hour or so of housework to do, and then we'll see. | |