Good thing that your DH is in control of some of your rewards.

This all says so much about your personality type and it's great that you know yourself so well.
(((hug)))

Frigid raging winds all day yesterday ushered in a very cold dark and cloudy day today.
Did cat tasks & not much else.

I was instant gratification AND the satisfaction of achieving my goal. But denying myself something I want and could have uses up a lot of energy that could better be spent on reaching the goal. I cannot lie to myself and believe that I cannot have the thing until I achieve the goal, because that is not true - it's an artificially imposed limit, and I have no patience for those. And, if I start seeing the thing as forbidden, it becomes more desirable.

I am noticing that all of my "rewards" are the avoidance of negative consequences, which leads me to think that I should perhaps rethink my life. But I guess swimming is a positive - I swim because I know it will make me feel better and be healthier.

As I am tired today, I am "taking it easy" and only cleaned out three stalls.

Bunny is enjoying the gorgeous fall day in her bunny hopper in the shade of my front yard - where she has a breeze and I can see her out the window. Dd is not bringing her dog, so bunny can stay out until bunny bed time.

Very true
setting priorities is important.
The care and wellbeing of living creatures in our care is an important priority.
The care and wellbeing of our physical and mental selves is an important priority.

My Granma would say the dishes will still be there waiting for her to wash them.
She was right, the dishes waited patiently.

The rewards and how they are distributed is a personal choice.
Knowing that we would cheat if left up to our own on deciding when to take them is to know 'thyself".

Do we want the instant gratification of the reward or do we want the satisfaction of achieving our goal?

This is where we work on our inner strengths.
Pushing ourselves past our usual thresholds on to new and better horizons.

Oh, I also find that the rewards have to be tied to the work or In the control of another person. Otherwise I will focus on the reward until I just quit and let myself have it.

So - not having to give goats medicine - reward that I want that follows job.

Seeing and not getting headaches - reward for eye doctor

Classes that go smoothly and no staying up late and last minute panic - reward fir lesson plans.

Tillie, that is a really good point!

I find that lately I have been focusing on "what needs to be done now." My first thought about goals was that my main goal right now is to not be tired and overwhelmed.

But then I thought about all the things I am trying to do that make me tired and overwhelmed. I think I am going to brainstorm a list of goals and work on prioritizing them. Then instead if seeing that, for example, the dishes need to be washed, I can ask "which of these goals is most important right now, and what can I do to further that goal?"

Because if I have a huge stack of dirty dishes and my most important goal is a good night's sleep. I should go to bed!

If dh wants clean dishes more than sleep - he can stay up and wash them.

Today the most important thing is my barn, because a couple of the goats are sick and keeping things clean helps solve that. The two dd's and dsil are coming for dinner, but the dd's grew up in this messy house, and dh left to play golf, so clearly the mess is not that important to him. Everybody can help me clear space to cook later.

Tomorrow my priorities are eye appointment and lesson plans.

"Tillie I'm trying so hard to push myself forward. I haven't been meeting any of my goals recently. What shall we strive for in October?"

We should strive to clearly define the reasons for the goals we set for ourselves.

Even if to someone else our reasons don't sound reasonable or logical, or seem to be selfish.
What other people think does not matter so don't even bother telling them.

Many people have goals that are too loosely defined so the goals are hard to achieve.
Too much "wiggle" room, not enough strictly defined structure as to how to achieve the goals.

Some people design goals that do not fit their personalities.
They should modify their goals but to do this they need to honestly know why they want to achieve whatever it is they are after.
An all or nothing approach rarely works but a compromise could very well get satisfactory results.

Plus the rewards of working toward the goal need to be established.
People do best when there are rewards of some sort.
The rewards don't need to be physical objects or food.
Something simple like now you can watch a movie on Netflix that you have been waiting for.

SubC your work is beautiful! I love the cream and black pieces. Not sure if they are raku or not. Stunning. I would have had a hard time choosing just one but would've enjoyed an urn-shaped one. Your glazed pieces are beautiful too! Such a contrast! I am not on Facebook so I was glad I could access the photos.

I'm sorry you didn't have more foot traffic.

I had my St Jude walk this AM, then I went to see the movie, Judy. Renée Zellweger did a very good job but the movie is sad. Not cry sad, just sad sad. Almost like we shouldnt be seeing that sort of unraveling. I think the closing credits, with super slow music, really left me feeling almost bored.

After the movie, I walked to Talbots, where I didn't buy anything, then I picked up a late lunch for BF and me, and we enjoyed it. I came home and slept a bit.

I am definitely up in my weight and I'm unhappy and mad at myself. I have six weeks til I see the doctor. And I can make better choices. I know how.

I'm washing my towels right now. They are in the new dryer and might be done by now.

I'm running dishwasher and considering changing my sheets. I didn't do on Wednesday because I was at work and plus I'd been in VT. I think I'll go change now and yes, it's 11 PM.

Tillie I'm trying so hard to push myself forward. I haven't been meeting any of my goals recently. What shall we strive for in October?

It worked if I cut and pasted.

Sales were abysmal today, but the community was nice. There was a big festival 30 minutes away, so our traffic was very light.

Maybe this will work:

Click on all photos and the first two with pottery are mine.

https://m.facebook.com/TheMorrowMarket/photos?__nodl&refsrc=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F&ref=external%3Awww.google.com&_rdr

Poor mr. kitty must be so deprived. He has one cereal bowl. He drinks out of the pond. And sometimes a plastic dish. But mostly the pond.

I am up way too early. I can't sleep, but I am still tired. I have things to do to get ready for today, but everyone else is asleep. (Dd2 appeared on our porch last night. She heard her sister is coming over to shoot and for dinner tomorrow. Sil is coming too, but not to shoot.)

I started the dishwasher and made coffee.

Dh and I have dinner and a concert with friends after my sale today (Dd is going to her bffs house) we will be home late. I need to eat lightly and order coffee or I will be falling asleep in the concert. Up early tomorrow to get dh off to golf, and a short window to work on school stuff before everyone arrives.

I thought Monday would be a recovery/planning day, but Dh made me an eye appointment at ten. So he will be working from home (disruptive) and then we will leave and then my eyes will be blurry for about 4 hours. So only a few hours for planning and prep.

And then another week of school starts. This week will include a language arts meeting and parent visits. I am enjoying my classes, but I am still struggling with planning and prep.

Tatoulia - good luck to you!

My house is not good. It is not too bad because we are not home much, but I am not keeping up with things.

I added three new students in various classes last week, but none in the classes that need more people.

I have been swimming. My weight is still up. (Probably because dh has been cooking) my knees hurt all the time.

And every time I slow down, my heart hurts. The court filed a motion to revoke my friend's son's bail, but then they withdrew it. The hearing on court jurisdiction has been delayed until November. He is allowed no contact with minors or high school students except his sister. Since he is in a locked adult residential treatment facility with no phone calls or electronics allowed, this is a bit redundant. His sister ostensibly left the house to drive to school, but parked in a neighborhood and deliberately overdosed - she was found and rescued by a stranger. She spent a week inpatient and I don't know if she has been back to school.

Hello hello!

Good luck at the sale tmr, SubC. How I would love to see your work!

I could get the video to work but didn't stay on for long because the computer voice was really tough on my ears! Cm you are truly a friend to all creatures. What a nice trait to have!

Catch me up, Cm. Weren't you going to be going somewhere where there would be dolls for sale? How did you do?

I am just getting home from work. I stayed really late but did not have the day I was hoping for. But I'm home and I'm happy.

So, all garbage and recycling out this AM. And I wiped down my kitchen counters too. I'm trying to add that to my morning routine. I want my bed made (always is) and my kitchen counters wiped down and all dishes out of the sink. I want those three things to be routine.

As I've mentioned, I've always been good about making my bed. I can't think of anything that makes me feel that I have some semblance of order quite the way a made bed does. I'm also so pleased that I now fold and put away the laundry.

So I'm adding kitchen counters to the daily mindless tasks. No decisions required, no effort beyond spraying the cleaner on the counter and wiping with a Swedish dish towel.

I'm enjoying my routine with mom's dishes and she's starting to enjoy it. This week she bragged to her neighbors that she always has clean dishes.

Tillie believe it or not, I need more cat bowls. I like Corelli ones for the cats' water. We do not have enough between mom and myself. We really need a total of four more. So I'll get them this weekend. Since I've cut down on kitty's plates, I can tell you that we now have the perfect number of plates and the perfect number of cereal bowls. Very good feeling to have hit the correct number!

Mom and her kitty have settled into a nice little friendship. New kitty is such a gentle soul. I love her so much.

St Jude walk tmr. Need to get up and out early.

Our new dryer was delivered today. Just in time. I have exactly one clean bath towel left (resulting from my paring down bath towels to just four). Two are dirty and one is being used with my AC. Two are white (mine) and two are brown and white (for when family friend visits). So the brown and white was is the one by the AC. Helps keep the window slat in place. If it's not washable, I'll donate.

I start teaching on Tuesday. Have those two chapters to finish up and then I'll figure out what I'll be saying. I need to figure out timing for the class. The people in charge haven't done that for me. I also don't know how many attendees I can expect.

Good luck tomorrow Subclinical!
If the foot traffic is good I'm sure you will sell out. 😉

Hummm...
video works when I click on it

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The video won't play. I have little brown woodrats. Unfortunately I currently have them tunneling up into my barn.

Tomorrow is my new market. I have three pumpkin bowls ready to sell. Also many other things. If the market posts any pictures of my booth, I will link you.

When I say rat maybe you think about something like a Norwegian rat.
But my rats are really cute and have bushy tails.
Here is a youtube video about the pack rat species I have here.

pack rat video

Good Afternoon

Washed dishes & wiped up the kitchen.
So many cat bowls and not one of the cats volunteered to help.
1:30pm now.
I will wait till 3:00pm to water the grass so the intense sunshine doesn't burn the wet leaves.
In Summertime I have to wait much later in the day but the sun gets low on the horizon early now.

Weather report is teasing that cooler & rain is predicted but I will not hold my breath.
They have been very wrong about us getting any rain lately.

Good Morning Everybody

Thank you Tatoulia for starting the new thread.
I had not lost a post in so long.

There is a brush fire nearby smoking me out this morning.
My trees leaves are turning yellow/orange/red.
My chrysanthemums are starting to bloom.

Today I plan to water the grass and garden. So easy now when I only need to water twice a week. 🙂

Good morning!

And yes, I'm already late for work!

Trash day! I love getting the trash out!

Have a wonderful day!