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What are you doing today?
Posted: 28 April 2017 - 07:01 AM
 

Hello everyone--I've started a new chapter as the other one is getting unwieldy and this should solve Anony's missing button problem!

Tillie, take good care of yourself today. I've asked Dr Scooter and Nurses Marty and Twinkles to check in on you.

Porter, your three-day plan sounds terrific! WTG!

 

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Tatoulia
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 07:26 PM
 

Congratulations on the kitchen, Anony! You worked hard and it has paid off!

I am just telling myself, how about doing a little something in order to keep productive. I'm very pleased with the amount of paper i worked through and I hope my 'assistant' is ready to help me again tomorrow!

Believe it or not, we have garbage pickup tomorrow so I'm going to gather mine up and get it out!

 
Porter
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 07:54 PM
 

I hate stubbing toes. I'm a baby in that regard.

Anony
I keep finding ways to become empowered over thclearance wasI tell you the view from my house from end to end all done. Nearly perfection. Is such a rush of empowerment. I just put into words how it makes me feel.
all the social and family problems aside. When my place is a mess im a mess too. I get so used to it. But when is all sorted. All organized all put away. All accessible. I do feel like a hero and the person trapped in the hoard needed saving. And now I'm free. I feel so energized by it.

I went out today in neighborhood looking for metal bars.
because the grill is in really bad shape leans and tips back too easily. I did find metal broom sticks and several stoves with broiling pans the make for better coal placements. I went to hard ware and bought the grill paint
and it was good to use tools from my tool area that is well organized . at the hardware i asked if any clearance could fit my project and the clerk gave me a grill rack free of charge because he was told to throw away.

So its looking as good as new ones.
not only that but I looked up on letgo *grill accessories
and bought a case with everthing in it. And the things in my basement hoard for tenderizing and marinating. Even some injection stuff.

I've been working on the shelves in the kitchen a little each day. And if I had the energy I would finnish them. But yawn.
I'm just going to call a good day and sleep until my eyes pop open on their own .
I'm going to join a new gym tommorrow for a free 30 days and see if I can find some players.
Fasting and strength training was difficult last time . But ive learned more Much more. But that's a different post on and different thread on a different forum.

zee you later.

 
Tillie
Posted: 04 July 2017 - 10:22 AM
 

Happy July 4th! 🙂

Wildfires burning all around northern Nevada.
The air is thick with smoke.
The sunset last night was a deep vibrant orange.
The sunshine today is very yellow from filtering through the smoke.
No rain predicted to help wash it all away.
It will be another day stuck inside to keep out of the 100+ degrees.
Thank goodness for Netflix and Youtube ;D

 
Tatoulia
Posted: 04 July 2017 - 10:24 AM
 

Happy 4th everyone!

I'm going to do a quick few things here and then head out to brother's to mop his floors. Then I'm going to run home, get cleaned up and go to BF's cookout.

I hope brother can be reasonable today. I will work extra hard on keeping myself together. His birthday is approaching and for some reason he starts a massive fight just before his birthday, then he cries. So I'll ignore today and not engage.

Hope you all have a beautiful 4th of July. I have had four days off from work and my living room is still a mess. But it's better--took care of a lot of papers.

 
Porter
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 12:07 PM
 

Got all my supplies for waterproofing the bathroom.

I've been timing how long it takes to get all the messes cleaned up. On days I'm home, not home , when daughter is here and when friends are over .

so far it takes longer when daughter is home.
Then friends, just me, and out.

Still I am enthusiastic about getting everything clean and in order. I have a catchphrase in my mind "first positions. Like in the movie the truman show where actors start their day in first positions as truman hits his alarm clock.
An idiosyncrasies im sure. I don't let a sssingle piece be out of place. Didnt know I had it in me to keep on top like this. I start in as soon as my day begins. I eat and clean all dishes the start on the porch. Livingroom, dinning room, kitchen. I gather laundry, start laundry tinker in the basement . When clothes are done i take them to their destination. When in those destinations clear and sweep.
then finnish in the bathroom .
Trash day is little more geared for outside and kitchen.
but I'm averaging 2 hrs a day no matter how bad it is. But less than 30 min by myself

I'm happy with this set up.
Lonely house during the week, but I will keep on keepin on with the card games wether poker , euchre, or uno.
Its a very nice feature to have wifi enable music videos when i have guests.

there's a big opening between living room and dinning room.
and I set the tv up on a swivel finagled the cables to allow the tv to swivel from living room to dinning room.
I don't let food or dishes get in the living room.
I mean like breakfast lunch or dinners or desserts
But candy and popcorn while watching TV .
Chips are so unhealthy I won't buy them.
and I'm spending time outside as the guys spent alot of time around outside and by the fire.

Well they are not all friends. More like poker guys.
Bryan is a friend. Basically I consider them friends if I see them out of work during the week. Otherwise they want to get poker money out of me.

We thats the way it used to be. If they don't like music videos i have an Xbox and car chase and shooter games.

on a personal note . I'm going to start fasting at the advanced level. Geared to lose fat near the 2lb a week rate.
3 fasting days . 2 fish days , steaks on friday and saturdays.

I've been collecting gamblers on Facebook since I started facebook. In 2006. If I still had my sailboat I would be doing that instead...

 
Tillie
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 12:23 PM
 

Good Morning Everybody! 😀

Hi Porter 🙂
You sure have been busy! 😀
How wonderful that you filled your home with all your friends (((HUGS)))

Hi Joan 🙂
Hoping you are getting some relief from the physical pains. (((HUGS)))

Hi CriticalMass 🙂
Really hoping you get to go meet up with Cory!!!
Keep trying different places to sit at the computer until you find one that doesn't cause you aches. (((HUGS)))

Hi Anonymoniker 🙂
Cats love to sit on items.
Even something as small as a gum wrapper will do.
Keep up the GREAT work of prettying up your home (((HUGS)))

Hi Subclinical 🙂
WAY TO GO!!! for helping your Mom. 😀
Keep being patient with her decisions (((HUGS)))

Hi Tatoulia 🙂
WONDERFUL! that your brother self corrected! (((HUGS)))
We can all live without bread, but in the Summer heat iced tea is a necessity. 😉

Not yet 10:30am here.
Already went out and watered the trees and lilac hedge early, early, early.
90 degrees already.
No plans for the rest of the day except perhaps an afternoon nap. 🙂

Everybody be careful out on the roads this long Holiday weekend.
Don't over do outside in the heat and remember to get plenty of fluids.
Most of all remember to have fun!!!
(((HUGS)))

 
Porter
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 12:27 PM
 

P.S.
I'm hunting for leather recliners on letgo.
I'd like to set up the living room as place filled with movie theater recliners in front of 60" tv only enough roon for four
recliners. I have two.

upstairs in the art room another 60" tv sits in view of a leather couch, drums and guitars. The art desks and the partial kitchenette.

I feel fortunate . My pride and joy is the dinning room table.
it's a glass top on top of mahogany stand and 7 mahogany chairs that match. So furniture wise only want two more recliners.

I don't want more than 7 people in the house. Bit gets to busy. So after the recliners I'll try to get a cheap gazebos
With sketter netting .

I still haven't heard from my wife.
i know she must be going through hell.
she hasn't talked to my daughter either.
I really wish my daughter is with me or near me when my passes. It just seems so strange to move on without them .

 
Anonymoniker
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 12:58 PM
 

~☆~Happy Holiday weekend to all!!!~☆~
Porter, i also kept up my log book when i lived on my boat. I was so organised then! I even had a map of where everything in all my cabnets, etc., was stored, and i actually kept it updated if i moved or added anything! It was the complete opposite of here....(sigh) 🙁
Joan, the conversation you mentioned with that child is like its straight out of the beautiful, classic children's story ~ The Velveteen Rabbit~ which i cant even think about without crying! This story can be very relevant to people with hoarding problems, cuz things do become 'real' once they are loved! ~♡~
Its funny, i read what i thought was a silly article with obvious suggestions on procrastination. It said stuff like, while youre waiting for something, do another task, etc...well, i laughed and balked at it & said, 'DUH!!!' ...but you know what? I noticed i was able to think that way better all day long! I actually did those simple & obvious things easier the rest of the day! ha ha
Im also talking myself through stuckness/panic glitches outloud, and giving myself the same encouragement i would if id been hired to help someone else like me...ha ha...yes, it does sound confusing... ~☆~

 
Porter
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 09:24 PM
 

I wish i could claim the success im having came from within. However it was advice from others that seem to get me on a stable path.

spend time purging the hoard months or years ahead of an unexpected move.
Dont burn out .
take a normalcy break once in a while.
If you could pick one thing in your life that you absolutly could not fail at. What will it be?
A little planned mess is ok but alot is unacceptable.
Dont allow yourself to become isolated.
Get helpers to Expidite or dispatch for you whenever possible.
know if your issue is just capacity or true hoarding.
If you can't accomplish your goal pay some one to accomplish the goal for you and move on.

resting before work.
best wishes!

 
Tatoulia
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 08:49 AM
 

Hello everyone! Iced tea clinks.

Well the one thing I've done this weekend is sleep. I did do mom's laundry and changed her sheets for her--she's such a dear. I'll take her to grocery store later today. Doing a bit of my own laundry. I did spend some quality time with BF yesterday, that was very nice. Taking pictures and walking around the city.

Anony I so appreciate your updates on being stuck--just clicked in for me that I too am stuck.

I will take your advice, be my own best friend, pick a place a get started. The worst thing that can happen is it will get better.

 
Tatoulia
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 10:18 AM
 

Anony--you are helping me so much today. I feel unstuck. I realize I'm going to be overheated whether I work on my pile of papers or not, so I put on the music and I'm shredding!

I didn't even know I was stuck. What can I do to help you?

 
Porter
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 12:58 PM
 

I dumpster dove for big grill.
if I had Xtra $ I will get a newer one .
but for now I'm fixing up a grill set out for trash.
thinking about rib steaks and corn on the cob with grilled potatoes. Also bought a roaster at goodwill. I have a three tray for making corn casserole, green bean casserole, and cheesy potatoes. If I keep a good supply of salad fixings from my fasting days I'll keep my supply fresh and offer variety. After all if I want folks to come and lose their money to me I better fill their bellies with good stuff but cheap

these days if I dumpster dive it better be worth it.
I haven't had a grill in 3years.
looking forward to it.

 
Tillie
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 01:54 PM
 

Good Morning Everyone 🙂
Still morning here, 11:37am.

Iced tea "clink" Tatoulia 🙂
WTG!!!! for just starting on those papers even if it will be hot anyways. 😀

Hi Porter 🙂
Wonderful find!
Wishing you many happy BBQs on your new old grill. ;D

Hi Anonymoniker 🙂
Procrastination...
I too found myself doing a lot of that.
Instead of just taking a few minutes to actually do something, I was jotting the task down on a post-it note so I wouldn't forget it.
Forced myself to leave the post-its in the drawer and just do whatever it was needing doing. LOL 😀
Keep up the GREAT job of continually giving yourself positive encouragement. (((HUGS)))

Shortly after posting here yesterday I was walking fast and paying no attention to my surroundings.
Stubbed my toes on an unmovable object.
Five whole minutes of profuse swearing and flipping around in extreme pain.
Spent the rest of the day with my foot elevated as often as I could.
Very sore and had an icky crepitus movement when moved.
This morning as I was working it out, there was a silent "CLICK!"
Evidently it was dislocated and I got it snapped back.
This greatly reduced the constant pain.
Only hurts now if I touch the bruises.
YEA!!! 😀
Taking it easy even though I can now walk again to give it time to heal.

 
Tatoulia
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 03:16 PM
 

Ouch! Ouch! I bet you ran out of cuss words, Tillie.

I shredded papers this AM and filed some away. Am doing my sheets now--miss kitty was in the bed this AM and it's so hot I didn't want to move her.

Air is much dryer today so I've got the windows open and ceiling fans on. I took mom for groceries/really took it out of her. Probably one of the last time she'll be able to go in herself.

I'm going to work on changing my sheets befor Kitty sacks out on the bed again.

Keep up the good work, everyone!

 
Anonymoniker
Posted: 03 July 2017 - 03:26 PM
 

Tillie, im so glad your hurt toe is better?! And i love what you said about post-it notes & lists! I have also thought about that! You are right! 😀
Tatoulia, thank you! Ive never heard of anyone doing this, but it does help me. If you think of what criteria you have for hiring help on something, then becoming that assistant & pretend youve been hired by someome like you, to help. I have 2 rules with supportive statements,the same ones i use with others, too. First, it has to be genuine/true. Second, it must be helpful.....hopefully, doing this wont cause a split personality disorder...but if it does, ill have a live-in assistant?!! ha ha 😀
Porter, i think its great youre letting loose & having fun! Dumpster diving cracks me up, but is also on my bucket-list?!! And i also really like your list for responsible behavior with hoarding, etc.! Its very helpful!

 
Porter
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 09:12 AM
 

The design layout didn't work below.
just ignore.

today I'm going to find from one of the players whose wife can make biscuits and gravy.
This has been a fun Weekend for me.

 
Tatoulia
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 10:50 AM
 

Good morning! I see the gang's all here!

Joan I hope you are doing okay. I know your health is precarious but your determination is strong and unending, sending you warm and healing thoughts.

SubC! Great that the dress will work for your mom--I can't remember if you've found a dress for you yet--how is that going?

Anony--I am working through my kitchen right now, puttering works best for me, CM I need to work on papers papers papers to get to where I need to be

Porter--you certainly have a lot of friends! Glad you are enjoying time with them

Dear Tillie--how goes it? It's hot hot hot here. My day with brother went very well. He started in on some stuff and then self-corrected and said, oh forget it, I feel great lets just have a great day. Then I came home, showered me and relaxed.

I'm doing mom's laundry now and will take to her very soon. I'm going to change my sheets while I wait for her quandary to cycle through. I always rinse the clothes twice to get the soap out.

I don't even have one scrap of bread in the house. But I'm drinking iced tea!

So, what are you doing today?

 
Tatoulia
Posted: 30 June 2017 - 07:37 AM
 

Love you, Tillie. Please don't mention (whispers) marionettes.

 
Tillie
Posted: 30 June 2017 - 10:04 AM
 

LOL ;D

 
CriticalMass
Posted: 30 June 2017 - 01:14 PM
 

Add me to the list of folks who think clowns are creepy. One time when I was refurbishing thrift store dolls I bought a Chucky and attempted to repaint its face to look less evil. It didn't work. I chucked Chucky. LOL.

I had one dollhouse for my Liddle Kiddles as a kid, and one for my Wishnik Trolls. I also made a Barbie-sized one out of cardboard boxes. It was cool using giftwrap for wallpaper, fabric for rugs, etc. When I was into Victoriana more, I thought about getting one of those wooden kits and making it a bunny themed dollhouse with rabbit dolls! But space was already getting tight, the dollhouses were pricey, and my real rabbits would've loved to chew on it so I didn't.

Can't recall if I mentioned this - The other day in the library used bookstore I saw a book called "Conquer the Clutter" which was a TV show that predated Hoarders. I had never heard of it, not being a big TV watcher. I decided against buying it because it had a few things I liked but not a lot I don't already know. It was the Pinteresty-type ideas for organized storage that I liked the most. Those will be more relevant to my life when I move to a place of my own.

One book I do have and like is "Cut the Clutter and Stow the Stuff" by a different author. It deals with some of the stages I'm currently in.

Hey guess what - on my Facebook feed I learned that Cory is coming to Wichita next Thursday to open a local Steri-Clean! I'm hoping to go to the event. I called and left a message about it with my clutter club social worker too, in case she wants to go or tell colleagues and group members about it.

It really does feel good to have the bunnies' boxes all nice and I'm also caught up on the laundry - I mean really caught up! Not even those towels that you can't fit in so you save them for another load, etc. About to have lunch then I guess I'll hit the gym. Really should do machines because I've been putting that off. I'll take my swim things in case I want to finish off with a dip in the pool.

Roommate's vacation has officially begun, which relieves me of midday dog walking duty. I'll have to figure out where to set up with my computer. The kitchen table is where she is - and since I'm not tall, I think I wasn't in a good position there anyway; my neck got to aching. Probably the back room some of the time, and my bedroom if I'm careful not to do for too long, because that's how I got that lower back ache before. Don't want another one.

Have a great holiday kickoff weekend!

 
CriticalMass
Posted: 30 June 2017 - 01:16 PM
 

Correction: The TV show was "Clean Sweep" and the book connected with it was "Conquer the Clutter."

 
Anonymoniker
Posted: 30 June 2017 - 04:05 PM
 

~☆♡☆~Hello, Happy-Home-Homies?!~☆♡☆~
A lot has been happening. Im trying to make missing that event to get my place better, worthwhile. I have pushed through a certain threshold, i think?! I now have the kitchen table clean & clear. I can see it & the nice clean cupboard both at once! It is very encouraging! Next im cleaning the corner for my painted shelf, then keeping my natural medicines on it! Most of the decisions are made for each step!
The other day my friend jokingly commented in an email about putting me on a hoarder tv show...well, i know that is what this site is connected to, so no offense, BUT I WENT INTO A PANIC MODE!!! I explained briefly to her that there is no way anyone would be entertained by my place. It is boring. Everything i said was in confidence, etc. She understood & was just trying to lighten my seriousness.
As far as dolls, im currently trying to make a cute display of my 2 Superwoman(Superwomen?) & an antique asian doll of my Grandmother's. I like to make arrangements with humor, and id had the 2 Superwomen fighting each other, but i want to update it with the asian doll & them all being a team...hmmm? Its funny how creepy dolls can be, and clowns, so yeah, clown dolls?! YIKES! ha ha
CM, my doll problem is with stuffed animals. Once one is in my house, i cant throw it away. I feel like im abandoning a real animal. It is pathetic & ive asked people to please not give me stuffed animals. I have 1 now that giggles & my cats are scared of it, so...i won it in a silly baby shower game...i should have not tried, ...now, a child would have to fall in love with it & want it, for me to feel ok about it leaving. Stupid me, it is ridiculous!
After yall talking about changing sheets, i did that & it is soooo nice! I often feel guilty that my cat sits on my mail & notebooks, etc., on my bed, but when i got my notebook out to make notes for this post, i put it on my huge, clean, fresh, empty of stuff bed, and my cat went right onto the notebook! HA HA I even took pictures & laughed!
Porter, your story idea with your daughter, changing as she grows, is one of the most brilliant, heartwarming things ive ever heard of a parent doing for a child!
SubC, i can not imagine having my Mom see me that way! WOW!
Tatoula, i hope your tummy feels better? I think Tillie might be right? You do so much for others!
Tillie, I love your 'vision' of clean windows! Im going to do that, too! YEA!
HI, JOAN!!!

 
Anonymoniker
Posted: 30 June 2017 - 04:05 PM
 

~☆♡☆~Hello, Happy-Home-Homies?!~☆♡☆~
A lot has been happening. Im trying to make missing that event to get my place better, worthwhile. I have pushed through a certain threshold, i think?! I now have the kitchen table clean & clear. I can see it & the nice clean cupboard both at once! It is very encouraging! Next im cleaning the corner for my painted shelf, then keeping my natural medicines on it! Most of the decisions are made for each step!
The other day my friend jokingly commented in an email about putting me on a hoarder tv show...well, i know that is what this site is connected to, so no offense, BUT I WENT INTO A PANIC MODE!!! I explained briefly to her that there is no way anyone would be entertained by my place. It is boring. Everything i said was in confidence, etc. She understood & was just trying to lighten my seriousness.
As far as dolls, im currently trying to make a cute display of my 2 Superwoman(Superwomen?) & an antique asian doll of my Grandmother's. I like to make arrangements with humor, and id had the 2 Superwomen fighting each other, but i want to update it with the asian doll & them all being a team...hmmm? Its funny how creepy dolls can be, and clowns, so yeah, clown dolls?! YIKES! ha ha
CM, my doll problem is with stuffed animals. Once one is in my house, i cant throw it away. I feel like im abandoning a real animal. It is pathetic & ive asked people to please not give me stuffed animals. I have 1 now that giggles & my cats are scared of it, so...i won it in a silly baby shower game...i should have not tried, ...now, a child would have to fall in love with it & want it, for me to feel ok about it leaving. Stupid me, it is ridiculous!
After yall talking about changing sheets, i did that & it is soooo nice! I often feel guilty that my cat sits on my mail & notebooks, etc., on my bed, but when i got my notebook out to make notes for this post, i put it on my huge, clean, fresh, empty of stuff bed, and my cat went right onto the notebook! HA HA I even took pictures & laughed!
Porter, your story idea with your daughter, changing as she grows, is one of the most brilliant, heartwarming things ive ever heard of a parent doing for a child!
SubC, i can not imagine having my Mom see me that way! WOW!
Tatoula, i hope your tummy feels better? I think Tillie might be right? You do so much for others!
Tillie, I love your 'vision' of clean windows! Im going to do that, too! YEA!
HI, JOAN!!!

 
Joan
Posted: 01 July 2017 - 02:17 AM
 

Anony, I was just about to post about stuffed animals, but you beat me to the punch❗️❗️❗️❗️

I take stuffed animals VERY seriously. To me they are my family, and they have literally saved my life. They are alive, who says otherwise⁉️ Once a child told me "They aren't real," and I replied, "How fo you know?" or "Of course they are‼️" That was a long time ago now. When I was leaving from my visit, she was dancing in the kitchen with one of my stuffed animals, and put up quite a fuss that he was coming home with me.

On other fronts, my neck, etc. has been hurting pretty bad, so I have been avoiding hanging it over my iPad. It has been scary sometimes. We are working with old trauma in that area that causes the biting, and expecting it will clear.

Hi Tillie! Regards from a "silent partner". Hi Tat! Hi Porter! CM, would enjoy hearing if you get to go see Corey. Everyone take care of yourselves.

 
Subclinical
Posted: 01 July 2017 - 07:21 AM
 

Hi everybody! Thought I had a quick update yesterday, but it didn't appear?

Cm, good for you for doing the boring stuff!

I do have a bunny.

Tillie, I still believe I will fix the dollhouse, but there is so much on myself list that it is not a high priority. Later, not sooner.

My cousin hates scarey clowns - by which she means all clowns. We teased her about saving the few clown dolls/figurines in my grandmother's collection just for her.

Hi Tatoulia. I will avoid your wispery subject. 🙂

Anony, that is great about your kitchen.

I have the best mom ever!

Hi Joan! I hope your neck feels better!

The dress I brought momi S going to work great for the wedding. She was pleased. I recycled the 5 magazines brought, but the helping her clean out is not going as well as I hoped.

Yesterday we filled one trash can with papers, found a stuffed bear to get rid of, and brought one bin down from the attic. I really want to help her empty the attic. She has to stop using that ladder.

I am also taking home a little rocking chair, a box of letters and pictures, a box of magnets (to hang cookie cutters in the studio), a Tupperware sandwich box, and a puppet to donate to a group I work with.

I recycled the 5 magazines I brought.

 
Porter
Posted: 01 July 2017 - 10:21 AM
 

Ok so basically I'm making a log book for the house.
like a captains log.

my decades ive been navigating todo lists to get to a point of 100% organized . Only 6 times in my life.
and this has been the longest if I exclude the moving days.

I'm making this week one.

basically log entries on what I did this week in the house starting and stopping on trash days.

So im writing the rough draft here.

After the trash truck I wheeled the bin to my car and emptied the car completely of trash and bagged up all belongings in another see through bag.

then I gathered and organized all things in the yard , and porches. I cut the grass.

friday after work i called my daughter at 12 noon .
we talk everyday at 12 noon. No later than 2pm

we talk about expectations , food , errands and friends she wants to have stop overs . Then we talk about " how was your day?"

she had no plans for a stay over with friends,, and plans to stay with her cousins. This weekend.

I then called 9 buddies invited to poker.
$20 games
4 showed up by 11pm a 2 more 1230 I was suprised I had seven players on my first poker party.

we played until 4 am . There was alot drinking.
and one guy brought his wife and they were a nasty couple.
I was appalled , but tried to still be a good host.

My house made $210 and put into the basement where I hide the most valuable things. A lock box from my childhood
has a 4 combination with a key.
I no longer have neighbors so im no longer at issue with disturbing the peace. I mean a noise ordnance next to a rail junction??? .
so it's was fun to have a rough bunch of guys over.
my best friend at work is a retired marine. We often play wrestlers in take down matches. He could kill me in 3 seconds but I'm trying my best to convince him he's not a marine anymore. He a war hero. If there is a such a thing as war hero then he fits that. I donr repeat his stories.
my mental health training and cbt help to get him to open up. I don't judge but he talks a little and I thinks that better than keeping a Carrers worth inside. .

he was recently diagnosed with pancreatic us .
acute. So im showing him we can still do everything we like to have fun with but consuming alcohol doesn't need to be the thing to b e doing in order to have fun.

he's still here . Everyone else has left.
I'm cleaning the entire house.

Starting with the front porch moving clockwise then the living room clockwise dinning room , kitchen, bathroom, dressing room.
then the upstairs.
My wife and daughters room have pad locks on then when they are gone.

only one guy got upset and to be put in a cab.
In past if a guy had to asked to leave. I the host woyld pay for his ride home and I keep his car key. Not his other keys.
it cost me $30. I'll give another chance to play poker if he doesn't drink the whole night.
My friend is basically my security officer.
And when we've wrestled infront of people their shock at us both. I had an uncle that was a martial arts instructor.
and I learned alot from him in the take down techniques.
He's the only one I allow to carry a pistol in the house. As long as he doesn't drink.

I gave my daughter a new subject for our next issue.
the girl in the story has unusual freckles on her face.
and so i came up with a symbol that is one of the freckles

A heart shape. But its tet shaped with a zero inside.
and two other zeros on top of the tet. Making it very close to a heart shape. The issues. Moving away from the crows .
is a race not unlike an international race like on the indianapolis race grounds . Where it is legal for civilians to fly the crafts in a race. The younger brother is introduced into the 4th issue in the race. At the end of the race the family is approached by the underground. Leading c to the 5th issue where a video of the girl is launched. And goes viral. Her birthmark of the freckled heart becomes a symbol to some. I outlined 182 frames in the storyboard to make the issue.

I may not hear back on issue 5 for a long time.
I'm ring not to make it about armed resistance but about the freedom the older brother inspired in his sister. Flying like the birds in flock of people. As she takes up his message she is less like a katniss character. And more of a flying teenage girl just being beautiful as she can be.

I'm trying to my daughter go from there or its won't be her story too.

Its 11 11 am
I have the common areas clean and made my friend an omelet. Eggs , cheese, bacon, onion tomato and red pepper. With toast and jelly. With an orange water sweetened with stevia. I'll wash up the kitchen and go find some poker players from my past about 22 years ago.

but before I leave I will have everthing done. Including sheets and towels
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Sorry for not editing this rough draft

 
porter
Posted: 01 July 2017 - 10:46 AM
 

P.S.
I like those wall mounted miniature
hmm
shadow box minatures.

Especially the ones that are shaped like a house

What I found creepy were the talking and laughing clown heads that you pull the string. My grandpa gave a cousin one that had his voice on it saying her name calling to her. 35 years later she heard him calling to her from closet that couldn't be opened due to hoarding.
that still is CREE PEE cause battery is so low he sounds so ghostly.
Hairs on the back of my neck creepy!

 
Porter
Posted: 01 July 2017 - 04:07 PM
 

It's 5pm

I drove the car over to my friend that lost money and was drunk and started yelling. We talked and he was apologetic
And was still sore about losing $80 more like 60. I gave him $40 back . I told him he's only welcome if he doesn't drink anything harder than beer. He wasn't thrilled but he stopped being mad. I had him take me to the sail club.
I didn't see anyone I recognize as poker players but some knew my wife and we talked about her for awhile.
bryan my marine friend

I went to the one of gyms I used to train at.
I did see an old friend and exchanged contacts.
he said he might come.

I talked to a cousin of mine. He's coming with his friend.
so tonite will definately have 5 players. I often use my cousin as unknown plater for security in the past. He is the son of the uncle that is a martial arts master.
When i felt like we had a cheater in the mix. I would invite him and others to play . Basically not stacking the deck. But increasing the odds that me, my brother, my cousin, and another trusted friend would watch carefully. He won again then I wouldn't invite the suspected cheater again.

so I felt good to call on him and he sounded eager to be apart of something like this again.
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And I've put out a mass email to others .

if I make $100 I'll be off to a good start.
Next week I'll call on alumni and class mates.
I keep some of my close friends away. If they are substance abusers or recovering then I donr need their money. And I need to put time with them in other venues.
I can't get bryan to stop talking.

Unknown to him I invited his parents over at 8 pm
they agreed to come over. It'll be a gas. I hope.
Steak and cheesy potatoes with salad.

I did go in my wife's room and secure the opiods. No need for that to somehow become an issue. So it's locked up too.
. Wish me luck

 
Porter
Posted: 02 July 2017 - 09:03 AM
 

Bryans parents showed and we all had good laugh
we played euchre til 1030 when other guys started showing up. It was nice. They have given me some very nice furniture in the past. It was nice to have them over if everyone was like them the world would be a better place.

at 11 we had six players.

so I let them start a game with five.

I cleaned up the kitchen and prepped for pizzas.
My point is I didn't just lunge towards the excitement.
I know I have a cleaning problem mentally. Like mood disorder that i don't clean like a normal person does.

so if I stay on top it my reward is all this social attention.

At 1230 3 more guys showed up .
so bryan and I sat out.
each hand the house gets $2 for five player games and $3 for 7 player games. Right now I just let them play the way want. Because im just collecting contact information about them and whom their friends are. No one brought dates it was all guys.
It was very mild last night out side 67 degrees .
as players quit we all went outside around a campfire I pieced together to burn my wood scraps. I had weiner and marshmallows for daughter but we ate them. No one got drunk only one guy drank whisky . He lost $45 overall.

i try to track big wins and big loses.
both bryan and the whisky drinker are crashed in the living room. The house smells like a beer Hall they drank three 24 packs. And the bathroom smells like they thought the toilet was a suggestion.

Over all the food and cleansers .
I have $224 dollars to put in the lock box.
I can't live with the bathroom such a mess .
so im off to the hardware store to buy water proof paneling
and some things so add to a homemade fire pit. Plus I'll buy a very long shower extention hose so if completely cover the floors and walls with water proofing I can hose out and the duck it up with a wet vac. Towel dry and be done in five minutes no matter what they do to it. I have have only one bath.

Later I will call on my high school and technical school friends from face book. I have three Facebook . I keep nieghbors separate from co workers. And family and friends separate from them. I dont like everyone knowing everything all the time.

bryan went in basement and saw my work on the affordable housing project. He said in Afghanistan the women would pack artillery shells with mud and leave in the sun . Its what they use for making bricks out earth. So he gets what im aiming at for clay wall building . Its cheap and I'm trying to make it less labor intensive. It felt good to have someone actually see one of my model homes. And his reaction was encouragement. He said it would definately be bullet proof.
lol I didn't even think of that.
Of eight model homes he liked the one with a 4 foot high wall on the inside and 3 foot more of glass block . Then wood above with wood roof. It the model that starts with using a storage container as the initial dwelling. When walls built all the way around it. I estimated if it could be started on March 1st it could be completed by November 1st.

The storage container is fitted as the bath on one end and the kitchen on the other. With major wall and roof bearing support in the middle. So 1 bath, 1 kitchen, and four rooms surrounding. With 8 foot porches overhang surrounding .

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Tatoulia
Posted: 29 June 2017 - 09:08 PM
 

One clean kitchen counter, iced tea made, clean kitty feeding area, a little sweeping, about to change litter box, running dishwasher.

So I've gotten a little done tonight. Garbage ready to go out tomorrow. I'm still aggravated about everything but better.

 
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