| Tatoulia | Posted: 27 September 2019 - 06:50 AM |
Good morning and coffee clinks!!! Starting Phase 12! Happy Autumn! There's a proverb that says, Life starts anew when it gets crisp in the fall. Let's do this!!!! | |
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| Tatoulia | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 01:55 PM |
Tillie, I am guessing you have gone to town today! I was feeling really stressed today. About owning too much stuff and the mess in here and the cleaning ladies coming and so I texted them to say my house is dirty and I'm upset and they said it will smell nice soon. When they got here I used google translate to tell them I'm upset and embarrassed and they have been so loving. I'm a bit stressed about a few things. This will help quiet the stress, I am sure. My coffee table is completely cleared off for the first time in a few weeks. My dining table is all Christmas wrappings and packages. I will finalize those things tonight. I feel better right now. They are working really hard. I wrote them their check but I lost it. I am very confused these days. Discombobulated. Mom called today wondering where her tool box is and where did I put her sheet music. I got more stressed with that call. But I resolved it, finally, by saying mom we can reach everything easily now. I don't wAnt you pulling stuff out and getting hurt. I know where I put everything and I can access in a minute's time. The poor thing. She did say she opened the closet and was so pleased. I didn't let on that she confessed to sister how relieved she feels. So in the future I need to remember that all I need to say is, I can reach it for you anytime. These women here are amazing. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 09:16 AM |
SubC I'm sorry you had to ask the boy to leave. Even though it was the right thing to do, that must've been tough. Good work! Getting the swim in and doing all those other things! Wow! I need to channel your energy and determination today! My house is completely torn apart right now and my cleaning friends are coming today. I will try to find an hour to do something about it. That's all I need if I just focus. Focus on tidying up and not the laundry, dishes, etc. just putting the closet back together and that sort of thing. Okay I'm off to do what I can!! | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 04:39 AM |
Quick check in. School takes so much time and energy! Also, yesterday I had to ask a boy to leave my class. Which was sad. He just isn't doing the work. I took the glue to school. Swam, dropped recycling, picked up my check from the show, stopped to get emergency bunny food. I have to go to the feed store before school tomorrow. Wednesday are very full - 5 classes. But I am going to try to stop at the bank (with my sale check), book store for the baby gifts, and small grocer for some particular items we buy there (nuts are cheaper, and they have particular cookies and juice and bread. Possibly treat myself to a goat milk cheddar.) I have papers to grade tonight. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 03 December 2019 - 08:44 PM |
Thank you Tillie for the reminder on the boots. That was a vague recollection for me!! Cleaners come tmr. I haven't done a thing about all I pulled out of my closet. Tmr is another day. My lasagne made for a tasty lunch today. I walked down to Back Bay Station today and took the commuter rail (free) one stop to South Station. Then I did the reverse tonight, but with a friend and we walked around the mall for a bit. I bought nothing although I did go to the pharmacy to get my meds. My sister spoke with mom today and she reported being so pleased with the space I made for her. Now to go back and deal with the clutter around the perimeter of her room. That one foot layer of garbage. One foot deep not high Tillie the trip into town sounds like fun! I would love to look around the thrift shop with you. Nice to build kitty a fort! Lately at night I cover the cat with a blanket. She's always sleeping in her bed on the chair next to my desk, and I like to cover her with our shared blanket. In the AM she's always on top of it but that's nice too. Okay time for bed. Hope SubC and Cm are doing well! Badger badger CM. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 03 December 2019 - 03:35 PM |
Good foggy Afternoon Well, managed to force myself to remain in my nightgown & robe until 12 noon. Made Scooter a cardboard box "fort". | |
| Tillie | Posted: 03 December 2019 - 10:50 AM |
Good Morning Everybody Yes Tatoulia, you did see the mess at Mom's house and it was driving you crazy because she refused all offers to clean. I vaguely remember that a pair of your boots last year had a hole and your feet kept getting wet so you tossed them. Keep decorating, bribe her with muffins if necessary. Hi Subclinical Fog. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 03 December 2019 - 07:18 AM |
SubC! I too need more of a routine to avoid negative feelings. Sending you support from afar! Thank you everyone. I'm still feeling terrible but I need mom's place to be less noisy. She didn't look in closet so she doesn't know how it looks. It looks great!!! I cannot organize her linen closet the way I want to until after Christmas. The stores don't have pretty baskets/bins like the ones I used for my linen closet. Right now they are all Christmas-themed. I'm proud that mom trusted me yesterday but ashamed of myself for the giant decisions I made. BF also mentioned that I am used to her mess so I don't see it. I do actually see it but he was being supportive so I wasn't going to argue! I need this support from everyone. I got the lightbulb for her ceramic tree. I'll take it by tomorrow. I didn't look for my short boots last night. I think I let them go at the end of last year. We have snow but no Snow Day. That's okay, I'll find a way into the office. I can wear my tall boots. I will see if they will fit either over or under my corduroys | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 03 December 2019 - 05:54 AM |
Good morning! Go CM Go! You can do it. Back in your room for Christmas! Tatoulia, I hope you have a snow day. I have told my kids that when I reach the point that I am no longer independent and they are sure they can get away with it, they should lie to me to make me happy. Today I go back to school. Yesterday I didn't want to, but I think I am ready. Dh says it is not good for me to stay home alone all day - I fall down the rabbit hole. To be fair, yesterday was very dark. I still managed to almost catch up on the dishes and wash all the sheets. Plus, I have one assignment to prepare for today and then I am ready. (It is simple and today is a late start for me) I am going to drop the recycling and swim today. Maybe more... maybe not. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 02 December 2019 - 10:34 PM |
Good Evening Everybody YEA! Tatoulia's Mom!!! I know you did not remove anything precious or important. Just all the rubble. Hope is that her having these clean & tidy areas will encourage her to ask for more. 😉 I'm very achy all over. I'm exhausted too. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 02 December 2019 - 10:06 PM |
Heading to bed. I haven't fixed my closet and I haven't found my snow boots. I remember st the end of last season that one of my pair of snow boots was leaking. I don't remember which pair and I don't know where my short snow boots are. I've only looked a little bit. I got tense during our snowy windy trip to run errands. I'm so hoping for a snow day tomorrow. Goodnight, dear friends. I'm sorry I didn't take the time to address you tonight. I'm feeling stressed and guilty for lying to mom and getting rid of so much stuff. BF was nice tonight and said, she's got to be able to move around her apartment. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 02 December 2019 - 06:05 PM |
Yay Tillie for cleaning the kitchen cabinet! I've showered and made a lasagna. It's cooling now/resting. BF and I need to run errands tonight/not too many. It has strengthened our relationship and I'm grateful for that. Shopping with his was fun last night. I didn't want a thing so it went well. He was buying gifts for his sisters. And it was great fun. Well my own dining room closet is a terrible mess. I had to pull things out today to get at the Christmas trees I took to mom's. But for now, I will rest. Then I'll eat. Then I'll dry my hair. I so want a snow day tmr. I just want to work from home/ease back into my routine quietly. Oh I put my delicates in the washer. I'll hang on the rack as soon as they are done. Good productive day. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 02 December 2019 - 04:22 PM |
Badger Badger Badger!! Hello everyone. This AM and most of the day it's been only rain here. I told mom we could do Enchanted Village or clean. She chose clean!!! I played it cool like ok sounds good. I brought my speaker with me and we streamed traditional Christmas music. She sat in her chair and I did all the work. I started by taking everything off the pizza o, including the runner she's had on it for a decade. I asked her if we could donate it and she said yes! The rest of the day went equally smoothly. I brought over two white Christmas trees we'd gotten in Charleston together and put them up on the piano together with a Christmas runner I found while cleaning and clearing. I thought if I started with making the piano pretty, I might get somewhere. And I did. Two huge contractor bags of trash and eight shopping bags of donations. We did it! Early on it became apparent that she wasn't going to agree to get rid of any magazines so I gave her a few to read and worked on other stuff. I cleaned and cleared her one closet and now it's half empty. Yes there's 1/2 closet of space. And this is after I put her personal products (so bulky) in the closet. No more big boxes of diapers and pads sitting around. I did some lying. We struggled on nothing. I took a beautiful down coat that she probably wore three times. I gave it to a woman upstairs in her building and she was very grateful. She kept praising me and saying that Jehovah will bless me and I felt blessed. I don't care the religion, I believe and I love people who believe. Okay I did it. We need a second day to deal with the piles of trash and garbage around the perimeter of her room. I also found three very nice silver trays that I will polish and see if they are any good. I easily convinced her to let me throw out the rusted one that had been re-silvered and was in terrible condition. I didn't bring the good ones home because I had so much to deal with to get the bags to my car. Bf walked over but ended up going back to get his car. I'll donate next not terrible driving day. It is now raining and sleeting here. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 02 December 2019 - 04:03 PM |
Good Afternoon Everyone Hi Subclinical Hope you are finding some time to decorate and nest. Hi CriticalMass WTG! and GOOD LUCK with that bedroom project! You CAN do it!!! YEA! for making pockets! Hope you can keep the doldrums away and that you get sunshine. This morning decided I just had to clean the kitchen cabinets. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 02 December 2019 - 02:34 PM |
Back at this posting thing. I just needed to take a few days to regroup. You see, I was starting to post more about the latter part of the week; that was the post that got eaten. Let me see if there's really anything important to sum up in a quick paragraph or two. Thursday we had our turkey and dressing etc. A simple meal. The gloomy weather did take a toll later on my mood. My roommate wanted to have breakfast at McDonald's on Friday, a thing that we generally do as a Saturday ritual. I was "meh" about it but went. She had errands I didn't want to go along on because they would be near Black Friday shopping congestion, so I took my van and came back home, stopping only at the bank to make a deposit, the Dollar Tree for pizza crusts, and the healthfood store for non-GMO cornmeal. It was as quiet as a church in Dollar Tree! But I got down in the doldrums later in the day. I think just the dark rainy days (Thursday and Friday) got to me. Losing the computer post was the last straw. But Saturday dawned sunny. Roommate went to her family out of town so I could be bachelorette and pretend I was in my own house, LOL. Accomplished some things, too. Got out the sewing machine and put pockets in the one out of the three pairs of jeans from the Goodwill recently. I hadn't noticed when I bought them that the front pockets were not just small, they were FAKE! Sewn together to fool the eye. So I just seam-rippered the fake pocket open and put fabric pieces in to construct two nice generous working pockets. Silly "pink tax" - women's clothing and other items costing more and being less practical than men's. Well, I showed them! Then yesterday I did a Badger Thing - my cousin's little ones presents that should've gotten to them at the end of July and have been sitting - I got those in their gift bags finally. Now I just contact her and fix a time for delivery. I guess the kiddos will enjoy pre-Christmas gifts to open! Another case of "my life is so complicated and things get pushed back and it's embarrassing to explain so I won't even try, but I still want to do the things..." Badger me to get the items delivered, okay? Today I dove into the deep end of my bedroom. And I do mean deep. Made it to the clothes wardrobe! This is going to be a multi-stage project, so I'll probably be sleeping out in the living room a few more days. And then dealing with the groups of things that got neglected. Hoping this will mean plenty to discard or reduce volume of. But I have begun. That's the important thing. Trying to judge just how much I can do before I end up spinning my wheels and heading down the slope to burnout. Yet also see just enough progress to make it feel like I'm NOT spinning my wheels, like it is moving toward the goal. One nice thing about sleeping in the living room is that boy kitty remembers to visit me frequently in the night, and he has been very lovey. He will be surprised when I do return to the bedroom and it's easier to get to my bed! Eyes on the prize, CM, eyes on the prize... | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 02 December 2019 - 06:27 AM |
Tillie, I would love a visit from scooter. There are a couple of spaces where mice tend to turn up when they get into the house - I keep mousetraps there and haven't caught one in a while. The special bonus stashes have been found in rooms we don't use very often and actually had closed off for a time - which may have been when the problem occurred, since mr. kitty couldn't get in. But I may set some traps in these rooms the next few weeks just in case. Tatoulia, I hope your mom is still in the mood to clean today. I need to get back into the swing today - lesson plans and prep to do - three quick weeks to break! Lots of dishes to catch up on too, and not quite up on the laundry. All I really want to do is nest and decorate. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 08:53 PM |
Hi 🙂 Thank you Subclinical I think some more mouse traps are in order. Thanks Tatoulia Hope you found something real to eat. As long as your Mom is happy and involved I'm not too concerned about the cleaning right now. Are you enjoying shopping with BF? WAY TO GO! Both of you for doing all that laundry!!! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 08:32 PM |
Just stay silent on this one. It will sort itself out, SubC. I guess I'm lucky to have no real family. I did invite sister to Thanksgiving but she didn't come. I like just the three of us here. BF is my anchor. So the mice are carrying cat food around!?! Oh boy. Good thing doggie came to help you out! Good little detective! Mom and I were just on the phone and she asked me if I could come over tomorrow and help her clean up her place. Yes! But I played it cool and said, that sounds great. So we shall see what tmr brings. I'm still a lazy bones here. But that's okay. I've started to hope for a snow day on Tuesday. I'll still have to work, but I can do it with my little buddy. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 08:15 PM |
Tillie, I too am hugely excited about your ceiling! So wonderful to imagine you sheltered by beauty! I have been longing for you to put those tiles up for so long. I have been doing more laundry because when my granddog was here she sniffed out another stash of cat food in a drawer. I have had to wash a featherbed and some sheets. Plus the sheets from the visiting kids. I will also need to wash granddog's bed cover. Perhaps I need more mouse traps. There was a mysterious phone call from dh father tonight that seemed to reference the travel plans, but dh did not choose to discuss it with me. I did hear him say "after you decided to come here, that changed." (Did I mention that they invited themselves?) it would be lovely if his mother discovered that she cannot always have everything her own way and that she should perhaps discuss things with other people. but I am not holding my breath. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 07:04 PM |
Oooh Tillie I am so excited about your ceiling tiles!!!! I'm happy and excited! I'm glad you've decided to stay put, SubC. It is so tiring to travel! And you invited BIL so you are in good stead with everyone. I slept and watched tv all day. BF wanted to finish his Christmas shopping do we went back to Lord & Taylor tonight. It is snowing and very pretty. I haven't eaten properly all day. And of course now I'm "too tired" to make anything. Mom and I will do something tmr. We will be fine. I wish she'd let me do some cleanup but probably not. Despite the end of the long weekend, absolutely no one is doing laundry. I know I do a lot. I'm a small batch girl. I like colors and fabrics to work together. I can't do white sheets with white towels due up fabric differences. So when everyone else mixes clothes and towels and under things, I can't. That's three loads for me. So I'm washing up some darks. I bought corduroys this year and they are fantastic. What a difference to have actual pants. So I'll go figure out what to eat. Then I'll start wrapping my overseas gifts. They may require two separate boxes. And that's fine. Yes I'm headed for lean times if I pay auto insurance in full thank you SubC for the encouragement. I need to do this. I need to show discipline. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 05:18 PM |
Good Afternoon Everyone Hi Subclinical Hi Tatoulia Got the 25 whole/uncut ceiling tiles glued up. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 03:38 PM |
Tatoulia, I am very proud of you for laying your whole bill! Little things like that build on each other. Sorry about the village though. We did not do any work on getting the barn ready for my in-laws. My bil called today and said he heard that we might not be coming east this year. I confirmed that we are not, since his parents will be here for several days right before Christmas and he replied "well, that completely changes our Christmas plans." He did not elaborate, and I decided that his plans were not my issue and did not ask. I did invite him to come see us, and he declined. We got our Christmas tree this morning with the girls. I have half the lights on. I have one strand of lights ready to leave because I have used up all the bulbs as replacement bulbs. I bought an adorable garland with 16 little stockings on it at the tree farm, so is that about even? I have also found one ornament I think I am ready to give away. Poor mousie and scooter. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 12:42 PM |
Good morning! It's afternoon here, actually. I didn't go to friend's house today. I'm disappointed but I can feel the storm in the air. Still wrapping gifts. All the tea towels and Swedish sponges are wrapped. I have to start on the jams next. Kitty has been "helping." My only challenge for December is the no spend. Are your bills paid? Why no, they are not. I'm going to be making my short-term life extra difficult by paying complete auto insurance in order to get the discount. I paid part of homeowners and I'll pay part of umbrella policy. I will tip my cleaners and I will tip one of the aides and one of the maintenance people at mom's. I have to decide on the amounts. Her new maintenance person is nothing like the old one so I'm thinking less. But he is nice and kind to her. Oooh Tillie a nice quiet snow! I'm excited about your ceiling tiles! Just take your time and don't overdo. I think we will be snowed out of the Enchanted Village tmr. So I'll make us a lasagna and we'll decorate our gingerbread house or we'll write out mom's Christmas cards. Today I'd like to decorate my bedroom for Christmas. I'm trying to decide what to use and what would look pretty. I'll post pictures. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 01 December 2019 - 09:06 AM |
December 1st 2019 Must have silently snowed over night since there is so much snow out there this morning. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 30 November 2019 - 10:53 PM |
Should have been/wasn't. I usually keep the sharpie in the junk kitchen drawer. But I've cleaned out most of it and not in there. Got mom's groceries done, cleaned the litter box and played with the cat. Meanwhile my little kitty lost another tooth today. Poor kitty. She's 15 and starting to look it. If you google the Enchanted Village Boston you'll learn a bit about it. I like the old shops and the homes. The moving figures mean less to me. It's wonderful. But I think the snow will win. I can't take anymore time off this year. Too many people on vacation and I offered to hold down the fort for our unit. I like to take mom to the Enchanted Village early and on a Monday to avoid crowds. Well God willing we will go next year. Mousse is pretty active and a dedicated swimmer. Goodnight. So tired. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 30 November 2019 - 07:37 PM |
Good Evening Hi Subclinical Hi Tatoulia The sun never got through today. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 30 November 2019 - 06:55 PM |
The pie would definitely be tasty, SubC! Thanks for the offer! Tillie isn't it amazing how we notice something previously unnoticed once it is gone? I don't notice a change in how I feel with my depression lamp except when I realize I don't feel the seasonal depression, mainly just the regular stuff. I went to grad school with a guy and I exclaimed, you grew a mustache! And he said, no I shaved my beard! So there you have my life, in a nutshell. Cm I'm sorry you lost your post! I am still wrapping my meager gifts but I'm almost there. I did get the two gifts to the post office and mailed. Not til today because yesterday I couldn't find my sharpie. I grabbed one from BF's house. I put some gas in my car. I'm supposed to go to a friend's house for our annual gingerbread house decorating. In the Olsen day's, we would bake our houses and decorate. Now we buy them pre-assembled and her kids join in the fun. My car has all we need for our fun day. We are expecting a storm so depending on how it looks to be materializing, we may need to reschedule our plans. I'm taking Monday off too in order for mom and I to do our annual Christmas visit to the Enchanted Village. We may not be able to go so I have a backup plan in place. I washed mom's summer bedspread today abs it's ready to be put away til then. I did see them once already today but I still need to do her grocery shopping. I'm exhausted but for no good reason. I'm amazed thsr by taking Monday off, I'm getting five full days off of work. Pretty snazzy! | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 30 November 2019 - 05:12 PM |
Tillie, usually I would try to combine all the glue bottles and then wash the bottles out and recycle them. But I am trying to remember that my time is also a resource and I need to focus it where it is most important. Since I can take the bottles to school and let the kids use up the glue (delaying the purchase of more glue bottles and saving a small amount of supply money) I will do that. I'm looking forward to hearing your ceiling is done! My extra challenge for December is to make the studio barn decent for my inlaws before they come to visit. And to survive the visit. Hopefully I will also finish cleaning up the floor in the back hall. CM, I am sure you will get the computer thing figured out. We are going to sit down to dinner in a minute. Wish you could all share the pie! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 30 November 2019 - 10:33 AM |
Good Morning Everybody Last day of the month. Subclinical has her family gatherings and celebrations. My main goal is to try to stay happy and positive. Also maybe tear down the damaged parts of the ceiling in my room and fix it so I can put up my ceiling tiles. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 29 November 2019 - 10:35 PM |
Good Evening Everybody Hi CriticalMass Hi Subclinical Can you consolidate by putting glue from one half empty bottle into another half empty bottle? Ten percent is a GREAT amount to recycle, donate, relocate or toss!!! Dishes are all washed, kitchen wiped up. Snow all melted except in the sheltered edges. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 29 November 2019 - 06:34 PM |
I am having some issues with the new computer, and a post got eaten. It made me sad so I will wait to try again. But just wanted to say Hi anyway. The computer issues will get worked out - I found help for the one, and I know it's just growing pains. It's been overcast and rainy/drizzly here. Tomorrow the sun will be out and that will help me a lot. I loathe Black Friday. That is all. TTYL | |