| Tatoulia | Posted: 27 September 2019 - 06:50 AM |
Good morning and coffee clinks!!! Starting Phase 12! Happy Autumn! There's a proverb that says, Life starts anew when it gets crisp in the fall. Let's do this!!!! | |
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| Tatoulia | Posted: 10 December 2019 - 06:40 PM |
Tillie I felt that you've been struggling. I'm so sorry. I wish I could help in some way. Just remember that Nate and Mrs Nate have put a piece of masking tape on you!! I have my overseas friend's box almost ready. I have to pick up a package at her attorney's office on Friday. In the meantime, it is my goal to mail something small I've decided to give to my sister's BF and something for another friend. I was looking in my desk drawer and found this little brass tool set-miniature-that i has bought at an antiques shop. My father used to have them on his dresser when I was a kid. I think her BD would enjoy this little set. They are tiny and the scissors cut paper and the wrench opens, etc. I think her BF would like them. I wasnt planning to give them away. So I will go to P.O. tmr. I think I mentioned the contractor st my BF's house was very nice and he only needs 10 minutes tomorrow and the next day so I don't have to work from there. Neighbor can let him in. Very nice person. I ran to catch the garbage man today and he was very nice and waited for me. I had gathered it up last night knowing that I had to leave early to get to my BF's house. I was so grateful to get it out! I have figured out the tips for mom's people. She has named 4 (not the maintenance guy). She wants one of the sides, the two people who change her sheets and the lady who does her laundry. So I'll do $20 each and see that mom writes the card so it's from mom and not me. I budgeted $100 but I'm doing $20 not $25 in case mom thinks of one more person. So I've got a cushion. I came home, showered and then jammitized myself. It is 60F and rainy. My snow boots arrived right after I left BF's office do I'll see them tmr. Hopefully I will want to keep one of the pair. Then I'll quickly return the other. That's the news for now!! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 10 December 2019 - 04:40 PM |
Good Afternoon Everyone Hello Subclinical Hi Tatoulia Sorry about my absence. Yesterday I was finally able to hang out laundry on the line. Twinkles has an abscess on his neck. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 10 December 2019 - 01:39 PM |
Tillie are you okay? I'm good with it if you need a break so I'm just making sure you aren't sick or hurt. You know I love you madly so I'm just checking in. Of course, maybe you're busy or your internet is out! I'm working from home today/BF's home. It's surprisingly easier to work here and concentrate than it is at my house. There's a lot I'd like to organize here but I'm keeping it together and not doing it. I think tmr I can be home since the contractor only needs about 10 minutes each of the next few days. That means I can do my laundry and change my sheets and go to post office, etc. How is everyone today? | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 09 December 2019 - 09:27 PM |
WTG SubC. All that laundry and having the guest beds made up!! You did GREAT today!!!! Decorating and cleaning up and barn chores and so much more!!! Thank you written!!! I'm so proud of you! Great work! I was in office today and thus had no chance to check in and cheer you on! I'll leave the bunny advice to CM and Tillie! I have all I can handle with my little feline friend here. Well wasn't this interesting-i went into office on a Monday and who knew but it was also Chair Massage Day and they had a masseuse on each floor. And because the slots weren't all full, I was able to get one appt in the AM and one in the PM. She broke up the area of tension in my neck and right shoulder. Amazing. It hurt but it was great. Pouring here. Pouring and windy. I walked home and stopped at grocery store on way home. I'm working at BF's the next two days, meaning I'll be working my job from his home, not me at his businesses. I'll miss the kitty. I do enjoy having an intern. But it's nit worth it to bring her up with me. Would be traumatic for her. Ok off to bed. I'll need to be up bright and early tmr to get to his house and get organized before I have to log in and start working. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 December 2019 - 08:16 PM |
Stopped posting because I was talking to myself. Did watch a couple more videos, but did laundry too. All the dirty laundry fits in the basket. Three beds made up with clean sheets and warm blankets for my kids in two weeks. Dishwasher is running and there are only three things waiting in the sink for the next load. I put out more decorations - the dining porch is almost done, and the tree has a few ornaments. I helped dh make dinner, did my chores, and finished the layout on the book my class wrote. My swim bag is packed for tomorrow. I scheduled the sheep visit and made contact with someone who might sell me a second bunny. Do you think it's a mistake to get a second bunny? I have the hutch and everything I need - we used to have 4 bunnies when the kids lived here. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 December 2019 - 10:50 AM |
Got all the clean laundry put away. Washer and dryer still going. I wanted to watch another video, but badger said no. He did let me have one handful of caramel corn, and promised me another after I took the basket of clean towels out to the studio, put away the bin of fall decorations that was parked on the dining porch, and wrote a thank you note to my aunt for the caramel corn. So I did those things. Badger has good timing - it is now raining so hard that even driving out to the studio would not have kept me or the towels dry. Not sure what comes next. It's so dark. Mr. kitty is voting for cat petting and another video... | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 December 2019 - 09:36 AM |
Got all the dirty laundry off the bedroom floor, put out fresh towels, and started a load. The rain had eased up, so we took out the compost, and took care of the baskets of yard waste and the wheelbarrow she had left in the yard. Then we hung up her husband's work shirts. Next we are going to reward ourselves with ONE video while we have a healthy snack and put away the baskets of clean laundry she seems to enjoy storing in guest rooms. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 December 2019 - 08:38 AM |
I had a talk with badger, and we decided today would go better if I forgot that I did this to myself. So I am pretending this is one of those swap shows, or something like "the nanny" I got up, made coffee, fed dh, ate breakfast, took my vitamin and then took stock of this poor crazy woman's life. So far badger and I have done her barn chores, unloaded, loaded, and started the dishwasher, and hand washed all the recycling bits she had piled in her sink. Next I think we will attack her laundry. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 09 December 2019 - 06:51 AM |
Badger on her way! I'm sitting here doing the light therapy before leaving to the office. It's a bit dark here too. I think the next two days are supposed to be raining here and in the 50-60F range. I know this is hard and we are all so tired. But I believe in us! | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 09 December 2019 - 06:26 AM |
She has suggested he call me, but she says he won't. She sent me a note last night that he is planning to go through some of the stuff with his sister over Christmas break. That is good, because it is family stuff. Due to some bad circumstances, he ended up being the emergency saver of family stuff a while back, but now his sister has a house. I have a lot I want to do today, but my energy level is really low. And it is going to rain all day, which means it will be dark. It's going to be a struggle. I don't want to post a list because then I'm afraid I will just end up with a long list of things I didn't do. But I will hopefully post the things I get done. Please send the badger and I will check back in. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 08 December 2019 - 07:35 PM |
Hello all. I'm a bit full and headachey and not quite myself tonight. SubC I know you have a good relationship with your SIL. I seem to remember that you and he have enjoyed together time. I don't know how to broach the subject with him. Maybe your daughter could just say, my mother gets stuck like this, why not give her a call? I know that's more direct than the situation may be able to bear. We did cookies at friend's house. It was fun. Her mother and sister are so sweet. And mom was happy. I hope everyone is okay. I've had some tea and going to tuck in early. I wrapped a bunch of presents this AM and I'm pleased with myself. Going in tmr to office/rare Monday. Everyone will be surprised. I just have so much work to do and some of it is paperwork, which will require my bring there. Cannot carry it home with computer. Too much strain on my already aching shoulders and neck. SubC for the most part I don't relish crowds, either. I live in a crowded city. And I love it. But it takes a special person to wade through the crowds and not feel exhausted! I can do it for our once a year sale. Or back in the days of the old, true Filene's Bargain Basement (just a memory now). Needs to be a prize or a hunt for me. Tillie and CM! Thinking of you both | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 08 December 2019 - 03:08 PM |
My dd1 just called. She wants me to have an intervention with my sil. They are supposed to be clearing out a bunch of stuff to make room for the baby, but every time he tries to address his stuff, he just gets overwhelmed and depressed and glazes over. I keep offering to help, but she says he won't call me. I think he thinks that I mean help move stuff or help clear things out or help by making some of the decisions. And I just want to help him find the one easiest thing to deal with. And then another thing that is just a little bit harder.... I want to help him work through all the decisions and the things that make them hard like we do here. And I don't know how to initiate that. I don't want to get in the middle of their relationship, but I feel like I really could help him if he would just let me, and I need to figure out how to ask him to let me help. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 08 December 2019 - 07:59 AM |
CM, How did your errands go? Tatoulia, way to go making the cherries! Tillie, Mousie just really needs to go for his swim! Is he a catnip mousie? Maybe scooter is trying to make catnip tea? Dh says we can put the wine opener in dd2's stocking. It will be a joke because every time she tries to open the wine here, she mangles the cork. But she can keep it and use it if she wants to. I had fun with my girls yesterday. But wow, dd's life! She loves to go to places that are very very crowded, and we basically shopped all day. She took us to a market full of stalls that were almost all food - mostly ready to eat but some groceries, and pretty pricey (but she lives in a city) the aisles were packed! We often had to turn sideways to move and it was very noisy. The baked goods looked very tempting, but I ended up buying the girls lunch at a vegetarian stand that had heavy paper bowls instead of the plastic and styrofoam that was all around us. We took it to a quieter, less crowded area to eat. It was yummy. Then we went mostly window shopping downtown, stopped in at her favorite (super crowded, tiny tables crammed together, long lines) coffee shop where she treated us, then a cool also crowded with tight spaces but mostly packed with inventory old Victorian duplex turned bookstore (we each bought a book - mine is things to knit for the grandbaby) More downtown shopping (I bought grandbaby a toy at the baby store and got some ideas for later) and home where I just sat alone on the couch in silence for a couple of hours reading! I could have stayed in the book store longer, but for some reason, they had a variety of music playing in different rooms. All a little too loud and none of it appealing to me. Today I recover and clean up my house. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 07 December 2019 - 10:26 PM |
Tillie you would've loved the sake! Again I spent too much but so be it! Today I got my wreaths at a church sale and they were very reasonably priced. The bows are pretty too. I'll take a picture. Then I drove around and returned a pair of pants then I bought a candy thermometer. I need candied cherries for tomorrow's baking session and I couldn't find them anywhere. But I could find a recipe, so I made them tonight, if you can believe it. I also did a little bit of laundry and I ran the dishwasher. I showered and I'm ready for bed. It may just be psychological but the ancient pill did a great job for me. Yes Tillie you have taught me the power of owning things temporarily and for that I thank you. I loved Where the Wild Things Are! Oh and I dropped off all of mom's bags and one of mine at goodwill. What a blessing to get rid of them. SubC an electric wine opener. Oh boy. One more thing. I'm sorry about that boy getting expelled and agree that finding out why isn't necessary. You know it'll hurt you. Cm I may not have commented on all your doings but I'm glad to read your posts and see what you are up to. I have to go downstairs to pick up one more dryer load. I'm almost too tired. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 07 December 2019 - 07:22 PM |
Good Evening It was a beautiful day today. Got the kitchen clean, tidied the bathroom, rescued mousie from the water bowl. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 07 December 2019 - 07:41 AM |
Good Morning Hi Subclinical Today I need to do a little housework, stuff like dishes. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 07 December 2019 - 06:35 AM |
I am enjoying all the news on everyone's lives. This week at school I got three new students (two in a class that really needed more students.) An autistic student who I had last year and felt like I had made some progress with apparently got expelled (1/3 of the way through his senior year). I don't know what happened. Some of the kids just told me he probably wasn't coming back and asked if I wanted to know what happened, and I said "no. If [our director] thinks I need to know what happened, she'll tell me." I just don't need any more pain right now. We went to dh work party last night. We took two items from the basement for the white elephant and brought home an electric wine opener that I Hope dh doesn't intend to keep. I tried to get him to steal the light up toy representing an item made by the company (and drop it in a toy collection bin this week) but he wanted to gamble on unwrapping something new. I have reached a new non- pregnancy related high on my weight this morning. Today dd1 and I drive up to spend the day with dd2. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 December 2019 - 09:13 PM |
Yeah Tatoulia Good luck and best wishes taking that ancient pill. Remember that jeweler would buy any precious metals if/when you get tired of wearing them. So many children's books made me cry, except Dr. Seuss. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 06 December 2019 - 07:19 PM |
Hello ladies My brain is tired so forgive me for any missteps. Tillie I'm amazed at how much work you've done on your ceiling! That is hard work! I like your suggestion for reading a comforting childhood story. I still sob when I read Charlotte's Web. CM I am so sorry about the cracked tablet! I swear they could make these things last better. Great fun at the sale today. I'll tahe photos of my treasures later. A couple of rings, including one that has a big tiger's eye and is 14k gold and made in Italy! $3. (No fun if we aren't discussing the price tag). I also got. Black and white enamel ring that may be real gold. Doesn't matter, it's very stylish and also $3. I got a a Wedgwood click for $5. I wish it were blue but instead it's a light lavender. For $5 I can enjoy and then donate. So little stuff like that. Nothing I'll be too attached to yet can enjoy. I have had so much tension in my neck lately. I've got 10 year old muscle relaxers and I'm going for it. I'll take one in a little while. So great overspent today, probably close to $40 but I did have a nice time, as did mom. I was grateful to be driving BFs car. It was much more comfortable for me. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 December 2019 - 04:17 PM |
Good Afternoon Everyone Hi CriticalMass Hope you are up & at it! Suggestion... Good luck finding those raspberries. Well I did it. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 06 December 2019 - 02:49 PM |
Somehow I never pictured you getting fog, Tillie. Of course, ten years ago I never would've thought we'd ever have earthquakes in my part of Kansas! I'm wanting to go run errands, but things here are taking a long time - especially since I went back to sleep from about 9:00-10:00 a.m. I have tried so many things to get rid of the dreams that mess up my sleep, but this early morning they were back worse than ever. Like Brain, where do you even come up with this nasty stuff?! Then I remembered I had been reading a book on alien abductions (research for my novel) and there was a rather gross chapter, so that may have been it. So I guess, like horror, another genre to add to my "never read after 4:00 p.m." list. All in a day's work to get the novel written. And I don't have to do a ton of graphic detail in the writing; this is just background reading getting a feel for the abduction movement. The novel will be more about the everyday life of the character. Anyhoo... errands today: Bank deposit to make, gasoline to get. Aldi store has fresh raspberries under $1.00 but the one yesterday I went to was out. Hoping to get them today. Would like to get Toys for Tots stuff dropped off so it is sure to get into the collection before the deadline. Walmart, a couple of things; Dollar Tree things I forgot yesterday (sheesh). And woops, I got sidetracked by Facebook and now look at the time! I better get going! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 06 December 2019 - 09:35 AM |
Good Morning Everybody Hi CriticalMass Good luck with your plans for tackling your room! YEA! for spending some active time outdoors. Yesterday the fog rolled in before noon. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 05 December 2019 - 02:16 PM |
Hi all This post will overlap with things I meant to put in the other one plus what I have just caught up on. So it may jump backward and forward in time a bit. Hope it's not confusing. Or it may be a two-parter. Tillie I meant to mention I am so happy for you about the ceiling tiles - and your pretty cotton dresses, and that I had to laugh about Scooter's mousie one last time. I'm also happy for Tatoulia for the progress on her Mom's stuff and her own, and SubC for getting recycling and stuff to take to school, and I hope your holiday plans work out the best way possible. And yes, it is sad about the kid - I feel bad for kids and good parents these days, and sad that there are crappy parents, sad for folks like Tillie who had them. So much I do pray for healing about in general, in people's home lives and in the world at large. I had mentioned I had a moody weekend. Like on Friday when we went to McDonald's for breakfast I broke the screen on my tablet. It was freaky weird because sitting there I had a premonition I would break it. (I haven't been keeping it in the protective case because I had to open the back so many times it's kind of warped.) So I was trying to be careful, and just when I went to put it in my purse before we left, I like flipped it up in the air! Luckily it hit on one corner, the cracks are limited to a small area because it did have the clear protective thing over the glass, so it still works fine. But the premonition thing unnerved me. I just had to tell you all about it because I think we all understand strange things that end us up in strange patterns of life, of which clutter and hoarding are one - and these mini-crises can contribute. Am I making any sense at all? 😛 And like I said, things did improve from Sunday on. So that's good. Payday on Tuesday went quite well I did have to skip quilting, though, to make time to go pay bills. And I got new Barbie and Ken basic dolls at Walmart to give the Christmas Toys for Tots. I have 4 dolls - African-American Barbie & Ken and Caucasian. And a Baby Shark puzzle. Yesterday I went and quilted and was speedy, did a whole side of the quilt (about 10 or so 6" blocks). Came home, did some computer stuff and was going to enter my cell phone payment card. Well. That turned into a crazy endeavor. The website said the card was "expired" and wouldn't take it. Sure enough, there was a date on the back. The store should've pulled those cards I guess. I ended up on live chat, then in the evening I went to their store for more verification. All this time I hadn't eaten lunch, but my roommate got home and went with me to the cell phone store, because by then I was so stressed and low-blood-sugar flaky she said she hated to see me get out on the road. So then we went and ate. Still sunny here going to be colder tomorrow then nice a couple days and nasty by Monday with that four-letter S-word stuff. But with a high of 46 it'll probably melt. Of course, these forecasts can always change one way or the other over the days leading up to some change. I hope that will be the case, because Badger got me to make contact with my cousin and arrange to take the kids' gifts to them Monday evening, picking up a pizza along the way. I hope all goes well - her dad may be there, and I really don't care to spend much time around him as he has been abusive toward his wife and son (who is grown, married, and in the military). I don't know if age has mellowed the dad/grandpa any. The wife is my actual first cousin; this one I'm going to see is her grown daughter. The wife/mother still stays in the town they're originally from, working. It's a strange and sad situation, and I only know bits and pieces of what has gone on, but I don't trust him. I just hope he isn't mean to his daughter or those grandkids. I will pray beforehand for peace and protection, and project confidence so he will know I'm not one to mess with... Hopefully there will be no drama. Tillie, that goal to be back in my bedroom by Christmas is a good one. I can probably make it even a week or two sooner. I shall probably start very soon on those receipts - maybe later today as trash pickup is tomorrow. Those heat-sensitive paper tickets contain BPA, I understand, so should be disposed of in regular trash rather than recycling. If I get the receipts gone, I will probably have emptied this one big rectangular trug thing about 1-1/2 feet long and a foot wide and tall. There is a second trug like it containing my bunny club stuff, which needs much going through, computerizing, and probably will allow for some tossing of rough drafts and scraps. The resulting stuff will be streamlined. These are good indoor projects to do while listening to YouTube Christmas music compilations via Roku on the TV. I got those jeans completely finished and ready to wear - they just needed a few hand stitches to tack down the new pocket linings where the sewing machine couldn't reach. Woohoo! Since today is so warm, however, I went out to the back yard where my roommate had a stack of brush she'd chopped down and I got 3 bags' worth into the trash. Saw one tick (eeks) and shook him away and checked myself for others. The stupid ticks are why my poor bunnies can't have outdoor playtime when the weather is nice. I hate them. It did feel good to do an active thing outdoors in the sunshine, though. Days when I can do that help break up the monotony of winter months. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 05 December 2019 - 11:37 AM |
Good Morning Everyone Good plan to make them talk to you face to face. Managed to sleep in till just before 9 this morning! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 05 December 2019 - 06:54 AM |
Tillie, the dresses sound lovely!!! And I do love cotton from India! Great find!!! I got a bag of donations together yesterday and they are already in my car. I stopped by mom's briefly last night and she was great. BF sent her a piece of poundcake and a few bottled waters to help keep her hydrated. Her little one was adorable, just as we planned. Off to work now. The person directly above me has been nasty lately and I decided to go in to avoid a nasty phone call. It will be tougher for him to be nasty to my face. He's been nasty all week. I know he's under a lot of stress. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 09:33 PM |
Dear Subclinical Back then parents could beat the heck out of their child in full public view and nobody would bat an eye. As a child I would pray my hardest that grown ups would change and YOU are that change I prayed for. Hi Tatoulia The dresses all had different labels and they still had their paper tags attached. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 08:50 PM |
SubC you are exactly the person we want for teachers. You are kind and generous and caring and creative. We are all so lucky that you are teaching. The whole world benefits from teachers such as yourself. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 08:32 PM |
Tillie, I am sorry about your teachers. I try very hard not to be that teacher. I try very hard to let kids know that I realize my class is only one part of their lives, but I hold the students responsible for communicating with me when there are other issues (or their parents if there are things going on the kids can/won't explain.). You don't get to just do nothing. I know there are times when I fail. I know they aren't all going to be willing to talk to me. But I can only work with what I know. I have let kids sleep in my class before. I have sent them to get food (I have given them my lunch). I signed out a laptop so somebody could write an English paper in my pottery class. I have excused a student from class and found her a private spot to cry when her boyfriend got arrested. I have changed curriculums and projects to accommodate a variety of people. Is ray late and I come in early. And I have been taken advantage of. It disappoints me every time. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 05:25 PM |
Oh Tillie thank you for the reminder that we don't know what is going on in people's lives. Sometimes they are barely coping. You are so brave in the snow! Four dresses!!! Descriptions. Please!!! Great you were able to run your errands. It sounds perfectly snowy Thank you as always, for being so intuitive and helping me sort these things out. I'm going to run up to see BF right now and maybe mom too then run back here. Looking forward to a phone call with a friend tonight. I also had a good call with a different friend tonight so that was great. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 04 December 2019 - 04:53 PM |
GOOD AFTERNOON EVERYBODY! Hi Subclinical Sorry you had to let the boy go. Hi Tatoulia You have been stressing and depressing last few weeks about the condition of your Mom's home. Well... | |