| Tillie | Posted: 14 June 2018 - 04:29 PM |
Welcome to the NEW and hopefully improved message board page. 🙂 | |
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| Tillie | Posted: 18 October 2018 - 04:51 PM |
Just to let you all know I will not be around for a while. Today I had to put down my little blue eyed albino, my little girl kitty, my baby doll, my Poohkie, my Eowyn. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 17 October 2018 - 10:16 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Doing more laundry today. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 16 October 2018 - 06:49 PM |
CM, I am imagining you putting all your books on shelves - it will be so nice! I am loving my new doll shelf (my mom kept saying "your grandmother would love this", which was happy-sad.) and having more room to move and sort in my basement. We bought all the boxes of photos and scrapbooks and old "schoolwork" (my kids were homeschooled, so schoolwork was often very creative and individual, not worksheets) up to Dd2s empty closet so I can hopefully work on them this winter, and opened up enough space for six bins to go on the rack instead of the floor. Tillie i'm Glad you had a productive day. And also that you got rest yesterday. Tatoulia, how did the dr go for your mom? | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 16 October 2018 - 06:09 PM |
Drive by - at the library Tatoulia, still pulling for you for things work out with your mom and brother situations. You're doing all the right things. Repairs at the house happened some yesterday, were supposed to happen today but didn't, and beyond that I don't know. Tomorrow was supposed to be the day for maintenance on my new van, but maybe that will get pushed back if he can do the plumbing. Every day is a surprise! 😀 I did do some more receipts - the bag of crumpled ones is getting fuller! It goes pretty quickly. This week's nice weather says "Go work in the storage unit!" and I hope repairs don't put the kibosh on that. I'll admit, too, that I'm a little nervous. I remember when the big thing was moving from a storage unit far away to this one nearby - and I know recently I looked and it wasn't as scary as I'd feared - yet, I feel a tug to procrastinate. I'm going to kick my butt (gently) and do it anyway. The nervousness is partly because working over there has been delayed so much that I don't know how bad it'll be, and because it got cluttery again - but it's not a Hoard of Horror either. I can do this! Getting the books neatly on shelves is my #1 goal, since that is the thing that would've been so cool to have been able to do when I moved to this closer unit, but it would've taken too much time. I just had to get the stuff moved. The result was a logjam of books that actually block access to . . . empty bookshelves! Oh, the irony. So I just must shuffle till the empty shelves become accessible, and then it should be downhill, smooth sailing, etc. Need TUNES. Either my tablet with MP3s or I can just sing as I sort! LOL! The old storage unit was in a long line of them so I was alone a lot and I could sing (or, on occasion, cuss - like when a stack toppled) with no close proximity to other people. This location is slightly less private, but I may not let that bother me. ABBA songs are great for this sort of thing - I am the "Decluttering Queen"! LOLOLOLOL!!! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 16 October 2018 - 02:55 PM |
Hello 🙂 Been busy this morning! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 15 October 2018 - 08:38 PM |
Hi Tatoulia 🙂 So many times I have heard that we can/will lose our sense of smell just because we get older, goes along with losing our sense of taste, hearing and eye sight, you know, the usual pleasure and joys of growing older. ;D lol YEA! for a NEW kitty blanket! WTG! for cooking, dishes, laundry & trash out! It is wonderful to see all the wildlife out here. Today I have pretty much done a whole lot of nothing. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 15 October 2018 - 07:26 PM |
Mom called me tonight. She said she has dr tomorrow and she needs to shower. I was able to ask her if she's afraid she'll panic because I don't mind coming over and playing with the cat. She said she was fine. She was worried it was a diaper smell but I said no, you just need to shower. And that I understood how tired she is. So hopefully she'll shower tonight. Thank you for helping me with all of this. I cleaned up kitchen after cooking and I also changed my sheets, ran a few loads of laundry and I am running dishwasher now. Recycling and trash are out. I walked up to see BF for a minute or two. Kitty has her new blanket (not the one to match my home, this is one I got at work). We had some contest and I think I was the only one who chose the company/branded cat blanket. (They advertised it as s blanket. ?Cat' was implied). I've been saving it and she's all snuggled into it. I had the fire on earlier with the heat so you can bet she was cozy. Tillie I didn't mention the antelopes or the buffalo or the cows. My goodness I would love to live like that. How absolutely wonderful (and in the case of the large buffalo, scary). Thanks for the support on sibling. I feel terrible for him. He believes it. And I feel terrible. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 15 October 2018 - 03:47 PM |
Hi Tatoulia 🙂 So happy you have been able to divorce yourself from your brother and his abuse. I guess the grates will be the last part of this project after they finish up all the hard dirty work. Done a little of this & that today. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 15 October 2018 - 03:24 PM |
Tillie that is very insightful. I'll have to keep an eye out and maybe next time she's says she's going to shower, I can offer to go over and sit there. I know she has an easy access shower with a chair and appropriate handrails, etc. but the panic attacks may be weighing heavily on her. I can't bring it up because she was deeply offended when I mentioned the stench (no I didn't say stench). I stopped by today because when I cooked my lunch I made a separate dish for her for dinner. Just raviolis and sauce. I made hers separately because I use artichoke hearts in my sauce and I'm not sure if artichokes conflict with her meds. I picked up my blanket. I didn't notice if she'd showered and I wasn't close enough to know. My brother stopped by to see her this AM and said he needs plane fare to go to CA to pick up a settlement of $11 million. He's so crazy. He believes that Hollywood has been persecuting him (and based on some of the crappy TV shows on, I do feel his pain) and that they are finally going to pay him for ruining his view, stalking him, etc. it's so terrible. And it made me so happy that he isn't around to threaten me until I give him the $$. My mother has absolutely no $. None. So there's no fear there. I pay for everything for her but her phone. She pays for that most of the time. One of the first things BF said when the final incident happened was: what does he want now? And I was puzzled, and he said, last time it was a TV stand and before that a leather couch and before that.,.. all of which I bought for him, by the way. I anyway, I told him it was the Hollywood thing and that I wasn't taking him seriously, wouldn't find him a lawyer, wouldn't go to the FBI, etc. am so so so so so glad that I'm not having him threaten me for plane fare. I'm emotionally separated from him as well as physically separated. I do wish the contractors would finish putting the grates in my windows. I'm okay for now since the windows are part of my alarm system, but I really want them back on. Ok thank you for shoring me up. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 15 October 2018 - 10:37 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 YEA!!! WHOOPIE!!! WAY TO GO! Mom for continuing the clearing too! YEA! for also finding some things new homes and getting recycling together. Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Extremely cold morning but it is expected to warm up a little later this week. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 15 October 2018 - 09:06 AM |
GREAT JOB CM on the receipts! They get ahead of me too! And end up in bags or envelopes and other places. I find putting music on makes a big difference! Thank you for the thoughtful insights into mom and mental illness. You gave me some thoughts I can draw upon to stay strong. WOW SubC! Your mom is so great! Look at her, helping and supporting and bring a great mom! And look at you! All. Ready with the shelving and finding things you can let go of! Hard work! Tillie! I am slowly winterizing my bed, so to speak. I have a layer I need to add now but it's at mom's and needs to be washed. I'd brought a blanket to her when I had her comforter and duvet to wash. By bringing her a blanket, I didn't have to wash and return on the same day. Now I'm going to need to add my blanket to the rotation. I just add layers as the winter goes on! Difficult time with mom yesterday. I took her out for a ride and groceries and she had terrible BO and I couldn't breathe. She hadn't showered or washed her hair at least since Wednesday, maybe longer. And she had wet her hair for some odd reason. She was a terrible mess. I made a hair appt for her on the 24th and I'm going to see if she continues to bathe infrequently, then I'll have to talk to her about getting someone in. This isn't like her and honestly it was terrible. I had to take a shower when I got home since I felt stinky by association. If need be, I'll have the hairdresser down the street wash and dry her hair once a week. And hope that she starts bathing again. | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 15 October 2018 - 04:07 AM |
Popping in. Mom brought me a box of books, a bookend, and four puppets. We finished putting up the doll shelf and the dolls look great on it! So glad to have them unpacked! (There is one set of small china dolls still packed that go on a display shelf I haven't found a safe place for yet) I have 5 empty bins! Mom was so excited by the cleared space that she pushed me to keep working on the basement and almost half the floor is cleared on that side. I found three dolls and an art set that I am passing on to my nieces - mom will take them at thanksgiving - and two pretty boxes that are now mom's. Many things just got cleaned up, but we also have a large recycling box and a small trash bag. Dh and Dad put up the trim around my kitchen window and it looks really nice! Today we are going into the city to do some shopping for dad, and then tomorrow they will go home. CM, don't give up. I hope your fix it guy is back soon. Good luck with your receipts. And Tillie, I hope you feel better today. Tatoulia, i'm Sorry you had such a hard conversation with your mom. The therapist sounds like a good idea. First frost expected here Wednesday night. Stay warm! | |
| Tillie | Posted: 14 October 2018 - 10:51 PM |
Hi CriticalMass 🙂 WAY TO GO!!! tackling those receipts! 😀 So sorry for that frustrating situation with the plumbing. It's not just guys that don't get the connections. Your weather is a lot like mine in that most rain/snow is dumped closer to the mountain range and skirts around this area. 😉 Started feeling sickly again this afternoon so I took a long nap on the couch with a nice kitty. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 14 October 2018 - 12:29 PM |
Tillie, I think it must be an evil coyote. They kill cats and bunnies so we might as well blame them. Tatoulia sorry about your mom and brother situation. I have a friend whose mentally ill sister was staying with their mother and being abusive, and it took a long time and much drama but they finally got the sister out. Even after that, though, she still pulled stunts like manipulative suicide threats over the phone. I was there for one of those and it was very triggering for me and I'm not gonna go into why it was, but I told them to call her bluff and call 911 but they wouldn't. I had to go outdoors and walk up and down the street and pray and cry, and I had to set some boundaries with my friend about the whole thing. So I'll be praying for you all for some help and that she'll be able to be calmer about it and open to some real solutions. I think it's particularly difficult for elderly people after a lifetime of not being able to confront mental health situations in their loved ones, since the resources weren't always available and the stigma of others knowing was so strong - and it's just damn hard anyway, and older people don't have the energy. Sending you hugs and good thoughts. The nasty weather came in but as for snow, that's sticking in Western KS as it often does, since they're closer to Colorado. By the time weather systems get to central and southeast KS, they often have mellowed if they formed elsewhere. And NE KS, along I70 from about Salina to KC usually gets more precipitation. That being said, it's grey out, windy, rainy, and temp dropping here. Good day to stay indoors. I slept/was lazy till about 11:00. Trying to decide what to do. I started to work on a bunch of receipts and my bank statements yesterday, which will be satisfying to get to throw away the receipts. It's the remnants of one system of financial tracking that I got behind on and I don't want to just toss the receipts in the bag without "going through" them. I know, that's a "hoarder thing." But if I kick butt and maybe listen to some music and feel motivated, I can get it done and then I've already got an idea for how to get myself to throw out receipts on an up-to-date basis in future, keeping only the ones for things with warranties or that I might decide to return, which would fit in one little envelope or something. Getting those bags and stacks of receipts into the trash would feel good. 🙂 And it's brainless enough for a brain that feels pretty mushy still. The extra rest helped a little but it's been a stressy week. Yesterday was supposed to be the resolution to it, but it wasn't. Our repair guy said he was coming and then he poofed again. And another friend of mine, unbeknownst at first, had contact with him after he poofed on me and my roommate. We are starting to compare notes. It's a very frustrating situation. There are many positives about this guy. But the poofing has been a problem. And we don't want to say he is lying, and we don't want to be gossips based on speculation, but we aren't quite sure he is always being definitive about what's going on either. We don't want to make hasty judgments and say things that can't be taken back; we don't want to have to pay what some ripoff mechanics and handyman services charge and this guy does quality work for less. So we are trying to discern and tread carefully, whilst brainstorming how to resolve the difficulties. Information gathering is one thing we can do. One thing that's for certain is the "Y chromosome communication problem": Guys don't see how everything is connected (like okay, if you get here when you say and get the repair done, then I can go to my appointment, etc.), and they don't think it's necessary, if they get sidetracked by an emergency, to send a quick text to simply say so. We XX chromosome homo sapiens, on the other hand, are planners and see the interrelations between things; we feel socially conditioned to consider the impact of our actions or delays on others who depend on us, and to inform them of any pertinent delays, etc. We even are willing on many occasions to detail the cause of the delay and in so doing, pick up some empathy from the other party, though this is not always prudent or necessary. Sigh. TL;DR: Long story short, he didn't come yesterday and the work didn't get done and he hasn't contacted us to explain, apologize, promise, or anything regarding when it may get done. So we still don't have a kitchen sink or washing machine we can use. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 14 October 2018 - 10:50 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Nothing much I have to do today. Hope you are all having a wonderful day and are able to enjoy the absurdity in life. ;D | |
| Tillie | Posted: 13 October 2018 - 11:16 PM |
Hi Tatoulia 🙂 No way! One day we were driving on a dirt road through the desert and a herd of antelope started running along right beside the car. Another time driving along a dirt road we passed a herd of cattle and all the baby cows started chasing us down the road while their mothers just watched. Then there was the time the road was blocked by a herd of buffalo. There have also been incidents with the Mustang (wild horses) on the roads too. Anyways, maybe it was a coyote that peed on Steven's shoes? 😉 I'm glad you advised your Mom to talk to a therapist and not you. What language do the workers speak? 🙂 Got the grass mowed and watered and the hoses detached from the faucets. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 13 October 2018 - 06:12 PM |
Oh that poor bad dog! I bet it's not a dog at all. Sounds like an antelope! Last night mom and I got into an argument. She wanted to talk about sibling and I couldn't do it, and she said she has no one to talk to so I told her to ask her doctors for a therapist. And she fought me a bit so I gave her about ten minutes of what it was like for me with sibling and it all went downhill. I know she is only half supporting me on my decision to never see him again but half is good enough for me! It ended okay but we were both upset. Today all was fine. I'm tired. My windows still aren't perfectly fixed but I've decided not to nag the guy anymore. He said he'd do it, the scaffolding is still up, and so I need to stop being so anxious. He doesn't know I'm anxious and so I'll leave this be for a few more days. The workers don't speak English and I don't speak their language. They are wonderful workers and the house looks lovely. I had errands to run today but only made it to the pharmacy. I enjoyed my day. And I slept well last night. CM I am proud of you for taking this all in stride. I bet a bit of decluttering will make you feel good. Although I've done my dishes, I think I'll do a spot of work myself. Music helps me. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 13 October 2018 - 11:38 AM |
Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Yes, here too! The weather has been so unpredictable. YEA! for the plumbing work almost completed. 😀 For the last week Steven has been putting his shoes just inside the back door right next to the litter box. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 13 October 2018 - 10:07 AM |
What a week it's been, feels like two! Repairs still ongoing, crossing my fingers and toes they might get wrapped up today. Our guy had an emergency Thursday so we lost a day. SubC, bet you're happy that wall is done. Tillie, we are supposed to get SNOW tomorrow morning! I don't want it! I would gladly send it to you to pile on the carport roof. Actually it probably won't amount to a whole lot this early in the year, but it's just the idea of snow. This year's been so off kilter I'm having a time perceiving the normal flow of time and seasons. It's disorienting. Since I feel like a wimp about the wintry forecast for tomorrow, I'm going to go to Mass tonight before it hits and then just snooze tomorrow morning! If all goes well with the repairs today, by tomorrow we should have a working kitchen sink faucet and the washer drain problem resolved. Roommate will get first dibs on the washer since she has to do laundry for the workweek. But I can start gathering up mine. So basically we're just in a holding pattern at the moment. I'm going to need to tackle the logjam that prevents good access to my cooler weather clothes, apparently. We went from above average temps to I'm guessing below average within a couple weeks' time. And it'll probably flip flop several more times before true winter settles in (bleah). My brain is kind of mush, too - trying to decide whether to attempt anything ambitious today or just tread water till the repairs are done. It's been a tiring time on the one hand, and rest could be good; on the other hand, a few little spurts of decluttering could give a morale boost. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 13 October 2018 - 09:08 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Need to wash dishes today since I couldn't yesterday while I was outside watering and other stuff. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 12 October 2018 - 08:48 PM |
Tillie I'm so glad you still have flowers in bloom! And my black cat thanks you for making Jack a bed Busy day at work yet good. I'm still waiting for the construction guys to fix one more thing on my windows. I'm trying not to stress too much. My house looks so pretty. I took photos today and my overseas friend is so happy with the progress. As am I. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 12 October 2018 - 06:04 PM |
OK... | |
| Tillie | Posted: 12 October 2018 - 03:32 PM |
The chrysanthemums are in the process of blooming | |
| Tillie | Posted: 12 October 2018 - 09:36 AM |
Good Morning 🙂 Today I will water the flower bed, trees and lilacs. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 11 October 2018 - 10:29 AM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Subclinical 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Have managed to rehydrate myself pretty well and the pain has stopped. yea Gave Steven the cover for the cooler and asked him to please winterize it. Anyways, Today I will slowly get back to doing what I still can do. 😉 | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 11 October 2018 - 08:00 AM |
Windows fixed! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 11 October 2018 - 06:41 AM |
SubC! Congratulations on your progress! And to think you'll be gaining closet space! That is fantastic! Well I'm going to try to be not super late for work today but not on time, either. (As my mother would say, why give them hope?) | |
| Subclinical | Posted: 11 October 2018 - 05:38 AM |
Tillie, I hope you are much better today! Tatoulia, it is so wonderful that you have your cleaners now. I love thinking about you in a sparkly fresh home. And how nice that you can have drop in guests! I am enjoying imagining you hosting Christmas with beautiful china. I hope the windows get fixed fast! CM, I too wish we could see the quilt! I am impressed that us is finished though. I hope your home comes together smoothly and without too much more expense. Try to keep focusing on how nice it will be when it is done. The wall is finished! It looks good. Dh even said so. I don't know if I will do anything else before mom comes or not. It's pretty messy down there. I just realized though - the shelf is modular, and all the pieces are in a closet in the basement, so when I am done, I will also have a mostly empty closet! | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 10 October 2018 - 10:35 PM |
WTG on the quilt, CM. That has been a labor of love! Would love to see a picture of it. And yes, you are doing a great job of weathering the various challenges right now. Tillie, my dear, I'm sorry about your sad anniversary and your terrible pain. Sending you peace and love from afar. I am so very sorry. I met my friend for dinner and invited her in to see my apartment. Just like it was the most normal thing in the world. Tillie sometimes the bad dog pees outside the box here too. I've taken to using cat pads under the box. Expensive bit sometimes my mom gives me some of her disposable medical pads and those really hold the -ahem-dog pee. The woman I had dinner with tonight was one of two that I meet up with frequently. In the past they've offered to walk me home and I would become mortified, thinking, what if one of them needs to use the restroom. Now it is all clean. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 10 October 2018 - 07:27 PM |
Hi guys 🙂 Just wanted to say "HI". Been deathly ill since last evening. Of course, last night that "bad dog" came by and peed on the outside of the litter box. 🙁 This is a very bad anniversary today too but I hadn't even noticed the date until just a little while ago. Last night the power went out about quarter to nine and didn't come back on until about eleven thirty. | |