| Tillie | Posted: 09 December 2016 - 09:56 AM |
Good morning everybody 🙂 Great to read your posts on phase five! 😀 WAY TO GO!!! Everybody on every accomplishment, especially the little ones that really do add up and help make your homes the sanctuary of your dreams. | |
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| Pain | Posted: 24 January 2017 - 03:27 PM |
OK I got home early. Filled as many tubs as I could. Too much time left to just quit. So I ended up at the storage bin. I sat and looked if I could get more room. So I scooted it around d to make a row of shelving In the center. After I did that I felt charged up again. I went to a store that had totes on sale. So basically I increased my capacity by 30 tubs and another 90 shoe boxes... I m back home and their making dinner. New part of the plan. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 24 January 2017 - 12:39 PM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Pain 🙂 Managed to sleep in today. Hope to hear from you all again soon and thank you for your posts! 😀 | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 08:55 PM |
Ok garbage out & I did a lot more shredding. It's arduous work, since I skim here and there before shredding the diaries. Just took my shower and heading to bed after I restock kitty's bowls. Goodnight All. Thank you for helping me through this. I'd rsate that I have only 8-10 diaries left to shred. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 03:59 PM |
You are remarkable, Pain! Your plan to take a bath sounds like a good reward for all your hard work. I'm about to take my trash out since we are having storms and the darker/stormiest it gets, the less likely I'll get it out tonight. I tend to miss the early AM pick-up. I'm writing a lot today because it is helping me. I need to keep posting. I've gotten thru more diaries. | |
| Pain | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 03:37 PM |
Trash day. I so badly want to work on the dinning room. If after all that IF I feel like doing more then I Will. My logic used to play to taking a long cleansing bath on trashday. That way no matter how dirty trash day is get clean. That's does appeal to me. A long soak with ice cream in cup. Sorry really just making this up as write this check in. Putting a frozen lasagna in oven. I'll limit working on the dinning room to filling three tubs. Just the easy stuff for storage. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 02:36 PM |
Anony, you may not feel like you are doing well but by working in your garbage, you are doing well! I'm glad you are getting some respite from the sadness. Time will help you. Keep doing what you can and know that we are all cheering for you! Tillie I've been shredding today. I may have been a little too personal when I mentioned the underwear. Sorry!!! Little red-faced here! More diaries are going out the door in shreds tonight. I'm doing it!!! | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 01:15 PM |
Hi all! Im not doing good, but i do have some good moments. I also know if i could get my place nicer itd make a huge difference...im just so sad hes gone. Ive been filling a trash bag up almost daily & that makes a big difference for such little effort. My car needs work & this time i plan to rent a truck & get more loads to the dump & some new couches for my screen porch. I feel that doing it myself, rather than what ive had to go through with other people to help with their truck, may feel very empowering.... | |
| Tillie | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 11:47 AM |
Good Morning Everyone 🙂 Hey Tatoulia WTG!!!! 😀 Hi Pain 🙂 P.S. remember that all our suggestions are just that, suggestions. Cold days below freezing this week. Monday... | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 11:13 AM |
Ok I just culled the underpants herd. Down by 30%. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 23 January 2017 - 08:53 AM |
Today is clean and purge day. I am working from home & can do the usual laundry but I also can likely take a lunch and just purge. It is garbage night so the motivation is high, knowing whatever I do can be taken out. I got most of my recycling out yesterday but I have more. I need to keep working toward my 30% in January, which won't be met but which continues to serve as a solid motivation. I don't regret sleeping so much this weekend. I feel better because of it. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 22 January 2017 - 04:25 PM |
Hello Tillie! Glad you have gotten your task done and thank you, as always, for supporting my need to sleep! Pain, how nice to awake to laughter in your home. Your ability to put resentments aside and focus on the important things is inspiring. You are doing a wonderful job of putting aside your anger and just trying to make a safe and clean and laughter-filled home. I've found this board to be a good place to celebrate, cry, vent, receive and give comfort, etc. it is a very good community of people. I took a few more books out to goodwill and I also took the sheets. I went through one of the Christmas bins from brothers house and was able to get rid of a bunch of fancy boxes, some napkin rings (have never been a napkin ring type) and other odds and ends. Glad to have those things out of my life. Now I'm thinking about dinner and what should I do tonight to keep moving forward. I'll keep you posted!! | |
| Pain | Posted: 22 January 2017 - 03:29 PM |
Slept in a chair after lunch. I am taking you're advice and relaxing. Tillie I think it best to take the big table out . So I'm motivated to hear her and her friends "girls" laughter again. I want her to have friends for support. But the hoard has kept most away . So she's been doing community things. But I know she likes have friends over to room occasionally lime her friends do. There is a small 4 person table in The kitchen. Do there is still family dinner time there. But they like eating in front of tv anyhow. If only I could express the beauty how they spoke about each other I would not want for another word. I see it coming , there's nothing we can do about it. I look around and see how ugly our home is. Caffeine and sugar gets me started . But a dinner like we had today is enough to see it through to the last of it all. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 22 January 2017 - 12:08 PM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Pain 🙂 The wind is blowing like crazy this morning. Wishing you all a pleasant Sunday 🙂 | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 22 January 2017 - 11:28 AM |
Wow! You are doing this! Your plan is solid and you are so industrious! Congratulations! You must be exhausted in so many ways. Thank you so much for this! I don't have unusable spaces but I have too much stuff and you are helping me immensely! Please remember to take good care of yourself. I love the idea of the big meal on your table!! | |
| PAIN'S PLAN | Posted: 22 January 2017 - 10:55 AM |
Living room is clear ed except furniture. -------- the dinning room is a large hoard. it is the biggest hurdle and is the hub of all rooms. I also have a storage room .it's in the back of the house. it has most of my tools and holiday decorations. and clutter that is clutter. I believe if I clear the dinning room It can be switched with the living room. or even take the dinning room table to storage. it's my pride possession. my wife is so ill she can't get up the stairway anymore. leaving the upstairs to my daughter and I . my old room is easy to clear. either way I want to bring the tubs back into the home. only downsized and better organized. . I believe this is doable on a weekly basis. I lose a dinning room but it was lost for years anyway. I think I'll have a big dinner on the big table one last time with no regrets. I'm not going to seek approval I'm just going to do it. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 22 January 2017 - 10:31 AM |
Overslept and doing some laundry before getting mom out for the day. Going to putter for a while and get back to you. Have a great day, everybody! Check in even if just for a minute. | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 21 January 2017 - 05:16 PM |
Hi everyone! Good to read your posts. I slept, slept, slept & felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders. When I woke up (nearly noon) my brother started texting me and had started in with the dirty names and other meanness. It's been a while and so I kept calm and didn't engage. I did end up seeing him and other than a moment or two, he kept it together. I changed my sheets and am doing laundry. BF went home to have dinner and do laundry and catch up on other stuff. I'm going to work on something/not sure what. I got three sheets (two fitted & one flat) in a donation bag and I still have two sheets to use for kitty in summer. I have to keep couch covered due to vomiting. So I have two sets of sheets for my bed, one for the fold-out & two for kitty. That's plenty. Fold-out is different size from my bed. So I will figure out what's next for tonight. | |
| Pain | Posted: 21 January 2017 - 11:34 AM |
Tillie- Great idea cleaning the freezer when it's freezing outside. Agree with you words for personal happiness. Took me awhile to know what happiness was. Especially when I was neglecting my inner happiness and only seeking it from others. Believe it or not having clear and space isn't as much a happiness ,but a sadness. I'm not feeling sad about y livelihood, and kitchen , and I feel happy In Those rooms. The kitchen is complete. task1. I'm going to purge the bathroom completely , take a nap,wake up drink coffee then task2. clean the restroom. Before bed I will update task4 my priorities list. WILL go out tomorrow and do some shopping. Nothing major. Just a trip to art store and dollar tree for supplies. I love to make model homes. But haven't in years. It'll be a mess , but it doesn't have to stay that way. Heavy trash day is this week. Just putting out the trash bags and see if he takes it. I'm moving planning too much. Well I'll just keep on keepin on . 1 week to reclaim 1 room . | |
| Tillie | Posted: 21 January 2017 - 11:10 AM |
Good Morning Everybody 🙂 Hi Anonymoniker 🙂 Hi Joan 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 Hi Pain 🙂 Today I will be defrosting the small upright deep freezer that lives in the pantry. Have a GREAT weekend! 😀 | |
| Pain | Posted: 21 January 2017 - 06:27 AM |
I didn't get much done after posting. I slept alot and stayed in the kitchen after dinner till there was no food mess left to be cleaned. it's my way of dealing with what little stuff accumulates. there are 6 big rooms downstairs. each room has a large tub. this way when I find clutter that belongs in someone's bed room or their personal belongings it goes to their tub. Instead of filling the other common area tubs. So I try to fill all the tubs then start over and purge the tubs. I used to have a tub for donating. but now I just put it in my backseat on the driver side. when I pass the donation center to just stop in and unload. I'm doing this two fold . one I'm spending time on the hoard. reclaiming living space . secondly I'm already moving the valuables out of the hoard . a place for the secondary possessions . a place where wife stuff is separated from daughters and my stuff separated from theirs. It will be easier to move . well I don't know that for sure. but I believe moving and or downsizing one of us at a time. will be easier if it's all separated by person. there are four hoard rooms left. OK I've drank an energy drink and I'm going to clean the oven... and then mop the floors. I'll go to laundry room tomorrow. to everyone else | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 20 January 2017 - 10:31 PM |
Hi everyone. Good to hear from you Anony. The trick is to respect your own time & space, then whoever you meet is attracted to your strength and confidence in being yourself. When BF. & I first started dating we had tickets to an event--lecture--and it coincided with an unexpected & exciting sports game and he was all sixes or sevens over it, and I said, do the sports thing I don't mind going alone and he so wanted me to find someone else to go and most people were interested in the sports thing and he didn't know me well enough to realize, I honestly don't mind going alone & there's no hidden punishment waiting for him. He ended up joining me, we had a blast, & we got home in time to finish up the game in TV. Today he'd have more comfort in just sending me off. If you are comfortable with who you are, and you put a premium on your own time, trust me, the rest will follow. A "I just need a day at home," or "I had planned to spend some time doing my own thing tonight" shouldn't engender moping or resent. I left work early tonight, walked home then took dinner to mom's & fell asleep. I just needed to get some sleep after a hard week. Pain, thank you for a description of your day. Very useful for me. Tillie, my dear, always good to picture you going about your day. Nice to hear from you Joan. You too CM. | |
| Joan | Posted: 20 January 2017 - 03:51 PM |
Anony, I am so sad to hear that you are doing poorly. You definitely need more community support thsn you have been getting. This board is great, but you also need people that live in your area. I wish I had more I could offer you. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 20 January 2017 - 02:53 PM |
Hi all. Im not doing so good. Ive been trying to do 3 small projects a day & that is helping me feel better. Im also trying to realize he wouldve never been there for me. My fantasy wouldve been for him to have just said, 'ok, honey...i hope you feel better soon...let me know if i can help..im here for you'...but no. He had to break up with me since i wasnt up to coming over from a detailed horrific dream that is a very scary & real situation. | |
| Anonymoniker | Posted: 20 January 2017 - 02:52 PM |
Hi all. Im not doing so good. Ive been trying to do 3 small projects a day & that is helping me feel better. Im also trying to realize he wouldve never been there for me. My fantasy wouldve been for him to have just said, 'ok, honey...i hope you feel better soon...let me know if i can help..im here for you'...but no. He had to break up with me since i wasnt up to coming over from a detailed horrific dream that is a very scary & real situation. | |
| Pain | Posted: 20 January 2017 - 02:42 PM |
Hi Tillie and others. Next after I go all the way around the room I'll reorganize it again. I reorganized it yesterday but wasn't optimized. I took more time yesterday on the fridge. I got so frustrated I started cussing . I just emptied it all out. My wife can't see well anymore. She's been feeding us expired food on poorly washed plates. I'm in take over mode. I cleared the fridge. And bleached it. And let it air dry. Then went to the store and replaced much of the staples. So today I've basically grounded myself to the kitchen . It's not so bad as yesterday. I have Cinnamon and vanilla candles . The counters are bare. The Cupboards's are sterile... I'm purging all my drawers right now. First I emptied the all in about 5 minutes. Used a sweeper to vacuum the drawers, now I'm waiting g for the bleach wipes to dry , before putting anything back in. I had to throw out 5 bags of expired canned food and muffin pans that were never washed. Bought three new muffin pans that should be easier for me clean. After my wife's fake heart attack. We went back the bed bath and beyond for the new pans. There was drama , but I just stayed the course . There was tension until I pulled into the grocery store. We went and bought baking supplies. So I'm still in the kitchen today Tomorrow and Sunday. If the president came in we'd all be embarrassed. I'm up to 42 trash bags out. 60 storage tubs ready for shelving in storage. I do want to downsize the tubs. But living space first. My ultimate plan is sell most of it. But put put the sales into gift cards. When my daughter becomes of age. I'll give go rebuy that stuff. So plan is be Finished by March 1st. | |
| Tillie | Posted: 20 January 2017 - 02:10 PM |
HI 🙂 Nice day to stay inside. Whatever Ya'll are up to today | |
| Tillie | Posted: 19 January 2017 - 08:46 PM |
Hi Everybody 🙂 Anonymoniker Hi CriticalMass 🙂 Hi Tatoulia 🙂 This morning was chilly but not raining or snowing. Sleep well. (((hugs))) | |
| Tatoulia | Posted: 19 January 2017 - 08:06 PM |
Of course your pets still love you, CM! I'm dismayed that the mechanic hasn't called you. I am so sorry. I am home from another hectic day and I'm back in office again tomorrow. At least on Monday I can work from home. I'm tired and feeling drawn. Hello to all. Tillie I'm exhausted and can't wait for the weekend to keep working in the 30% plan. | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 19 January 2017 - 07:34 PM |
Got rid of the tires. Haven't heard from mechanic. (See previous post.) Doing okay otherwise. Nite! | |
| CriticalMass | Posted: 19 January 2017 - 11:23 AM |
Good morning, hoping this finds everyone well. Pain, welcome to this part of the board. 🙂 Always nice to have new people join in. I went to my clutter club meeting yesterday and was glad I did. I picked up a good tip - and then forgot what it was. Hope it will come back to me! But overall the meeting was good anyway, just to catch up on how everyone has been, and there were some new faces. It felt motivating to be there, so I hope to do something to further my progress today. Called Mr. Mechanic last night and this morning. I left short, hopefully cheerful sounding voicemails both times. (I don't always like leaving voicemail - it feels like "oh, now I wonder if they'll call me back and if I'll remember to monitor whether they do," etc. I definitely hate not having closure on a matter. Often I just won't leave a message, and will wait and call back at a time when I'm focused and hope I catch the person. It drives me crazy like, with the doctor's office, they don't have anything BUT voicemail anymore. Bleah. Modern life! I like texting better, too, because you have a record of what was said. My auditory memory stinks. Oh well, we'll see what happens. Mechanic was also supposed to have some voucher thing from the county so I could take the tires somewhere and dispose of them free. They are riding around weighing down the back end of the van and my soul. But since I can't get hold of him, I grow impatient. So I tried searching online for that county voucher - no luck, couldn't locate the link - but I did find a place that will take them for 3 bucks apiece, and though I'd prefer free, I'm thinking it may be worth 12 bucks just to have them GONE. It's like Tillie's trees, it would be such a relief! And who knows, it might make for less danger of the old shock absorbers giving out before the replacements can be installed. I have a lot of areas of my life I want to make forward progress in. My bond with my bunnies has been impaired by the fact that in this house they are way at the other end of the house than my room, and it didn't work out to try and give them an outdoor pen. I used to do that at the place I lived before, I'd carry them out and bring my book and tea and it was fun for all of us. Now their running pen is inside and small. But I'm going to start sitting in there on a small stool and at least that way they'll come up to me for pets and we'll be better connected. I'm sad that things have been so hectic I didn't commit to this months ago. The boy kitty has been coming up on my bed early in the night but not staying long, which was making me sad until I realized he sneaks back in in the night and sleeps at my feet! I wish he'd come back up on the other pillow but I guess he has to make that call himself. At least I know he still loves me. Well, off to climb mountains of clutter and conquer worlds. Ciao! | |