Hello All,

I am new to this board. I am here to understand hoarding. My mom is the hoarder. Her personality is one that expects to be taken care of. Someone to cook for her and clean for her and drive her around. I half jokingly say that I've been raising my mom since I was 12 years old. She is a hoarder. The whole house is hoarded. She has her bedroom stuff and there is a path to the bed that is also hoarded. She seems to think that one day someone is gonna come along and want to buy her dilapidated house and she'll make a big profit. My brothers and I have all offered to help her clean up to no avail. I am beginning to think it's either a depression or just her being lazy. For example..I bought her a vacuum over 10 years ago. Just yesterday my brother went over to change out her air filter. He went to use the vacuum and it was clogged solid. She hadn't bothered to change the vacuum bag in over 10 years!
We have all spoken to her about getting help cleaning up. She is very self righteous about it. She will clean up "when I am good and ready" She acts like a stubborn 2 year old. And she is 75.