Hello,
Have you thought about to get therapy, wether for you or for the whole family?
Does they recognize they have a problem?

I myself hire cleaning products because I have ocd and my ocd is to keep everything in its place and clean haha. My husband collects metal dishes and food he constantly worries about providing for his family,and our son hoards toys he's an adult but he has ocd and asburger. Because of my ocd to clean. No one knows my family hoards however I'm exhausted. Any ideals they won't let me get rid of anything.