My husband and I went out to fix my 71 year old Aunt's swamp cooler (which hasn't worked for 2-3 years - she lives in the desert with 120 degree heat) I just found out about it this Christmas when she came to visit, and we told her we would go out in the spring and fix it,
I walked in her home and she is out of control.
I knew she was a hoarder since childhood, but she kept it out of the common areas. She's refused to let anyone in her home (for good reason). Now she is living in a pile 5 feet deep that goes throughout her home, she has a tiny little walkway through it to the other rooms in the house.
On day one, I cleaned her kitchen, at first just discarding trash. I put out 20 bags of trash... and that evening, I called my mom, talked with my husband, and we decided she shouldn't be eating in her home. (She's had a consistent stomach bug for a couple of weeks, and she's sick all the time). So the next day I decided I would threaten to call social services (not really knowing if they'd do anything if I called), I also threatened to call her manager at work, where she brings food to share at work, and food gifts for her customers, she shouldn't be cooking in that kitchen, she has no place to store food, no place to properly prepare food, no place to cook the food, no place to wash her dishes.
I cleaned that kitchen, there were mouse droppings everywhere, roaches, roach feces, she must have had a pile of trash and food 3 ft tall on the counters and 5 ft tall on the floor, her kitchen sink, dishwasher, oven, microwave, toaster oven, blender, and refrigerator all do not work and were filled with dirty dishes, trash and expired food, her fridge and sink are filled with mold.
I had to yell at her to get her to let me throw out the food, even if it was years old... She would sneak it out of the kitchen and place it in other areas of the house.
My mom is going to go out there in a day or two and help her finish cleaning and take her to buy a new kitchen with working appliances.
She's pissed at me for obvious reasons. Defriended me on facebook, I clean her house and I'm the bad guy...
She is absolutely delusional, she lies, so I can't get straight answers out of her, I'm especially concerned about her preparing food in this place, her illnesses and taking it to work. What kills me is she doesn't think she is living in a hellhole. She's been sort of "off" all her life, but I never thought she would live like this, especially since she is so very judgmental about other people and the way they live.
What do I do?