| Oodles | Posted: 31 May 2015 - 07:53 PM |
I am hoping to join on a regular basis. I hoard....there I said it. I want to fix it or better it. It is taking me forever to post this. I did accomplish some cleaning today it felt great/scary but great. I am trying to look at what I did do & not what is left. My question today is have you ever run across someone you confided in & now it feels like they just want to show people your problem? (Circus-like oooohh I know someone that hoards?) After confiding they try to bring different people over. What caught my attention is I am very sick/in pain and there is never an offer of help? It completely shut me down for a month. I shut them down & guess what; I am getting some things done here. I posted why I hoard under CLC but, am changing to a befitting name: Oodles (if someone has it already let me know happy to change) | |
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| CriticalMass | Posted: 04 June 2015 - 09:07 AM |
Welcome, Oodles (cool name!) It is so important to be discerning about those we surround ourselves with in this time. If someone tries to treat us like a freak, how to deal with them may vary. Some will respond to a firm, tactful explanation of how that made us feel, and best case scenario will apologize and ask how they might do better in future. Others might not be as easy to have a talk with, but if they're basically good natured folk, maybe they'll respond to being given a task to do if they sincerely do want to help. And then there are simply those whom you don't need in your life at this point because they're undermining your efforts. The opposite problem - trying to find people - is unfortunately too common in our busy overbooked society. And hiring help is out of reach financially for many of us. Then being able if we do find someone to caution them to please not make judgmental comments when we've taken the scary step of letting them into our cluttered places. I don't have a lot of answers besides keep networking; I have trouble finding people too. But it's good when we can still press on and do what we can ourselves; maybe the people will show up at some point. | |
| Roxie | Posted: 01 June 2015 - 09:20 AM |
Welcome, Oodles. I haven't run into that name here, so I think you are okay! Come on over to the board with daily postings. Note the online support group meets twice a week but sometimes people hang out in that room, too, to meet up, chat, support one another. See you around! | |