Hello. I am new here. My mother is 83 years old. She is going blind. Her house has been cluttered for years and I stopped going to visit her because of it as all my attempts to help were met with opposition and we would just end up in fights. Instead, she would visit my house. Now that vision problems are developing, I have been going to pick her up. When I get to her house, she will not let me inside, but last week I got a glimpse inside. I fear she is living in dangerously filthy conditions, as in not just clutter, but actual filth. When I saw this, I told her I would be coming tomorrow to help her and that I would start by cleaning her kitchen for her. I was very supportive, I told her I loved her and she was not in this alone. Today she called me and told me I couldn't come tomorrow because she isn't feeling well. I said that's no bother because she can rest and I will do all the work. She made excuse after excuse and finally told me the sink is clogged so I can't even clean anyway. The paint is peeling and hanging in foot long pieces from the ceiling and the shower is also broken and my mother claims she just takes baths instead. Lately when she visits I have noticed an odor to her and the house certainly smelled when I caught a glimpse last week. I am beside myself and have no idea how to begin helping her. I need help. How and where do I start in this process?