Hi Ingrid!
I started making real progress when my youngest was your son's age.i had an accumulation of way more than three years that I had actually moved three times. You can do this.
Keep reminding yourself that your family is more important than stuff. Start by identifying the reasons you keep stuff (valuable, might be useful...) and finding the areas where the stuff comes in.
Usually stopping the stuff from coming in is easier than clearing stuff out, but it helps, so try not to bring anything home unless it's absolutely necessary. You may have to avoid places or activities in your life that you are used to.
If you are an alcoholic, you don't go to bars.
You may have to ask people not to give you stuff. I started by telling people "I really can't take anything new right now, i'm Trying really hard to clean out my house." (Which normal people think soundsperfectly normal btw.) and now, I actually tell people close to me that i'm A hoarder.
there is hope. My house has gotten so much better that people who didn't see it before will argue with me and tell me i'm Not a hoarder.
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