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Hoarding Help Message Boards : Motivation Needed? : Hoarding is making it hard to turn my life around
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Hoarding is making it hard to turn my life around
   

Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 08:51 AM
I live by myself, but my little house is down the driveway from my Dad's and Stepmom's house on farmland they own.
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Subclinical
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 04:15 AM
So you are getting an early start!

All you have to do is decide you want to do this and make it a focus.

You already started with the trash.

Do you live by yourself, or with other people?

I have to tell you, I don't think much of tests. They are mostly good at measuring how good you are at that kind of test.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 03:14 AM
Which I can't identify out of the rest of his equations because too me they might as well make no sense
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 03:10 AM
But to show I'm human I don't really understand Einstein's equations or any equations that complicated. I know they say he had Aspergers, but I swear he must also had Savant Syndrome that 1 out of 10 Autistics have to be as far ahead of their time as Einstein was. Just the fact he was able to create a theory of the existence of Black Holes before we had the technology to see signs of them in space with just equations must be some kind of proof of that
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 02:57 AM
I actually told one of my uncles' ex-wives about Autistic being good in math because she has a grandson who is Autistic
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 02:55 AM
For example, I can retain anything I'm interested in both reading listening and watching TV, and because of it I'm an excellent reader, know plenty about animals from stations like Animal Planet, and a Geek when it comes to History. And because Aspergers is a form of Autism, and those with some form of Autism seem to do well in math, naturally I'm good in math
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 02:51 AM
I'm also bellow Average-to average IQ but I think I might be higher than what I was tested in IQ in areas that IQ test don't test like with memory
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 02:48 AM
If anything he made himself less popular
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 02:47 AM
I never did anything to the guy, he just thought he can improve his popularity by picking on me which really didn't work and just got him in trouble.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 02:45 AM
Too be honest though I'm mature in some areas and immature in others. It's part of the reason growing up I get along with kids younger than me and adults but can be socially awkward with those my age. But despite the bullies I had thinking I was an easy target that they can get away teasing, I had enough friends to actually be popular when it comes to number of friends, just not as a clique. I even had a bully who was less popular than me both in friends and clique wise.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 10 February 2020 - 02:40 AM
I'm 29 and will be 30 this December 22nd
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Subclinical
Posted: 09 February 2020 - 08:20 PM
But now you get to choose.

Can I ask how old you are? I ask, because you sound like you might be young - which is great! So many of us don't start struggling with our demons until they have had much longer to sink their claws into us.

I think starting younger makes it easier. Not easier in the moment, but easier to build momentum and get to where you want to be.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 09 February 2020 - 08:12 PM
I know those might of been phases, but I also know some phases don't exactly phase out or transits into something else.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 09 February 2020 - 08:10 PM
Heck it might as well go farther back than my first death in the family, which was a cousin I grew up pretty close with and was like an older brother too me when I was eight to nine years old.

I know I wasn't the cleanest child because my parents and even grandparents who helped raised me always had stories involving (or might as well involved) me and messes I made, like the time I dumped butter on my head or ate an entire thanksging feast while my dad and biological mother was sick with the flu, or the time I got into a bowl of halloween candy. I don't have memories of those as I was too young to remember, which just shows how far back my problems with being clean goes
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Ashleigh
Posted: 09 February 2020 - 08:00 PM
My dad and stepmom probably take an organized hoarder over my mess. My dad and birth mother are divorced, broke up before I started high school, but I know that's not what started my downhill spiral with mess (Mostly because my siblings saw it coming with our parents constant arguments and every now and then temporary break ups). Nor was finally being diagnosed with Aspergers, which I want to say happened when I was 18, two years after I was diagnosed with CP, or even the bullying I went through since third grade. The fact the matter was, I never was exactly the cleanest child and although my self cleaning has improved my ability to clean my environment haven't in the past.
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Subclinical
Posted: 09 February 2020 - 09:13 AM
I have seen that.

An organized hoarder is still a hoarder. My grandmother was an incredibly organized hoarder. She could tell you where any item in her house was to within inches. When she died it took my mom and uncle (with help from other family members and eventually an auction company) over a year to empty the house.

For decades I thought that my problem was simply the inability to achieve that level of control and organization.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 09 February 2020 - 12:55 AM
Anyone seen the episode of the Big Bang Theory where Sheldon Cooper shows his girlfriend Amy his storage unit of discarded items over the years? They use that to show that Sheldon does have a hoarding problem just keep it in his storage unit, but that character had to be the most organized hoarder I've seen. He had everything organized in containers and boxes and stacked where he could find it. I don't even know if you could really call him a hoarder.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 08 February 2020 - 05:06 PM
Thank you for that. I really appreciate it. Today I dusted for cobwebs done and picked up some trash
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Subclinical
Posted: 07 February 2020 - 08:59 AM
Hi ashleigh.

Take a deep breath.

What are you doing today?

If you look around, can you tell us what you see that is easiest, most important, or closest? (Pick one)

I teach aspergers kids, and one of the things I notice is that a lot if them have really great ideas, but they can either get trapped on one path that isn't working, or have trouble figuring out the steps and order of steps they need to take to get there. Is that something you think is getting in your way?
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Ashleigh
Posted: 06 February 2020 - 09:16 PM
You guys probably can guess this, but I'm not a clean type/germophobic type of OCD
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Ashleigh
Posted: 06 February 2020 - 09:13 PM
choice to try those out the first time I mean since addiction to those stuff normally starts with the first try.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 06 February 2020 - 09:11 PM
Fortunately Aspergers doesn't make me a drug/alcohol/nicotine user/drinker unless by choice, and I choose to avoid that.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 06 February 2020 - 09:08 PM
See, Aspergers isn't just a form of Autism, it's a combination of the highest form of Autism and other disorders like Bipolar, Attention Deficient Disorder/Attention Deficient Hyperactive Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and other stuff I haven't fully understand.
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Ashleigh
Posted: 06 February 2020 - 09:04 PM
Thanks. Too be honest I'm a little worried about myself and not just in hoarding. I think my suspension from my job actually caused me to relapse a little into my other habits which isn't helping with my Hoarding but I'll do my best to bounce back
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Tillie
Posted: 05 February 2020 - 11:13 AM
Hello Ashleigh

Motivation...
It's hard to get motivated when we look at EVERYTHING that needs to be done.
It's all just too overwhelming and we get paralyzed just thinking about it.

Best way to get moving and keep moving is to break it down into smaller tasks.

Example...
Grab a bag and start filling it with any obvious trash/garbage.
Take that bag out to the trash can or dumpster.

There, you did it!!! :D
You completed one small cleaning task.

Pick a section of a table or counter top.
Clear and clean one small square foot off.
Just one small section.

There!
Another cleaning task completed! :D

Keep chipping away at it.
Stand back and admire your work, a job well done.
Hopefully this will motivate you to continue on.

Most time motivation follows action.
Meaning when you see good results you are then motivated to continue on with it.

Do NOT make any long lists of To-Dos.
Make short lists of only small areas or one bag out.
Long lists tend to crush motivation.

Good luck and best wishes :D
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Ashleigh
Posted: 04 February 2020 - 10:45 PM
I have Aspergers Syndrome, which is a type of Autism and mild case of cerebral palsey which made me elgible for disability. Recently, however, I been trying to turn my life around and get a job, and I started off volunteering.

Sadly to say, even as a child I never been the cleanest in my family, especially when it comes to rooms and living space and it got worse over time. I do take showers and change clothes, but my living space still looks like a disaster and it's starting to attract pest.

Because of those pest, I been suspended from my job until I can clean my place up and get an exterminator here. I got started in cleaning, but motivation been down and I still have a long way to go before my place is ready for extermination.
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