How do you get the help with no Support System and no money?
Many Hoarders Isolate. Sent in my Story to Hoarders on TV and they were interested. But when it came to contacting my family--They would not get involved and So I did not Get the Help I Needed.
I am still a Hoarder with many beautiful useable Items. Part of the Problem is that I am an artist and When I see Beauty, I Buy it or Useful Items, I buy it. Similar to a "Nesting" attitude. To Help Someone that might need this. Collect Informational Things like Support Group Flyers to Help Someone or post at the Libraries and then I never get around to it sometimes and the Flyers build up.
Isolation is Common to Hoarders because they do not want someone to see their homes, so although I meet many people out,---they are never invited to my home, so the relationship CANNOT BUILD further. When people do see the inside, they JUDGE which worsens it for a Hoarder.
To help a Hoarder, NON-JUDGMENTAL PEOPLE are needed. Understanding but encouraging and just someone to sit with you while you go through the paperwork and ask you, "Why do you want that?" helps. No experts necessarily, just someone who cares and will ask you, "Why do you need that?" and you have to answer. I know I have a problem, but just need someone to sit with me while I go through the Trauma of sorting through my useful clutter. I will send some useful items to various agencies such as AmVets, Salvation Army, Refugee Agencies and Consignment Stores to get sold. Cannot do Garage Sales, too painful and takes too much energy out of me.
Started a Hoarders Support Group using Book Buried In Treasures that is very practical. Even though you might be alone, you have to start somewhere. Pick up the book, Buried in Treasures, sometimes at libraries, read it. Start in smallest room, clean it. Do exits and entrances, Safety. Clean off Beds, showers, sinks(mold), spot to eat at table and create trails and chip away every day. Papers are toughest. Pay Bills and try to keep utilities on. Keep special place for keys, bills, and phones. Put things in boxes and label: Keep, Give Away and Sell. LIKE ITEMS WITH LIKE ITEMS. Pants with pants, shampoos with shampoos, office supplies together, batteries together. Need lots of boxes all sizes and label.
Like items together and label. Hoarders might have a lot of same items, but they are not organized. Once they get them together, they might realize they do not need 20 items of the same thing and it is easier to get rid of some like items. Stickees helps to label give away items.
Do it One Day at a Time. We can Do this!!! You are important! God loves you where you are at. Chip away one day at a time. Start or Join a Support Group in your area that deals with Hoarding. You do not have to be there yet. Use a Hoarding Book to Guide You. Encourage others who are Organized People to make some extra money and help sort through things.
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