so great to hear from you Dianne, wonderful those 2 helpers have helped you stay motivated

Hi Dianne :)
Thank you so very much for posting. :D
Take care and know you are in our thoughts. (((HUGS)))

OK, say nice things to myself, nice things to myself, nice things to myself. It's OK that you posted your goals in this thread today instead of the thread you meant to post them on, LR2014. At least you made an effort, LR2014. Progress, not perfection. (Hugs to myself, right?)

Goals for today:

Add to my gratitude list. Start the process of clearing out and/or reorganizing the items that are now in the back end of my vehicle. Get some paperwork ready for the mail. Check this week's to-do list I started on Monday. Take the items I bagged up yesterday to Goodwill. Say nice things to myself today.

Thinking nice thoughts about all of you! :)

Hi Dianne :)
BIG (((HUGS)))

Good to hear from you, Dianne. Sorry you're going through rough stuff right now. Hugs.

KARL!!! :D
Thanks so much for checking in!!! :D
(((hugs)))

Thanks Dianne, I agree that computer wastes too much of my time too. I do appreciate hearing from you, was wondering about the shopping, and relieved to hear you are doing so well, hugs to you

Hi Dianne :)
Thanks a million for checking in! :D
WTG! on keeping on keeping on.
Yes, the computer can become a great time waster. ;)
Haven't heard from Karl. :(

Dianne,
That is what the symbols on top of the numbers are for; or if all else scrambled letters on the keyboard,

like this: oaiwhergnoi, or (*^*&%(%*
Or just (Bleep) (Bleeping) as examples for fun.

I know you already this already but saves you others opinions on choice of words later so you can keep venting without stopping to correct language later.

just randomly works best hitting all the keys at once usually gets best results unless you want a particular symbol(s)


But my goal is to reapply in May take test, win an interview, then finish steps to win job.

Still applying for jobs in the meantime though.

Dianne,
Yes it is necesary to have to wait til May, She said 6month before I can reapply.

I'm still looking for other employment but it's not easy getting a call from potential employers.

I am still trying and applying for other jobs and still getting dead ends.

Bleeping out words or symbols to words is the only way to keep venting words clean to vent.

Most employers or companies have a 6month, 3month waiting before reapplying.

Tillie,
She's demanding money ever since we graduated High School and the same from our brother.
She made up a list ever since we became legal age.

I believe the only true money I really owe her is the amount she helped me get my car from the dealer. I was able to pay off the dealer by myself but to get it off the lot and make payments I needed her help to get it off the lot. Payments were all on my own. The car is completely mine. I have the title in my name only.

But as for the rest of the money, she's claiming for all the times we owe her for living from dead beat jobs that we couldn't pay anything with. Not even afford a tank of gas with the jobs that I had ever since I was 16. Now waiting to get called for work, money is very tight for me and need help paying for the car insurance to keep driving. She won't let me drive her other spare car, so I don't have a choice to keep it insured.

Hi Lynn :)

First,
Good therapists know when someone is not telling the truth.
They have many ways to ferret out the true story.
Anything you say to a therapist will never be repeated to anyone, ever.
Second,
Many many bullies threaten people with law suits.
They use these threats to control people.
It would be very hard for her to prove in a court of law that she is entitled to take away all your paychecks.
Even if she is entitled to a cash settlement it would be limited to a certain amount of money, not necessarily the amount she is demanding, and it would only be a one time payment to her, not forever, and she would not be allowed to take you back into court to demand more & more of what she thinks you still owe her.
Look up "free" legal advice in your area and find out exactly she could do.
I believe she has you worrying about stuff you need not worry about.
Good luck and best wishes. :)

Sorry.
I just feel like it is very false hope for me, like digging in a quicksand pit.

All I can ever do here is vent, vent and vent some more.

I keep trying to get a job to keep for more than a few weeks, months even but now I finally have a chance to reapply in May.

The only scary thing is though I need to find protection for me from her, so that she doesn't garnish my checks in any way. As I said before she doesn't want anybody coming to the door and giving her a hastle with her "stuff" or she will come after me even if I'm out on my own.

How in the world can I report her and protect myself at the same time from her going to get a court order on me later.
That is the big question I really need an answer to.
She doesn't like me going to a counselor in fear someone will come to the door and start something with her. If that happens I'm up ****creek!

I have to find some kind of guarenteed protection from her if and when I can report her.
For her hoarding is heredity, she also suffers from PTSD, and OCD, fear of losing memories from her late mother,sister,father.

I'm just so curious to what she could possibly say to the counselor if she is alone to convince the counselor that she isn't mentally ill and try to put me in the wrong of false accusations.

Hi Lynn :D
Thank you so very much for checking in with us.
We missed you and all hoped you were well.
Please don't be a stranger around here.
:)

Hello All!

I messed up my chance for getting a well paid job just minutes from where I live because I messed up in the interview holding back some information about the temp job agency that I'm currently with with no work to do now. Now I have to wait 6months to reapply again and try again. Gosh I'm so upset at myself!!

Still arguing with mother(the hoarder) and she said the only way she's going to see a counselor is if it's a legite one and seperately so she can tell her side of the story. I honestly don't know how the counseling thing goes but I did find a counselor very near by in the state I live in. Once I told her (mother) that she shows signs of PTSD, and OCD, she said "What else are you going to tell her that I do this: waving arms up in air and screaching in a normal tone voice" Which means that she thinks that she is going to tell her that she's mentally crazy. Which I will not.
I will tell the counselor that her mother and her mother's mother was also a hoarder and she has been a hoarder all her life too. Her plain reason for most of it is that she doesn't have sentimental stuff from her mother such as pictures or other items that she would like to have.
She said that when I'm off of probation for the job she was going to almost completely garnish my check by court order in order to start paying her back as she claims for all the money debt that I owe her. So far she said that as long as I start paying her she won't do that. I told her the debt collectors, hospital bills and student loans must come first. When they are taken care of then I'll figure out how to deal with her. I'm still trying to find out how to get protection from her once I am able to move out and finally out of the cluttered nest. Oh it would be so awesome!
But until then I just have to wait until I can reapply.

Hi Dianne :)
Glad you enjoyed the down time solitude at the beach.
Hope your back is feeling better.
Yes that is very sad news. :(
What the *&%$ is wrong with people.
I live very near a Naval Air Station (Top Gun) so it hit close to home here too.
Looking forward to when all your "have tos" get finished and you can post more regularly. :)

Just had a freaky encounter tonight! I was going to close the back door to mother's van after putting groceries up and a lady approached me with her hand in her open purse and asked me if I had a charger for a phone. I told her no but just at that time too Katie (sis) was also approaching me from behind. Mother's van is near the end of the drive way due to three cars, one, mine the other two she owns, but after I responded to saying no I didn't she still had her hand in her open purse about waist high and walking away. Just now I feel the flags or fear of something but I didn't as she had approached me. Not so sure if contacting the police of suspicious activity is a good idea or not. I can remember what she looked like but mainly my focus was on her hands. WHat would you do in this situation?

HI!!!!! LYNN!!!!! :D
Really been missing you! So happy you posted! :D
Wishing you all the best of luck with your employment!!!
:D

Hello everyone,
So sorry for not posting lately at all. I've been so busy searching and applying online for either cleaning jobs or factory jobs. I finally got one that is just a few miles from home. So far I'm able to work from Mon-Thurs from 6am-6pm on first shift. My first day was on Thurs. I am so hoping this job will last more than a month unlike the last two jobs that I tried to hold. I hope and pray that I can finally be able to move out at least after a few months praying that I can stay there long term, but learned I must take one day at a time hoping I can still work there the next day and the following Monday through Thurs. This is the first time of employment since July 17 of this year.

Hi Dianne :)
Hoping that getting out to the beach can help chase those fears and depression away.
It is hard trying to balance decluttering/cleaning along with general daily maintenance.
We can only do just so much in a day.
Take care and keep posting for us.
(((hugs)))

HI everyone,

Sorry for not posting lately. Had a bad nightmare a couple of night ago and so my sleeping arrangements went askew. I actually at night. WOW. (without alcohol or meds.)

On the De-Hoaqrding side of things, I have been picking up items and putting them down in the correct place. The odd book, wooden stick,and finding homes for a mirror, I had made back in '96, some old books that I had needed to research with. AT the end of all of this random home finding excercise I had cleared a surface. Feeling good.

I hope MayMay enjoys her trip to LA.It's good to have some time off (for good behaviour. lol).

Take care all.

Hello Dianne, I just came in to see what you were posting, I have read a lot of your posts they are so helpful and encouraging.

A bed is one of my goals as well, I am sleeping on an air mattress at the moment which isn't that bad its just... not a real bed hahaha.

I have trouble getting out but I have a friend who frequents the thrift and consignment shoppes so I have asked her to keep an eye open. I have a truck so if she finds one I can get it moved, too.

I heard about that washing machine part hang in there I know that's a tough one!

New mattresses are a GREAT goal to strive for.
Get the areas ready now so in the future if new mattresses come your way you will be all ready for them. :D

Thanks for checking in...I've been wondering about you. It's okay to post even if you have no progress to report. Hugs.

HI Dianne :)

Thank you for checking in. :D
You are so lucky getting that water filtration system!
Wish I had one. Only have unfiltered well water so I buy my drinking water. :(

Take care and don't be a stranger.
(((hugs))) :)