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venting
Posted: 16 May 2013 - 02:15 PM
When I was working I was saving up again for all the savings that I blew buying my car. I had spend almost all of my savings to buy my car and was hoping to keep woking to rebuild up my savings to be as I was once before. But life doesn't happen on plans that you know in advance.
With the mentality of a gradeschooler I can't really accomplish a whole lot. I've tried honestly. I've looked into on how to start your own business and to me it's complicated. I've always strugggled in school with my grades always being D's and F's and lower scores, even in college just passing by the skin of my teeth with C's.
Cleaning around the house is not advised due to my mother's illness. It's hard to take out the trash due to narrow opening of the door, no vacuum, narrow isles to walk around. Remembering the hoarding rule: Never touch a hoarder's stuff. I only wash the dishes that I use because mother doesn't clean them properly.
Doc's orders to stay off knee for three weeks to get better is a must though. THen I can call back employer for interview.
I have had head injuries due to construction classes that I've had. I've also had a mental burn out from stressing out to pass a test for a final exam. I can't go to college anymore due to funding and mentally I can't do it anymore. I was hoping job security was cleaning at the Refinery but stuff happens. It's odd to only have a corporate office only in Houston TX and only a side office in the Whiting Refinery. No other locations available.
I was planning on staying at the Refinery to clean and then move out as soon as I rebuilt the savings that I had. Now that plans have changed for a while it's on hold. I am the only one who brushing my teeth and takes showers regularly. Until I got injured it's been hindered a little but still brush teeth and take care of self. I'm still applying for jobs online and sending out my resume like crazy but not getting responses back except for the one on which I have to wait a few weeks and call for an interview. I am a visual learner which makes learning for me very difficult. I have severe test anxiety, have tried every method in the book to relax for taking tests and don't work. How many years of trying to I need to try and do stuff and fail to prove I can't do complex things? All I ever want to do in life is be a cleaner. It is my dream job.

Northern Indiana isn't hiring. It's on the news every other day quite honestly.
The only jobs up for grabs is always nursing and engineers. Half of the nurses that sign up for nursing program graduate because it is so tough to pass.
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venting
Posted: 14 May 2013 - 04:01 PM
One thing about this message board is that we must be honest with ourselves and each other.
We are all here to accomplish something very important.
Very often the truth hurts. We can not allow that to keep us from speaking up. To do so would just be enabling each other and then nothing would ever be accomplished here.
We are all here to be accountable to each other and encourage us all to move forward every day to a healthier and happier lifestyle.
Physically, mentally and spiritually.
We do not and have not attacked or picked on anyone. We do not allow cyber-bullying.
So very sorry when the truth hurts.
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venting
Posted: 14 May 2013 - 03:16 PM
perhaps people are hoping you will look at your life as choices you have made, and not what has happened to you without looking at your part in it. At 34 to live at home and have no savings to fall back on, is odd to some of us who have worked and taken care of ourselves for years. It sounds like you are not taking any advice you are given, just make excuses why it won't work. did you apply for unemployment? Did you go to small business association for help and advice to start your own business? Did you go to employment office to get help finding a job, any job so you can be self sufficient. Have you applied at all schools, hospitals, offices, businesses for cleaning jobs? Food service? I think people are tired of listening to you say what is wrong with the job market, your mother, your sister. It is abuse if your mother destroyed your relationship with your boyfriend, is mean and nasty to you etc. Negativity is abuse. Your posts never say what you are doing daily to do chores around the house, and don't say your mother won't let you wash dishes, prepare meals, vacuum etc. Or tell us what you do each day to look for work or start your own business. You can advertise to clean for donation only, then can get started without worrying about license, taxes etc.
You don't tell what you do for self care. Are you clean, healthy appearing, teeth in good shape, healthy weight, clean attractive hair, so you present your self well in an interview.
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venting
Posted: 13 May 2013 - 06:27 PM
I fell off my bike on May 1 because I rode up a curb that had sand over it due to construction which gripped my tire and made me fall hard on the concrete hurting my knee and ankle.

I'd like to know what way is that abuse?
I'm applying for jobs and getting no responses back for I can't call them for a follow-up either.

My mother is very controlling yes but as soon as I can get some money to get out I will leave in a heartbeat! Why should I go to a abuse shelter when I'm not getting physically abused?

My mother is mentally ill and there is nothing I can do to help her. When I can get a steady job, I'm outta there! people getting the wrong f$%%^#$ idea.
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MayMay
Posted: 29 April 2013 - 03:28 PM
Hi Lynn,

It is so true about the "Don't call us, we'll call you" thing when it comes to looking for a job. I also remember a few years ago, back when I was looking for a job, whenever I would do a follow up by going to one of the places that I applied for and asking about my application, the person that I asked would always give me a weird look and then tell me that they will call me if they are interested. Some people are total snobs that way. :(

I was so happy when I finally got my job at the bar. I didn't even have to interview for it. I just got it by flirting with my boss. I remember the night I met him at the bar, right before I was about to leave with my friend, she dared me to go up to him and pinch him on his butt; so I did and I also called him a "Stud Muffin" and then ran out the door. Then a few days later, I went back to the bar and saw him again. He asked me if I was the girl that pinched him; and I told him, yes it was me. Then we got to talking and he offered me the job. He told me that my spunky, upbeat, flirtatious, party girl personality was just what his bar needed. :)
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Lynn S
Posted: 29 April 2013 - 01:30 PM
My mother still claims that my sister had found a job, but if it wasn't for me my sister would still be unemployed and I'd be working still.

She won't admit it truly that if it wasn't for me she wouldn't have found any work.

I'm still out in the dumps looking and getting closed doors and my sister still isn't looking either as she claims to be

It's so frustrating not getting credit for something good I had done.
Mother just won't admit that Katie(my sis) didn't find a job, I DID! for her.

Maybe I shouldn't help my sister out anymore if I'm never going to get the credit for it.

For now I don't seem to be selfish to want a job for me that I can claim all credit for doing all the hard work and going to apply to them and hope for some kind of respond back.
But today's society is "Don't call us, we'll call you". Nobody leaves numbers to follow up either to leave it at just that.
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MayMay
Posted: 29 April 2013 - 12:22 PM
Great thread idea! I don't have anything to vent about right now. But I'm sure something that I would want to vent about will happen one day.
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Lynn S
Posted: 28 April 2013 - 10:19 PM
To having a hard day, being lied to or just want to get something off your mind. Let out the anger here. I would always use symbols to vent words where appropriate.
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