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Sorry to hear about your friend.
And she's lucky to have someone trying to help that understands hoarding from an experience point of view.
You said there are teenagers that live there.
Once she becomes unable to care for herself .
Children's services May get involved. They will look In food pantries to see they have food.
To the electricity is on. That hallways are clear invade of fire. That the children have beds.
And running water to bathe.
Does she have insurance?
Is there any risk that she could lose her home if she lives longer.
Has she filed for disability, and or qualify for disability.
About the hoard.
Is she willing to clear living space.
Get the apps like let go.
Get some stickers to put prices on obstacle clutter. And add something's as free .
This is just something I would do . And I do t speak for this site.
Start to separate what holds onto as sentimental.
What she holds onto because of its value.
What she holds onto because she's saving for others. - Contact those folks, and ask them for help. Have them take stuff with them.
Hire someone to clean the bathrooms and kitchen .
Contact her social worker and ask if they. An help with kitchen and bathrooms.
Find friends or volunteers that are willing to be I charge. Of 1 or 2 rooms. Have them come on Different days. So that you have two helpers always.
Try not to discuss to much , just do it. Just clear space , find a way to not throw anything away.
Words like to storage, for garage sale, for donating.
I would move from The Front room to the back.
Don't depend on the teenagers to do anything.
Insist that their floors can be swept. And all their clothes washed every week.
If you have to find a neighbor that can help wash their dishes and or their clothes.
Possible from A church nearby.
If you can post some pictures. This will help me understand the gravity of the hoard.
We can sort what needs to be done. And see if you can find helpers and volunteers to delegate tasks.
I found my wife's situation. Is very similar and faced a hoard myself, many people willing to help, but not come back after seeing the hoard. My biggest thing I learned was since it wasn't a move.
It was just clearing clutter objects. I didn't need a big rental truck. Just a van sometimes for big stuff.
Heavy trash day runs 1 time a month an I asked neighbors if they didn't have anything if I could put more stuff in their spot.
Knowing these would come around. I put some of our a few weeks early just to open up space inside...
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What empowered me.
I used to watch trading spaces TV show.
They use an F-stop camera as they clear space.
I realized I was watching 2-3 people clear any room in 2-3 hours. Where they weren't sort or purging
They were simply clearing space. That empowered me to have confidence that I can usurp the sorting process, and clear space....
So I did clear my house out. And then in the following months sort it later from storage.
If she can part with the stuff she's willing to sell. It may pay for a storage. And what ever didn't sell I donated , as a taxes deduction.
$500 for me and $500 for my wife.
But yes there some things I could move unless my wife got money for. So I sold some of my own junk and paid her off to get rid of it.
So my advice.
#1 Clear the,hallways, kitchen and bathrooms
#2 Clear the front room .
#3 organize a Chili party of her friends or/and volunteers. Clear the entire downstairs. Assuming it's a two-story house.
I'll add more if you post back with more details
This is not a suggestion. It is what I did.
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