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To everyone here who brings in clutter--
Thank you for being on this board. Thank you for recognizing a problem exists. You give me hope that someday, by some miracle, my brother might realize it.
Right now he has practically zero insight. It is so maddening. Our garage was filled and one day we stood in front of it and I said to him "You think this is organized?" His now ex girlfriend had thrown a bunch of junk in there. There was so much stuff it couldn't be organized. But he stood there with a straight face and said yes. My jaw dropped.
He thinks the fact that I refuse now to go to the house is all about me and my "fears". He says I merely need to get over therm. I've tried to tell him the problem is in his own brain, even pointing out the medical evidence, but he doesn't listen. In fact, when I tried that he took an antique sink he had collected and smashed it violently to pieces. That was his bizarre way of trying to prove he doesn't have an attachment to things. He had no idea that in doing so he was just giving more evidence that he is mentally ill.
He often smashes or otherwise destroys things when he is in a rage. I think that is from the drug history. He punched and broke a picture of his wife in front of her and their son, causing the son to cry. It was that incident that made her decide the marriage was over. He later slashed a picture of her and her family. In late 2015, months after our mother passed, he found himself unable to unlock the door to his mini-apartment above our garage. The mini apartment was horrifically hoarded but he had not yet invaded the main part of the house. A rational person would have decided simply to sleep in the house that night and deal with it later, but what did he do? Went inside the house and BROKE OFF THE UPPER HALF OF THE DOOR THAT LED FROM THE INSIDE OF THE HOUSE TO THE APARTMENT. That way he could climb over a bunch of the hoard and a dresser that were back there and sleep in his hoarded section. He had three perfectly clear bedrooms he could have used along with two shower facilities, and could have washed and reused the clothes he had on for work.
It gets a lot worse as you might have read in my other posts. So thank you for giving everyone hope. It's nice to see some people taking charge of their lives. I'm trying to take charge of my own as well.
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