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I have the same problem but in an NYC apt. I've reached rock bottom with my spouse being in denial and it's affecting our 8 year old daughter. it's horrible. Hang in there.

It helps to read that others have similar experiences.

Thanks Tillie. I was doing that with the family room but got so tired of it that I let it slack and wow, it takes over fast. I will get it cleared and keep defending it. No other choice, right?

On a happier note I am cleaning MY room today. I noticed I had also let that room go and clutter has been building (MY clutter this time) so this morning I went in, sorted out some thing to get rid of and started putting other things away in their places. It's looking so much better already and that makes me feel better. It is hard to sleep in clutter, for me.

Hi :(
I know exactly how you are feeling.
Unfortunately for us, if they do not want to change their ways, they won't.
Keep trying to make your "NO CLUTTER ZONES" and defend them at all times.
Once you have cleared an area make sure that anything he drops in there is immediately shoved into "his" designated spaces.
This is the only way that I have found to keep my own sanity.
(((HUGS)))

I came back to update. This is a place I come to try and find help suggestions and to vent as the wife of a hoarder.

I didn't end up kicking him out or filing for divorce. It would be so, so damaging to the children that I can't bring myself to do it. But I am so miserable with him in my home. Over a month later and apparently all his wet moldy things have found a permanent home in the garage and I will never be able to walk through there again. He has started filling the storage room with MORE junk, and the family room is about 1/5 taken over now in just the last 30 days. I know I have to just wait until he is not home and take all of it and move it from the family room back to his room or the garage. It is so disheartening and sometimes I feel like just letting go and drowning in this sea of junk... letting him cover our whole lives with his things. The fight is exhausting and I feel like he is poisoning me with all his stuff but he doesn't care. The stuff is more important than any person in the world. I am getting so depressed.

Hello :)
I truly understand your frustration.
You must do whatever you feel is the best for you and your child.
Only thing I can suggest is for you to go to counseling with or without him.
This is like ALANON where you learn to take care of your needs in spite of the person displaying the damaging behavior. Where you learn how to not let his sickness make you and your child sick too.

Wish there was a magic wand to make it all better.
(((hugs)))

I have posted here before. I'm the wife of a hoarder.

Today may be the last straw. I am seriously thinking about filing for divorce. I am SO angry!! I don't know what to do.

My "husband" has filled up his den, half the garage, and "his" storage room (a room we had built with outside access, for things like tools, rakes, paint, other items we both want to store) with HIS boxes of junk. In fact I have posted before about MY double car garage (my house, I bought it before we met) that he had almost filled with his crap. Finally I decided enough was enough, I moved all MY things to one wall of the garage and some in the center, joint family items along another side, and gave him a full half of the garage for his junk, which he quickly filled. It was so bad that just this year I went in there are started selling MY things and my children's things on Craigslist to make room for walkways. Finally I got a narrow oval path through MY garage so we could get to the doors and have access to all the stuff.

The storage room, which was supposed to be for rakes and things, he quickly filled literally wall to wall and to the ceiling with cardboard boxes of junk. Junk he has not looked at in a decade. Last year MICE got into the boxes. He just put down mouse traps and went on. Then this week a pipe in there sprung a leak and got all his boxes wet! Great, I thought, at least he will have to sort stuff and throw some of it away. NOPE!!!!!!! I thought he was doing that. He had to pull out every box so we could fix the pipe. The whole back patio and yard was covered with wet boxes and junk. A lot of the boxes are books, so ruined. Last night I saw everything was out of the storage room and today I thought he would sort out the damaged junk. But do you know what he did while I was gone? He got my son to help him move ALL those wet, mouse ridden, disgusting, moldy boxes into the garage.... FILLING the pathway and aisles I had made, literally packing them wall to wall and to the ceiling with his wet, damaged boxes and crap!!!!! I cannot even walk in there to find my own things now! I was so mad. I told him he needed to throw out some of those things... that they were ruined and he had not looked at them in a decade and he got angry and said "I don't want to hear that right now!" and stormed away.

So I have a garage full of ruined wet crap, his den (which if you remember, was MY beautiful, custom built office before h took it over and ruined it), and next he will refill the storage room with MORE crap.

I have SO had it. I would rather be a poor, single mother with our child having to go back and forth to his filth pit and my house, than do this ANY more. If evicting him is the only way to evict his STUFF, so be it!