BREAKING NEWS!!!

He is burning more of that rotted lumber and pointed out to me that he is building a pile of metal closer to the side gate because it will be easier to load into the truck from there.

He came to this decision all on his own.
I haven't even mentioned the scrap yard to him in weeks. :D

Hello :)

Today my plan is to...
do the daily tasks
vacuum the carpet
wash my hair
work on the new sewing project

He should still be decluttering the side yard.
He plans to just move (churn) the stuff to a new location and not think of getting rid of anything.
Honestly, it would be easier to get rid of it than to relocate it.
This is all stuff that has sat there for over a decade and is rotting and rusting and really no good for anything.
But he thinks he might need it some day.
That is why he is a hoarder. ;)


Have a great day! :)

Today is 12 12 12

And at 12 minutes after 12 it will be

12:12 12 12 12


:D

OMG!!! I just met Dr. House! :D

I just came back from an appointment with my neurologist that I see every 6 months about my epilepsy. Every time I go and see him he always has a younger doctor with him. And today while I was at my appointment the younger doctor that was with him was named Dr. House. :D

Yeah I have learned something from all of the professionals from HOARDERS and also from watching all of the tv shows about the hoarding disorder. But most of what I've learned about the hoarding disorder I have learned from Cory and his websites 1-800-HOARDERS.com and this website hoardingcleanup.com. Every time I hear someone say that hoarding is not a true disorder I immediately get out my iPad and get on 1-800-HOARDERS.com to show them that hoarding is a true disorder.

He has been out decluttering that side yard since early morning.
He is still out there but the sun is setting and it is getting very cold.

:D

I have learned something from all the professionals that have posted on the A&E messageboard.
I have read the books and articles and learned from them too.

But having Cory and all the people who visit the chatroom giving me insight, motivation and answering all my questions is where I have gotten the most success.

Working with a reluctant hoarder who refuses to get professional help is why I needed the professional help to help me.

Watching HOARDERS and the way they deal with all the different personalities has given me a lot of ways to approach my hoarder to get the results that I am hoping for.

Before, I was in a very hopeless situation.
It is slow going and there is always back sliding.
But it is getting better all the time. :D

Most of what I have learned about the hoarding disorder I have learned from Cory.

Honestly before I started having a crush on Cory, I just thought that hoarders were just lazy people who didn't like to clean their own house.

Good morning Cory :D

We posted at the same time.

Thank you! :)

I am still in shock how easy it went and that he even stood up and took care of another problem without me even saying anything about it.

I think he is taking personal responsibility for the septic tank issue and now knows that the mess and expense is all because he did not do simple maintenance over the years.
He was hit in his wallet pretty hard too. 1,700.00 and he is taking it like a man. :D

You have given me the knowledge, education and encouragement to stand up for what I need and I can't ever thank you enough.

(((hugs))) :D

Good morning :)

Today I will continue to wash his laundry and the dishes he dug out of his room.

He has his work cut out for himself clearing the side yard.
That is where he has tossed a LOT of rotting old lumber, big heavy sheets of corrugated steel, old metal drums/barrels, fencing wire of all kinds, windows, doors, patio furniture, dead lawn mowers, an old camper off a truck, pipe.....
and the list goes on and on.

He could make a nice piece of change if he were to sell all this at the scrap yard.
Not enough to cover the cost of having to replace the leech lines but enough to make it worth his time to get rid of it all.

Tillie,
That is AMAZING!
I am so happy for you as you really needed an event like this to happen. I can't take the credit, as you never know how a hoarder will respond and I think you must have caught him when all the stars were in alignment. But, with that being said, you cohabitate there and he cannot live any way he wants to. He is an adult and needs to respect you and your home and it is ok for you to stand up and be heard...so congrats to you and your successful day!

HOARDERS can also be watched online on the A&E site.
That is where I watch it.
It is usually available shortly after 10pm PST.

I don't have that much planned for today. I just woke up a few minutes ago with a killer headache. So right now I am going to take something for my headache and then watch the episode of HOARDERS that I recorded last night.

Hey Tillie,
Yeah you are probably right. Probably nothing will happen. :)
I won't lie though; if something does actually happen on December 21st I really hope that it would be something like alien robots coming to earth to live with us. Kind of like in the movie "Transformers". That would be pretty awesome. ;)
OPTIMUS PRIME FOR PRESIDENT!!! Lol.

WTG! On being able to get your husband to Declutter and clean his room. :)

I can't believe how this day turned out.
This morning I calmly and rationally explained what he needed to do in his bedroom.
He said OK but that he needed to go talk to someone first.
He returned shortly with a man who replaces septic systems for a living.
Not maintaining our septic tank has destroyed our leech lines.
The man pointed out to him that he needed to declutter the side yard for the work to be done.
My hoarder spent many hours out there and he even started to burn some old rotten lumber he has been holding onto for years.

Then he came inside and cleaned his room for hours. Even shop vacuumed and got those big cobwebs too.
His room no longer stinks and is not dangerous any more.

He plans to work decluttering the side yard the rest of the week and the work installing the new lines is scheduled for the end of next week.

You were right Cory! :D
It was time to push him.
But it all went so easy this time and he even got busy on important stuff without me even mentioning it.

Thank you for your support and encouragement.

Sincerely, Tillie :D

MayMay,
Settled down. NOTHING is going to happen.
Honestly.

Ok, I am officially scared of what might happen on December 21st of this year. Right now I am watching a documentary on NatGeo about the end of the world and what might happen on December 21st. It's kind of freaking me out. I was originally going to throw a party on December 20th that I was going to call "the end of the world party." because I didn't really think that anything is actually going to happen on December 21st. The party is supposed to start around 8:00pm and then end around 6:00am on December 21st; but now I'm starting to change my mind and I think I might go hide inside a bunker instead. They are talking about some really freaky stuff happening on December 21st.

ROTFLMAO! :D

lololololololololol

Thank you! :D

Good morning :)

OK
Today's plan is to "motivate" my hoarder.
Starting with his bedroom.
Last time he cleaned/cleared the center of the room and the bed but did not do around the edges.

Since then the clutter has crept back into the center and some back onto the bed.

It is mostly garbage/trash and that rubble kind of stuff all over the carpet.

His T0-DO list.....
Gather all dirty laundry, strip the bed too.
Bag up ALL the trash and take it out to the can.
Shop vac up all the rubble.

That should improve the smell in there 100%.
Then I will allow the door to be open to take advantage of the warmth in the rest of the house.

This may take more than one day to accomplish, depending on how much effort he puts into it.

Wish me luck! :D

Hey Tillie,
ROTFLOL! :D
I actually would not be surprised if Cory and Matt did leave the toy there on purpose just to trip me. Lol. Because they love to do stuff like sneak up behind me and jump on me while I'm doing stuff around the house. And sometimes when I'm laying in bed and they decide to jump up onto the bed they always jump up on the side that I am laying on. Lol. :)

The sun is shining, no clouds or fog.
Beautiful day but cold.

He left this morning but came back already.
His friends are probably tired of him always hanging around with them. :)

I am still waiting for him to do something/anything around here.
There is soooo much that needs to be done and it's all his stuff so I can't just start tossing or unsqualoring.

I am sitting at the bottom of this deep dark well of depression.

Anyways...
My To-Dos for today are
shower & get dressed
try to remember that tonight at 5pm PST is chat


Try to make this a good day! :)

MayMay

The dogs did that just to trip you. JK lol :D

OMG! I just woke up a few minutes ago and I just totally realized that I still have the bandage on my arm from when I got my flu shot yesterday. I can't believe that I forgot that I still have it on; because normally whenever I get my blood drawn for my epilepsy, I always take the bandage off right away; because it always bugs me to have it on. But for some reason I totally forgot about my flu shot bandage from yesterday. I probably forgot about it because I got my flu shot on my shoulder; and when I get my blood drawn for my epilepsy, I always get my blood drawn in the middle of my arm; and then after I get my blood drawn the nurse always puts a cotton ball right under the bandage; and it always bugs the crap out of me. But the nurse never put a cotton ball under the bandage after I got my flu shot yesterday. So that was probably why I forgot about it.

OUCH!!! I literally just fell into the bathroom door. :(
I accidentally tripped over a dog toy which then caused me to fall into the bathroom door.

Hey Tillie,
Actually before I decided that I wanted my hair dyed blue like Katy Perry's hair, I actually thought about having my hair dyed red like Rihanna's hair. But then I changed my mind and decided to have it dyed blue like Katy Perry's hair instead. :)

Good morning :)

The sun is shining but everything is frosty.

He is gone again.
Hanging out with people in town, so he says.

There is so much here that he needs to do. :(
But he is a squalorous hoarder.

Anyways....
Thinking about polishing my silverware today while I watch zombie movies on Netflix.
Might even take a nap.

I am on strike.
Thinking that my behavour may be contributing to his dysfunction by enabeling him to have clean clothes and someone to blame when he can't find his stuff.
If he can spend a month avoiding responsibility so can I. ;)

I have never ever dyed my hair but if I was going to I would dye it red. Not a natural red but a vivid red :D

Right now I am laying in bed and watching TV with a blanket covering my hair; because for some reason Cory and Matt are obsessed with my new blue hair.

While I was laying in bed and watching TV, Cory and Matt kept trying to chew my hair. At one point while I was watching TV Matt literally got right on top of me and then layed on me and tried to eat my hair. Lol. So then after that I decided to just cover my hair up with a blanket. Lol.

My boyfriend dyed my hair blue today! I absolutely love it! Everyone says I look like Katy Perry. Which is the exact look I was going for when I decided that I wanted my hair dyed blue. :)

My boyfriend is the only paramedic I know that Is also good at dying hair. Lol.

Kitchen is all done.
Floors swept.
Cat vomit cleaned up.
Bathroom wiped.
Laundry folded & put away.
Etc....

Just finished lunch and now I'm bored and sleepy.

Need to decide what to do next.
Finish hemming that skirt now or do it this evening?

He left here by 7 am. Went somewhere, "shrug".
He seems to be avoiding being home so he won't have to do anything here.

Oh Well, anyways...
The sun is shining and it is a lovely day. :D

Thank you MayMay. :)

Hey Tillie,
Sorry to hear about your husband messing up all of your "No Clutter Zones." :(

Hi :D

Yesterday I had a fiercely hot fire going in the burn barrel. Oh what fun I had! :D

Last night the fog was even thicker than it had been all day long.
This morning the sun is breaking through and finally burning off the fog. YEA!

He has not done any cleaning or decluttering or home maintenance but he sure has been trashing and dirtying up all my "No Clutter Zones" :(

Makes no sense for me to do a good proper cleaning when he is right behind me messing things up.
So I will just do what I need to do for my own sanity. Like wiping down things in the bathroom and sweeping just the main traffic areas to keep the sand and dirt off my feet. No washing floors.

For supper last night I made myself sausages and rice and brussel sprouts. It was delicious.
But I did not clean up afterwards so this morning I will clean the kitchen. :p

Whatever you do today try to find the fun.

MayMay,

That's lovely.

I drank way too much Pepsi today. lol. :)

Right now I am getting ready to leave work and I just accidentally belched out the word "Good-bye" to my boss. lol. Luckily my boss is really cool and he has a really good sense of humor. He high fived me and congratulated me on being able to belch out my first word. lol. :)

So far today all I ate was:

One whole bag of Lindt chocolate.
One whole bag of Haribo gummy bears.
1 pint of Ben & Jerry's ice cream.
And I have drank like 4 bottles of Pepsi today also.

So I am on a serious sugar high right now. :)

Good morning

It has been foggy here since yesterday evening.
Maybe we will see the sun sometime today. :)

I still have no plans for today.
He has just been playing on his computers when he has been home. He's not here right now. He has been making lame excuses to go out places.

Anyways....

I am running out of my sewing projects. Only have one skirt left to hem.

Since the entire world around me is totally saturated and there is no burning ban in effect I may go out and start a fire in the burn barrel today. :D

The big green wheelie bin was emptied Monday.
Maybe I can find stuff to fill it.
Unfortunately, he will probably dive right in and remove half of what I toss.

Have a great day whatever you do! ;)

Hey Tillie,
Yeah the next time I see my neighbor I'm going to tell him about what happened. Because it was really weird. I'm hoping that maybe it was his mom or some other relative checking to see if he was home or something; because the lady's car was parked in his driveway.

You should tell your neighbor about what you saw.
If it were my house I would want to know about that.

Right now I am at my boyfriend's house. We just finished watching "The Dark Knight Rises" for the very first time on blu-ray. It was awesome!

Earlier this evening when my boyfriend came and picked me up from my house, there was this really strange lady walking around my neighbor's house and peaking through all of his windows. It was so weird and creepy. Right before my boyfriend and I left, I said hi and I waved at her. She never said hi or waved back at me; she just looked at me and then ran straight to her car and drove off. It was sooooo WEIRD!

I don't have a lot planned for today. I just plan on doing some chores around the house and then taking Cory and Matt for a walk later on today. :)

Hey Tillie,
Yeah I'll admit that I am pretty easy to scare. lol. :)

Good morning,

It is raining.
Really should be snowing this time of year but it's so warm here right now.
Usually have made a big snowman in the yard by now. :(

Today is his 1st day of his days off.
I have all my maintenance all caught up and have made no plans myself, waiting to see what he is planning on doing.

Hoping he will do some serious tossing, but I am an idiot optimist. ;)

TTYL, :D

MayMay,
LOL @ you for being so easy to scare. :D

OMG! I just got the crap scared out of me while I was surfing the Internet on my IPad.

I am thinking about dying my hair either blue or purple. I still haven't decided yet. While I was looking at some pictures of people with blue and purple hair on the Internet, while still trying to decide what color to dye my hair, I came across a picture of a girl with purple hair. In the picture she had her eyes closed; but then after like 5 seconds, her eyes suddenly opened in the picture. It totally FREAKED ME OUT when I first saw it. I now have the picture saved on my iPad though. :)

Hey Cory,
Welcome back! :D
I'm glad you are feeling better. :)

You had me ROTFLOLing. :D

I would love to do this but my hoarder would not go along with it.

He barely tolerates my participation on the messageboards. ;)

Well just getting back from pneumonia and filming the season finale of hoarders. I will address some of the posts that I have missed but...

The Huffington Post is doing a live radio interview tonight at 7:40 tonight, actually web based, and wants a hoarder to talk about their struggle. If anyone wants to be a part of it, please email me asap at cchalmers@1800HOARDERS.com. They might also be willing to speak to someone that lives with a hoarder...you know who you are T :)

Just finished watching the new episode of HOARDERS online.
Almost done crying now. :(

Today is the last day I get before he starts using up all his sick leave.
It is either he takes these paid days off before the end of the year or he loses them.
He won't return to work until January 2nd. :(

Oh Well, anyways...

My To-Do list for today
laundry
cook then clean up the kitchen
wash my hair
relax and enjoy this day

Have a great day! :)