Diane I would love to let you have a word with him ;D


He came home from work today with 2 more rose bushes for me.
Sort of an apology for making me that angry.

Then he took me to the grocery store so I could get some REAL food for me & the cats.

Now I have to just sit and wait to see if he will declutter anything this weekend.
There is soooooo much that needs to be done out there.

Hi Tillie, sounds like your husband is certifiable!!! Let me have a word with him(teehee) I was out in the yard all day today, actually made some progress, my back feels it too, I can relate to you, except I am the messy.








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Hi :)

Spent all of yesterday outside.

Planted the rose bushes, watered everything.

Was depressed about this one area near the front gate.
Piled high with years of his clutter and all the leaves & tumbleweeds all mixed into it.
Snakes, deer mice, black widows, scorpions and thousands of Yellow Jacket Wasps all nesting in there.

For at least 10 years I have been begging him to clean it up.

He sort of started clearing it out weeks ago then stopped & went back to his old habits.

I was tangled up in it all again and got very very angry.

That stuff was heavy but I was so mad that I managed to pull it all over next to the driveway.
Grabbed the rake and raked the leaves, sticks & tumbleweeds over there too with it.

This is the first area people see when driving up to the house. He also has nonrunning trucks parked there.
It is still so very cluttered all the way out to the road but the few feet in front of the garden gate are now clear.

Today my back is killing me.
But now I can at least walk over to my mountain laurels with the hose and not constantly get tangled or cut or my clothes torn.

Yes, he was mad when he came home from work & saw I had moved it twenty feet over, out of my way.

HAHA Diane :D
No candy but I did eat 2 oreos.

That isn't silly at all.
I always bury mine with their favorite things too.

Tillie, I can see you out there planting your new roses and eating your M&M's (tee hee)
Back to the bedroom to clear more floor.

Dianne, so sorry to hear about the death of your little furry love. I will be thinking of you today. I buried my 1st dog with his favorite toy and blanket, sounds silly but comforted me.

Thanks Dianne. :)

I'm so sorry to hear about your fur baby. :(

(((HUGS)))

It is wonderful that we have this safe haven where we can share our struggles with others who understand and don't judge us.

Just knowing that we are not alone can give us so much hope and encouragement.

Here in this chat thread we can write about anything that comes to mind and all the events in our daily lives.

We are all so much more than the condition of our homes and this needs to be expressed.

:)

My To-Do list for today...
Go outside and dig two holes for those rose bushes.
Drag over some compost.
Prepare the rose bushes for planting.
Plant then water them.

Since I will be out there anyways with the hose I may as well water all the other plants, shrubs, bushes and trees.
Then I will probably put the sprinkler on the lawn.

Also need to do the daily stuff...
Feed cats
Give them fresh water
Scoop little boxes
Sweep the floor
Tidy up bathroom & kitchen

Everybody be kind to yourselves today :)

(((Dianne))) (((HUGS)))

Our Fur Babies bring us so much joy and unconditional love.

My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. (((hugs)))

Read around at this site, especially the personal stories of real people digging out.
Click on the names listed on the left.

Very inspirational. :)

http://www.squalorsurvivors.com/stories/index.shtml

that is hilarious!!! guess your man needs a shopping list for you----

On his way home from work he stopped and did the grocery shopping.

yea????

Here is a list of what he bought for me and the cats to eat this week....

oreos
peanut m&ms
snickers candy bar
payday candy bar
rocky road candy bar
1 1/2 pound can of cashews
a bag of tangerines
6 pack of v8 juice
3 cartons of soy milk (told him years ago I am allergic to soy)
a box of wild flower seeds
2 rose bushes

He bought himself some steaks, cheese, crackers, danish, mushrooms and frozen prepared meals.

This is why I try to keep him out of stores.

ROTFLMAO :D

Thanks diane. :)

nice to hear you made it home safe and sound MayMay

thanks for sharing your story, very interesting hearing about your situation. You are so lucky you are able to keep areas clean and peaceful for yourself. Nice you are able to ask for what you need.

I just got home from Houston about an hour ago. I am so glad to be home. :)

Cory and Matt practically attacked me when I went to pick them up from my boyfriend's house. They were really excited to see me. :)

Hi Dianne and diane. :)

Thanks! You two are so sweet. I'm glad I can put a smile on both of your faces. :)

Tillie,

I'm glad you decided not to end your life. :)

Diane
There was a time when I could not clean any more because I live with a hoarder who filled up the whole house with stuff and would get very mean and nasty if he thought I even touched any of it.

Then I thought about the situartion and said
"I live here too!"

I started small, one tiny area at a time boxing & bagging up all his stuff and putting it out in the garage or carport with the rest of his hoard.

Reclaimed the livingroom, kitchen, diningroom, bathroom and all the cupboards & other areas.

There is also a tiny room here that he had so full that it could not be entered & the door could not be fully opened or closed.
I made him empty it and I made it MY room. A place for me & my things.
Before this I was having to dress in the diningroom because that is where my dresser was due to his cluttering up all other areas.
I fixed it up so pretty with paint & new carpet & curtains and decorated with my things.

He has his bedroom, garage, carport & yard where he can hoard to his heart's content but not the whole house.

There is a small part of the yard that I claimed and keep clutter free.
This is my garden. Full of flowers, shrubs, trees and a small patch of lawn.

I made these "NO CLUTTER ZONES" and defend them daily to preserve my sanity.

I was so very depressed by the situation that I almost ended my life.
But I stopped because I saw another way out of the mess. :D

so nice your house is clean so you can do spring cleaning, I am still too buried to do much cleaning, so good to hear you are able to keep things organized Tillie.
Maymay, got a smile on my face reading you hugging those wonderful men!!

Hi :D

At 6:30am this morning I decided to roll over and see if I could fall back to sleep.
Just woke up at 9:15! :)

I needed that.

My plans for today...
The usual tidy ups.

Taking a mental inventory of stuff, getting ready to tackle Spring cleaning.
I do this cleaning one small area at a time.
No reason to knock myself out doing it all in a day like I used to when I was young.

When I was 20 I went to my Grandmother's house and did her Spring cleaning for her.
Spent the week there.
I washed her walls, pulled out the fridge, moved all the furniture, got into every cupboard and corner.
This is how I learned to do Spring cleaning, with my Granma directing me.
We did the whole place up.
This is one of my most treasured memories.
We had such a wonderful time together. :D

Dianne
Sounds like a fun day you have planned. :D

Hi diane,

Yes I did! :)

I hugged 5 firefighters! :)

It's so funny because I actually know a bunch of firefighters and paramedics back at home in Ohio because my boss is a retired firefighter and my boyfriend is a paramedic; but whenever I meet firefighters and paramedics that I don't know I still always get really excited around them and I can't stop smiling. :)

I didn't get to meet any paramedics when I met the firefighters though; because the paramedics already left the scene of the accident. :(

There was a single car accident that was right next to the hotel that I am staying at. The driver was fine though. One of the firefighters that I talked to said that it was caused by a seizure that the driver had.

did you get to hug the firemen?

I just met some firefighters!!!!! :)

I love Houston!!!!! :)

You were right Tillie! Exciting stuff does happen all the time here in Houston! :)

I'm going to really miss this city when I have to leave to go home tomorrow. :(

Dianne that is wonderful news about Jakey! :D

It would be very nice to live with someone who appreciates Spring cleaning, home cooking and fresh line dried laundry. :)

You have so much on your To-Do list make sure you pace yourself to prevent burnout.

My plan for today is to do a load of laundry and get that hung out in the fresh Spring air.

Do some general tidying ups.

Play with the cats.

Think about what I have in the pantry and make something yummy to eat for supper.


My Apricot tree is in full bloom. So beautiful!

I plan to spent some time outside talking to and encouraging all the trees, bushes and plants. ;)

I also plan to make a master To-Do list for my Spring cleaning projects.

What I like best about lists is I can look at them and see my progress by how many items are checked off.

TTYL :D

Good morning everybody :D

Hi diane,

If a topic on here has more than 10 posts in it, then the envelope will turn red. :)

oops--------red not read

why are some of the envelopes read on the left side of listings? thanks

It is cloudy out today and my motivation is grey also!! will make my to do list and get started even though I would rather play computer games.

OK my little pity party is over.

The house is back to normal. I ate lunch.

The house is small and I do not allow him to clutter inside here except his bedroom.

So it is easy to do my routine cleaning.
I can take my time and dance to some of the music I play.

Today's music line up was...

Rolling Stones "Flowers"
Eagles "Hotel California"
Doobie Brothers "Best Of The Doobies"

Right now I'm listening to
The Police "LIVE"

There is still housework that needs doing but that stuff falls under the heading of "Spring Cleaning" and I will get to that soon.

Hope Ya'll have been dancing today too. :D

Hi tillie, sounds like you have a full day, is it too much? I am so excited to start a new adventure, tackling hoarding. Did dishes and paid bills today, and have more on to do list, off to exercise class, first time in over a month.

He went back to work today!
Why is it when he gets sick he acts like a two year old.?
Constantly underfoot, whining and needy.

Anyways....
I am physically and mentally exhausted.
The house really needs a good & proper cleaning.
I have been doing the minimum tidying up and cleaning.
Why bother doing a good job when he is right behind me messing it up again.?

I am so looking forward to getting this place clean. :D

Today I will...
Sweep floors & porches
Clean the bathroom, all of it
Wash the floors, scrape up the gum he chewed, spit out then tracked in on his shoes
Fix up a bucket of hot water & orange scented pinesol and wipe down everything
Dust
Vacuum, not just the main areas but move the furniture & vacuum under it.

Then I plan to spend the rest of this week resting up in a much cleaner house.

Wishing you all a pleasant day with smiles & laughter. :D

OMG! They were just talking about Dayton, Ohio; which is my hometown, on the national news. :D

CNN was in Dayton because of the blizzard that is supposed to start there sometime tonight. :)

I always love it whenever my hometown is on tv. :)

Hey Tillie,

That's awesome! :D
I love Legolas! :)
He was my favorite character in the "Lord of the Rings" trilogy. :)

I just watched a worldwide special with Peter Jackson talking about the next HOBBIT movie.

Legolas will be in it. :)

Thanks Tillie. :)

(((HUGS)))

MayMay
It's very nice that you have that support. :)

Thank you Dianne :D

(((hugs)))

I needed that!

My boyfriend always tells me that whenever I'm feeling really depressed I should always talk to him about it.

I've been suffering from depression ever since I was 19 years old. And I have always been really good at hiding it though. Even though I really wanted to tell someone about it.

I used to have this really weird and kind of disturbing way of dealing with it. And one day my boyfriend accidentally found out about it while he was on my iPad. He asked me why I never told him about how bad my depression was. And I told him that I was really embarrassed about it and that I thought he would think I was crazy or something. He told me that he would never think that I was crazy for having depression. And he also told me that I should always tell him about whenever I'm feeling really depressed or feeling like I possibly want to hurt myself. :)

Hi

It's now 5:30am Sunday.
I have been awake since 3:00am.
Stress from worry and depression cause insomnia.
Wish he would see how his hoarding and neglecting the house and property effects me.

I'm planning to wash all the cat blankets and table cloths today.

Maybe I will get to take a nap.

I should never post when I'm down, only when I can be cheerful.
Sorry :(

YEA! Andi!
You did an amazing amount today! :D

Thanks for the laugh. I loved your telling about how you plan to do laundry. lol :D

Yes it can get so complicated that nothing can get done.

There will always be more laundry to wash.
Good enough for today is much better than waiting for perfection.

Keep working at it like you did today and soon you will be amazed at your progress.

Today I did a load of laundry. Kitchen linens.
Went through the deep freezer and got out some things for me to eat the next few days.
Watched a movie on Netflix and surfed the internet reading interesting articles. :D