How wonderful Diane!!! :D

You have accomplished some very hard areas in your home! :D

WAY TO GO!!! :D

When your home is decluttered you can go back to the smaller trash service.
For now, enjoy all the freedom and amnesty the big can allows you. :D

Have a nice bath/shower. Rest well tonight and tomorrow enjoy yourself. :)

A long day working in walkway. I took the door off where hotwater heater is and reached all over until I found the dryer hose, and was able to pull it out far enough to attach it to the vent in door. That water heater was not easy to balance while attaching the hose. I am so impressed that I was able to complete it. When I had new floor put in kitchen a few years ago, the guy said there was no path out to walkway, no hole had ever been done. I knew there had to be away to attach it, I figured it out. I had to move so much stuff just to get to water heater door. I then got up on a tall ladder and washed wall and the small bathroom window, which had never been cleaned since I lived here over 15 years, it was caked with dirt, it is so small just thought that is why bathroom is dark, surprise, daylight comes in now. Still dark, but really much better. I had to use a metal BBQ brush on cement floor to loosen up the dirt pack then swept, then vacuumed. I got about 1/2 done in 10 hours today, until I decided enough already. Put a tarp over the stuff that I still have to go through. My 95 gallon cart is now 3/4 ths full. I was second guessing myself about the big cart, what if I don't fill it, well now know it was a stroke of genius, since I got it yesterday and already 3/4 full. I am so pleased with myself and know that I need to take it easy tomorrow. I also did dishes, cleaned counters, washed hair brushes, first time in years, papers out to recycle, Now need to go take a shower in my clean bathroom, you can probably smell me from your house!!

Tillie and everyone,
I hope to get better soon, but bruising the bone does take quite some time to heal as it affects the muscles and range of motion too.

As annoying as it is I at least can go outside and breathe in some spring air. It's been cool at nite at low 40's and during day been in 50's. By Tues planning on temps to reach back into the 80's.

Today I plan on resting and icing also taking potassium and vitamin C to help heal better.

I also applied at a couple of hospitals to hopefully work as a houskeeper (janitor/cleaner).

Now just resting and icing knee which hurts due to bone brusing.

Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying weather.

Saturday. Start of a three day weekend.

The weather here has been cool for over a week and the forecast is for highs in the 70s.
Great for doing things around the yard.

Want to get outside and do some weeding and other pleasant relaxing gardening activities.

He is finally getting slightly annoyed by my not enabling him so I will continue not doing stuff.

Off to feed the cats now.
Want to go to the grocery store and buy a watermelon or two today. :D

Everybody plan to have some fun outside this weekend! :D

Thank you Tillie, and happy you are feeling better. Happy Dance, great idea, I have been so serious with the cleaning, I will do the happy dance first thing in the morning.

Thank you Diane :)

Been sleeping most of today and am feeling a lot better now. :)

Diane

FANTASTIC!
WAY TO GO!!!
WOO HOO!!!
HAPPY DANCE!!!

:D

Tillie so sorry to hear about your infection. Hope you are drinking lots of water, did you get antibiotic? Glad you are resting and taking good care of yourself. Hugs to you.

Tillie so sorry to hear about your infection. Hope you are drinking lots of water, did you get antibiotic? Glad you are resting and taking good care of yourself. Hugs to you.

THE BATHROOM IS CLEAN AND REPAIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Can you believe it? It several hours today, but it is finished, walls clean, cabinets cleaned and organized, mirrors cleaned, sink, toilet and tub cleaned, door cleaned, floor cleaned, took all week but it is done. The wall had separated where the tub wall and other wall meet. The dryer is on the other side, so the hot damp air buckled the wall. The dryer vent to the walkway is not cleared out so has been blowing into bathroom. I realized today, the lent and moisture have been the cause of alot of the packed filth I had to clean that took so long in the bathroom. I cut the bowed out wall, so I could force it to lie flat. I used a metal brace then nailed it down. It was awkward and doesn't look great, but it is done and the lent won't blow in now. I painted the area that I fixed. Tomorrow I will be back out in the walkway working on the hoard so I can get to dryer vent and fix that. My 95 gallon garbage can was delivered today and is already 1/2 full, and 2 bags of give aways. I cancelled my friends visit when I realized it would take all day to finish cleaning bathroom and repairing wall. tillie, you are right, it is like a puzzle that I cannot figure out, the odds and ends. After having so much anxiety yesterday, I was amazed how much easier it was to keep going today. I really think alot of the anxiety of having my friend over. I am giving myself permission to keep working on my own until I am more comfortable with So grateful I have you gals to go through this with.

Good morning,
Not yet noon here. :)
Still down with a kidney infection.
Got the cat stuff all taken care of.
Need to take a nap now.

Try to find your motivation Karl.
Great that you got some trash out!
You need to force yourself to do more 15 minute sessions daily to get some results there.

Diane :)
It is hard to start tackling those long neglected areas all on your own. You have been living with the piles for so long your brain sees them as a puzzle that is impossible to sort out.
Hoping your friend can help make some sense out of them for you. :D

HI Anne :D

Hi Lynn :) Keep healing and find something to smile about today. :D

Hi Roxie :)
I need lots of rest and sleep in order to feel better.
But....
living with a hoarder who has no consideration for me is extremely tiring.
He has dumped the kitten care all on my shoulders. He makes nasty messes and expects me to clean them up. He makes a lot of noise at night rattling around and keeps waking me up.
Then he gets annoyed with me for not wanting to do anything but sit here and cry.

Thanks Roxie.
The leg brace is kind of a bother but does help with a little support.
I'm just upset that I missed a job opp due to injury and recovery time. :[
At least I still have one other contact that hopefully can get me a job. I still am going to call the animal shelter again and ask again when the volunteering class is so that I can volunteer as a cleaner over there. I'd now rather do something than do nothing.

I see doc in a couple of weeks yet for a follow-up to see how I'm doing.

Hope all is keeping up with your cleaning efforts and achieving your goals

You can beat this!

Karl, what can we do to support your efforts? I know I want to encourage you to make yourself do 15 minute sessions daily, at least.

Diane, let us know how it goes with your cleanie friend. I always read your posts with interest.

LynnS, here is hoping the leg brace helps.

Tillie, I too am feeling sluggish and tired. What can we do to kick our own bottoms? :)

Wednesday I was out all day, so no cleaning done -- but I did manage to do one timed session and take stuff out to the curb for the morning pickup, before going to bed.

Thursday I had plenty of time at home, but kept finding other things that I'd rather do. Not good. Again, one 15-minute session before going to bed, but at this rate I'm not going to be done when the hard deadline arrives. :-(

Great job today, Diane!!!

It sounds like you worked diligently & accomplished ALOT :)

...And not only that -- you acknowledged your anxiety & took action to address it by calling your friend to talk about it :) You were very brave today and you have made a plan to continue moving forward tomorrow with the support of a trusted friend -- I loved your term "cleanie friend" ;) Good for You for being willing to accept that support!

I can relate to the so much of what you shared --finding it more challenging to go through things inside vs. out, the mouse & said droppings, the intense anxiety, the discomfort of sharing feelings about the situation & the physical condition of the space with others.

I could also really relate to & loved the part where you said you realized it was taking too long/slowing down your progress to clean off the stuff for give-away so you invoked Amnesty & Into the Bin with it!!! (Tillie, I'm gonna remember that tip for myself, too;)

Diane - You completed many physical tasks of clearing space today -- yet I heard you accomplish even more in the ways you "coached" yourself through some really difficult parts of your day.

So, Diane, I say: Congratulations, Big Pats on the Back, & YaY You! :)

Worked on bathroom today, amazing how difficult it is for me to work inside, even on cold windy day I would rather be outside working, anything to avoid finishing bathroom. I worked several hours, almost done. When I couldn't do anymore, went out and watered plants, did 2 loads of laundry, worked on walkway, filled another bag of garbage, only one dead mouse, but lots of droppings and filth, really sad. Then went up on roof and cleaned chimney, then pulled cheat grass in back yard. Put garbage can out and one huge black garbage bag on top of can. Tomorrow I will get the bigger cart, and already have two bags full to put in it. Tomorrow my cleanie friend is coming over to help me with the stuff in each room I just can't seem to finish. I went though alot of anxiety over it, then called her and discussed my concerns. she was very understanding and really wants to come and help for 2 hours. I will let her in bathroom, last time she visited she had to pee in the RV, wouldn't let her in past the entryway because it was so bad. I could cancel, but know I must let people back into my life, the good and bad of it. I am amazed at all the help I get on this site, loved the amnesty to throw anything away, it worked again today. started to wash give aways, then realized that why it was going so slow, so started to throw things in garbage with amnesty. Thanks Tillie.

Cory, I got the book yesterday and still find it very informative. Thank You So Much!

Today I had an appointment to get the leg brace to help me walk better so that my knee doesn't buckle inward for support. It's only for a short term use anyhow.

I'm feeling much better with my knee and am able to walk on it without any pain. :)

I'm also going to keep reading the book to help me help my mother.

I've got a lot of learning to do.

Hope all keep up the good work with all the success that you've made.

Good morning

Woke up exhausted.
Fed cats their breakfast.
Need to get dressed and go out and water.
Fortunately, the wind has quit blowing and hope it doesn't start up again.
Been cold here the last few days.

TTYL :D

SusanL,
BIG WAY TO GO!!! :D
You faced that verrrry spooky office supply closet and were victorious! :D
So proud of you! :D

Diane,
Wonderful that you super sized your trash service! :D
We have the bigger service too. One big wheelie bin plus 7 additional cans, boxes, bags or tied bundles allowed every week.
You have done an amazing amount in that bathroom! WTG! :D
A fresh bright color of paint must really look lovely.
Great you are stopping now and not pushing yourself.
Tomorrow you will be fresh and able to make better decisions.

When deciding what to keep or what to toss remember to ask the questions....
When was the last time I used/needed this?
What condition is it in? Has it expired or gone bad?
If I toss this and then a year or two from now decide I need it, how hard/expensive would it be to get another one?
How does keeping this item get me to my goal? Does it add quality to my life by keeping it or does it take away from my quality of life?

Do the best decluttering job you can at the time.
Then later revisit the area and things and it will surprise you that you can often find another item or two that you are ready to let go of now.

Sort of like
"you can't see the forest for all the trees"
Once you start pruning branches you will get a much better view. ;)

I do my best work when I first get up so I think I will quit for now, just not getting anything done, need to appreciate all that I did do today, even though the progress looks hidden by what is left to do. I know it is clean now and will be done tomorrow.

I am experiencing some fear about putting stuff in cabinet, afraid I will keep stuff don't need to keep. It is just so different to think of what I will use, instead of just keeping it to sort later or may use later. I am so tempted to just stuff it in, but then will feel like I failed, it is worth the pain of completing it correctly, so I don't feel the shame of having junk stashed behind doors. Letting go of the familiar dysfunction is difficult, what will life be without the shame and suffocation of junk.

Tillie, thanks for amnesty on tossing useable things, I needed that support today. Need to just toss and stop wasting time rationalizing, just get rid of it to make my life more liveable as soon as possible.

Susan that is so great you were able to get that done and stopped when you had done enough for the day.
I worked on the sink side of the bathroom all day and still not done. Took pictures off wall and washed them and wall, took sliding mirrors off small cabinet over sink, took everything out, cleaned it, and then painted it gloss sun yellow, two coats, looks good. Pulled all the stuff out of lower cabinets inbetween painting coats. There was so much stuff in there, I was throwing things out and got more and more anxious, realizing garbage was already full plus 2 bags, started slowing down, trying to decide how much I could put in bags to keep under 20 pounds, then brain storm---called garbage company anmd discussed moving up from 35 gallon to 65 or 95 gallon garbage cart. Decided on 95 gallon cart. Felt like a kid at Christmas, could throw anything away without worrying about weight or size. Friday they will swap out to larger cart. I figured it was worth the extra money to have the freedom to toss anything I want, and not worry about weight or dump runs.

Got brave and went into [scary music] my office supplies closet. Put together bags of stuff for charity pickup, threw away some stuff, put labels on the remaining plastic bins, and had many moments of "so THAT'S where that is".

I have a second storage area for yet more office supplies . . . a lifetime's worth of pencils, it seems. That will wait for another day. Need to rest.

This has been on my To Do list for, let's just say, a really long time. Appreciate all the mutual encouragement here.

Good morning :)

So sweet of you Diane. (((hugs)))

The winds blew all night long and are still going strong today.
60 degrees in here so had to put the heat on for the kitten.
I have weaned & litter box trained him. By the weekend he should be all better with the medicine I have been giving him. Have a possible good home for him. One other girl wants him but I said no because she does not properly take care of her pet rodent.

My ToDos for today...
clean kitchen
not even going to bother dusting with the wind blowing dirt around. Cough Cough! ;)

Need to get out sewing projects and play around with that today. Fun stuff. :D

Keep up all the GREAT work everyone!

There is this idea called
"Amnesty" to throw away perfectly good things.

When there is so much to sort through and you want/need to get it done in the quickest way possible you have amnesty to simply throw away anything rather than spending one second longer dealing with it.
No need to clean it for donation, no need to bag it up and get it to a donation center, no need to sort it out for recycle.
When what you need is to do this decluttering in the best way for YOU is the fastest way, just toss it.
AMNESTY!

Also, many trash pick up services have sorting stations.
The trash is dumped out on a conveyor belt where workers remove anything that is recyclable.
Metal, paper/cardboard, plastic, etc.
Here the organic rubbish is also sold to a company that runs it's business by burning garbage to fuel it's factory.
They also have special "scrubbers" on their chimneys to remove pollution. Eco friendly.

Tillie, thanks for noticing the work I have been doing. to clarify, do flu shots at fall health fair, did blood pressure, height, weight today, just fun and encouraged more healthy habits, like I am the expert, if they only knew from where I came!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for saying that about cleaning stuff, easier to toss it than clean it off, and it takes up too much room for something I don't use. Makes so much sense now, all my excuses for keeping things are being challenged now, thank goodness for this website!! and especially your wisdom Tillie.

Diane,
I am so happy you can just toss unwanted/unneeded items rather than having all the worry and extra work trying to clean to donate or recycle. :D
You are a woman on a mission! A mission to clear your home.

Hope you do toss those old chemical cleaning products. They degrade over time too.

BIG WAY TO GO! on all that cleaning work you did today.
And so happy you got out and gave friendly folks their jabs. :D

Started work at 7:15 at a health fair for a few hours aget the electric company, they have a health fair in the spring and fall when I do flu shots for them, so it is a fun little job with fun people. felt good to get out of the hoard and work with great people, so good start to the day. Walmart across the street, so bought white duct tape and vegetables, felt good not overshopping, a pleasant feeling to look into the cart and see only a few things, I used to overbuy anything and everything. Got home and started on the bathroom. vinegar in toilet, cleaned floor and walls around toilet with diluted vinegar water and every inch of the exterior of the toilet, took over 1&1/2 hours, now resting. Will do the scrubbing in the interior toilet before too long. Not sure I will do the other 1/2 of bathroom tonight, maybe in morning. I am aware the hair rollers that I never use, have to go, they were next to the toilet as were lots of cleaning products, I forgot I had, heavy layer of dust on cleaning products. Realize, I can get rid of them and just use vinegar and water instead of all that stinky chemical stuff. It takes so long to clean when everything is stuffed with junk. I can see why my wealthy friends have houses that look Of course they have cleaners, but what I thought was lack of livability, is cleanliness, not rigidity. I am feeling frustrated because my garbage can is full and doesn't get picked up til friday and already have one extra large garbage bag full of crap, and so much more to throw, and it is raining. I am getting to the point where it just easier to throw it away than to try to make decisions. I took 4 large bags to thrift store yesterday and don't miss one item, yet it takes me days to decide what to give away. It has also helped to realize most people have more than they need so I don't need to wash things to give away, just throw away, it is in my best interest to just get rid of it ASAP.

Was planning to weed in the garden today but the winds are blowing pretty strong out there.
Was planning on doing some sewing but there is a tiny kitten here that I have to look after and laying out fabric is just impossible.
Was planning on doing lots of stuff today but other things keep getting in the way.

Did take care of the cat tasks.
Have dishes rinsed and stacked by the sink to wash.
Have gathered up a small load of laundry to wash but need to wait for the kitten to wake up from his nap so I can swap out his blankets and wash them too.
Got dressed, brushed my hair & teeth.
Did get a lot of little straightening & organizing tasks done all around here. Basically I've just been frittering about.
When the winds blow so violently like they are doing today I find it hard to relax or concentrate.

:D

Having survived a major flood there is something that I learned.

Terrified, holding tight to my son, cat and dog. Hurrying and fighting my way to safety. Having to make the decision that if it comes to it I will set my cat and dog free and hope they some how make it to safety on their own.
Finally, standing on high dry ground safe from the raging water.
I look at my son, cat and dog and know that I am the wealthiest woman in the entire world.

Then other wet survivors start coming ashore.
They are fretting about the possessions they had to leave behind.
I remind them that their most valuable possessions are themselves and their families/pets who are also safe now.

The next few weeks as the water begins to go down and people are able to get back into their homes to see what they can salvage are very difficult.
They want to try to save things that are saturated with filthy chemical, mold and disease carrying flood water.
I have to tell them that their clothes, books, quilts, rugs etc. will never be able to be cleaned properly and returned to their former condition. The broken pottery and glass can be cleaned but will always be a constant reminder of a terrible time because they are broken in ways that can't be glued.

I tell them to do what I have done.
"let it go"
You will always have your happy memories of these things as they were before the flood ruined them.
Don't hold onto them as they are now, all sad looking.
The future will bring you new pleasures to help fill the void you are feeling now.

Hope my story helps in some small way when you have to decide to finally let go of items you have that have been ruined by water, mold, bugs or rodents. :)

Thanks, LynnS for your words of encouragement.

Diane, I can relate to the sadness over ruined things and waste. When I went through the cleanup the greatest loss to me was treasured oriental carpets I have had for years, that were stored, and that were destroyed by some kind of moth. There was a lot of history in the rugs and I had planned to pass them along to my son. Too late. But there it is.

Today is heavy rain. So far this area has avoided the Oklahoma tornado or flash floods, though we are under flash flood watches. The rain tends to put me in a stall, which may be a fallout for me of my SAD. Still, I will find something to do today that is productive.

diane I am happy to read that you are getting stuff done. Hope those water stains will go away as well, wishing you luck with elbow grease. :)

I haven't heard anything about OK though but am glad to hear Tillie is alright with relatives.

Have a great day all!

Tillie, thanks for the info on toilet cleaning, I have the vinegar so am excited to try it, bought lots of vinegar, used on weeds last month and then for cleaning. Got 2 gallons at costco for less than $4, so happy it is so versatile, and cheap. thank you again for last night Tillie

Way to go Roxie on all that you did! Keep up the good work and get those boxes to recycling once all gathered or when ready.

Today I worked on flexing muscles and hope to heal faster and staying off my leg.

Karl I hope that you had fun. Sounds as though you were quite busy.

Hope everyone has a great day and takes their time cleaning with a little each day.

Welcome to all the newbies!
Celebrate a victory!

Oklahoma, so sad, happy all your relatives are OK Tillie. A mile wide tornado, 2 schools hit, so sad.
I worked on walkway where I filled the garbage can and have more to dump, may have to make a run to dump. It is supposed to rain the rest of the week so wanted to get rid of more of the crap the mice are living in. It really is disgusting, easy to throw stuff away when it is so bad. I did take 4 large garbage bags of stuff to thrift store.
I started in bathroom gave away lots of stuff for hair, lipsticks, lotion etc. Then went through rooms to find more stuff to give away, clothes, books, decorative, really had fun. It was a challenge to see how much I could give away. Then to walkway and that wasn't fun, so much stuff water stained, mouse eaten, a true hoarder, no doubt about it now. I have to go back out there and bag up more of the crap, although I am tired now. want to bag it before it rains, the dump charges by the pound so don't want to pay more for wet worthless crap. Working inside is becoming more tolerable now that I am working in the disgusting stuff outside. I took the dog back that I have been dog sitting and a book back to library that is overdue, of course. What a day. I have said on here, have dealt with the worst squalor, then find new area of filth. When the cable guy had to go to back yard through the walkway, and could barely get through, I decided it had to change, no idea of how much stuff was stashed in there, and the roof leaked on it, so it is lots of worthless stuff that could have been used by others, if I had done this years ago. Lots of beautiful leather purses with mold or mildew, sheets that are now waterdamaged and mouse holes. Lots of kitchen stuff. I moved to a nearby town for a couple of years and rented this place out. when I moved back I just stashed every thing out in walkway, temporarily, since the garage was already packed to rafters.
Just keep telling myself not to criticize myself for wasting all this stuff, just appreciate the fact that I have found this support group and am finally willing to deal with this. It is my full time job.

Karl hope you had fun! :)

Diane, Thank you :)

Roxie, WAY TO GO! getting groceries and all you got done! Hoping today was productive as well. :)

My heart is breaking for Oklahoma. :(

Good news though,
My BIL & SIL were down in their cellar and the tornado passed only 2 miles away from their home.
All other relatives are accounted for too. :)

Good morning :)

Busy day for me.
He will be too busy all day working to get the graduation ceremony stuff all set up & running to take proper care of the kitten.
So I will do that today. Already fed him his breakfast & soon must give him his medicine.
The kitten is already litter box trained :D


Have a GREAT start to this new week everyone. :)

Bing search
how to remove hard water stains from toilet

http://www.bing.com/search?q=how+to+remove+hard+water+stains+from+toilet&form=MSNH14&pq=how+to+remove+hard+water+stains+fr&sc=8-34&sp=1&qs=AS&sk=




Empty the water from the toilet bowl. Turn off the water by turning the knob on the back of the toilet. Flush the toilet several times until the bowl is empty.

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Pour ½ gallon distilled white vinegar into the toilet bowl. If ½ gallon is not enough to cover the hard water stains, soak paper towels with vinegar and lay them onto the stains. Let the vinegar sit in the bowl for at least one hour.






Scrub the toilet bowl with a nylon scrub brush to remove the stains. Turn the water back on and flush the toilet to rinse.

4


Mix together three parts borax powder and one part vinegar if the stains persist. Empty the toilet bowl of water and use a rag to scrub the paste onto the stains.

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Let the paste sit on the stains for a few hours. Scrub the toilet stains with a nylon scrub brush. Turn on the water and flush the toilet to rinse.



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HARD WATER STAINS...

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Lots of different information there,
did a "Bing" search on
"how to remove hard water stains from tub"

?Mix one cup of white vinegar with one tablespoon of lemon juice.
?Use a terry cloth or other soft, absorbent material to apply the mixture to the hard water stain.
?Rub to remove.

You can also saturate a rag or paper towels with the solution and stick them to the area and let then sit and soak to help soften the hard water deposit.

Some suggest scrubbing the area with a salted lemon.
Others suggest making a paste of vinegar & baking soda to scrub with.

Then there are the chemical cleaners.
They are harsh, will burn your skin & eyes and have fumes so always follow the directions very carefully when using them.

Egads, I hate dealing with my own messes, let alone someone else's. No wonder quite a few of us live alone. :( Anyway, here's to a good day.

Karl, it is good you are seeking a social life and contacts outside your home. Remember at least to do 15 minutes a day cleaning!

Yesterday I went to the grocery store and stocked up. I used the motorized cart while there since I was already too tired to begin with. I've been beyond tired since I returned. I did put all the things away properly though and started loading the dishwasher with dirty dishes.

Today I have to find my papers to get new tags for the car and pay property taxes. Then finish loading the dishwasher and actually run it. I need to look up/find someone to come haul away my disgusting old refrigerator and get that scheduled. Need to break down large cardboard boxes on the patio so I can load them flat into the car and recycle them.

Gentle nudges all around, friends.

Tillie, sorry to read how your strategy is not working and the stress you are feeling about it. As a hoarder myself, I wonder if he thinks you joined the hoarders club and are on his team now. If a cleanie started leaving stuff around I would think they were finally relaxing a little. Hoarders have a different way of looking at things than a normal person. I was hoping it would work for you, you now have to wonder if the stress on you is worth it. I wish you well and a hoard free life.

I was waitlisted for a MeetUp event today, but a late cancellation finally got me onto the attendee list. So it seems I'll be out socializing for most of the day -- which means I won't be getting any clean-up done today (at least, not until late), and I'll also miss tonight's support chat (again).

Thank you Roxie :)

Good morning? :)
I am exhausted already.
The house is disgustingly filthy now. There is stuff laying around needing to be put away.
My nerves are frazzled.
All the cats are being nasty mean because of the kitten being here. Hissing & fussing with each other.
He has taken the kitten and gone off somewhere, visiting I guess.
Don't think this plan of me not doing stuff here in case that was enabling him is working.
He doesn't mind wearing dirty clothes or having his dirty dishes pile up. He doesn't mind living with the messes he makes.
He has been complaining about some of the obstacles I have left laying around. Strange, since he doesn't mind the obstacles he leaves laying about.

I want to work in the garden. Weather is perfect for it.

My TO-DOs for today...
clean the kitchen
do a wash load of rags
water my spider plant

Remember 5:00pm PST tonight is chat. :)

Thanks for listening to my little pity party. ;D

Tillie, keep that tough love going. He did the right thing rescuing the kitten...it would not have survived because it is ill. Now with medical treatment and one-on-one "mothering," it stands a chance. But you are right, he'll want to keep them all. He needs to learn that a good "parent" is prepared to let his baby leave the nest for a happy home. :)

Karl, got it! I myself bought a small paper shredder to now help me sort through the too big piles of paperwork still ahead of me. I have to divide it into years for tax purposes, then buy accordion files for each year. Will do soon.

Diane, glad your energy is back! I'm impressed with how much you can get done.

Dianne, thinking of you and hoping you trek onward.

The cats are underneath a building where he works as a maintenance man.
He tried to trap the mother but she won't get in the trap.
The kitten wandered out from the hole while he was working near by and he was able to just pick him up.
The kitten has a cold, could not see enough to run back under.
He wanted to capture the cats to get them medical help, spaying/neutering and rehoming.

The real problem is that he wanted me to do all the work. I told him that I am no longer able to put in all the time required anymore due to my health.

Plus he is a hoarder.
He would be a cat hoarder if he could but I will not allow it.
The last two abandoned and starved near to death cats I rescued he pressured me to allow him to keep them.
He wants to keep this new kitten but that would be too many cats.
I have to do all the cat chores here or his 2 cats would not get all the proper care they deserve.

Forcing him to properly care for this kitten is teaching him that having cats is not all fun & games.
He has to feed it, give it it's medicine on schedule, clean up after it and take it to the Veterinarian.

Now maybe he will believe me when I say that I will no longer do animal rescue. :)

If he'd left the kitten where he found it, wouldn't it still be under the proper care of mommy cat? It didn't sound like the kitten had been abandoned.

WAY TO GO! Karl by paying bills online. :)

Diane,
you need to visit our "self care" thread and schedule in a manicure for your blackened nails. ;)
After gardening in sandals I have the matching toe nails. ;P

Fantastic! using what you already have to get those projects tackled around your home. :D

Anyway...
Him having the full responsibility for the kitten care is working.
He has made plans and even posted photos on line to find the kitten a good home. :D
We went grocery shopping today & got some food.
Planning on showering soon and getting to bed early tonight.

TTYL :D