Emily, I'm sorry also. I'm glad you have a support group you can talk with.
Good job on the decorations! Any accomplishment yesterday us a win.
Tatoulia, I think it is so sweet that you did the house on zoom fir the kids.
I'm also very impressed that you got the hall back together. I would have used the "he might come back soon" excuse and delayed.
Dd2 got her car fixed. We had some socially distant visiting time and sent her home with her Christmas presents and the pretty wreath she made for her door. I started my wreath but didn't get very far. I was lazy yesterday because I kept thinking she'd be done soon and we'd do the wreaths, and instead the car took forever.
Today - Bean!
Tatoulia
Posted: 13 December 2020 - 10:05 PM
Emily. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you are here. That's great that you did some decorating! I still haven't gotten wreaths for my windows
I got a great deal of recycling out today and I worked on decluttering. I did gingerbread house via zoom and it was fun. I spent this evening with BF. He was working and I worked on a crossword. Very nice.
I still have lots more to do but it's 11. I think I will start the dishwasher and call it a night.
I did out my hallway back together. He's supposed to return tmr night but in the event it's later in the week, I wanted to put the hallway back.
Emily
Posted: 13 December 2020 - 07:22 PM
Hi everyone Had a somewhat productive day. I decorated the outside of my house for Christmas and dug out the tree and ornaments. Kind of a lack luster day...it's the anniversary of my husbands death.
Just taking it easy tonight going to the online support group now.
Tatoulia
Posted: 13 December 2020 - 11:00 AM
I love hearing about your life, SubC. You are a very descriptive writer. I will join you for Boxing Day!
I am having my first cup of coffee and then will quickly run to cvs and Whole Foods to get mom a few things and to get some kitty food. I am zooming a gingerbread house at 3 with our little kids friends. When the pandemic was first recognized in Massachusetts in March, one of the kids said, but what about our gingerbread house. He's 9, I think. So we will do by zoom.
I'll do more groceries tonight
I saw something on Instagram while enjoying my coffee: Clutter stars at the cash register. Powerful.
Subclinical
Posted: 13 December 2020 - 06:41 AM
Good morning.
Tatoulia, you must get cat food!
Manger is all set up including yak and cowsheep. Only Bean will get to see it this year.
100 years ago the baby who one day got the cowsheep for a toy was about to celebrate his second Christmas. I will tell Bean about it.
Dh and I worked in the studio/shop barn for a while last night to make it less crowded for Dd2 and her bf (they decided to drive down and let themselves in last night)
I collected some trash and three new bags of recycling, and I brought some bowls that had accumulated "I need something to put water in, where is that thing I had, never mind I can use this"... in and rinsed them off and ran them in last night's dishwasher load.
Dh says I'm doing a good job with the house. He likes Bean's shelf. He's hoping I will do the other little shelf in the back hall also. There is one on each side of our China cabinet along the wall. There were things piled in front of the China cabinet, but I moved them, which means I can now reach the big tablecloth and special dishes in the bottom that I don't need this year (they are large serving pieces)
I also cleaned up 1/3 of that shelf in the great room but I think the last little pile will wait until school is on break.
Today Dd2 and I will make wreaths. Maybe Dh will help me put up the lights on the front porch and then all the outside things will be done.
The scullery and the dining porch are still very very messy. Especially with the extra recycling piled in the scullery - and I don't plan to go down to the drop near school until after Christmas.
Since the kids won't be here this year, maybe I will plan a good old fashioned Boxing Day and see what I can find to part with and take a load to goodwill (gotta check if they will be open)
Tatoulia
Posted: 12 December 2020 - 10:49 PM
Okay I went to sleep after he left. I have huge amounts of things to take to recycling bin.
I haven't put my hallway back together. But I did run the dishwasher. I have a lot I have to do tmr. I didn't run any errands today so I will have to do tmr. I was going to do some at 5 but the rain was torrential and mom said she'd be okay.
I have exactly 1/2 a can of cat food left. Please don't tell the kitty. I need to make that stretch until I get to and return from the store!
So goodnight, dear friends. I'll see you tomorrow.
Special shout-out to Tillie and Joan and Anony.
Tatoulia
Posted: 12 December 2020 - 03:41 PM
Hello SubC cm Emily and Tillie! Hello hello!
My friend's husband put up my chandeliers today and I love them! Once I put my hall back together I'll post pictures. Emily I use my Instagram acct to post the occasional picture. I'll figure out what my name is on IG and let you know.
SubC! So important for you to start telling your grandson about the ornaments now! I love that so much.
Cm I am so sorry about the setbacks. Not fair.
Emily you are doing great!
It's dark and rainy and I need to go get a few things for my mom so I'll write more later. Have been in house with electrician all day. Windows open! Have been enjoying reading. Finished one book and started another. Emily I read on my kindle because I have a hard time letting go of books. I got rid of 20 boxes of books and have more to go.
Subclinical
Posted: 12 December 2020 - 03:17 PM
Oh no CM,
We cross posted.
I must have channeled your optimism a bit too hard.
So many people are struggling right now. Really, if you can plan to lay off a debt in a year, you are doing ok.
These are just to make you smile:
🌈🐣🦄🐰
Subclinical
Posted: 12 December 2020 - 03:12 PM
Emily!
Hello!👋
Thst is fantastic! So much cleared out! So much new space! And a very reasonable approach to finishing things off.
Decorating always motivates me to clean too.
Today I have done pretty well.
I ran the dishwasher.
I made Christmas fudge for our closest friends and for the girls, and packed up a tin for friends that Dh is delivering right now (minus one saved gift tin and one small plastic container - if you don't seal the chocolate mint, everything tastes like mint)
I cleared off one of the little bookshelves in the back hall that was covered in random things (most just needed to be put away, but there was a little recycling) and filled it with toys and books for Bean to enjoy the next few months. My goal is that that will be Bean's shelf. I'll change things out from the bins as he grows and I'll have him trained to go see what's new by the time he's 3. 🙂
I put the finishing touches on some projects I helped dsil make as Christmas gifts and stuck them in the kiln.
And I cleared off the shelf for my manger scene - which I'm about to go set up. Can't wait to see the cowsheep and the little yak again!
CriticalMass
Posted: 12 December 2020 - 03:01 PM
Well, my optimism may have flown south for the winter. My van's check engine light went on yesterday.
I was just getting to where I knew what month next year I'd finally have paid my roommate what I've owed her. Now I have to borrow a new amount on top of the remainder of the old amount. I don't know what it'll be, but it's enough that it makes me feel like there's never an end in sight, and I feel sad.
One of the things under the hood that got replaced earlier this year now must be replaced all over again, because the new problem affected it. Plus the new thing wrong has to be replaced.
The weather is colder and grey, and that doesn't help.
Emily
Posted: 12 December 2020 - 02:42 PM
Sorry I haven't checked the feedback recently. Thank you all for your replies and suggestions. I got bit by the Christmas bug and decided to get bust and start cleaning. So last week on Thursday I took the day off from work and rearranged my living room. I had been wanting to do this for a long time, and decided it was time to get it done. I should have taken pictures of what my place looked like. I NEVER realized the amount of crap I truly had. So I filled up 3 bags of garbage in the process and got the couch moved. I then had two huge piles of stuff to put away. I started again this morning and created two more bagels of garbage. My piles are almost gone, but so is my energy. I decided to put the countless bins of stuff into a large bin that I will sort through at night while watching tv. I am now on a mission because I want to decorate my house for Christmas next weekend.
Subclinical
Posted: 12 December 2020 - 07:31 AM
Good morning!
I slept late today.
Yesterday was a very good day. My classes went well. And I got a note from the mom of a favorite student telling me how much he loves the class.
Then we had a lovely afternoon/evening around the fire with Bean and family. I got to be the designated diaper changer and take him into the house at need so I got lots of extra cuddles and I got to show him the Christmas tree. He loves lights. And he will stare at individual ornaments for minutes at a time. And he is coming back Monday!
I am going to run the train for him and tell him the stories about the special ornaments on the tree. (I know he doesn't understand, but he likes looking and being talked to, and I like remembering.)
He was wearing my youngest DD's snuggly red Christmas outfit - footed pants and a little hooded jacket with a sleeping mouse and "not a creature was stirring" embroidered on it. Dsil took his picture sitting on my lap.
And, Dd and dsil's favorite park is having a "sale" on cabin reservations for non-holidays in 2021. Dd asked if we would keep him for three days in October next year. And Dh said "only if we get a practice overnight before that." :)
Dd and her bf are coming down tomorrow to use Dh tools to fix her car, and we will do some socially distant wreath making.
Oh, and also I got invited to apply for my job again yesterday.
(Have I explained how my job works?) We are all on annual contracts to teach our classes. If they like you, they send you a class proposal worksheet in December - you fill it out with the classes you want to teach next year, attach description(s) if you haven't taught the class before, and the number of hours you want to teach and periods you are available. Then the administration puts together a master schedule and opens registration. If your classes fill, they send you a contract. If some of them don't, they either cut your hours or switch out for something you proposed that didn't originally fit in the schedule and see if that fills. Or with a couple of us, they call us into the office and say "hey, we need this thing at this time - you're available, can you teach it?"
So, time to daydream about teaching students who can work together in classrooms without masks.....
Tatoulia
Posted: 11 December 2020 - 09:03 AM
I love how you and your family are managing the pandemic. Very wise choices, SubC! WTG for doing two loads of dishes!
I have not a lot to show for myself, I'm afraid. No real decorations out. I have to get my wreaths this weekend.
I remember your mentioning the dear little houses last year. I love things like that. So lovely.
Coffee clinks!
Subclinical
Posted: 11 December 2020 - 04:50 AM
Good morning!
Tatoulia, be careful at the P.O.
I'm glad your Mom is handling the lockdown ok and that they are keeping her safe.
I wish you luck with your promotion. It seems like it would be hard to get a raise in the current business environment, but hopefully your company is one doing well.
I did not do any work in the barn yesterday. I cleaned off the porch and cleaned up all the random stuff lying around the yard and put the bows on the lamps by the garage, and by then I decided I didn't want to start with the limited time left and have to worry about showering and getting ready for class.
I figured I could work for a couple of hours after class today (friday I get done earlier) because it will still be warm. But Dd1 called and they are bringing the bean by this afternoon for a socially distanced visit and outdoor pizza eating. That beats barn work any day. (While I can sometimes have bean and keep him in my house, his parents are still keeping their distance. The data we can find seems to show babies are an extremely low risk as transmitters.)
Saturday it is supposed to rain. So I guess the barn is just going to stay bad for a while.
In the house yesterday I ran the dishwasher twice - so dishes are finally caught up, and I filled a paper grocery bag with old seed catalogs to recycle. I also put out the little cardboard house village from Dh childhood. It belonged to his grandfather when the grandfather was a little boy, and Dh mom passed it along to us last year. It's really precious.
My aunt and uncle sent us a lovely evergreen centerpiece with candles., so the house just gets more and more christmassy.
I had a good school day yesterday, and expect to have another one today because today is all pottery classes.
Everybody stay safe and warm!
Tatoulia
Posted: 10 December 2020 - 11:50 PM
Don't lick the doorknobs! Sage advice!
I don't have much to show for myself. It is great having my place clean! My professionally made bed was so nice last night!
I saw BF for a few minutes today. We walked together. He went to the bank and I went to Whole Foods.
I was decidedly unproductive at work today. But that's to be expected every now and then. I got some secret news that tells me I am very close to being promoted. I do hope there is a good increase in pay. I know that someone who recently got promoted was pretty disappointed in her pay increase and when she tried to negotiate, she was shut down.
Mom sounds cheerful despite being put back on Lockdown due to a resident with COVID. The chewy . Com deliveries have taken a great deal of worry off of her mind and has made my life so much easier. I just ordered four boxes of fancy feast and I put it on a seven week auto ship. I don't know the timing on that, just an experiment for now. I'll check in with her in January to see where they are on their food.
I napped after work, which was a real treat. I have many of my little Christmas trees to mail tomorrow. I'm sure the PO will be a nightmare but I'm doing what I can and when I can.
Love to all. Let's close out this week on a good note!
Subclinical
Posted: 10 December 2020 - 04:55 AM
Good morning! Coffee clinks.
Warm thoughts to CM and Tillie.
Tatoulia, I hope you are reveling in your freshly cleaned space.
Did you find your wrapping paper?
Yesterday was Wednesday, so I pretty much did school stuff. Kept the fire going, let the dishes pile up...
I did clear away the "classroom" paraphernalia for the evening.
It's going to be ridiculously warm today (in the 50s) so once I get my school stuff together I will need to hit the barn. It has been suffering neglect. Then classes in the afternoon.
Running the dishwasher also needs to be a priority.
I need to incorporate some kind of exercise routine into my life. Yoga doesn't do it. Yesterday I found myself bracing my weight against the stair rail to spare my knee. Today's exercise will be barn work though.
One of my students yesterday asked me if we are really going back to school in January. All I could tell her was "that is the plan. There have been no further discussions about what conditions might change anything and teachers are not being asked for input or warned to prepare for any changes. That doesn't mean things won't change. If the hospitals are overflowing and the governor has locked everything down - we won't be in school. But currently, the intent is to go back January 12. Meanwhile, don't lick doorknobs."
I'm guessing the vaccine will be approved today. Based on my age and profession, the internet says I am halfway down the line. My students are unlikely to be vaccinated this school year. (Some of them are unlikely to be vaccinated ever) I would put all of my girls ahead of me in line, but it looks like the plan is two soon after and the other two much later. Only my dad is ahead of me. Mom is healthy and doesn't work and they live independently.
Tatoulia
Posted: 08 December 2020 - 10:50 PM
Well done, SubC! You did a lot!
I've done very little. I got a bag of stuff over to mom. Bread, milk, etc. abs I put the batteries in a separate bag abs then forgot the batteries.
I saw BF for a few minutes. Took a short walk. Did a load of sheets (last week's sheets). Cleaners come tmr so I'll have a nice fresh bed tomorrow. I told them my house is dirty and they said it will be clean and good smelling tomorrow.
I haven't even wrapped one gift. If I have wrapping paper, I can wrap my one or two gifts in no time. I haven't checked yo see if I used it all up last year. Something tells me that I did.
Okay off to bed. Very cold here. Kitty is sleeping in the couch next to me and I can't stand his precious she is.
Goodnight dearhearts.
Subclinical
Posted: 08 December 2020 - 07:37 PM
Good evening!
I put all the laundry away.
And I used the upholstery brush and vacuumed all the lint off the bedspread.
And I stripped our bed and washed the sheets. (Have to put them back before I can sleep)
And the dishwasher is running - although it does not contain all of the dirty dishes because we had leftovers and emptied many small containers tonight.
And I put the school stuff away, even though I have to get it right back out in the morning.
I did not do any outside decorations, but I did put the lights and the bow on the stairs up to our bedroom.
School was pretty good today.
Dh says I am doing well.
How did everyone else's day go?
Tatoulia
Posted: 08 December 2020 - 10:09 AM
Hello Ladies! Coffee clinks.
I'm going to join SubC and channel some of Cm's optimism! We can do this!
Good to hear from you, CM. You sound excellent ? keep up the good work!
SubC you are balancing a lot right now. I do pray that your husband keeps his job, and if not, you enjoy a strong relationship and i am confident you will face your challenges with both grace and practicality.
Today the goal is to work hard, have a coffee or tea about 3 PM and to work on my home this evening. My cleaners will be here tomorrow. Very happy about that.
Subclinical
Posted: 08 December 2020 - 05:30 AM
Good morning!
I forgot to check back.
Tatoulua, i understand about the vacation days now. It sounds like you made goid use of your day. I hope you feel on top of things now.
CM, I'm glad your roomate is recovering well. That is nice about the wire shelf. I remember how much difference it made when my boss gave me the old library shelves.
The sun never really same up yesterday, so it all felt like swimming through molasses. I made some bad food choices, but I'm trying to tell myself today is a new day (and channel some of CM's optimism.
My son's other mom came by and brought us peanut brittle (those boys were inseparable, hers is my "extra son") extra son's partner is a nurse and told her that she is not to go into buildings - full stop, and stay away from people - outside 8-10 feet, both masked. Things are really bad at the hospital. She left the peanut brittle on the porch and then moved away into the yard while I got my mask and coat.
I didn't take care of the last pile in the great room, but I did clear out the three small piles in the den - and recycled some papers. I made a little progress in the scullery, and I did some of the laundry. I'm not sure exactly how much because I folded it all and then put some away, but I think I put away at least one basket worth.
I don't have very much to do to get ready for school today - which is good, because I forgot to set my alarm and overslept. I woke up teary from a bad dream, so I'm working on resetting for the day. Mostly I need to set the school things up because I cleared it all away for the weekend.
We have bread.
So, week one - tree set up with train and one room (den) depiled.
Week two - outside ribbons and lights and another room?
CriticalMass
Posted: 08 December 2020 - 12:11 AM
Hi, I haven't done a whole lot but weather's been mild and I hope to do more this week. My roommate gave me the extra set of sturdy wire shelves she doesn't need. They will replace some in the storage unit, I'll figure out what as I go.
Two weeks till solstice, I know it'll take awhile to really notice the days being longer, and the coldest winter still to come here, but the psychological boost of just knowing we're on the upswing helps me. Tatoulia, hope you got through the nor'easter safely.
SubC, Bean is growing up so fast but you probably don't need me to tell you that. I'm sure he is a cutie pie. I'm glad your husband will be okay financially if they lay him off and hope he will be resilient and find something else good.
My roommate's lifting restrictions end tomorrow, though I'll still help her with the more strenuous things for awhile to be on the safe side.
Public schools here are back to virtual. Stores seem to be doing what they should, although I make a point not to go during the busier hours so I can't say if it's safe to go to big ones like Walmart then. I have plenty of groceries.
Tillie, I hope you still have enough stuff to get by, and that resting is both possible and helpful for you these days.
Tatoulia
Posted: 07 December 2020 - 10:33 PM
Dishwasher running. Got my trash and some recycling out. Did a load of laundry and I showered. I ran to the grocery store. Obviously none of this is in order! I have to go downstairs and get my laundry.
Tomorrow I have to finish my Christmas cards and wrap up gifts for overseas. I'll take everything to post office on Wednesday, I think.
I'm tired. It's 11:30 and I must say, this has been a nice respite for me.
Tmr I need to wrap all gifts. I don't know if I have any wrapping paper. I tried to use it all up last year. I do have ribbons. The kind the cat doesn't try to eat.
I do hope a cat comes into BF's life. He just needs to see a stray in a snowstorm or have a limping cat show up at his door.
Tatoulia
Posted: 07 December 2020 - 06:09 PM
SubC I hate my sifter. I should get rid of it.
We have Christmas Eve and Christmas Day off. I meant more in terms of taking vacation days. I'm trying to save ten to cash in. Ultimately we will probably get out early on the 23d.
I had a good day. Got my packages mailed, went to the consignment store, went to another store and bought gifts for our friend's kids, and now my shopping is complete. I also stopped at a hardware store and bought new drawer pulls for the bathroom. I didn't get my wreaths. The garden center,which I haven't been in for years, had so many pretty things to look at and good, quality toys for the kids. So I decided to skip the wreaths. I'll get at the grocery store later in the week.
I did get two small bags to my car for goodwill. I ended up taking BFs car so I didn't get to goodwill. I am culling through my Christmas cards. Just going to donate.
I need to gather my trash.
I need to get some things done here. Will be back in a bit.
Subclinical
Posted: 07 December 2020 - 04:57 AM
Good morning Tatoulia,
Sorry to leave you talking to yourself.
Do you not have Christmas off?
I'm glad you have resolved the poor kitties issues. Hang in there, the cleaning fairies will come soon.
I'm sorry you didn't get your package mailed, but I think you made a good choice on the P.O.
Hello Tillie and CM! Good morning! I hope you are both doing ok.
And hello to any readers, feel free to jump in!
I opened one of my little gifts from mom yesterday after I got the train set up. It was hand lotion. (So not the thrift store) it was a little tube that will be good to keep in my desk when I get back to my desk.
I got the laundry down to four heaped up baskets - the baskets are still on the guest bed. I am going to try to put away one basket each day so the bed will be done at the end of the week.
Today I have a little school stuff to do, and I am going to work on the scullery and the last pile in the great room. I'm also baking bread this morning. We have been out of bread for two weeks. I'll see what else the day holds and report back.
Tatoulia, your comment about not buying stuff made me realize that somewhere along the way I stopped reporting everything that I brought in. Being aware of that was a good habit. So, I will confess a little now - Dh just bought me a second little saucepan because we have both started eating hot cereal in the morning, but we like two different kinds, and I don't like making them one at a time and washing the pan in between because he gets done eating before mine is ready. Also, I started a new habit right before thanksgiving - every week I am ordering myself a new book from a living children's author. It gives me two things to look forward to - setting aside the time to choose the book, and having it come in the mail and reading it. I don't know how long I will do this (if Dh gets fired it will have to stop right away!) but for now it is a good winter treat and the books fit on my bookshelf. I am contemplating thinning the shelves out though - as I am adding good stories with well done illustrations, I am looking at some of my other books and thinking "do I really want to read this to Bean?"
I also haven't been reporting on small things that I find to get rid of, and there is a pile waiting to go to goodwill again. Most recently I downsized a thanksgiving decoration and a sifter I almost never use that i don't really like. If I have to sift something, I have a large fine mesh strainer that will work fine.
Tatoulia
Posted: 06 December 2020 - 10:22 PM
I changed kitty's box with the regular litter. Her back paws appear to be okay. The house feels dusty from her poor little foot that was caked. I've swept but will be happiest once the cleaners have been here.
Bf said he'd bring water to mom tonight. And I'll pick up a case tomorrow. Trying to keep her well stocked.
I have a lot I want to accomplish on my final vacation day of the year. I'd like to get the wreaths for my windows and I'd like to get at least one bag of stuff to goodwill.
COVID-19 has helped me to mot big myself a bunch of junk this year.
I haven't heard from my friend's husband regarding putting up the lights. I'll nudge him midweek.
My year's worth of laundry strips has lasted more than a year. I'm on my final two packs of 30. I can hold off ordering til the beginning of next year.
I'm going to have to buy shampoo soon. And conditioner. I'd bought out all the nice Bvulgari green tea ones when a store was closing. The scent was formerly used at the Four Seasons in Tokyo (they had switched to L'Occitane the second time I was there but they outfitted my room with the Bvlgari just to make me happy). So I buy it up whenever I see it. I love the scent and it makes me happy. I still have plenty of bar soaps. Little comforting things. I travel so infrequently and when I'm overseas I really like things to be nice.
Oh to travel to France right now would make me so happy.
Tatoulia
Posted: 06 December 2020 - 05:09 PM
Update. I took BF his gingerbread house and he loves it. I outdid myself this year. I have two more to make.
I tried to go to our main post office (open 7 days a week) but it was too crowded so instead I headed out to get us Lebanese food. So we are set for a week. I picked up some for mom, too.
Now I have to go get water for mom because the aide told me mom is out of water. I have to keep her drinking water and the only way to do it is to get her the bottles. I know it's not ideal but it's what I can do.
I picked up regular cat litter and will change kitty's box now. That poor thing. I think I've gotten most of it off her paw. It was caked and stuck. And there are cat litter prints all over the house. That poor cat.
So I'm disappointed that I didn't get my packages mailed.
But that's okay. I'll go tomorrow. I also have tomorrow off.
I don't know if I dare to use the laundry in a Sunday night. I do not know what the situation is like down there on a Sunday.
Tatoulia
Posted: 06 December 2020 - 11:17 AM
Wow you got a lot done yesterday! Good that your husband was able to do some productive errands for you so that you could shift your focus from the hardware store.
My place is a mess! And it's dirty. It feels really dirty. The clumping litter isn't working out. It dries on her paws like cement. The poor thing. I'll get her regular litter today.
I need to do laundry but here it is noon and I'm just getting up. Not good.
Will make my breakfast and try to look productive.
Subclinical
Posted: 06 December 2020 - 08:10 AM
Tatoulia, any progress on the Christmas cards is good.
Did you get your walk in the snow?
Be very careful going to the P.O.
I finished getting my tree up and cleaned up most of the great room. One more small pile and a shelf to sort out. I may ignore the shelf.
Dh needed a thing from the hardware store for a project yesterday (I hate that he goes in the hardware store) while he was out, he dropped off the pile of styrofoam to be recycled and he dropped the lightbulbs at the hardware store. So, more things out.
Today I am going to put out the train and work on the laundry. It is becoming clear that I just really don't like putting away laundry.
I feel like this winter would be a good time to work on my clothes, since I will be stuck home with little to do outside, but I have gained weight again and I'm afraid it will be depressing.
I did resist eating ice cream after the concert last night as Dh had gotten us take out which is much richer than what we cook at home.
Yesterday Bean got his first rice cereal. Dd sent us a video. 🥰
Tatoulia
Posted: 05 December 2020 - 10:21 PM
I've had an okay day. I did about half my Christmas cards. The plan to get rid of all my Christmas cards isn't going to work. I've selected some to donate. It is too tough to do Christmas cards when the postcards go so smoothly. Less to write and just easier all around.
I've packaged up the small wood Christmas trees I got as gifts for friends. Our main post office is open tomorrow so I'll think about going down there to mail. I don't know if it will be unbelievably busy or not.
I made BF's gingerbread t. It came out pretty nice.
I also did some work. I know where I stand on succession planning at the office and I want to continue to shine.
So that's my day. I have to run my dishwasher now.
Tatoulia
Posted: 05 December 2020 - 11:48 AM
SubC, I am grateful for the explanation. That all rests my mind.
I agree to close the bars and other venues. I know this is complicated and I'm not trying to step on anyone's toes. I think trying to keep kids in school is important. I'm grateful that the city of Boston provides breakfast and lunch to all students, free of charge and they have pick up points for kids learning from home.
Today we are expecting a big storm. Right now we have rain and at some point it will turn to snow. When it does, I'll go visit BF.
my house is a mess and it's dirty. I really wish I could have the cleaners every week. I'm not sure they'd be willing to wrangle Boston parking each week. But it sure would be nice.
Subclinical
Posted: 05 December 2020 - 08:56 AM
Hi Tillie,
I'm just happy to know you are still here.
Tatoulua, I will gladly let you worry. Honestly, we will be ok no matter what. If Dh never works again, we would have to give up some luxuries and I would have to work well into my 60s (until the mortgage is paid off), but I love my job (most years) and don't have any plans to quit anyway. Our current "retirement goals" only factor in me working four more years. Also, I can't imagine Dh not getting some kind of job where he makes at least what I do. It's mostly the worry about the personal impact on him of being fired.
The museum sounds lovely, but I am sorry about the stomach ache.
My last school day went ok. My teens are very unhappy about the online schooling. One of them, who doesn't have a good workspace at home, asked if he could drop the class and reenroll when we return. I said "theoretically yes, but I would prefer that you didn't because I'm going to keep teaching you new skills for the next four weeks and if you don't at least watch, you will be very behind."
I am still foolishly hoping that it will really only be three more weeks online, even though the post thanksgiving spike has started. I do have 6-8 weeks planned for all but one class.
I was reading this morning that the cdc is going to recommend closing bars and restaurants instead of schools - something the new administration may get behind. Dh and I are making plans to get carry out more often (one of those luxuries) at the independent places we like.
Today I will be cleaning up and finishing off the Christmas tree. Dh and I have a concert (luxury) tonight. The concerts all stream free this year, but we were able to donate our usual ticket cost and a bit more. So, you see, we are fine.
Bean went to see his other Grammy yesterday. They fed fruit loops to the donkey. I hope dsil took pictures. Other Grammy has shaved her head because she was losing her hair, but you wouldn't be able to tell with a warm hat on.
Tatoulia
Posted: 04 December 2020 - 11:18 PM
Tillie! Do not apologize! We love you so much, and we know you are here. If you need anything at all, I am happy to send to Cory to send to you. No strings attached.
SubC I'll do the worrying for you. I do pray that husband stays in his job.
It's impossible to believe that the holidays are upon us and that we've slogged through this year of changes.
I had today off and went to the museum. I had extreme abdominal pain the entire time. They have a Black History Black Future exhibit and it is curated by teens! SubC you would absolutely love it. I enjoyed that quite a bit. I had a hard time enjoying myself due to my stomach pain. But I was glad to be in the museum.
On way home I stopped to get some lunch for BF and he gave me chamomile tea for the belly pain. Many hours later, I'm feeling better. But the pain persists.
Big storm heading our way and I have plenty to do tomorrow.
Tillie
Posted: 04 December 2020 - 06:19 PM
Hello Just a drive by to let you all know I am still here. Sorry, so very very sorry ((((HUG))))
Subclinical
Posted: 04 December 2020 - 05:08 AM
Good morning again.
Last day of online school for the week. Yesterday went ok. After today we have two more online weeks, two weeks of Christmas break, another online week, and we're back in the classroom (lalala, I can't hear you)
In one of my classes 1/3 of the parents have covid.
I am becoming resigned to the idea that my December 1 list of goals is going to take me all week.
Dh work is getting ready for another round of layoffs (I don't know why they call them layoffs, they are firing people, they don't ever bring them back) He thinks he may be on the list this time, just because of demographics - male, well paid, replaceable skill set, far enough from retirement to avoid a lawsuit, but not one of the promising young guys the company is grooming for long productive careers. We won't know until January, so I'm trying to Scarlet O'Hara it.
So, today, school, and maybe finish decorating the Christmas tree and cleaning off the guest bed.
I did take the trash and recycling yesterday - something out.
Subclinical
Posted: 03 December 2020 - 05:01 AM
Good morning all.
Tillie, I'm hoping you are reading and knowing we love you.
Tatoulua, I have a soft spot for the "incompetent" ones too. I'm sure the kids who took their signs home were just trying to hang on to a sense of control and consistency. I'm glad that I can give them that in any way. We can always make new signs if they don't come back....
I hope everything works out for the best with your friend.
CM, My understanding of the new guidelines is that the old guidelines are best and most effective, but since people completely ignore them because they think they are too hard, we will set new guidelines that are easier that will still help a lot and maybe people will follow them.
The same government that won't insure teenagers have good information and easy access to birth control....
I like hearing about your storage unit plans, and I am crossing my fingers for your sewer!
I didn't make any progress on my December goals yesterday, but I did clear away my "classroom" for the evening, which Dh appreciated. And tatoulua, I ran the dishwasher too.
Tonight after online school I have to drive down to the building, make a few copies, and leave bags for student pick up tomorrow. I plan to drop off the recycling and a little bag of trash while I'm out. So, my whole day will be school focused today.
Tatoulia
Posted: 02 December 2020 - 10:56 PM
Hello everyone! And if you are reading and not posting, rest assured we are grateful that you are here.
I didn't do anything here today. I slept after work then visited BF. He had a crying young woman in the store, upset about Tigger. She needed kleenexes. He lived a beautiful life.
I have commissioned an oil painting of Tigger for the BF. I'd like one for me, too but will just get one for him right now. Will be a birthday gift. I'm not sure if the artist has started it yet. She's pretty busy but once she gets started it's about 2 weeks. I sent her several pictures of the kitty.
Cm! Good for you for thinking and planning for your next visit to the storage. You are doing well - I know you'll find a chance to set up your staging area and get to work!
SubC I was delighted to hear about your classes. I know it's a bit frustrating but honestly hearing about the different personalities was terrific for me. Naturally I have a soft spot for the "incompetent" student as well as the kids who brought home their signs even though they were told not to.
Cm I don't trust the new guidelines either. I understand them and the reasoning, but I'm still just keeping to myself. I'm a bit concerned about my houseguest before Christmas. But she lives alone, hasn't worked since October, and is moving to Japan. So far she's tested negative. She has been huddling in place since the pandemic. I wish she'd just come now and move in with me. Then we'd know we are safe for Christmas. I also wish that the situation were different and I could go to Japan with her for a few weeks.
I might check in with her tomorrow and see if she wants to come here now. It'll be tight with me working from home but she can take the bedroom. And my cat will be fine with her cat.
Okay believe it or not I'm working right now. I'm trying to get a lot done now so I can face whatever onslaught comes my way as the year draws to a close.
CriticalMass
Posted: 02 December 2020 - 06:19 PM
Hi, is it December already? 😜
Who knows in this Groundhog Day year, as my new pastor referred to it in his sermon. Thanksgiving was low-key here, with takeout barbeque meat gotten the evening before. Roommate made dressing because she likes it, and it was good too.
Didn't do Black Friday, I never do.
The city guy who is supposed to flag where the sewer line is has yet to make it out here. There was something about a small earthquake on the other side of town on Saturday morning that put them behind. We have a for-now solution but are on borrowed time with it. 😬
Some people want their two front teeth for Christmas, we just want a sewer line.
We are supposed to get snow this evening. Radar shows it about 1-2 counties to the west of us at this time. But it'll probably melt quickly, as tomorrow is supposed to be in the 50s. Tomorrow is also payday for me, yay! 💵 Can definitely use it.
I see the CDC is reducing quarantine time. I don't know as I trust that. My strategy is to err on the cautious side.
I'm not getting a whole lot done, but if nothing else will still be doing stuff on the computer that got so backlogged when I was at war with it and it with me. Went to the storage unit briefly once; if there's a stretch of nice weather I would like to set up my card tables by the entrance.
That really helps with sorting more quickly. Lots of small items such as books, separating the keep from the donate, etc. And the fabric stash I'd wanted to cut off extra and donate as well, thus reducing the total volume to a manageable level I'll actually be able to use up.
Hello to Tillie, please feel better soon!
Hi Tatoulia, SubC, Lila, and Emily. Emily, it is so much more common than people realize to have our living quarters get out of control when we get slammed by several crazy traumatic life events at once! I'm sorry you had so much to deal with. Hang in there, you are going to find relief soon from the aftermath. We will help you. And the Badger 🦡 to whom I see you have already been introduced.
Subclinical
Posted: 02 December 2020 - 05:03 AM
Tatoulia, I'm sorry your mom is struggling. It's so hard to keep the faith that we will come out the other side. You are doing a great job and being a great support person.
I am over looking forward to online school.
We spent the first ten minutes of my youngest class practicing turning our microphones on and off. Then half the class wanted to play with the "raise hand" feature and 1/4 of them didn't understand it at all. I told them - I can see you, you can just raise your hand.
My older kids mostly came to class unprepared. One kid told me he couldn't work on his project because he didn't have the right tools and I asked if he remembered the last day when I asked many times if anyone needed to borrow any tools - including specifically the things he needed. His response: "what can I say? I'm incompetent."
Another kid didn't have his stuff because his parent has covid and they can't pick it up. (Quarantine) We arranged for a friend to leave it on his steps.
I got to hear about a zoom funeral.
I did like seeing their faces. Some of my littles took their desk signs home (I told them not to - we use them to label their workspace in the classroom for distancing) and used them to set up their at home space.
I didn't meet my goals yesterday. I'm not sure what happened to my evening - I think I am more efficient at the end of the day when I am in my classroom. Somehow losing the hour commute didn't help.
Dh says I planned too much. I spent the whole time he was cooking dinner putting away laundry, but the bed is less than half clear.
Got a few more ornaments on my tree.
Third highest case numbers ever in my state yesterday. Third highest deaths also. Testing down, cases up, hospitalizations continue their steady climb and teenagers attend their cousins' funerals on zoom.
I will put on my teacher face and power through.
Tatoulia
Posted: 01 December 2020 - 09:56 PM
Well we had a fairly warm day here, SubC. Our giant rain was over. I bet the snow looked pretty. There are a lot of Christmas decorations out in the city and I'm enjoying them! Oh and a friend sent me a giant vase of flowers today! Unexpected and for no reason!
I didn't take my garbage out last night. I could hear the wind tossing the garbage in the alley. I woke up too late to take it out, so Thursday night it is.
I had another productive and satisfying day, work-wise. Then tonight I took mom's gingerbread house to her house. The person at the desk took it up immediately to her. She had called me twice tonight upset and depressed. I know it's hard on her but I am unwilling to get into a car with her. I need to stay safe at all costs I do believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel so I can keep doing what I'm doing.
I didn't do any clean up here today. My goal is to decorate BFs gingerbread house and get it up to him. I also want to write out my Christmas cards. I think I can cycle through all of them this year. Get rid of all of my many cards from over the years.
That's the news from Boston!
Subclinical
Posted: 01 December 2020 - 06:25 AM
Good morning all!
Wishing comfort and hope to Tillie.
Thinking of CM
Still hoping to hear more from Emily.
And happy to see you Tatoulia. Staying in all day is a very goid thing right now.
This morning the moon on the snow was lovely, and I am actually looking forward to online school and not having to drive anywhere.
My focus this morning will be getting set up for classes, dishes, and starting my December surfaces goal.
Cases are actually trending down a little, although hospitalizations in my state are continuing their slow and steady increase. Hospitalizations are the only indicator that isn't really influenced by individual choices, so it is the most reliable, but it should also lag case numbers a bit, so I am cautiously hopeful. It would be so nice if instead of a post holiday surge we had a post holiday decline and numbers actually got down to where it was safe to go back to school in January!
Tatoulia
Posted: 01 December 2020 - 12:46 AM
Congratulations on getting the leeks picked! And for a great day with the bean!
Tigger was at other business. Dear cat. BF misses him most when arriving at work and when leaving at night.
I never left my apt today.
Subclinical
Posted: 30 November 2020 - 07:53 PM
I also didn't mention that when I got up this morning it was a mix of rain and snow and my yard was a swamp again, and it has gotten colder all day and now the snow is sticking.
I looked at the overnight weather and realized that with the overnight lows, this was my last chance to pick leeks. So I bundled up, put on my non-leaky boots, grabbed a headlamp, and pulled all the remaining leeks out of the garden.
This is a big success because: I remembered in time I had time to do it I was not too overwhelmed or exhausted There is only one very full grocery bag of leeks - so I didn't overplant
It would be better if I had actually checked the weather yesterday and picked them when the weather was nice and gotten them stripped and trimmed and washed and in the fridge by now. But I'll enjoy the progress.
Subclinical
Posted: 30 November 2020 - 05:19 PM
I'm guessing almost nobody goes to the grocery store the day after thanksgiving! Was tigger at the other business, or was he allowed in the grocery?
December goal - piles have crept back, and the online teaching tends to make them worse.
So, my December goal is to get all the piles off of the surfaces in the dining porch, den, great room, and scullery. The scullery is a really big job. Also I want to put the laundry away and stop using the guest bed as a clean laundry hamper. I have nobody coming to visit and no big family holiday this year, so there is no one to motivate me besides you guys and badger.
I had a lovely day with Bean. We danced and cuddled and read books and played with toys and he showed off his rolling over. He napped just long enough for me to eat lunch and clean up his used bottles. We had a fire in the woodstove to keep warm and he likes watching it through the glass door. He also grabbed mr. kitty's fur for the first time. Mr. kitty was good and walked away.
Tatoulia
Posted: 30 November 2020 - 03:04 PM
Okay today I've just been working.
SubC, BF owns a grocery. We are also working on a separate business and have been for a few years. COVID-19 hasn't affected him too badly. It did in the beginning and even now there's a decrease in business but he's plugging along. He has fewer employees now, which is essentially fine with him. He used to operate cafes and luckily he's been out of that for a long time. He would've been destroyed. He
My company continues to be strong.
It is dark and windy and rainy here but very warm, since the storm is coming from the south. Still, I might have a fire for ambiance.
I showered and washed my hair. I feel fantastic.
Tatoulia
Posted: 30 November 2020 - 11:22 AM
Welcome Emily! You came to the right place!
We are at the end of November. Since Tillie is concentrating on healing her body and resting as much as possible, I'll ask whether anyone is interested in a December goal.
I have the usual amorphous Get Rid of Stuff, but with a twist: I can't find two of my embroidered table cloths and I'm going to need one for Christmas and probably the other one for New Year's. This means some serious closet cleaning/clearing.
Emily, it's difficult to know where to start. So I say, just start. If you have a lot of trash such as food wrappers and containers, maybe grab a couple of garbage bags and get to work! And it's helpful to count how many trash bags you take out-it is much more satisfying than taking two out and feeling like there's still too much to do. So count the accomplishments! For me, I like to suggest that people clear off their beds, put on clean sheets, and commit to making it every day. For me, a made bed gives me a safe and clear place to rest my head at night. Your thoughts?
If you have a particular challenge-let's say, do two loads of laundry or gather up two trash bags I'll join you! Whatever you suggest I'll join in! With or without the badger. 😊
Subclinical
Posted: 30 November 2020 - 04:25 AM
Welcome Emily!
That was a truly horrible year. I am so sorry.
You bother because you matter and you deserve to have a home that is safe and welcoming and comfortable.
Meet badger: 🦡
We send each other badger (badgering) when we have something that we are trying to get done but we lack motivation. As in "I really need to clear this counter off, please send badger" we will check in with you and see how you are doing. Sometimes Tillie asks us for our monthly goals.
I am also a teacher (but part time). I start back to online school tomorrow. In the spring online school and I backslid a lot.
What do you think would help you the most? Is there a specific space you want to tackle? A set amount of time? A category of clutter? A new habit? Do you need somebody to agree "today we will both put away the laundry" or such? Let us know.
Emily
Posted: 29 November 2020 - 09:10 PM
My biggest issue is my why bother attitude. I am a widow. My husband died in his sleep 12 years ago. he was 46. it was totally unexpected as he was not sick. I have been struggling since. At first, I was overwhelmed by grief and cleaning was the furthest thing from my mind. Then I was dealing with a previous moving and storage clutter that contained both his treasures and my treasures. Furniture that got ruined and had to be thrown away. He died two weeks before Christmas. My house was cluttered with my grandmother's stuff because it was her apartment I moved into in the basement of my childhood home. I decorated for Christmas and somehow got through. I went back to work and within 2 weeks a coworker's husband died. My father had a pacemaker put in and was on a respirator for two days. Then a week later my uncle had a heart attack at work and fell off a ladder to his death. Three weeks after that, a second coworker lost her mother. Then in September my grandmother died exactly 9 months to the day as my uncle. The whole first year was a blur. I got up everyday and went to work and Came home to an empty house. I barely ate, I listened to the TV but couldn't tell what I was watching. The house was slowly slipping away. I managed to keep it controlled but it never got any better. It really began slipping last November when my dad was hospitalized and we didn't know what was wrong with him. I was working full time, going to school, and spending hours at the hospital 7 days a week. I came home with a bag of food after 8, kicked off my shoes, changed my clothes, and did school work and went to sleep. Last Christmas 2019, among the craziness and stress, I decorated the whole house piles of crap and all hidden by the decorations. I lost total control when COVID hit and I had to teach from home the whole house was upside down to start with, then bring home books and supplies for teaching and I'm fighting a losing battle. Is anyone willing to be a Buddy cleaner with me and hold me accountable for my actions. I need serious help with this. It's clutter. The house is livable just messy.
Subclinical
Posted: 29 November 2020 - 07:41 PM
Good evening.
I am now very curious about what Tatoulia's bf has in his shop. Good for a snowstorm but not a Christmas present....🤔
My tree has lights on it and I have one strand that got used up for replacement bulbs that I will recycle and another strand that is my new replacement bulb strand because the lights kept blinking out when it was jostled.
It also has one ornament on it because my mom sent a box with a Christmas ornament and three packages to open whenever I want (the packages are pre-pandemic thrift store finds she was going to put in my stocking - we do that) after I finish decorating the tree, I will put the packages under it and then open them when I need a reward or a lift.
Tomorrow is a Bean day! Dsil talked to his family and everyone still feels fine, so Dd said I can have Bean!
Maybe he will help me put some ornaments on. He loves lights and sparkly things and all things outside, so Christmas trees are perfect for him.
Tatoulia
Posted: 29 November 2020 - 10:06 AM
Coffee clinks! To all, including newcomers!
That's sweet about the dowels for your students and taking care of a pregnant skunk. I like your family so much, SubC.
I bought some candies for the gingerbread houses. I can only decorate with wrapped candies for mom because she eats them. Even when I tell her that the gumdrops have been over handled, she still eats them. This year, more than ever, I have to stick with wrapped candies only.
Oh my coffee in my meditation filter is so tasty. So much hotter than the old Mr Coffee.
SubC, BF's shop doesn't benefit from Black Friday or small business Saturday. But come a snowstorm? He's golden.
Okay I have a list of things to do today? AFTER I enjoy my coffee.
Subclinical
Posted: 28 November 2020 - 08:45 PM
Hi Tillie! It's goid to see you are here.
Hi Tatoulia, that is a cute little tree!
I am always impressed that you make gingerbread houses.
Hi CM, hope things are going well.
Hi Lila if you come by, and any old timers who stop in!
We rearranged the great room, swept and vacuumed, and put the tree up in it's stand. I like to let it sit overnight before I do the lights. I did a load of dishes and two of laundry, puttered a bit in the studio, and did some stall cleaning.
I also assisted Dh as he cut 32 strips of wood for me to send home for my kids to use for rolling slabs. We used scrap wood from the shop pile. The alternative would be buying dowels which would eat up my classroom budget. He's a good guy.
My little fluffy skunk is visiting again. I'm pretty sure she is pregnant. She's too fat to hoist herself over the edge of the feed bucket. I may have *accidentally* spilled a little feed.
Been staying up too late, so I need to get to bed!