Diane, I have more advice, but of course you will know in your heart what is best.
When I worked at an emergency vet there were plenty of times that an animal needed to be humanely put down. People sobbed and didn't think they could handle the pain of saying good-bye while their beloved pet passed.
When they asked me what they should do I always recommended that if at all possible they should be with their pet as he/she died.
The animal knows the person she trusts and loves the most is right there with her. Even if you are crying your baby is reassured by your presence. Hold her and kiss her and tell her you'll be together again and that is ok to go.
Every single person who did that thanked me afterwards, sometimes sending notes, because as hard as it was they felt like they had provided their baby with the last bit of comfort. My sanctuary friends call it The Final Gift.
Only you know what you are able to do and everyone's choice must be honored. I sincerely hope my opinion is not too overbearing. I offer it in love and compassion for you and your dear baby's struggles.
Janie
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 09:16 PM
Diane - From what I can remember our dog was becoming very lethargic and having a hard time getting up and walking. She also started having seizures. We would have to hold her tightly during the seizures until she recovered and then she would be disorientated and panicky for a while. We took her to the vet and was given two prescriptions. I think one was for pain and the other was anti-seizure. It seemed to help for a while, maybe a few weeks. And then she started drinking lots of water and having accidents. You could tell she was embarrassed when it happened. I tried to let her out as much as possible but she just didn't have the energy to go out much. She was basically just laying around, struggling to get up to drink water, hardly eating and her eyes looked so sad.
After a few days of recurring accidents we took her to the vet again. The vet was not very optimistic. He said he could run a battery of tests that may offer some hope of finding out exactly what was wrong, but it appeared to be organ failure. It was our decision on how to proceed but he said we also needed to take into consideration that she was a large breed dog (Bernese Mountain Dog) and was just a few days shy of her 13th birthday. She already had lived a full life.
We considered what her quality of life was and decided it was best to humanely put her down. One of the hardest thing I've ever done. Thankfully my husband was in the room with her. I don't think I would have been able to handle it.
A few days later I called the breeder to let her know what happened. This breeder is such a great person and likes to know what happens to her pups so that she can use the information to possibly improve her breeding program. Anyway, the breeder told me that my dog was the last of that litter to die. For some reason, I felt honored.
Diane, I don't envy the decision you have to make. But only you know what's best for your friend.
Dianne
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 06:50 PM
Today has been productive but more importantly, balanced.
In addition to regular chores I cleaned 3 areas in the upper front hall. Got 1 bag of trash and 2 bags for donation (clothes).
I ate healthy and simple. Mentally I was kinder to myself and quieted the cycle of thoughts that drive me too hard.
Kara
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 06:44 PM
OMG! I have just read up on Hoarders High. At least nothing come into the home apart from my vision.
Dianne
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 06:44 PM
Kara, your vision of a meditation bedroom sounds lovely.
I'm so glad you've had a breakthrough from the darkness! Hold your vision!
Dianne
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 06:38 PM
Roxie, your little raccoons sound so cute. The feral cats will probably tolerate the new creatures and even let them have first pick of food. How are the kittens? (cat kittens?)
Great work Janie! Don't you just love a clean, organized closet? :)
Diane, Top Paw brand at Petsmart has washable cover-ups (panties) for female dogs. You put disposable diapers inside. Or for less money you can fold up absorbent paper towels like Bounty and put inside. The website www.dog.com has Simple Solution Washable Diapers.
If she has long hair you should trim any area that gets wet. It's very soothing to soak her hindquarters and/or belly in warm water and pat dry.
wwwK9granolafactory.com has organic virgin coconut oil. It's excellent for protecting and moisturizing areas that are getting chapped. Bag Balm at www.bagbalm.com is excellent also. Originally made for cow udders it's a great all-purpose healer even for human baby skin.
Trash bags tucked around your couch covers and towels on top of that will help. You could also put potty pads around or slip a couple under her for the night.
I'm sure your tender care will be felt by her and much appreciated. {{{HUGS}}}
Kara
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 06:22 PM
Sorry for not writing for a while. Been in mental darkness.
This morning however I started on a path of correctness. I awoke realising the vision of having a meditation bedroom. Calm, peaceful and made me feel whole again.
I drew drawing of my vision and then set about writing a list of what I wanted.
Then came the hard part. Disguishing the difference of now and my vision. What I needed to get rid of before I had my vision. It is all written down in list format.
I consider today to be a break through from the last 2 months or more of living in darkness.
I hope this encourages other.
diane
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 05:20 PM
thanks for the update Janie, I was wondering how you are doing. I understand about the horror of a cleaning person seeing our mess. I am impressed that you are maintaining downstairs, congrats. Good girl for buckling down and studying. Yes, my dog has been on Canine C/D prescription food for kidneys for several years, so I assume it is kidney shut down. What was the progression of your dogs decline, if you don't mind sharing. She has been drinking a lot of water for a few years, and urine is almost clear, as you described. She doesn't appear to know she is peeing, usually asleep when it slips out, she awakes with a start and looks around to see what woke her up, then tries to lick it up, poor girl. Thanks so much for sharing your dog story.
Janie
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 04:59 PM
Yesterday I cleaned out the top shelves of the hall linen closet. Threw out anything that wasn't useful and then organized the remaining health and beauty products. Today I tackled the bottom shelves. Not much there because that's where the kids towels are stored and every single towel is dirty at the moment. I did throw out some ratty bed linens and organized what was still in good shape. Also restocked the closet with toilet paper, kleenex and soap. Oh, and I put a roll of paper towels and windex in there to have it readily available for cleaning later. Also made room on the floor for a jug of cat litter so it wasn't sitting in the hallway anymore. The closet isn't that big and although it took me two days, I am happy it's done.
My outside task for the week was to empty the ash container of the grill and clean the grill grate and utensils. Ick! But now the grill is ready to make some BBQ ribs! Yum!
*** Diane - Wish I could hire a cleaning service. Even if I had extra money, I would be horrified if they ventured upstairs or down to the basement. I'm just going to see how things go for now. If I can maintain the first floor and maybe do a little extra each day I hope it should be okay until I'm done with this exam.
Sounds like you have been getting a lot done. Woo-Hoo!! I applaud you for working through the mess and still taking care of your own needs. Only you know how much you can physically take on. As we get further and further into the de-cluttering process the decisions seem to get harder and harder. But it seems you are making good decisions. GREAT JOB on the garage!! I am doing a happy dance for you!!
With my aging dog, she would urinate while laying down and not even realize it. At first I thought it was water because the puddles didn't look yellow or smell like urine. Then I read up on the signs of kidney failure, which the vet confirmed. Your dog may not have something this drastic but it may be worth reading up on.
*** AnneW - Yes, we will get there eventually. It may take months, it may take years, but we are all making progress and receiving support here. I just love having this forum to "let it out" and know that those reading my posts truly understand my triumphs as well as my frustrations. You mentioned in your post about effective floor cleaning (I think it was directed at Roxie?) Last week my mom bought me a Hoover Floor-Mate and I love it!! It works like a carpet cleaner, but for floors. I may still have to scrub every few months, but this is perfect for weekly cleaning instead of mopping. It's so quick and easy to use, and doesn't require much physical effort.
*** Roxie - High fives to you on keeping up with daily brushing. You are doing awesome in this area!! Sounds like you have plans for a productive day. Hope you are able to accomplish what you need to.
*** Tillie - Hope you and Marty are feeling better and the weather gets cooler for you soon. I was thinking about you (and your hoarder) last night when I finally got my husband to disconnect a printer that broke down years ago. Sure, it's now sitting in the entryway, but that's one step closer to out the door! I felt a great accomplishment in getting him to do something about the mess without him getting mad at me.
*** Dianne - I meant to comment before about throwing trash in dumpsters. I try to be very careful about when and where I do it. In addition to a fine, I would be so embarrassed if my name got in the local newspaper. What a way to rat myself out!! There are three different apartment complexes around so I pick a different one each week and either toss during the day when most people are at work, or late late at night. I have been thinking about getting a trash tote instead of paying by the bag for trash disposal but the monthly cost of the tote is so much. I'm hoping that once I get done with my initial de-clutter and most of the trash is gone, I will be okay. That, and my children finally take their cats to live with them instead of leaving them with me to care for. :-)
My break is over. Now I need to get back to studying! Hope everyone has a good evening!!
diane
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 02:44 PM
Karl, sounds like you are really ready for inspection, so great Tillie, sorry to hear you are ill, happy to hear from you. Roxie, sounds like such a nurturing day. Ok, so I woke up and decided to clean out the final section of the garage, not that the rest is organized, but is painted. This area has not been seen in 20 years, great layer of dirt. Got it all cleaned and painted this morning, looks great, took two coats, bare wood. Now have to figure out what goes where, and not just stuff things. Will be so nice when things are where I can find them. Wastes so much time looking for things. Now to mouse patrol. I broke down yesterday and set traps for mice. 3 greeted me this morning. There might be hundreds for all I know, been so long since anything out there had been moved. My dog continues to pee on couch, day bed, and outside lounger when she falls asleep. Checked her urine again, no infection, no sugar in urine, so don't know if it is just being 14 or needs vet. I did put plastic on daybed, now have lots of towels on couch. today was first pee on couch. Any ideas? Thanks
Karl
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 12:37 PM
I'm glad I double-checked the calendar last night -- landlords are arriving at 11, not 10, so I got an extra hour of sleep. Living room and kitchen are both looking good, I think. Some last-minute touch-up to be done yet.
Roxie
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 10:26 AM
It's Sunday, my favorite day to sit at the computer with a cup of coffee and "visit" with friends.
Although I got up earlier than usual today, I'm very slow to get going. Later. Much later. Need to go get lots of supplies. Need to order prescription refill. Scoop litter, brush teeth, go get the week's mail and the Sunday paper, do dishes. Later. Much later.
Last night two smaller racoons showed up for dinner, and I think they are babies nearly grown. One is quite feisty, growling and spreading his little arms across the plate so no one else dares approach. He also has a big wound on his forehead so I presume he's quite willing to fight about it!
My little feral colony of cats seems to tolerate the racoons and vice versa.
Hugs to all. Please update.
Dianne
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 08:58 AM
Tillie, take good care in that heat.
I hope you and Marty kitty will be feeling much better very soon.
And I saw on July challenge that your hoarder got rid of 2 boxes of stuff!! How encouraging! :)
Karl
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 02:55 AM
I expect I'll be short on sleep again when they get here for inspection. Stove is cleaned off, but I need to wash the floor, and that will take two sessions since I need to move the table from one side to the other. I'm not feeling very motivated at the moment, but I'll get out some ice cream...
Tillie
Posted: 21 July 2013 - 12:34 AM
HI :)
So much has been happening here. No time to rest. I have been sick but had to keep on keeping on. Marty (the cat) is sick too and needs a lot of care. The other cats need to be taken care of especially with the temperature at 112 degrees.
Wonderful to finally have a chance to sit still and read the message board. :D
Looks like Marty is improving and I am doing better. I went grocery shopping this evening and only celery looked good to me, so I got some and some cherries. I don't think that's enough to last me for two weeks. lol
Hoping things settle down around here now and that I can get some much needed sleep tonight. :)
diane
Posted: 20 July 2013 - 06:51 PM
Where are you Tillie, keep hoping to see something from you, hope you are not under a pile somewhere. Also hoping Steven is being sweet to you, I miss seeing your posts, hope you are ok.
Dianne
Posted: 20 July 2013 - 06:05 PM
Good choice, Karl!
Best of luck!
Karl
Posted: 20 July 2013 - 05:15 PM
I'd previously RSVP'd "probably yes" to a Saturday lunch meet, 11:30 to whenever, but last night at 4am I posted a follow-up saying that I'd probably be running late. Indeed, it was 12:35 when I woke up, and I had to get ready, and it was 20 bicycling minutes away. I didn't back out, though, and the group was still there.
Normally I'd be going to a board games group this evening. Although I have an offer of a return ride, I'd have to use a combination of public transportation and a kick scooter to get there. Since it's likely to run late, and the inspection is tomorrow morning, I think I'd better un-RSVP to that one and dedicate the time to making sure the living room and kitchen are both at peak cleanliness.
Roxie
Posted: 20 July 2013 - 04:40 PM
Hi, all. My eyes must be worse because I'm having a harder time reading tiny print here. :(
Yesterday all I did was brush my teeth, bring boxes indoors. Today so far I've brushed my teeth and unpacked the boxes. I also set up the Breeze cat litter system. One wanted to eat the pellets. The others were disdainful. But I found poop in the box, so I've scooped and hope they continue to use it. Hopefully it will help me better manage litter care.
Hot, tired, grump grump.
MayMay
Posted: 20 July 2013 - 12:05 AM
Thanks AnneW! :)
Hi everyone! :)
Lately I've just been working and trying to stay cool. It is sooooo HOT where I live! One of the things that I've been doing to try and stay cool in this heat, is swimming. I've gone swimming everyday this week. I've also just been walking around in my swimsuit a lot. Today I actually went into work wearing my swimsuit. Lol. :)
AnneW
Posted: 19 July 2013 - 11:41 PM
Karl- I was just rereading old posts & saw your rescheduled inspection is Sunday - look fwd to update! (I'm sure it will go well as a result of all your hard work :)
AnneW
Posted: 19 July 2013 - 09:04 PM
WoW -- I LOVE reading each & every one of your posts!!! I am so glad you are here! Each time I read one of your posts, it offers me assurance that we all WILL GET THERE eventually. We may have to do it each in our own way, & each at his/her own pace, but the fact that we are each here reading & posting demonstrates our commitment to improve our living conditions, & in turn, our lives. You each bring unique bright insights & I thank you. I empathize with the down days, & the undertow of overwhelm, & the "rush" resulting from a reclaimed space (no matter large or small)...
Will write more tmrw... Meanwhile thinking of you Janie, Diane, Roxie, Tillie, Karl, Dianne, AnneL, MayMay, Ali, (I'm sorry, I know I must be leaving someone out -- I'll check & add tmrw) Janie -- Congratz on your clear upstairs Hallway & that wonderful tidy first floor! lol-I loved your "task swap" idea to Diane Diane -- Relish those clean sheets & take up all the space you can on the big bed -- Make "make believe" snow angels on it ;) And, remind yourself how awesome you are & that it is HUGE PROGRESS to be so ACTIVELY NURTURING YOURSELF: rescheduling social date for when it will best work for you & caring enough about yourself to 1st RECOGNIZE & then HONOR your fatigue by taking your foot off the accelerator, reframing & stepping out of the car. It makes my heart happy to read about you being gentle with yourself =) WTG! Dianne -- I've enjoyed reading your posts -- Awesome job on that Bathroom & your Clothes Sorting/Tossing Epiphany(loved that!) - not to mention the many bags to the dump:) & all of your daily & ongoing pet care! Hope you enjoy tonight's performance =) Karl-- Sounds like if even though things didn't "feel" good internally this week, that you still managed to "handle business" & you kept showin' up -- good job. I do hope you are able to finally get some sound sleep to "reset" & that this weekends LL appt. goes well -- Is that tmrw(Sat) morning? Tillie-- LOVED reading your dollhouse update =D In fact, it delighted me!!! I am so happy that with the return of the owners, you have additional freedom & time to do with as you please :) Enjoy & I look forward to finding out what you choose to do (or not do ;) You deserve the respite & play time!!! =D Roxie -- Thinking of you & I love reading your tales (tails-?-) & updates re: all of your wonderful felines (yours too Dianne;) I hope you are still giving yourself GOLD STARS b/c you are defending your cleared de-hoarded home space & are an inspiration to us all -- I remain curious to hear what you find (or invent) re: effective floor cleaning tool or method ;) Keep on brushin' those pearlies daily You're doin' great with your consistency!!! =D ok -- much longer post than I'd planned -- time to wind down & go to bed. Thanks, again, to you folks for being here...zzzzz ;o
Janie
Posted: 19 July 2013 - 08:15 PM
Diane - I will come and make decisions on your hoard if you come here and study for me. I HATE studying. I've been at it all day and my brain is fried. I thought I'd never say this, but I would rather be cleaning than studying.
My cleaning for the day consisted of de-cluttering the upstairs hallway. Got rid of bags and boxes left there and took any laundry down to the basement. It took less time than I thought, so I even vacuumed. Well, the hallway is only standard width and about 10-12 feet long, but still. Giving out a Woo-Hoo!!
diane
Posted: 19 July 2013 - 07:16 PM
I am frustrated with bedroom hoard. Thought I had most of-the junk out of bedroom---surprise so much more. Wish I could organize a hoard, but tillie says no way. So this means I have to make many more decisions which are so difficult for me when it comes to clothes and crafts. I just have to let it be ok to wait until the morning to continue. I am tired and frustrated. Just when I was seeing progress and so happy, there is a huge pile of stuff to deal with, that can't just be stuffed in a bunch of bags to deal with later, it doesn't work, I tried today, doesn't feel complete until I get rid of it, darn.
diane
Posted: 19 July 2013 - 01:56 PM
Karl, lack of sleep is my downfall also, sorry your week wasn't great, what I have noticed about you is that you bounce back, and will get back at it, you can, you have before. Dianne, sounds like a nice balance in your life, even tired body is saying, yeah, you did alot. This morning I went directly too big bedroom, bed is now made with all clean linens. Started going through stuff and made a big mess. Guess will have to sort in living room. I need to clear junk out so I can start sleeping in there with 96 degree weather all week. That window now has air conditioner. It was too hot to sleep in my little bedroom last night, so feel motivated to make room livable. After an hour or two, had enough and went to garage to see what else I could toss in garbage before it was picked up, did find another bag full of stuff to make cart all the way full, and then it was picked up, and now get to start all over again. I told a friend I would go camping Monday, but with 96 degrees all week I don't want to. When I leave this place for a few days, it gets so hot, takes hours to cool enough to sleep. She always has to schedule things in advance, which is not great for me, since weather affects what I can do comfortably. I want to camp when it is in 80's and I can, so that is what I will do. I do feel guilty even writing this, she will be ticked off. She has a beautiful home, well insulated with heat pump air conditioning, so she really doesn't understand why I can't just leave window air on. With this old wiring, I only want it on when I am here, plus don't have homeowners ins. Have to do more research on who will insure old trailer with wood stove, most I called will not. I had one for years, then when I rented this place out, they cancelled me. so if it burns, I have nothing, one way to get rid of the hoard, I guess.
Dianne
Posted: 19 July 2013 - 09:10 AM
Karl, sorry your week has been so lousy. But I'm happy for you that you have so many social contacts.
Janie, a snail's pace is better than no pace. Sometimes other things take priority, the house can slow down.
This poor body is sore today. Overdo it one day, pay the next. If I can maintain I'll be happy.
Headed out to see the grandkids put on a little show and picnic for the end of Bible camp. I might take some laundry to my daughter's house.
Stay cool.
Karl
Posted: 19 July 2013 - 05:00 AM
It's been a lousy week for the most part.
I still haven't gotten caught up in sleep, and cleaning has been on a slow backslide. Tuesday I noticed a skin injury, and wondered if I'd encountered poison-oak someplace, but I later decided it was a burn that I'd ignored at the time it happened.
Wednesday I had to go in to work, had a bad day there, missed my return train and had trouble correcting for it, finally arriving at my dinner location on time but sweaty -- with cleanup options limited to what I could complete with a paper towel in the restroom, and a change of shirt. (I did plan for that part.) I arranged to bum a ride from a friend when our group finally broke up for the night.
I got the trash out in time for Thursday's pickup, but I didn't have much this time. I ran a couple of errands on Thursday, then got home and got a phone call from a friend who wanted to go out and do some sport activity -- after that, I made dinner and got caught up on email and online forums. I think I was supposed to try to get some cleaning done at some point.
I don't know if we're still doing regular early meets on Friday -- do we still have a regular in the UK? -- but I'll plan to be there.
diane
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 11:24 PM
sorry, didn't mean to post last one two times
diane
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 08:12 PM
Hi Janie, work does take a lot out of most people, and I think getting the certificate is important to you and your future, does this mean you can hire help? Just a thought. Even if you had a person come in for a few hours and clean the kitchen and bathroom every week, and what ever else you want. When I worked, I had a cleaning person, and it made all the difference, couldn't leave messes all over because cleaning person was coming. Good you will keep posting your small progress successes. It is hard when working, just the way it is, and we need to support ourselves. I wish you the best.
diane
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 08:12 PM
Hi Janie, work does take a lot out of most people, and I think getting the certificate is important to you and your future, does this mean you can hire help? Just a thought. Even if you had a person come in for a few hours and clean the kitchen and bathroom every week, and what ever else you want. When I worked, I had a cleaning person, and it made all the difference, couldn't leave messes all over because cleaning person was coming. Good you will keep posting your small progress successes. It is hard when working, just the way it is, and we need to support ourselves. I wish you the best.
Janie
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 07:09 PM
Just wanted to post and say "Hi Everyone"! Work is kicking my butt. Yesterday I got home from work at 5pm and then had a meeting from 6-9pm. Today I worked from 9-6pm. Needless to say, I have done NOTHING at my house since Tuesday other than scoop out the litter boxes. Dishes are piling up on the counter because I haven't emptied the dishwasher since Tuesday. <*groan*> But there's always tomorrow....
I think I mentioned that I was afraid work would interfere with my house cleaning project. And it has, dammit. And now I get to throw another log on the fire. I'm trying to earn a specific certification for my job. There is a series of three exams and you have two years to complete them. I took the first exam Sept 2011, the second exam Oct 2012 and need to take the last exam by Sept 10 2013. I've had my head so far buried in cleaning that I completely forgot about this until it came up at the meeting last night. Now I have less than 2 months to prepare. Yikes! I'll still try to get at least a little bit done in the house each day, but until I pass this last exam, it's my first priority.
My progress is going to slow to a snail's pace. Still I will try to get at least one thing done each day, no matter how small, and be happy to post about it!!
diane
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 05:02 PM
Tilie, I can imagine living in a bus was so free, especially since you had everything clean and tidy. I am so tickled about your creativity with the tiny little house, would love to see it. Made another run at getting rid of stuff, went through a huge bag of halloween stuff, kept only a package of bags. One more giant bag of junk gone. Anne, you motivated to make one more attempt, thanks. Dianne, thanks for the update.
Dianne
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 04:05 PM
Tillie I would love to see your itty bitty dollhouse inside the teeny weeny dollhouse inside your regular dollhouse! It sounds so cool!
Of course as soon as I sit down here to write 2 cats have already jumped on the desk to be with me. One in my lap the other next to the keyboard. They are the smartest and knew when Laura was packing last night she would be leaving. Laura's sweet Annie tries to curl up in the duffel to go with her momma. By tonight when the others realize Laura's gone I'll be covered in cats.
I just finished 1 bathroom top to bottom. Got a kitchen size trashbag full of stuff. Mostly other daughter's makeup from college days. Also lots of small cosmetic bags, some old nail polish removers, mouthwashes, tooth whitening stuff, bags of cotton balls, q-tips.
I was trying to clean the shower curtain and decided to toss it. Will buy a new one tomorrow. I cleaned the cat tree that is in there by the window.
Got Dakota to the vet to get stitches out from surgery. There was a poodle in the waiting area who went ballistic when she saw him. A few minutes later the tech brought out 4 tiny puppies and momma was much calmer.
The washer is broken... AGAIN....and the guy can't come til Tuesday to fix it. But I tried to look at the bright side ~ that gives me time to go thru some clean clothes and get rid of stuff and make room for the dirty clothes when they are clean.
**LIGHT BULB GOES OFF** why not toss some of those dirty clothes? Now there's no excuse to say I have to clean them before donating.
I'm probably not going to eat healthy. Since I'm trying to keep up with regular stuff and do hoard cleanup I'm going to sit down with ice cream for a meal not just a treat! Yeah!!
Roxie
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 03:47 PM
I also haven't figured out on my system how to open a second window so I can read and respond to each person as I go. I can just hope I don't hurt anyone's feelings making them feel left out?
Diane, I have to laugh at your poor dog's haircut adventures. They do look embarrassed at times, don't they? When I rescued a ShihTzu he was a pitiful dirty mop of hair. I got a professional cut job done, lion cut, and he was so happy and so cute! And he was the BEST behaved dog I ever met. I cannot imagine what his owner was thinking to abandon him at a high kill shelter like that. He got adopted to a perfect home from my house.
And with your progress and air conditioning installation you can now expand your living space. WTG!
Dianne, I totally get it about your sadness or distress over the divorce. I've now been divorced twice as long as I was married and there are still times of pain, anger, grief, etc. I just try hard not to dwell too long in those places because it just doesn't help. Not denying the feelings, just not emphasizing them. I don't know how to entirely let it go still.
Meanwhile, you have great plans for your home and I encourage you to keep trucking. It is for YOU. And a life well lived is the best revenge. hehe
Tillie, you seem to have lived a most interesting life, with your various abode choices. I admire your tenacity and spirit so much.
AnneW, you are doing very good work. Let us hear from you, okay?
Janie, thinking about you. You do a tremendous amount of work so in my mind you are, oh, say, 30 forever? :D
Yesterday I slept most of the day. I brushed my teeth and hair, opened and dealt with mail on the spot (I love shredding mail), and cleaned up the two remaining of the 3 framed pictures I had set aside months ago. These two are actually framed (and glassed) samplers hand done by my mother years ago. Those two I will keep. I think I'll donate the old print landscape, though. I have dozens more paintings and framed/glassed prints to clean and decide about.
Here's to today, friends.
diane
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 02:57 PM
Been out in garage all morning looking for things to fill garbage can for tomorrow, still have a little room, so will look inside, too hot out for me now. I got quite a bit done this morning. Air conditioner is running in dining room and big bedroom, yep, 2 window air conditioners going, big spender I am, the old one still works and new one works great. It is so different having two going so don't have to just live in one room. I got 2 more cords of wood delivered on Monday and it is all now stacked, did it in evenings. This load wasn't as good as last load, more rot and spiders, but still very good compared to some I have had delivered by other wood people, and full honest cords. Cut my dogs hair, usually do it with scissors but takes 1 to 2 hours, so finally used the electric shaver, well she looks like an alien with the mange. I gouged several spots, and cut hair on head a flat top and it is supposed to be rounded, she is so embarrassed, said she will not go out in public, if she has to go camping, not leaving tent she said. She really dislikes haircuts, as do I. Dianne sad to hear that you are feeling pain about your lost marriage, and happy to hear you are going to get lots done this week.
Tillie
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 11:16 AM
Good morning :)
Hi Roxie :) Thank you and WAY TO GO! on all you got done! :D
Hi AnneW :) WOW! you did great! Working and doing all your maintenance and eating well and 15 minute sessions! WTG! :D Planning to spend more time decorating the doll house. Have lots of plans and ideas. My tiny dollhouse has an itty bitty doll house and I used some wood scraps and made an even tinier itsy bitsy teeny weeny dollhouse to put in the dollhouse dollhouse. :)
Hi Karl :) Sorry I missed you in the chatroom. Thank you for the offer to help. :) I really appreciate it.
Hi Diane :) So happy you had a chance to go to the lake. :D WAY TO GO! you are amazing! Making decisions keep/toss/donate, doing maintenance and cleaning! :D I have only ever gone tent camping. It can be enjoyable as long as you don't wake up buried under 4 feet of snow with your shoes frozen to the floor, a dog huddled in your coat for body warmth and after digging out your car finding it has a flat tire. ;P But I lived for years in a converted bus on an island reachable by ferry boat and that was heaven. Then I lived one year in a camper on a truck. No bathroom. But had all the freedom in the world. Hope you are ready for our next heatwave this week. How is that new A/C treating you? :)
Hi Dianne :) (((hugs))) Great plans for the days! Keep us posted on all you are doing. Are you going to tackle the bathroom deep cleaning? Remember to schedule in regular breaks for eating, sleeping and just putting your feet up. :D
Now that the neighbors are back I don't have to watch their house, take in their mail or water their plants. This will give me some quality play time. :D Have my paints ready for painting in the dollhouse. Have fabric scraps ready for fashioning some linens. Other than grocery shopping this weekend I only have a bit of daily maintenance to keep me from playtime. :D
Dianne
Posted: 18 July 2013 - 09:11 AM
Glad to see everybody getting stuff done, having fun, dealing well with troubles....and most of coming back here to share and support.
My LID (live in daughter, figured I'd use some shortcuts) just left for a 6 day trip with her dad to his oceanfront mansion in North Carolina. When she hugged me she said, I wish you were going Mommy. I still kind of love him, I still hurt from the divorce, I haven't moved on.
But I am excited about having 6 days pretty much commitment free to work around here. I'll have all the animal care by myself but I can get into things and get rid of stuff that's sometimes better done alone. Like her bedroom. I get to strip her bed, put on fresh, clean sheets, wash all the dirty clothes I can find and stack some things in the hallway for her to go thru to donate or discard.
She does like coming home to see how nice it can be. The trick of course is keeping it that way. Her bathroom needs deep cleaning too.
I also plan to get areas in the familyroom done and the furnace room.
Have a good day everyone and stay cool!
Tillie
Posted: 17 July 2013 - 07:17 PM
HI EVERYBODY! :D
The people who's house I have been watching for months arrived home today. I have been busy socializing and getting them caught up on what has been happening aroung here. Busy busy day for me and it's not over yet. :)
To open two windows..... When I first turn on my computer I have to click on "launch internet explorer browser". This brings up my home page and from there I can access any site on the internet.
To have two windows open I only need to click on "launch internet explorer browser" once again.
The two sites are visible at the bottom of my screen. Switching between the two I only need to left click on which one I want to read.
Please let me know if your computer system is the same as mine and if you understand what I am trying to describe. :D
Gotta run TTYL :D
diane
Posted: 17 July 2013 - 01:34 PM
Thanks for the support Roxie!! You did get some work done yesterday, amazing how you rallied, good work. This morning I emptied 3 more boxes in garage and put away and threw away. I will have to donate some of the books I kept, just first run through. It is getting better and better Watered stuff outside that hadn't been watered in awhile, vines and one tree I forget about. It is going to be hot here all week and I am going to splurge and run air conditioner all that I want. I organized camping stuff in garage this morning. Think I may go back to East Lake and camp in tent. Really think I should sell RV, just too expensive. So want to do trial run at tent camping to see if I enjoy it. So easy with RV, bed bathroom, stove for coffee. RV now has a leak dripping oil? on gravel where it is parked, so am procrastinating taking it in. Not knowing is worse than just taking it in and knowing what is wrong. Main fear is not knowing where to take it, want good honest mechanic, have mechanic for car, don't work on RV's. Any insight into this? I am going to list some stuff on July challenge havent been keeping track of some of stuff giving away. Got rid of stash of favorite summer clothes that will never fit again, emotional on many levels. Youth is gone, thin athletic body gone, all then dates with wonderful men in those clothes were brought up, just a lot of missed opportunities due to addictive personality. What I know today that I am in recovery from hoarding and a bunch of new experiences other than shopping and shameful hiding are in my future for next year. I so much appreciate this chat and the support, only people experiencing the problem in some way, can understand. I look forward to your comments and your progress every day, so happy this board has become so active. Thanks to each of you. Tillie, not sure how to have two screens at same time so I can respond to each person. Please describe the process of looking at previous posts while this window is open, when you have a few minutes. Also Tillie, so good you post all that you do, never really learned what is necessary to maintain etc. so thanks.
Roxie
Posted: 17 July 2013 - 07:49 AM
So I did some stuff yesterday after all. I brushed my teeth, ran an errand in the car, wheeled the big garbage bin to the street for pickup, did a load of dishes, wiped down the stove top and counters, and cleaned one of the framed pictures I've had set aside for two months now.
I haven't yet been to sleep, so you know my sleep cycle is upside down again. I'll probably crash in a few hours so might not be real useful to myself today.
Janie, you're doing very good work, especially adjusting to work schedules, etc.
Tillie, pink underwear. Did you dare? :D Great work on the floor cleanup!
Diane, sorry for your misunderstanding but you can be forgiven as can she. S*_*t happens, right? I'm so glad to see you are building in social times to offset your immense amounts of work! I myself am a "fun challenged" person (can't figure out what's fun).
Karl, you seem good about attending the meetings, so it must be good for you. Do you plan to keep doing 15 minute cleanup/clear out sessions still?
AnneW, I am impressed with the work you are accomplishing! Way to go! And I'm so glad to see you posting.
Dianne, thanks for the idea on the litter boxes. I need to prioritize litter box habits soon here. I'm so glad to see you moving ahead and also posting. Hang in here!
I spent a couple hours tonight reading old message board threads and began to wonder: whatever happens to those who come, post, then disappear? Why? I wish they'd all come back and update us.
If I left anyone out, just blame it on my brain fog. Hugs all around.
diane
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 06:55 PM
I had a great day at East Lake yesterday. Took my blow-up boat and paddled out in lake with my friend. It was a perfect day to be at the lake, and wasn't crowded at all. I wanted to go back up and camp. Today had a miscommunication with a friend, and it was difficult, still bothering me. I was sure of what time we were going to meet, so I went to Lowes, and she was calling my house, she thought she was supposed to call at 12, I was sure we were to meet at 12. How do these things happen? This morning I watered yard and worked in garage for 3 hours. The disagreement zapped my energy, so have just walked in circles this afternoon. Finally remembered it is time to quit when energy gone, so here I am. I loved reading all that you are accomplishing and the goodness in each post. Tomorrow I will stay home all day and work here, I am happy I can work without interruption tomorrow. Really want to make progress on big bedroom. thanks to all of you.
Karl
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 05:19 PM
Yeah, if you're going to paste something here, it's probably best if it's plain old 7-bit ASCII encoding. Unfortunately, as somebody who doesn't use Microsoft software, I'm not the person who can tell you how to force Microsoft tools to do that.
Speaking of techie stuff, Tillie, if you're around and would like to try some practice postings to see what the deal is with clickable links, I'm in the chat room right now and could try to walk you through it.
Oh, and I might be around for the first few minutes of tonight's chat, after all; I'm not sure how soon my ride will be picking me up.
AnneW
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 04:39 PM
Something strange happened with the typing in my last post -- not sure why -- but I think you all still get the idea -- maybe b/c I copied+pasted it from my own MS Word doc-?- Anyway, take care & remember to giggle every once in a while (even if it's just at yourself! }:~)
AnneW
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 04:35 PM
Here¡¦s my day¡¦s ¡§Ta-Da¡¨ Report: I put in my paid part-time work hours, then made myself a healthy lunch at home (combining leftovers to create a tasty summer greens, tomato, turkey breast, & crumbled goat cheese salad with balsamic vinaigrette); put in my 2 (15-min) timed sessions, bagged up current load of clothing donations, & just hung up washed laundry load to dry; only have maintenance tasks to complete for the day: dishes after dinner & folding/putting away clothes once dry. (Good thing as I am still energetically wiped out today) Hope everyone¡¦s having a good day.
Tillie ¡V Glad you are having a relaxing day after yesterday¡¦s hard work (& 16 BAGS!!! ?º I meant to ask you for an update on your dollhouse ¡V Are you still happy with the painting & decorating you did? (I hope you are still enjoying it:)
FABULOUS RALLY DAY, ROXIE!!! =D
Keep Kickin¡¦ Out the Clutter, Folks!
Roxie
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 03:24 PM
Thanks all!
Tillie, I've actually been looking into possible socks or slippers that are designed to scrub as you walk. So far I've found some that are designed to dust the floors and pick up pet hair. Those might be useful but I still am concerned with the effort of scrubbing.
Using my wheeled desk chair is certainly worth a try! After all, when I tire it is sitting down I have to do if not laying down!
Tillie
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 02:37 PM
WAY TO GO!!! Roxie :D
Some people have managed to do a pretty good job washing floors by sitting in their desk chair, dropping a soppy wet rag on the floor then using their feet scooching the rag around. Then sopping up the water by scooching around a towel.
This is just a suggestion and you are free to simply ignore it. :)
Dianne
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 01:48 PM
WOW Roxie WTG!!!
When you rally you do it BIG TIME!! :D
Roxie
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 01:21 PM
Oh, I am so grateful for my rally days. Yesterday I brushed my teeth and hair, I thoroughly cleaned three light bulbs that were filthy and fly specked (they've been sitting on my chest of drawers staring at me and complaining),
I cleaned off the vacuum cleaner (ugh, so dusty and dirty). I vacuumed around my desk and a chest of drawers. I changed out all my trash bins and put in fresh bags, took the trash to my outside bin.
I finally unloaded the large and very heavy box that was delivered weeks ago and contains the parts to build (put together) the cat tree I'd ordered. It's been sitting there blocking my kitchen steps. I hauled all the parts inside (cats immediately investigated the cube part) and stacked them in one place. Then I broke down the box so I can put it in the car for recycling.
I broke down the remaining boxes indoors and took them to the car for recycling.
I brought in a case of canned cat food and actually put the cans into the cupboard and broke down the cardboard carrier for recycling.
I sat on the back steps and broke down more cardboard boxes. One has those big metal fasteners that are a bear to undo. Still working on that one. All will go into the car to recycle. I think I'll have to go to the recycle center later this week or early next.
It felt very good to get all this done. I found I could do a lot of it while I'm sitting here at the computer waiting for it to do various things for me. I even vacuumed by sliding around in my desk chair on wheels...whee! One way for a disabled person to get something done. It's a start.
Dirty kitchen floor still whining at me. And the litter boxes calling me from outside: "wash me, wash me, NOW."
Each of you inspire me each day. I'm grateful you are here.
Tillie
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 11:09 AM
GOOD MORNING EVERYBODY!!! :D
Wonderful to have so many posts to read with my morning tea. :)
Just have a few cat chores to take care of and some general tidying up to do here today. Have no idea what I will do today but as always, I will find things to do. Maybe reward myself with a pedicure. Watch a movie. Plan a fun project. I love being all caught up and having my free time. :)
Hope you all get a chance today to just enjoy summer time. (((hugs)))
Dianne
Posted: 16 July 2013 - 10:18 AM
Janie, animal waste is the main reason I go to the dump. I had to pay for trash pick-up but there was a strict rule about no animals waste. I used to mix bags of waste with lighter weight trash but the stress of worrying about getting caught and keeping bags from week to week til they could be balanced was crazy. I had planned to lie if questioned about the heaviness and say well we have twin babies here with diapers and my father in adult diapers....it just wasn't worth it.
I went to the dump (a county facility with no charge for residents) and asked how I should handle taking animal waste there. The lady said we don't accept animals waste. What?
So I asked my vet and a kennel and a friend at the county shelter and they said we put it in our dumpster and the county picks it up. You can use our dumpsters.
I just started going directly to the dump and chuck my bags over the wall into the huge thingies that get dragged out to wherever. I do feel badly about how long it will take that waste to break down in plastic bags but it can't go in paper. It does feel good to swing those bags in the air and watch them go flying. Hey, I'm easily amused, gotta have some fun with all that poop.
Be careful with the private dumpsters, Janie. I did that with regular trash for awhile always making sure my name wasn't on anything (man what we go thru) but they'll hit you with sometimes a $500 fine if you get caught.