Good to know the studying is going well and that the cleaning isn't too far behind.
Keep up the great work!
Janie
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 05:35 PM
Hi everyone!! Just wanted to pop in and let you know that I'm still here. My days seem to consist of nothing but working and studying. I have my exam scheduled for 2 weeks from now and I'm hoping I pass it on the first try so I can get on with my life. It's weird, but I actually miss cleaning now. About the only thing I've been doing regularly is scooping cat litter. The first floor is starting to really look bad, but nothing a few hours of cleaning won't cure. Counting down the days until I am "study-free"!!
Dianne
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 05:32 PM
Ah, Roxie you are so right. When I want something I just put it on a credit card. One of my goals has been to pay off the credit cards and use cash as much as possible. I started last month with the goal of finishing within a year. And yes, I overspend on others because I get so much pleasure out of that; as much as if it was on myself. I've been staying out of stores unless there was a very specific reason to go in (like for food). Although I feel no guilt for the spending today (I still have a big, ol' grin on my face) I know it's something I need to be very careful about. :)
And great suggestion about the horse therapy. I actually was doing that a couple years ago. My grandson was 4 and was riding therapeutically. He's such a tiny, little bean, even now at 6 he only weighs less than 40 lbs. He wanted me there at every session to be a walker.
Even standing chatting with people I have a tendency to use my hands on animals without really being aware of it. One of the girls asked if I would like to learn massage therapy for the horses. I loved it but felt guilty about the time I was taking away from my animals. But yes, therapy is a great way to be around the horses when we're not able to do as much as we used to.
I think you mentioned in one post about hanging around a stable to be near the horses but that the people might not like it too much. For the most part I've found that horse people love volunteers. Once they get an idea of your experience they're more than happy to share the workload no matter how light.
Mare
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 04:53 PM
Is there any way the weekly and weekend tasks be brought back to life, or does it depend on Cory? Such a great idea with his input as well. I haven't read the whole thing yet to see if there is a reason it was stopped. The last thing I got to was:
[quote=Cory]OK, so we got a small response from last weeks task, but it will catch on :)
This weekend, we are tackling the refrigerator! Let's get into the stockpile of refrigerated goods and thin it out. If you are like me, there are probably a few condiments at minimum you could get rid of...you know the half empty pizza sauce jar from 6 months ago when you made homemade mini pizzas, the cocktail sause from 2009's New Years Eve Party. Am I close? Lets all do our part and remove what we are not eating regularly. This will also reduce energy as your refrigerator is not struggling to keep these items cold! And while you are there, might as well get the Windex, 409, or your favorite cleaner and scrub it clean. Don't forget the freezer. Make like an archeologist and dig out those ancient TV dinners and frost bitten packages of who knows what. Your task has been delivered, so get to it :)
AnneW I am so glad to see you posting, and excited that you are ready to tackle learning new ways as you settle into your new home. Doing a happy dance!
I have had several therapists over the years, but the toughest loss was when one I was very attached to died at the age of 37. I was devastated. He had a red chair he used to sit in, and alternatingly, I wanted to go sit in that chair and to smash it to bits. He was slightly a flower child and I can just see him CHOOSING to stay on the other side because he liked it. That made me so mad at him. It has been decades since I lost him, and I did find other and better (for me and for my stage of development) in time. The important thing is to feel some sense of connection to the therapists.
MayMay, write, write. You can always do drafts and set them aside for later if you wish. Meanwhile, how are things in your apartment? Hmm? :D
Dianne, and other experienced horsewomen, have you given any thought to maybe trying to work with horse therapy folks? I guess you could start as a volunteer if you could find such folks. It would be so rewarding, you'd still be around horses, and your expertise would be so helpful to young or disabled people.
Mare
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 04:48 PM
Thank you Roxie, very good suggestions.
I have a routine that includes every time I get up I do something, whether it is a whole box of stuff, a bag, a counter... anything at all, something small and doable... I am always surprised at the results.
Roxie
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 04:37 PM
It is so lovely to be able to get online and get here. I'm grateful for that!
Mare, you can do this. I have found the most useful idea for me is to break things down into smaller tasks and be happy with that much of an accomplishment. The second most useful for me is to do a "ta da" list rather than a "to do" list. Like Tillie said, you can get a lot done in an unstructured day. For me that is true, too, because I experience demand resistance to lists or "have to" ideas.
Kara, how are you dear one? Missing you.
Dianne, most of my shopping sprees in the past have been shopping for other people. I guess for me that was a way of showing love, so I understand what you've done regarding your daughter. However, be sure you actually have the budget for it and that you nip it in the bud, okay? I'm concerned, not chastizing you! Love you.
Diane, how are you doing? Painting, what?
I may not have mentioned some folks individually, but I AM reading and caring.
I don't yet know what I'll accomplish today beyond my daily checklist (meds, teeth, scooping litter) presuming I get those done. Tonight is Project Runway on tv and I'm looking forward to that, for sure. So in the next three hours I'll do some stuff.
Hugs to all
Dianne
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 03:49 PM
Confession time.... I went on a spending spree today and I am on such a high!!!
But it wasn't for me so I feel like it's kind of ok. But I know that crazy good feeling of acquiring shows I still have work to do.
Long story short....my married daughter was struggling horribly with family problems last night. While she got into a doctor today (and got on much needed meds) I went out to get some dishes she had been wanting for a long time.
I had to go to 4 different Target stores and online but I finally got a complete set. I set everything on her table and when she came home she was so surprised and happy and a bit chiding...Mom you shouldn't spend your money, what about your washer....
But it gave me so much pleasure!! A little retail therapy can really perk things up. Since I haven't spent so freely in a long time and it was for something that will brighten her spirits daily it was worth it.
I did go past racks of the cutest kids' clothes, and jewelry, and shoes, and bags, and pretty, fresh bedding, and dog toys, and organizational stuff, and cool greeting cards with sparkles. I picked some stuff up and said no, keep moving. So that was good. There is WAY too much enticing stuff out there!!!
Dianne
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 03:19 PM
AnneW, reading about your August plans is so exciting to me!
You've accomplished so much with clearing out the hoard and within yourself. Taking some time to pull it all together will be thrilling.
What a weird word to use about hoarding. But I'm not sure what else to call it. Pulling it together reminds me of when I am caught up on my basics, I get more stuff done, which messes up a little the areas that are already clean. Rather than go hog wild in pushing thru with more hoard clean-up I pause. I go back thru the stuff I have just dumped in the hall or wherever and get things put away. So I've kept up with maintenance, got some junk out and remaintained. That's when the thrill comes. :) I think, damn, I am really doing this!
Yes the transition to a new therapist will be challenging. But remember YOU are the one who has done all the actual work. A therapist is a sounding board. No progress is made (with any kind of therapy) until the person becomes really invested in it. You are for sure.
And yes, we are here as your online therapists for free and what a fun group we are! :)
Mare
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 01:05 PM
Hello Anne, so nice to see you and thank you for that post, I found it reassuring and inspiring.
I know how hard it is to start with a new therapist, and have been through that myself more then once.
One time, with one facility in particular I was handed off about 4 times. When they would ask about myself I said - just read my chart and notes to find out - then I would sit back, cross my arms, laugh and wait for them to do so. Hahaha. It gets so old having to repeat yourself with an entire history!
I think you are making great progress, do keep us posted.
Mare
MayMay
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 12:59 PM
Hi everybody! :D
WAY TO GO AnneW! :) It sounds like you have a lot of great plans that you want to accomplish this month. THAT'S AWESOME! You can totally do it! Sorry to hear that your therapist will be retiring soon. I hope you will like your new one. :)
Hi Mare, I had no idea that there is such a thing as "Clutterers Annonymous". That's awesome. :)
AnneW
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 12:01 PM
Hey Everybody!
It's a new month --Happy August!-- and, as folks have mentioned, a good opportunity to start fresh :)
Today, I am taking a day to relax & re-assess.
I got up early, drank some tea, got a little bit of weeding done, went for a short walk with a friend, & thought about my HCU goals for August. Then, I cleared away a couple of square feet of clutter by the front entry.
In a few minutes, I plan to wash up the morning's dishes, do 1 load of laundry, & go grocery shopping. Later on, I hope to spend some time reading my library book.
This month I am hoping to process & integrate the emotional & psychological work I've done over the past 2.5 months re: my hoarding issues.
I also want to work on establishing better overall order & organization. I want to re-organize 2 rooms -- now that I have empty drawers & cabinets from clearing stuff out, I want to create a structured system of order those 2 rooms. (I think this will help me "see" a sense of accomplishment -- which I haven't yet felt from July.) Although I've gotten a bunch of stuff out, the stuff that remains is not yet put away. So, all these rooms look really messy still, & it's been making me feel stressed out & down this past week. I want to change that!
Finally, this August, I want to focus on establishing more weekly cleaning routines & the practice skills required for maintaining them :)
Note: I'm also a little anxious anticipating Sept. The therapist I've been working with for the past year & a half (an exceptional woman) will be retiring at the end of August -- I only have 3 more sessions with her :( She has been a real anchor for me as I started to confront this hoarding issue for the 3rd (& I hope final!) time in my life. In the spring of 2012, I began (in fits & starts) the process of "digging" myself out again. Of course, I will continue working with a new therapist, but I may get handed off a few times as the organization where I receive therapy is undergoing some changes -- so I'm not sure how long it will take before I am matched with a new long-term therapist. Anyway, transitions are an ongoing challenge for me. However, I know that posting with you folks here & keeping up with the forum will help me to feel grounded & to continue working towards my ultimate goal of living "hoard free" :)
Thanks for "listening" ...Hope you guys are having productive & happy days today!
Mare
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 02:39 AM
Me, too... and I have some experience with CA (Clutterers Anonymous) which is a great program but since moving to a very rural area... no meetings.
I used to have a lot more pets before I moved, now I have one small dog, Gizmo, he is a great companion. He sure does shed, though! He is a chihuahua/Terrier mix and totally loyal. I am living alone for the first time in my life so it is comforting to have him.
I think one of my biggest draw backs is trying to do things alone, I prefer to have someone sitting with me or helping put things in their various designated boxes. Its been a tough transition but I can do it!
MayMay
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 02:22 AM
Hey Mare,
Yeah I have 3 dogs. I have 2 German Shepherds and one bulldog. My 2 German shepherds are named after Cory and Matt Paxton. And my bulldog is named Snuggles. :)
I remember when I first posted about my 2 German shepherds, Matt and Cory, almost a year ago, Cory posted back and was like, "your dogs are named Cory and Matt? Lol. Love it!" Lol. :)
Yeah most of what I've learned about hoarding, I have learned from the show. :)
Mare
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 02:02 AM
Hellohello.
I have admired Cory for some time now, his attitude and non-judgmental approach with his extreme cleaning services, his kindness and low stress way of doing things.
Yes that's funny that you named your dog after him, I bet he would be honoured hahaha.
I look forward to seeing him post, he always has good ideas and really is an expert. I have learned a great deal just by watching the show.
MayMay
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 01:57 AM
Hey Mare, Yeah Cory's the best! He's actually been my number one crush for 2 years now. I love so much that I even named one of my dogs after him. LOL. I love these message boards too. I've been a regular poster on here for a little over a year now. :)
Mare
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 01:39 AM
Thank you MayMay I saw his name somewhere in here... oh I think it was that he gives getting rid of stuff advice and tips. I will keep my eyes open, he is such a kindheart isn't he...
I love these boards so I hope to be around for a good long time!
MayMay
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 01:27 AM
Hi Mare, Yeah Cory will post on here every once and a while. It's been about a month since he last posted on here though. I think he's just been super busy lately. I'm pretty sure he'll post on here again soon. :)
Mare
Posted: 01 August 2013 - 01:05 AM
Thank you, Dianne.
Still readingreadingreading hahaha. Feeling optimistic and encouraged, so thank you everyone who posts here.
Does Cory ever post in here anywhere anymore? Or are there any old post someone can point me to?
I've learned a lot from watching the show Hoarders, such as that when clearing an area or going through storage to use boxes labeled KEEP, DONATE, GIFT and using large bags for THROW AWAY.
I have a confession as well... *coughs* my son-in-law owns and operates in this area a recycling business and a trash and recycling pick up service (which I get for free). How lucky is that?!
My only problem is keeping him from picking through it!
MayMay
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 11:54 PM
Thanks Dianne,
THAT'S AWESOME! :D
I actually have a lot of book ideas that I want to write about. I want to write a book about hoarding, I want to write a book about being an extreme cleaner (that is when I become a professional one of course). But my most recent book idea, that I got today, is about me and my relationships with my boyfriend, my boss, and all of the firefighters; and I'm actually now thinking about turning it into a co-written book and letting them write it with me. I LOVE TO WRITE! And I figured since most of my friends are firefighters, and we like to do a lot of crazy things and have a lot of fun, we have a lot of really crazy and funny stories that I think would make a really cool book. :)
Right now it's just an idea though. If I ever do write it, then it won't be until after I become an extreme cleaner; because then people will know who I am and will hopefully want to buy my book. :)
Dianne
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 10:44 PM
Oh, and MayMay, I LOVE belching!
I've been teaching the kids to guzzle coke and let 'er rip! We have so much fun!! haha
Congrats on your win!
Dianne
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 10:41 PM
Welcome, Mare, I did a few chats early on but prefer the boards. Easier for me to manage.
Roxie, what a productive day! You'll sleep well tonight.
MayMay what kind of book do you want to write?
Tillie, you do sound relaxed. Good to hear! :)
MayMay
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 10:34 PM
WAY TO GO Mare! :) Starting a diary is a great idea! :)
Mare
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 08:08 PM
Thank you MayMay... still reading and checking the live chat area in case anyone comes on haha.
I managed to get through the 3 boxes I had put in the kitchen, which is huge for me.
Starting a Diary to keep track of goals and accomplishments.
MayMay
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 06:53 PM
Hi everybody! :)
Today I went to work. And then after work I came home and started reading a bunch of different books. Earlier this evening while I was at work, I got into a belching contest with the guys. And while we were having the contest, I suddenly got a new book idea. So now I'm reading a bunch of different books to help me try and decide how exactly I want to write the book. Because I'm still trying to decide whether I want to write it in a diary type of format or just a regular autobiography type of format.
Oh yeah! And by the way, I totally won the belching contest. LOL. :)
Welcome to the board Mare! :)
Hi Roxie, Sorry to hear that your computer is still having problems. :(
Roxie
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 06:29 PM
Tillie, your post sounds so much more relaxed. If you have a camera, please take pics of the kitten. He sounds like quite the character.
I have had a busy day:
bathed, shampooed, shaved, put on clean clothes
brushed teeth
Found the ac filters I'd previously purchased that I needed to return because they were the wrong size; found the receipt and put both in the car;
went to the bank and made deposit and got cash
went to Petsmart and got cat supplies
went to Lowe's and returned the filters plus bought some needed things (box cutter, stainless steel spray cleaner, etc.) and checked out a few things for future reference (lights, lightbulbs, a garden cart), picked up coupon to order the correct size filters
went to the library, donated 3 bags of books and bought two to bring home for my to-be-read library which was down to one book
At the library I was starting to get vertigo; realized I probably should have eaten before going out
picked up chicken, mashed potatoes and cole slaw to bring home with a Dr. Pepper
I've been battling this computer and its crashes otherwise.
Put fresh water and food out for outdoor cats; fresh inside for inside cats
I'm tired. Just want to play online but these danged crashes....
Mare
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 06:23 PM
I am so glad to have found this forum! I am busy reading things but so glad to know people are quite active here as I am feeling lonely and isolated.
I have only recently admitted to being a hoarder of the atypical variety... one of my main problems is having a huge amount of stuff in a storage facility that I am under some pressure to resolve.
I moved into a new, small house in March and one room is filled with boxes and over-flowing into the kitchen. I must get this resolved as well but have the usual problem of when I try to do anything I get overwhelmed and either just shuffle it around or put it back in a box.
I look forward to talking with the people here and attending the meetings.
Mare
Tillie
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 02:28 PM
Taking a sit down break and having some lunch. :)
Love having unscheduled time and find that I can get a lot of things done. Fun things that I always have to put on hold when I have chores to get done.
Pulled a few weeds. Applied another coat of paint in the kitchen cabinets. Exhausted the kitten playing fetch with him. Rearranged and straightened some shelves & drawers. Took an inventory of the items I have temporarily stored in my room while I am painting the cabinets. Nothing there that I don't use regularly. :D Washed some dishes & wiped the counter and stove top.
Hope you all have a feeling of accomplishment today too. :)
Tillie
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 10:49 AM
CONGRATULATIONS! Roxie On 30 straight days of tooth brushing! :D
Dianne
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 10:36 AM
Roxie, HUGE congratulations!!!! A whole month is really a long time! Maybe not for most people but I know how hard that was. I am SOO proud of you!!
I think I'll take that on as my daily August challenge. :)
Roxie
Posted: 31 July 2013 - 10:29 AM
Quick check-in. My computer has been crashing big time and I don't know when/if I can get online. :(
Today is the last day of July and I have completed 30 straight days of teeth brushing!
I have decided that my next thing to schedule for daily is cat litter box scooping, rather than brushing twice a day. It's more important to me at the moment.
I was looking again at "before" pictures of my home and it was beyond disgusting. What a relief to have the hardest stuff done. Maintenance is no breeze, but at least I can figure ways to do it.
Hi to all.
Tillie
Posted: 30 July 2013 - 03:38 PM
Hi Everybody :)
Woke up this morning at 6:20, thought about what I had planned to do today, rolled over and slept in till 9:15. :D So nice to be all caught up on all my "Have To Dos".
Got the short list of tasks all done in an hour and have been having fun today.
Wore the kitten out playing fetch with him. He loves to bring me his little stuffed penguin dolly and have me toss it so he can run and fetch it back for me to toss again. :D
Tomorrow is trash pick up day. Wish my hoarder would fill that big wheelie bin all the way full. :(
Well, back to playing again. ;) TTYL
Kara
Posted: 30 July 2013 - 01:22 PM
Hi everyone, I won.t be staying up tonight. I have a summer cold. nose is sore and jaw is aching. Going to bed.
I wish you all well. Keep up the good work.
MayMay
Posted: 30 July 2013 - 12:46 AM
Hi Kara, I can totally relate to that! I've cried on my own for no apparent reason too. I always cry once a month for no reason at all. My boyfriend says it's probably just some sort of automatic stress reliever.
Sorry to hear that you got dumped by your friend. :(
Kara
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 11:54 PM
Spent the weekend in the city of Swansea on the coast. Enjoyed the weather and friends. Got dumped on Sunday so spent time in a large book shop browsing the books. Very tempted to buy one. £25! But was good and didn't. Came home in afternoon and then went to bed exhausted.
Why do I get lumped and dumped by the same friend who I haven't seen for 6 months? Mystery to me. By the way, cried in a cafe on my own for no apparent reason! Weird or what?
There are times when I wish I wasn't alive (but not dead) to those around me. feeling very unsocial at mo.
Have dermatologist today for my Psoriasis. Humid weather makes it worse.
Congrats to Kate and Wills for their new born. George.
Roxie
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 11:11 PM
I am having bad computer problems, so bear with me. Today I was able to:
brush teeth soak dishes and load dishwasher and run it do SOME sweeping and vacuuming (not a lot) take out garbage clean two more framed pictures wipe down countertops scoop litter box empty, rinse and recycle out of date milk bottle prepare deposit slip for bank prepare mail to go out deal with some credit cards needing to be cut up or activated
Hugs to all
diane
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 02:02 PM
Today the shopping addiction is in the background, not first on my mind, as past two days. Worked on sorting and finding clothes to give away. Next is to tackle more dishes.
MayMay
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 01:20 PM
Hey Karl,
Great job cleaning! :D
Clever prank idea! It sounds like it was a good idea that you decided not to try it though; because you might have gotten in trouble. One of my rules when it comes to playing pranks on people is, never play pranks on strangers in public places; because you don't really know how they might respond to the prank. And if they respond badly to it, then you might get in trouble.
Tillie
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 11:22 AM
Good morning :)
Karl, I used to be a phlebotomist and I would have just been happy you were alright. ;) Do an online search for ways to treat that mildew so it doesn't spread. This is a great example as to why we can't go too long between times we check areas of our homes. Mildew, bugs and mice are sneaky things that love undisturbed areas.
My To-Dos for today clean the house cook some food wash my hair do 2 loads of laundry water stuff in the yard Fortunately many of the plants survived when I did not have water. :)
Happy Monday. A fresh new week to all start over. Leave the past where it belongs, in the past.
Karl
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 06:14 AM
I've just emptied the remaining three shelves of that closet, and dusted them; then the floor area below the bottom shelf. Oops -- there's mildew on the wall there, and on the pillow that was against it. That's not good.
Karl
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 02:35 AM
I've mentioned before that I regularly donate blood. When finished, I'm supposed to wait in the snack area for 15 minutes before leaving, in case I feel light-headed or have a bad reaction or something. Nobody's monitoring it, but it's all one big room so there's always someone not too far away.
A few months ago, I was there enjoying some snacks and waiting for the time limit to expire; the previous donor had left, and there was a minute when none of the blood center staff happened to be looking in my direction -- a perfect time to try a prank where I lie down on the floor as if I've suddenly passed out, and wait for someone to notice me. (But I didn't do it.)
MayMay
Posted: 29 July 2013 - 02:07 AM
Hi Roxie, Yeah they are a great group of guys! Plus they love to play pranks just as much as I do; so they'll probably get me back eventually. LOL. When they told my boss about the prank that I pulled on them, he laughed and told them, "that's what you get for teaching her about the fire engines." LOL. :D
Roxie
Posted: 28 July 2013 - 04:15 PM
Tillie, I was thinking of you and your DH's comment "no, I'm saving it in case we need it," when you actually did need it that day. So you say, "guess what, today is the day I need it. Give it over!" hehe Are you on meds or do you need meds for the headache, dear? I once felt quite ill a few days only to realize I had not take my meds and was having horrific withdrawal. Ugh.
MayMay, good thing the firefighters are good sports!
Diane, so you had a little set back? It happens and as others have said, the important thing is to get right back on track and forgive yourself in the process. You have been doingn so very well. Also, re chat: it is perfectly okay to stand up for yourself and say "hey, it's my turn!" when it is. No need for a tizzy fit. You can do it.
Karl, very good work!
Everyone else, hi. I'm late as usual getting started and have done zip so far except bag up the kitchen garbage in preparation for litter scooping. I'll get there yet.
Hugs all around.
MayMay
Posted: 28 July 2013 - 03:46 PM
Yesterday...
Yesterday I played a huge prank on the guys at the fire station. I totally scared the crap out of them. Lol. :D
Yesterday when I went to the fire station to say hi to the guys, I did it in a very startling way. Instead of just walking into the fire station and going to the area where they all hangout when they're not busy saving lives and being sexy superheroes, I decided to sneak into one of the fire engines, that was parked in the fire bay, with my "Super-soaker" water gun. And then after I snuck into the fire engine with my "Super-soaker", I turned the fire engine's lights and siren on. After I did that, they all came running into the fire bay freaking out and trying to figure out what happened. And then once they opened the doors to the fire engine, to turn off the lights and siren, that's when I sprayed them with my "Super-soaker". It totally scared the crap out of them. LOL. They thought the prank was hilarious though. :D
After I went to visit all of the guys at the fire station, my friend and I went to see the movie, "The Conjuring". It was so SCARY! I'm so glad we got to see it though. We almost didn't get to see it; because my friend doesn't have an ID. When we arrived at the theater and went to buy our tickets, the guy first asked to see my ID. So I got all happy and was like, "yeah, no problem. I actually love it whenever I get asked to show my ID". But then all of a sudden he also asked to see my friend's ID too; which she doesn't have one at all. Then the guy told us that he couldn't let us buy the tickets because my friend doesn't have an ID to prove that she's over the age of 17. So I was like, "OMG! Really? Because I always thought that only the person who was buying the tickets had to show an ID". And then he told us about how the rules have changed, and how now if more than one person wants to buy tickets to an R rated movie and they all look under age, then all of them have to show an ID to prove that they are not under age. Then he told us that he was going to let us buy the tickets and just give us a warning for next time because we didn't know about the new rules. But he did tell my friend that she needs to get an ID so that next time she wants to see an R rated movie and is asked to show an ID, then she will be able to do it. She was so MAD after that happened; even though he still let us buy the tickets. I gotta say though, I do agree with the guy. She really does need to get an ID. She's 24 years old and has no form of identification that she can carry around. It's kind of wierd.
MayMay
Posted: 28 July 2013 - 03:16 PM
Hi everybody! :D
Today is pretty much a down day for me; just relaxing at home, watching movies. Later on today I might take Cory, Matt, and Snuggles out for a walk. :)
Right now I'm getting ready to post on here about what happened yesterday. I figured I will post this first to make my next post shorter. I already tried posting before and my post didn't want to show up. For some reason that always happens whenever my post is really big. :(
Hi Tillie, I hope your headache gets better soon. :)
diane
Posted: 28 July 2013 - 02:27 PM
Thanks Tillie and MayMay, today is a new day and a cooler one at that. Hung some great paintings up in garage this morning, painted desert landscapes, thick paint, very nice and simple, love to look at them, house too tiny. Sawed bottom edge of gate so don't have to lift it to get in. Took awhile but was so worth it. Tried to fix it in other ways then was watching pbs home repair shows yesterday and had a flash, cut the bottom off. Love PBS The thing I got out of the class yesterday was the thought, "am I surviving, or thriving". I have lived in survival mode all my life, never even considered what it would feel like to thrive, just felt I had to work every minute of every day, to keep busy I ate, shopped, crafted, worked any thing but relax. I thought about spending 15 minutes of serious productive work, then relax, instead of aimlessly moving at times. Thriving would mean a more balanced life, more people, more activities. So last night I went and got mail, and my long time friend in So. Calif. sent me a meditation book she has been using for 1&1/2 years, that has helped her so much. I lived with Buddhist monks and had to meditate for 1 hour 45minutes every morning at 5am, when I left there, never really got back in the habit, one extreme to the other. I am now ready to take the time to get back into meditation. 1.75hours seems so extreme, but on this site I have learned 5-15 minutes is a way to start any positive change. All week I have felt shame for throwing a tizzy fit because I didn't get my turn in order on Sunday, so felt I would not go back to chat, just use boards. I know I need to speak up when something is important to me, try to be nice, then get upset, doesn't work.
Tillie
Posted: 28 July 2013 - 11:35 AM
Good morning :)
Breaking a shopping addiction is very tough but you have been doing fantastic! :D This little set back is like being on a strict diet and falling off the wagon once and eating a a cake. All is not lost as long as you wipe the frosting from your face and get back on track. ;D
Still fighting with this headache. Been trying to shake off this overwhelming depression.
My To-Dos for today.... cat stuff clean kitchen (that he trashed last night after I went to bed) Hoping to work on a small craft project for some fun/escape Need to do a general "tidy up". The kitten has toys spread everywhere. But he also loves playing with bits of paper and other trash. He keeps climbing into the trash can and dragging out items he believes are good stuff. A natural born dumpster diver in training. ;)
Will try to be in chat this evening. Hope to see you all there. :D
MayMay
Posted: 28 July 2013 - 01:42 AM
Hi everybody! :D
Today was a really fun and busy day! :D
I will post all about it tomorrow. But right now I am going to get all comfy and go to bed. Right now it's really late where I live. :)
Hi diane, Don't worry about your shopping addiction relapse. It's okay. Stuff like that might happen once and a while. You're still doing great. :)
diane
Posted: 27 July 2013 - 06:27 PM
Ok, I faced the music. Got stuff out of trunk and dealt with it, it was much less than I thought. I bought a blow up seat for my blow up boat so have a backrest, took up most of room, oars, and some craft needles etc, much less than I took over to donate. So unfamiliar with bringing stuff home seemed like a car full, when in fact, small bin of stuff, all put away. Plan to stay away from shopping, not healthy for me now
diane
Posted: 27 July 2013 - 04:00 PM
I took a load of stuff to the Humane Society shelter last night and stayed two hours helping set up for big garage sale. I left a bin that belongs to garbage company that I took donations in, so went back this morning to retrieve it. I spent $15 on junk that I should not have purchased. I felt the old rush of bargain shopping and couldn't seem to stop, didn't want to stop. I brought more home than I delivered. First slip in almost 4 months, feeling shame and guilt and excitement. I needed paddles for my boat, so was so happy to get them. If I stopped with just paddles, it would have been perfect, but had to look and see what I might find. I can see how after getting rid of excess, could buy something I need, with the thought of getting rid of equal amount that I buy, but to buy before I am at that point, is not good for me. Darn it, thought I was done with the shopping addiction, but it was definitely in full swing. Don't need any criticism, I know it was not good, just saying the truth, and that I am going to keep working on getting rid of stuff. I went to a class today, "Good Grief", went to please a friend and meet her brother, I actually learned and enjoyed the information. So now I am resting. Hope everyone is more productive than me today!!
