Tillie so happy to read the report on sweet kitty. You are so good to twinkles.

main goal is to box up old modem and ups it to telephone co. so won't be charged for it after this month. Have to follow their directions exactly so can be credited with return they said, not up for that this moment, but soon.

after many wasted hours on my own, online for help, and finally today got help via telephone-----------

MODEM IS HOOKED UP AND WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now time for a celebratory smoothie in the sun, many days of gray, makes sun look better than ever.
I will join in chat work sessions once I calm down after messing with modem for so long this am, guy was so patient with me, could not understand his Indian accent.
Finally done!!!!!!! When will I learn to ask for help earlier? Hopefully next time I need it!
Today I will be doing dishes, vacuuming and mostly fun stuff if I can remember what is fun!

Good work, Mar! I knew you could do it. Keep writing...I wrote my talk for Sunday this morning. And the lawn guy was here, he will be coming back to do the brush hauling later. I fielded a phone call from my mom about the senior services, fixed a paper jam. Ate breakfast and part of lunch. Will try to do the bottom left drawer of my desk this afternoon and get some rest. And make some salmon loaf for dinner.

Peace,
Kathy

Good morning to all!

I'm happy, just sent to my thesis advisor work he told me, did it faster than I thought :-D

Plan for today: not skipping meds, meals or school, and much writing. God help me.

(((Hugs))) and have a nice day!

I tried to join the chat group tonight but trying to follow the discussion and type on my tiny phone did not work well. I applaud everyone for the work they have done.
I got a lot done today even though my computer crashed and the belt on the vacuum cleaner broke. One trash bag is out. I still have lot to do before the sofa comes on Friday. But I feel good about what was accomplished today.
I hope little Twinkles will feel better soon.

Good evening :)

I am exhausted.
Didn't get much sleep last night.
Got up early.
Was going to water outside but it was very dark cloudy and in the low 40s.
Will do that tomorrow.
Spent all day worrying about Twinkles.
The Dr. called me about 11:00am and filled me in on what he had to do and we discussed further treatments to help him.
Twinkles is now back home, hiding under the bed.
He is all filled up with all kinds of drugs.
He has pain meds and antibiotics to start on tomorrow.
Not going to feed him until tomorrow, let his system recover from everything but he does have fresh water available.
Along with a teeth cleaning he had to have two molars and one incisor pulled. Poor baby.
He is a rescue cat, showed up on my porch literally starving to death. At that time he had already had four other teeth out at sometime.
When he came here he brought along a buddy, Marty.
Marty came here having been declawed at some time.
They have lived here about five years now and have given us so much love and enjoyment during this time.
:)

Good thing that I wrote I dropped off a prescription yesterday on this board, because I remembered to pick it up after reading this. Was too tired last night. This morning I followed through on the phone calls and got my mother (93) signed up to be picked up next Monday and 3x/week to be taken to a congregate dining site for seniors. She just lost her driving privileges, and lives 125 miles from me. Lives alone.

I would have said she has no hoarding tendencies (and I answered 8/10 to Dr. Zasio's quiz and have been surrounded by more or less severe clutter all my life); she has a house that on the surface looks incredibly immaculate and neat; she thinks she is really letting things go if she doesn't make her bed. However, I noticed when I was down there recently that she does have a lot of things stuffed in her closets and drawers and other closed in non-visible areas that is not really necessary or useful.Interesting.

I decluttered a bookcase today and have a stack of books on the donate basket to be gone through to see if any of them are worth selling on Amazon, otherwise they go to the Friends of the Library. I finished the project I had decluttering over my desk and dealt with the items I took down from there.

Other than that I made a couple of meals and made my bed (!) and kept things pretty well picked up today; did a little reading and attended an online meeting and rested a bit this afternoon which may make it possible for me to attend the meeting tonight. Brought the garbage can in and noted that they did not pick up the lamppost I left out there but the lawn man is coming tomorrow and I will ask him to haul it away.

On the "fail" side, I found a book in the bookcase, hardbound, that I just bought again and got in the mail yesterday the paperback edition (blush).

Peace,
Kathy

finishing up breakfast after i spent a lazy morning in the shower, today is kitchen and dailies and bedrooms. If the sun comes out we'll go to the back yard and pick it up a bit, if not we might pick up the living room.
In Chat today working with a few people. Kids are home for the Summer so I may be afk unexpectedly, no worries, I will be back

Good morning, everyone.

Barb: I'm sorry about your computer issues! Bummer!

Tillie: Wow! Sounds like there has been a bit of cooperation in your household! That's nice! Hope Twinkles gets much better soon.

diane: Glad you got so much done yesterday. Glad you could be at the daytime chat!

Me: I mentioned in an earlier post about my trash that didn't get picked up by the city. Apparently that happened up and down the block. I didn't end up calling the city about it yesterday, but apparently someone else did. It finally got picked up. Now I can fill the trash can up again this week!

I mentioned that I won't be at chat tonight (at least not for most of it) because I have a special (annual) event to attend. Although I will probably do a little laundry and will probably do a little more wall-washing today (once I find where I put my sponges . . . I had them recently!), I'm not planning to spend much time today focusing on cleaning/decluttering. Instead, much of it will be a day of writing and of reflection in preparation for tonight's event. I might pop into our afternoon "work chat" for a bit, though, if anyone is doing that today.

Happy Tuesday!

Computer crashed yesterday. May be offline for a while.

10:15 pm here and he just finished cleaning out all the food related trash from his bedroom and vacuuming some of the exposed carpeting.
Twinkles can safely sleep in there tonight now.

For those who don't know, Twinkles is scheduled for teeth cleaning in the morning and is not to have any food after midnight.

Now we can all go to sleep.
:)

hello, I spent the day in the chat room working on dishes, healthy food, yard work. I dealt with my IRA situation and was emotionally drained when I signed on, felt so much better after completed tasks. Was a good experience.

Got everything done on my afternoon goal list except for the greeting card part. Thanks to those in the chat room today for your encouragement. Have something to attend this evening, so I might or might not get that done today.

Hope everyone has a good and restful night tonight.

Kathy, when I notice how often other people get a lot done but don't seem to recognize the degree of their own progress, then it helps me "have some faith" that I, too, have made more progress than I "feel" like I've made.

Tillie, I feel for you when it comes to having to clean up after all those moths. Ugh. By the way, I am thinking (although I don't have my answers yet) about your question about the "unquestioned" rules we've adopted through the years. Remember that old game, "Button, button, who's got the button?" Maybe we need a game called "Button, button, why do I have the button?"

The early part of my morning went well with my revised plans. I got those early morning goals done fairly quickly. Then I just felt really tired, and I tried to get some more rest. I finally feel up to attacking some more tasks. Here are some of my plans for the next few hours: Get a bank deposit made, buy a couple of items (including tissues) at my local drug store, get my "packet" of supplies ready for my next trip to that rural area, get some greeting cards printed out that I plan to give to a couple of friends tomorrow, and get two bills ready for the mail. I also want to experiment with using some cleaning solution on walls that were stained during flooding here several months back.

Have a great Monday, everyone!

I considered whether to try to attend last night's chat, but since I had been awake since 3 am I decided to go to sleep at 8 pm and try again on Tuesday.

My head is spinning with all the projects I need to do this week and I'm having a hard time prioritizing and focusing. It doesn't help much when I have to make phone calls and leave messages, so I can't finish anything.

I did get to the pharmacy and drop off a prescription, and go to the pet store to buy dog food. I did print out the readings and find the bulletins for next Sunday, step one for the services then. I called my mom and got through to her on the third try; I made two phone calls about getting her transportation to the congregate dining and activity sites for seniors.

As far as getting rid of things is concerned, I need to get the trash out today, and I'm setting a goal to declutter the bookshelf over my computer desk today. I also called my lawn person who is going to come and cut the lawn and trim shrubs and haul away brush on Wednesday.

It all looks like more than it feels like I actually got done, but that is probably a good thing.

Peace,
Kathy

Good morning :)

Reading the message board, drinking my tea, watering the garden and making up my To-Do list for today.
Cats have been fed.
The "Peace" rose bloomed this morning and has really outdone it's self. Absolutely beautiful. :D
Have everything ready for Twinkles already. Carrier and plans for isolating him from any food over night. A nice place for him to recover in from his teeth cleaning when he comes back home.
No moths around this morning! :D
Guess they have all migrated to Winnemucca or something.
Happy that is over with but now have some serious cleaning to do. Depressing what a mess they have made.
Got very little sleep last night. Scooter was all wound up and acting quite insane.
Will do what I can around here today and hope to get some sleep tonight.

Monday, the start of a fresh new week so full of possibilities.

Good morning. Great to "see" so many of you on the chat last night, and great to "meet" some new people as well.

Thanks for that important set of reminders you posted on the spirituality thread, Barb.

My original plans for this morning were to get up and out the door early to get outside work done before it got too hot. I did get up early, but I did not have a restful night. I do not think my body is ready for that outside work yet. Fortunately, that work doesn't absolutely have to be done today.

My plans for the next couple of hours or so include making a fresh batch of tea, putting up the laundry I dried yesterday, spending ten to twenty minutes on paperwork, unloading a couple of tools from my vehicle, and adding to my gratitude list.

Iced tea clink to your coffee cup, Roxie. Have a great day, everyone.

Yea for the improved fridge situation, Tillie!

Among other things, today I did some laundry, did a little reading in Digging Out while I was at the Laundromat, unloaded the dishwasher, got a couple of grocery items, and got together with family. Replaced my smoke alarm battery. Planning to be at the chat tonight for a while. "See" you at the chat.

Hi to everyone.

By now, I know I've forgotten some of what I did yesterday, but here's what I do recall: Repacked for yet another trip out to that rural area. Then cleaned part of the bottom shelf of the refrigerator; that part of the fridge now looks a lot better. Got some trash ready to take out. Met with some friends in the morning, ate an early lunch, then (with sunscreen and plenty to drink, plus safety equipment like goggles) went out to actually do my work in that rural area. Got some weeds whacked down that were interfering with entry to one of the gates, made some progress cutting down a small tree (unwanted, invasive species), made sure my animals were OK, and visited with a friend of mine who lives near there. Next I went to the place where I'd done so much work Friday morning; trash people never had picked up the trash I'd put out. I don't know if the trash truck came extra early or what. Will have to investigate that. Frustrating. Came back home and got my clothes and myself cleaned up and ate my supper. Spent time on the phone with a friend.

Never did buy my new smoke alarm battery (forgot). Need to put that on today's agenda.

I did read posts last night, even though I didn't post anything myself. Hugs to all.

Spent all today with good friends helping them move. tired and in need of a shower now, but I feel good because these are people I love who have come to mean so very much to me. I'm behind on my housework, but i think it'll be okay. Monday is my son's last day of school and it's only a half day, so I'll have lots of help from now on getting the house in check and ready to move.

Roxie, my health is my #2 reason for trying to ditch the weight. My #1 is setting a better example for my kids. As for potted plants, that was totally my plan :)

Ramblin thoughts...

Ever since I can remember the "RULE" has been
If you have a stray button or find a button
the button was to be set aside in the assigned container for buttons.
The button box, button jar, button tin.
At first I was instructed to place the button in my mother's or my Grandmother's button box.
Then one day when I was eight years old I had a new sweater that came with a spare button attached to the price tag.
Asked my mother what I should do with this button and she told me to start my own button box, so I did.
Over the years my button container has changed many times but since 1988 I have been using a beautiful hand painted tin that had belonged to someone I loved very very much.
She treasured this tin and now I do too.
Well...
without ever thinking about it I have been dropping stray buttons into my own button box for over fifty two years now.
Never even thought to question this practice.
It was the "RULE". Right?
Another part of the rule was when something was worn out, a rag, the buttons were to be removed and added to the button box.
This rule was because "you never know when you are going to need a button".
Decided that I am going to disobey the "RULE" for the rest of my life.
Even going so far as to dump out all those buttons, put them all into a one gallon size zip lock baggie and donate them to the charity thrift shop.
I do feel a bit guilty that I may be contributing to some poor hoarders addiction when they see that three and a half pound bag of buttons and just can't resist buying it.

I still have some buttons, nice ones that are in matching sets to add to the clothing I may make but they all fit in one hand.

What "RULES" are you following blindly?
Want to join me in my button revolution? :D

Hi to all. Wrote something I intended to post yesterday, but I was so sleepy by the time I finished that I didn't post it. Here it is (revised):

Got the goals done that I posted for Thursday night.

Friday: Got up and out the door very early in morning, sprayed myself well with bug repellent, and went to do outside work at my family home before trash truck came and before things got too hot. Later, got a load of laundry washed and dried, got my vehicle registration renewed, got a couple of things picked up from an AAA office that I want to use on an upcoming out-of-state trip, and later spent some time on the phone with a couple of friends.

Didn't sleep soundly Thursday night. One thing that didn't help with sleep is that another smoke alarm started chirping in the middle of the night, asking for a new battery. I was extra tired Friday evening and went to sleep very early. Got more (and much more sound) sleep Friday night than Thursday. (Yea!) One goal for Saturday: get a new 9v battery for the smoke alarm and put the alarm back in its place.

More later (probably). Breakfast time. Hugs to all.

Tillie, your garden sounds so beautiful! I didn't even plant my bulbs this year as I knew we were moving to an apartment and I'm terribly happy that someone gets to enjoy growing things, even if it isn't me! I love gardens and hope to have one of my own again someday.

hihi!
Been a bit busy and some days it's been murky but this week hasnt been too bad. I'm still maintaining the bedrooms, the kitchen and the bathrooms. The Den needs to be vacuumed, but the Man's been home and I can't vacuum around him because of his allergies. The laundry is still being done on a daily basis and I've been a lot better about putting everything away in a timely manner. It's not perfect, but as so many of you have said, Baby steps. It's been pouring buckets since early evening yesterday and it's pretty blah out. Stayed in bed this morning after the boy went to school which was nice, haven't been able to sleep well lately. Before you start asking I can tell you it's a fun combination of allergies, seasonal light shift, and general discomfort from being obese and sleeping on a less than par mattress. New Bed and Mattress is on the list. Lose weight is also on the list. Today though I'm going to do my dailies, and enjoy the floors that the kids and I cleaned last night. I might clean the laundry room floor as well although the reason I haven't yet is because I hate spiders and the laundry room seems to be one of their favorite places to be.
Working on a few projects with my art as well, and will post the results on my Deviantart account when I'm finished.
As for now, I'm enjoying a cup of coffee and a few muffins for my brunch. I'm also in the chat room today if anyone wants to join me either to get some work done together, or just because you want to talk.

Today I got paperwork together then went to city to get 25% off my water/sewer/garbage, saves me $15 a month. Glad I had done the filing so knew where papers were, still took quite awhile.
This morning scraped some paint off deck then ran the pressure washer again, still needs a little work before painting it. I will check online for best product to use to preserve deck. The wood is very old so some of it is mushy after pressure washing. Deck was here when I bought the place in 1996, so deck is probably close to 30 years old. I have kept it coated with various stains and paints over the years. This time I want to actually clean it, do research, and put good product on it. I usually just spray with hose, take chunks of build up off, then get frustrated and slap any old paint or stain on it. still have sink full of dishes to do before max comes tomorrow am. Looking forward to having him here by himself for the weekend.
All laundry is now done, finished cleaning deck rugs today. will water lawn tonight
do dishes? take a shower hopefully.
thanks tillie for describing how you deal with anger

Goals for the rest of the evening: Spend ten minutes on paperwork, spend a few minutes vacuuming, add to my gratitude list, then do a little reading.

Tillie: I was thinking just today about how feeling resentful simply isn't worth it. Glad you posted about that type of thing.

Well, I just got home about an hour ago from dealing with that "business matter." I'd been expecting an important bill that I knew should be due soon. Although I thought it was possible I could have misplaced it, I was pretty sure it never arrived. I decided to go to the company, inquire about the bill in person, and pay it while I was there. As it turned out, the correctly-addressed bill had been misdelivered (put in the wrong PO box) and later had been returned to the sender. I am grateful that (1) it wasn't a case of my having lost a bill, (2) my brain had worked well enough to remember that this bill should have arrived by now (just comes twice a year), (3) I had had my paperwork organized well enough to locate the account number that I needed, and (4) it's now paid (would have been due Monday). Sometimes, it's just nice to know: it wasn't me this time! : )

I also ate a decent lunch today, loaded the dishwasher, and got a couple of birthday cards put into the mail.

I'm very mildly sad because there's an event I would like to attend tonight that I've decided not to go to. Weather in the area is just too stormy to risk the long drive. Other than family events and recovery-type meetings, I don't do much socially these days. (I'm trying to improve on that; it's a struggle to do certain social things, a struggle to even want to sometimes. But this time I wanted to.) I guess I can be happy that I had the want-to for this. (I'd better quit writing about it before I change my mind.) Going to eat some supper now, run the dishwasher, and then maybe I'll post a few simple goals for the evening. Hugs to all.

Good morning!

Roxie: Glad your brother had fun with that saw. (They really are fun.) Hope that the med change does in fact get you feeling lots better really soon.

diane: Hope you got another good night's rest. Thanks for the suggestions for the foot and for all your encouragement.

Me: Got the goals I posted for last night done. Probably won't be going back out to that rural area today, because it's supposed to be pretty stormy here much of the day. (Bummer. Like to go out there. But rain is a good thing!)

I have a business matter on my agenda that I dislike having to deal with. I usually have more willingness in the morning for this type of thing than later in the day, so I'm (ugh) putting that on my morning to-do list. I've broken the task down into small parts, which helps it feel more do-able. How much else I get done this morning depends on how much time that matter takes up.

Happy day.

Good work LR, you did a lot today. Might help to elevate your leg on pillows and lay down to read. Have you tried putting ace wrap around ice pack on foot? Sometimes elevating, ice and a little pressure will help, foot should be higher than heart.
I tried out my pressure washer on deck this afternoon, not enough pressure to remove old paint. I will try again with smaller nozzle and see if that works better.
I made a big pot of soup a week ago and now have to toss it since I did not eat or freeze it. Really a bummer to waste healthy food, especially when I know I would have felt better if I had eaten it last week, instead of nuts and chocolate chips.
Today I keep thinking the dog is still here and need to entertain her, weird being here by myself and keep focusing on my projects instead of her being entertained. Sorry you guys who live with others, must be difficult to focus on yourself and your work to do, and not get focused on pleasing others, or being angry at others!
Looking forward to another good nights sleep. Hope all of you get plenty of rest and eat better than I have lately,.

OK, computer seems happy now. I'll try this again.

diane: Glad you got so much done (and glad you see the need to take rests, too.)

Me: Went out to that rural area early this morning and got a number of things accomplished before it got too hot. (Yea!) Working out there was very pleasant.

Met with a friend at noon. Washed and dried two loads of laundry. (For just one person, I seem to get awfully dirty!) Dropped off a dying 18v battery at a recycling place. Mixed up a new supply of brushy weed killer.

Plans for the next hour or so: Finish putting away laundry, drink plenty of fluids (hot day here this afternoon), spend ten minutes on paperwork, add to my gratitude list, wash another load of clothes, eat some more supper (ate a little bit already), unload some more things from the dishwasher, and (once it's cool enough) begin loading my vehicle once again for the next trip to that rural area. Putting a cold pack on my foot seemed to help yesterday, so I will probably do that later while doing some reading in one of my books.

Hugs to everyone.

hello everyone, I just wrote a long note to you ladies, then it turned blue, as I hit a key, and all disappeared, darn it.
Basically, feeling good today, finished cleaning inside and most of deck. Repaired dog door and put it back in door, took a long time. Watered lots of plants in yard, and part of lawn. painted door around dog door and a part of deck. Washed rest of hair covered towels and rugs. Chatted with max's mom. He is coming Friday a.m. instead of tomorrow. So will keep working today if I get a second wind, and take tomorrow off.
I feel good about all that I got done today, just worn out from not enough breaks, when will I learn? Just ate a big bowl of raspberries, banana, greek yogurt and peanut butter. So delicious.
Still have some dishes to wash, put pressure washer together, and try it out.

Hi to everyone.

Roxie, glad you were able to get some rest yesterday after the doctor appointments.

Tillie, glad your candidates won! : ) Yes, I did find my gift card, and yes, I did get some new athletic shoes with the card. I suspect my feet will be thanking me for that in the long run.

Me: Got my goals done that I posted yesterday afternoon and made it to the first part of the chat last night. I made plans to sign off from it earlier than usual so I could hit the sack early. Wanted to be out the door by 6ish this morning to get work done out in that rural area before it got too hot. That went well. More on that later. (My computer just announced to me that it wants to reboot.)

Happy afternoon.

The primary election votes are all in and my candidates won!!! :D
YEA!!! for "None Of The Above".
Happy to see that so many other voters agreed with me.
Unfortunately, None Of The Above will not be able to serve so the second place candidates will get the positions. :(

Good Morning :)

Hi LR2014 :)
Did you find the gift card? Did you get the new shoes? :D

Hi Roxie :)
Hope getting things straightened out with the doctor's office goes smoothly and you get what you need.
Great Big (((HUGS))) for your brother being there for you.
Thank You for appreciating my house. When I have people in they always compliment on how peaceful & serene it is to be in here. :)

Cat canned food breakfast is over with.
Most all the loose fluttery moths that got in over night have been properly chased down & consumed, by the cats, not me. :D
What a mess I have from these moths. Dusty smears on all the walls & windows and furniture where the cats have batted them down. Moths trapped & smushed between the doors & door jams. Dead bodies everywhere to sweep & vacuum up.
When they die naturally the cats don't eat those that are not fluttering about.

My plan for today is to fix up a bucket of soapy water, get a rag and do a quick clean up of the moth mess. No sense in doing a good job yet since they are still invading.
Then I plan to do something enjoyable. Don't know what yet but I will find something. :)
Have some food stuff that I plan to prepare & pig out on.
Looking forward to lunch. :D

Wednesday already!
Hope you all are enjoying these last few days of Spring. :D

Yes . . . yea, you, Tillie!

Hi :)

When I turned 18 it was the very first time people 18 were finally able to vote.
I voted then and have voted every single election since. YEA Me!!!! :D

Hi Diane :)
hope you are planning to do some playing and self care like maybe pedicure, hair do, maybe pretty summer dress, picnic lunches, coffee house cup of coffee, visit in person or on the phone with a friend...
Yes, sometimes everybody just feels crappy.
Whenever I get upset about all his clutter/squalor I turn my focus to me.
What can I do to make me happy. I have my no clutter zones and my garden to focus on.
I rearrange stuff, swap out the drapes & table cloths for different ones. Find a craft or book to lose myself in. Hang out with the cats, birds, lizards & bunnies.
I can only control myself, can't control anybody else.
It is up to me to make the changes that will make me happy, working with what I have.
I would love to have it different here, maybe some day it will get better but in the meantime I do what I can.
Talking with all of you here on this messageboard makes me very happy. :D
To be a member of this community where people are working so hard to make their lives the lives they want. (((HUGS)))

WAY TO GO!!! for all the cleaning and de-furring you did!!! :D

Good afternoon.

Yea, diane! Glad the dog has gone home. You've done so much work today! I hope you enjoy some relaxation. Hope you do, too, Tillie! Roxie, I hope your doc appointments go well. Whew! . . . I'm chewing on your "vision" question from that other thread. Good points that many of you are making about focusing on our own responsibilities (as opposed to blaming and doing other such not-so-useful things).

Plans for the next few hours include looking for a gift card I have that I can use to get some new athletic shoes (which will probably help my still-hurting foot . . . my old shoes are wearing out); getting things packed once again to go do some work in that rural area; vacuuming a small section of my living room; and spending ten minutes on paperwork.

Hugs to all.

I called the daughter about 9am yesterday, she said she would call back and tell me the time she would pick up dog. By 8pm she had not called, as the dog knocked over my ice water, I really had to focus on not being upset. I waited, took a few deep breaths and called her. No answer. I left a message saying she was to call back, hoped she was still picking up dog. Said dog had to be picked up between 7am and noon. She called back finally and said noon. I had dog and stuff out there at noon, she got here at 12:15. Apologized for sounding a bit frantic last night but after a month of sleep deprivation, everything seemed like a big deal, she was very kind. Did tell her, thought would do better at her house in future, since she has 4 kids and dog would have lots of entertainment, just too much for me. She said she had told mom before she would take care of dog, and will next time.
So I started at 6am vacuuming, everything, changed vacuum bag and did it all again, yep, one hairy dog. Played fetch 15 minutes of each hour. Cleaned bathroom counter, washed floor. I did take a few breaks, but by 11:30 I was so exhausted. Dishes were done, kitchen floor almost done. Living/dining room completed. Deck carpet has first vacuum, needs another. Shook all area rugs, then vacuumed them. Deck area will have to be washed, some outdoor rugs have to be washed. washed bathroom rug already. feels so good to sit in living room with no dog stuff. I am feeling a little upset at myself for telling daughter how I felt, she just forgot to call me back. Actually very exhausted and bummed. I thought I would be so happy, but after cleaning 5 hours and 2 hours of fetch, I am worn out, which affects my mood. Good I read your inspiring posts, so happy for you Roxie to have help. And to hear LR say she is bummed, sometimes we just feel crappy, and others do too. Good to hear my rant helped see the importance of focusing on cleaning up our side of the street, so much easier to look at others. As I write this, I realize my upset is worrying about what the daughter thinks of me because I was not as happy as her. Good reminder to let that go and focus on enjoying what is left of my day, and realize I already accomplished so much today, can take time off, relax on deck, then go pick up prescriptions and make a few dog toys. I have done enough today already. So grateful you posted. Tillie love that you do whatever you want and don't think you have to keep working after you do things to tidy up. Such a great example of making your area nice. If you focused on his crap and were angry all the time it would eat you alive, and where would we be then? We sure learn alot from you, thanks tillie