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Tatoulia
Posted: 18 August 2014 - 12:16 PM
What a lovely post, Dianne, and congratulations on you successes. You need to know that reading through your past posts, I feel close to you. Your words are serving as an inspiration for me. So glad to finally "meet" you. Thank you.
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Dianne
Posted: 18 August 2014 - 11:49 AM
Hello Bitsy,

My name is Dianne and I was a regular poster here for a year and a half. I had to tend to real life issues with family and just stopped by for a *quick check-in*. Rather than do a post in that thread I decided to catch up on *daily chat* and felt your exhaustion and pain.

Please know that most, if not all, posters have been where you are in terms of overwhelm. They, me, may look like we are forging ahead and dealing well with the problems that come along. There were periods of time I was so depressed that reading of others' progress made me feel worse, like why can't I be that strong? Then I wouldn't want to post and be *Debbie Downer*. And sometimes I was the strong one making headway and felt a little bad posting my successes thinking what if this makes someone else feel inadequate?

It's so human to compare ourselves to others and come up short. Especially when we are already feeling down.

At times when we are called upon to take care of others, like I was, like you are now, it's vital to use our energy well. Mental, emotional and spiritual as well as physical. For me that meant admitting my physical limitations and having to set some limits on what I could or couldn't do. That meant asking for help and trusting that some things could be handled just as well (even better) without me. I also needed to think ahead a bit about what I would eat and drink and be prepared so I wouldn't get caught exhausted and fueling with sugar and caffeine. I needed to adhere to a bedtime ritual to encourage sleep. I needed some deep breaths of fresh air ~ not even a walk ~ just step outside and breathe.

Mentally and emotionally I had to avoid the computer and news. If it was of major importance I'd hear it sooner or later. But I couldn't let my energy be dissipated with negativity and ruminating. There was enough of negative consequence in my real life to deal with so the non-essential had to be eliminated. I had to be very strict with my thoughts. There's a time for crying and there's a time to stop. So damn hard for me to learn.

Spiritually it was imperative to focus on what brought my heart and soul peace. I get that from a little solitude, some Bible verses, books, nature and animals.

It is possible for all the stuff we have to do to be a blessing. Sometimes it literally forces us to choose what must, MUST be done. Make a list of *Bare Bone Basics* that you need to function in your life. From there you add what else you can reasonably do for yourself and taking care of responsibilities.

It brought me to the realization that I will never get everything done on my own, as badly as I want to. That meant I finally needed to ask for help ~ not just online support which is great ~ but help in the real world. Most of it has been freely given which has been a tremendous blessing. A lot of it has been bartering ~ I have a vacation place that I can offer or I can bake casseroles and cookies for hungry hard-working, young guys. There has been lots of good stuff I won't use ~ yes, I am *buried in treasures* :) ~ that people have taken and sold on ebay or used themselves. And of course sometimes I just had to pay hard cash. So with the exception of a couple of bedrooms I am now hoard free in my home. That's not to say hoard free in my mind. That's an ongoing compulsion that must be dealt with daily.

You WILL get back with some semblance of control Bitsy. Be aware but don't look too far ahead with dread. Not just one day at a time. Sometimes one hour at a time or 5 minutes at a time.

God bless ~~ Dianne

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Tatoulia
Posted: 18 August 2014 - 09:09 AM
Bitsy, I am saddened by the news re your son and rd your health. First and foremost, please make sure you are eating well. Protein is very important right now. Also stay hydrated. I don't know your financial or living situation but if you have any opportunity to get help from neighborhood kids (just have them take the trash can out and back for you) you should do so. If that is not an option, I certainly understand.

Please eat right. We all are pulling for you.
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bitsy
Posted: 18 August 2014 - 08:59 AM
I am not able to keep going. .just barely. I have been going to hospital every day. Son still in hospital. It's 11 days since surgery, 18 days since he went in to the hospital. They finally took tube out of nose and he is able to eat, not in as much pain, but not up walking around.
I just feel more exhausted every day. I managed to get garbage out to trash can by putting it on the back of the car and driving it to the trash can but decided tying the can to the back of the car to get it to the street was not a good idea. My daughter blew into town yesterday and stopped by the hospital for an hour then came by the house to get some of her stuff out of the shed. I had her take garbage and recycling cans to the street before she took off even though they won't pick up till Tuesday. I don't know how I will get laundry to laundromat and back. Everything seems so impossible. I doubt my son will still have a job. He probably won't be able to go back to work for 2 to 3 months after he gets out of hospital.

Yesterday I just felt like I should be in a nursing home. Reading your post this a.m. in tears. You all doing so well in spite of everything. and I don't know what to do.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 18 August 2014 - 08:55 AM
Good morning, everyone! I agree, LR, this community is crucial to my progress and success. Something has snapped for me. I'm not having emotional problems with getting rid of my stuff. I'm also not beating myself up for spending so much money on useless junk. While making a bag for goodwill yesterday, I included my Nancy Drew books (some from the 1930s and some from the 1960s -- as kids my mother wouldn't go to garage sales but occasionally she'd stop to see if they had Nancy Drews for me). I know they are now "worth something" (maybe $5 or $10 each) but my space is worth much more. I kept the two that meant the most to me and am on the lookout for the two others that i'd like to keep.

I'm just going through and getting this stuff done. Am maintaining kitchen, laundry and living room. Have two gross jobs--one of which I mentioned previously The Dreaded Closet--that I am still trying to face. Will employ the good advice and steps giving by all of you here.

I found you all at the right time.
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LR2014
Posted: 18 August 2014 - 08:09 AM
Good morning. Good to see those who were able to make it to chat last night. As I've read the posts from the past few days, I note how comforting, helpful, and healing it can be to share our struggles here.

Barb had mentioned trying to post earlier in the week but not being able to. I wonder how many of our usual "posters" have been having the same problem; maybe some people whom we haven't "seen" lately have tried posting but couldn't. Just a thought.

One of my goals for today is to spend at least 30 minutes cleaning out my vehicle and organizing things that are in it. I also plan to add to my gratitude list, spend at least twenty minutes on paperwork, and spend at least twenty minutes on cleaning/dejunking/organizing a certain area of my living room.

Have a great day, everyone.
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diane
Posted: 17 August 2014 - 01:20 PM
Tat and Whew, I teared up reading your posts this morning. It is so wonderful you truly understand the extent of what we are dealing with and what it takes to keep going, I truly appreciate your thoughtful kind posts, especially today. I do not usually post this early in the day, but needed your support so got online and see your great posts!!!!
I started in the garage and reclaimed some space. First I looked for things I could donate, several glass items, only one was a difficult decision (collector porcelin) but I don't relate so time to give it away. Then looked for bigger items, found 3 big metal rack things that I never used so time to go. Vertical space was used to get more space to move around. Moved one heavy container, and to my surprise found my 2 electric saws I had been looking for weeks. Made me smile at how when I organize and don't label, dont know where I put things I need to use. Lesson, label and make it a permanent home. I think my disgust and frustration allowed me to get rid of more stuff today. Want to keep up the search for give aways and throw aways today. I have to stop myself when I start wasting time with sorting little things, either give it away or put in general area for nails, screws etc. Micro sorting has wasted enough of my time. I have a big hook thing to hang bicycle on. I need to screw it to wall and put bike on it, or get rid of it, same with some shelves I never put up that I like, if I just keep them in a pile, they just are in the way, either install or get rid of them. I saw hoard more clearly after my visitor yesterday pointed out how much disarray I still have which would make it difficult for workers to do anything to correct problems. Before anyone else comes to fix things, I must get crap out of the way, hopefully willing to get rid of most of troubling items. Yesterday man asked if I was getting help for my problem, I said I have tried therapy and have been in this group for a year and a half. Admitted I need to hire someone to keep me focused, I can do the work just get so distracted. The treat of someone else coming over made me stay really focused this morning. I must just keep going. Yes, it is so easy to go to the critical comments at my worthlessness and failures in life, my go to place when criticized. When he said you have to stop buying things, I felt terrible, I was addicted to acquiring possible creative supplies for many years. Truth is, I have mostly stopped that behavior with the help of this group. As you stated, it is a big deal for us to pass up garage sales, any bargain for that matter. Made me feel so good when I read of your success and that you gave yourself cheers for not stopping at sale. It is the only way to stop addictive shopping, not tempt ourselves. My mind lights up with addictive impulses when I see a garage sale sign so lately I have been staying home on weekends. I would give up if I didn't have your friendship to keep me going. Your successes help me know it is possible. So grateful for your posts.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 17 August 2014 - 12:22 PM
What a beautiful post, Whew. I got a lot out of it; thank you.
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whew!
Posted: 17 August 2014 - 11:20 AM
Hi Diane (((HUGS))),

I thought a lot about your post...and am amazed at how far you've come. And it gives me hope.

From first seeing the problems to second beginning to sort through what is helpful and what is not to third being able to have workfolk come in to fourth being clear with yourself and with him. You've done great.

The platitude "It didn't happen overnight, so it can't be fixed overnight" is true, however, with one big distinction. It will take much quicker to get through these problems we all have created than it took to get in the messes. It took me a lifetime to get to this place. While it might not be overnight, it won't take a lifetime either to get in a more satisfying space.
So my thought to you is YAY YOU!!! You've accomplished a lot!

My second thought is how quickly we beat ourselves up for not having the resources or the energy or the skills or the knowledge or the (fill in the blank). We are but human and we get to make mistakes and learn from them and try again. So again YAY YOU for staying in the game.

Warm thoughts to you this day.
Warm thoughts to ALL of us who are this journey with you.








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Tatoulia
Posted: 17 August 2014 - 10:59 AM
Good morning! I slept til 1030 today and then didn't get out of bed til 11. This is rare for me but I have been very very tired these days and question whether my blood levels/medications are where they should be. (I did get up to feed kitty at 6AM; hence my success in sleeping in).

I thought about yesterday and how I accomplished nothing toward the hoarding situation. Guess what? It turns out that I DID address the hoarding situation in important ways:
1. Kitchen has been maintained. Counters clear and clean, dishwasher emptied promptly and NO dishes in sink. Sink wiped down.
2. Took a beautiful set of Denby dishes (never used) to my car to give to my brother.
3. On way to garage yesterday, the community center was having a White Elephant sale and there was a gentleman sitting outside beckoning people in. I said (very friendly and cheerful) oh no you don't -- I'm busily working on getting rid of 19 years worth of stuff. On my way home around 4:00 PM it was still going on, and I was really tempted to "just stop in and have a look-see". I DID NOT! Victory is all mine.


Sending everyone warm wishes for a lovely Sunday, with special wishes to all of us who need it most today.

Thank you all for helping me to reclaim my life.
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diane
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 11:06 PM
Thankyou Tat. I really feel touched that you took the time to understand my situation and comfort me. I feel better just knowing one person in the world understands how difficult hoarding has made my life, and how I feel tonight. It is clear that I have to get rid of more stuff, just a lot to deal with. Thanks Tat for your kindness.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 09:34 PM
Sending you big hugs, Diane. I'm glad you stood up for yourself and I am glad he responded with kindness. I wish I had a way to help you. Somebody smart and thoughtful and kind once said "tomorrow is another day"....oh wait, I believe that YOU said that.

I seem to remember you had some possible fun plans for tomorrow. I hope you feel well enough to enjoy yourself. And I hope the weather cooperates. It's been lovely and humidity free here in the East. Much easier to breathe, concentrate and feel alive when not so hot.

Giant love to you and all of our friends here.
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diane
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 04:59 PM
Thanks Tillie, you are right about sorting like items together.
A builder came over this morning and looked at all the work I need done. He shook his head alot. Took notes on a clipboard. the area between freezer room and walkway roof is not something he could do because of all the goofy angles, no way to make sure it does not leak. He said, the roof over freezer room was built incorrectly, that is why all the problems. I have heard this several times before. Then he looked at a few other areas that need to be fixed and he said about the same thing. He told me why the stuff I have done incorrectly all needs to come down and start over. I used incorrect braces etc. I was in tears by the time he left. He said I need to stop buying all the wrong stuff and have a professional do the work right the first time. He noted several unfinished things and said I need to have one thing finished before I move on to the next. I said I have adhd and it is difficult to stay focused and I am not happy about my situation and I realize I need help, just difficult to ask for help when I hear over and over how everything is difficult to fix because of the angles and incorrect way everything was built years ago. He was very kind then and wished me well finding someone that would take on all this work. I am a little destroyed over it all, a little hopeless. Think I will do the best I can to clean up areas I have worked on, I saw many odds and ends I had not noticed until his eyes were scanning my entire place. I am ashamed of the way I have lived, and must remind myself that no one could have walked through the areas when the hoard was all over the place. I am not going down town now, too hot and will be over in an hour. Just want to clean up some stuff in walk way, throw away what I can.
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Karl
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 04:25 PM
Yesterday morning I had an omelet -- usually I mix some milk in with the eggs (more volume and fluffier). The milk was still a day or two from its sell-by date, and it didn't smell bad -- but it seemed kind of borderline, like this might be the last chance. Often in that case I'll go ahead and use it anyway, figuring that it's not actually bad yet. But then I remembered Tillie's stories about Steven. So I poured it out and made the omelet without milk.

If everyone has a purpose in life, maybe Steven's is to serve as a example to others.
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Tillie
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 11:02 AM
Diane

One thing that may be keeping you from being able to accomplish more in the craft room is that the items are all in a jumble.
Very hard to make those keep/toss decisions when only looking at things one at a time.
What I believe would help is to make a sorting station. A place to look at grouped items all at the same time.
This is radical and best done with a helper.
You gather up and sort the crafting supplies into "like" groups. Placing it all into boxes or bins.
Removing everything from the room.
Then in an open space you lay out all the items of one kind, one category at a time.
Look at only all fabric or yarn or paint etc.
Easier to make decisions when you can see all "like" items together.
This helps keep you from churning.
I know that I could never make keep/toss decisions on my crafting items without being able to see all of one kind, all at the same time.
Thing is though that this method clutters up an already cleared space while you sort so you would have to commit to completing the sort out in a limited amount of time.
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Tillie
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 10:44 AM
Good morning :)

Hi Diane :)
Big WAY TO GO! for all you did! :D
Sounds wonderful to go out to the street shows!
Have FUN! :D

Hi Tatoilia :)
Such fantastic work you are doing getting everything in your life all sorted out.
Keep up this FANTASTIC work. :D

Hi LR2014 :)
YIPPEE!!! for all that freshly opened space you are making! :D
Great plan to repurpose the bins to organize the truck.

Hi Barb :)
Great to hear the job is going well! :D
Happy your friend has you there to give her support through this difficult time. (((hugs)))

I have a pile of donations ready to drop off at the charity thrift shop. Hoping I can get that done today.
Been gathering up stuff all week and bagging/boxing it.
Just my stuff. His stuff is still right where he has dumped it.

TTYL :D
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Tatoulia
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 09:29 AM
Glad to hear from you, Barb! Very pleased that the job is going well and you'll still have time to work on your place.

I'm sure you will give your friend strength and comfort today. You do that for us here--despite being far away. Take good care of yourself.
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Barb
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 08:16 AM
I posted early Wednesday morning but couldn't get it to stick.
The job is going well. The people I will be working with have been so friendly and welcoming. I have been busy, but not overwhelmed as I was last year. I am working Mon. through Fri. 8:00 to 2:30 with a half hour unpaid lunch. That will get me home in time to do some work on the house every day.
I found a quicker route to work that does not take me through 4 school zones in the morning. It is longer but faster.
Today I am going to another funeral for the husband of a long time girlfriend I grew up with. I know what it is like to be a new widow when you have been married a long time and I hope that I can be of some source of support for her. She has a hard road ahead.
I will be back on Sunday and will check in with the chat group Sunday night.
Have a great weekend everyone!
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Tatoulia
Posted: 16 August 2014 - 07:25 AM
Congratulations LR. You accomplished a lot yesterday! Very impressed, and inspired. Thank you for the chat room tip! After I give everything a little more thought, I am going to set a start date on the closet. I need only look at my kitchen to see what is possible. I have some disposable masks.

Beautiful cool night on the East Coast. Fantastic sleeping weather last night.

Wishing everyone a wonderful day.
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LR2014
Posted: 15 August 2014 - 10:56 PM
Happy Friday night. I hope there aren't glaring mistakes in this, because I'm getting too tired to proofread. It's been a busy day.

Tatoulia, depending on what time of day you are free to work on that closet task, you might find people in the chat room who are ready/willing to give suggestions and encouragement. Glad to know you are taking time to eat some healthy meals and to have some fun, diane! Tillie, those cool temperatures sound really nice to me right now!

Yesterday, I got a number of cleaning tasks done, and I got rid of yet another box of papers. (Well, I kept some photos that were in there, and a few papers that I want to scan.) Today, I rented an open-bed trailer and used it to do several tasks, including taking a couple of bulkier furniture items to a donation location. There is starting to be more free space (little by little) in my living room. (Yea!) I also loaded onto the trailer some large, dusty, had-been-stored storage tubs and washed them inside and out at a local do-it-yourself car wash. Once the tubs dry, I may use them to help organize some of the things that are in the back of my vehicle.

Hugs to everyone.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 15 August 2014 - 09:41 PM
Good evening everyone! Diane, what a great, productive day you had! I'm glad you have some fun things planned this weekend, esp after saying goodbye to the dog. Tillie, great idea for closet. I appreciate it. It sounds doable. The idea re tying hair up and having bug spray were thoughtful. The box/bag idea will also be useful. It hadn't occurred to me to set a timer. So far am just trying to visualize myself dealing with it. Hope to start on Sunday. I'm fearful. But I will feel free.

Today I spent solid time with my financial planner and we made a good plan for getting my debt reduced. Debt has accrued in the last five years. I confided to him that I've recently discovered that I'm a hoarder and as I make my living space right, I'm prepared to rectify the damage I've fine to my credit. Apparently his father is a hoarder and so I told him that I'll give his father the entire contents of my storage spot for $350. We had a giant laugh over that.

Tonight I shredded a bunch of papers from my files in my file drawers. Slow going (no sorting required, all papers are organized into labelled folders-- credit card statements, insurance, etc., going back as far as 2003). The shredding takes time! After I felt too weary to go on, I pulled out the vacuum and took care of any little shredded bits that made their way to the floor. Ran dishwasher and will unload in the AM. Need to wash face and get to bed.

Keep up the good work everyone! Thank you for your help and support. Greatly appreciated.
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diane
Posted: 15 August 2014 - 08:38 PM
Thanks Tillie and Tat. Tillie I finally spent the morning in craft room, thinking I would be as successful in there as was in big bedroom. Did get some progress then realized I was churning so decided until I am ready to really get rid of stuff I will never have it organized. Cant organize a hoard, I know. Then decided to work on some clutter in living room. Cleaned the end table with modem and phone on it. Then did some dusting. Doing the little table could see that I did a good job, see why you say to do one little area. Then back into craft room, used some vertical space. Probably total of 3 hours in craft room today. Improved slightly.
Then went to yard and pulled weeds and moved some succulents. Really felt like I was finally having fun!! Worked all day doing different things, results are not that obvious, but I know things are improving.
I made 2 important calls that I did not want to deal with. One saved me $65 a year. Felt good I took care of these calls finally. Tomorrow will be a fun day. Plan to go to down town street fair in my little town, and old car rally a street over. Just a day to enjoy my little town.
Next weekend there is the best art show of the year by the river in another town, so am looking forward to that.
I am wondering if hoarders ever have things clean and organized and are free to enjoy life.
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Tillie
Posted: 15 August 2014 - 09:44 AM
Hi :D

Sort of cool here this morning. Temps in the 60s but should warm up to 90 later.
Cats have had their breakfast.
I need to go out & water but will wait till it's a bit warmer.

Hi Diane :)
WAY TO GO! for making soup and all the cleaning and organizing you got done. :D
Sorry you have the mean evil red ants too :(
Hope you got the Rx filled and that the new Dr. is a good one.

Hi Tatoulia :)
Good luck with that closet.
The best way to do this is to tie your hair back, have bags/boxes & bug spray on hand.
Set a timer for 5 minutes, open the door.
Grab out the first thing you come to.
Decide keep or toss.
Put it in the bag or box.
Repeat this until the timer dings.
Take a break, do some deep breathing, sip some water.
Reset the timer for another 5, 10 or 15 minutes and do it again.
You CAN do this!!! :D

When this closet is finally reclaimed you will feel so light and happy to have this heavy weight off your shoulders.

Hi Everybody else :D
We really are missing your posts (((HUGS)))
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Tatoulia
Posted: 14 August 2014 - 09:01 PM
Congratulations on your accomplishments, Tillie, Diane and LR and to everyone else! I fell asleep after work today, just so tired. Woke up and took the garbage out. As I was cleaning the litter box and sweeping the floor, I realized something. I haven't touched the hallway closet. Truth be told, I pretend it doesn't exist. It is jammed with stuff and I think some insect creatures are living there so I ignore it. Completely. So while I'm busily doing Second Sweep of linen closet, bookshelves and library closet, I walk by that door everyday and just shudder.

Ugh. I do not want to deal with it. I'm full of good excuses on it. I don't want to wake what's in there, I only want to do if it is garbage night (which tonight is so luckily I can extend the excuse to I want to wait til garbage night, just not THIS garbage night). Ugh. I'm grossed out at the thought.

I need a plan. I have to come up with a plan. I've been maintaining my spaces by vacuuming, sweeping, laundry folded and put away, wiping kitchen counters and sink, but there it is: the awful hallway closet. I just feel that my progress is very fragile. I need to find a way to take care of this. I think everything in it has to be thrown out (which is good--no real decisions to make). I just have to do it. Find four hours and do it. Maybe I'll try to visualize having that space back. Any suggestions/advice welcome and appreciated.

Meeting with my financial planner tomorrow. I've let my finances go to heck during the last five years. Getting the hoarding and clutter under control somehow has freed me to tackle other unpleasant tasks.

Thank you all for being here.
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diane
Posted: 14 August 2014 - 06:06 PM
Yes Tillie, these are the big red biting ants, I have proof of bites!! I was surprised how big they are. Tillie, I appreciate all the advice and support. You were with me this morning when I realized part of my depression was weather and part due to not eating enough healthy food during the weeks of temps in the 90's. So as you say, eat healthy, prepare in advance. This morning I washed dishes, made a big pot of soup, washed dishes, cleaned up. I put soup in 2 smaller pans for next two days. Ate soup for breakfast and lunch today. Will freeze the rest of the soup after it cools more in frig. I vacuumed the entire place, except where floor is buried. 1 load of laundry. Cleaned out a kitchen cabinet, had to throw away several bottles of vitamins that had expired. Filled med minders with calcium and vitamins to help me remember to take, since need to take daily for osteoporosis, and usually forget. Organized garden shed a little more, put some things away in there including pressure washer. Nellie left this morning, I miss her but used that to really get a lot done. Much nicer having a clean floor, dishes done, good food. Still have some clutter to put away out here. Nice to have lots of rain so I do not have to water, gives me more time to get inside things done. I have to go pick up Rx today, last day my doctor is working here, then Rx will be invalid, she is moving to Washington. I really need to take a shower and wash hair, but should just go now between rain showers. Thanks for posting all that you got done, helps me keep going and know there is hope.
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Tillie
Posted: 14 August 2014 - 11:30 AM
Good morning everybody :)

Hi Tatoulia :)
Great work developing new good habits! :D
Soon they will become automatic.
Fantastic amount of decluttering and organizing you have accomplished. Keep up all the GREAT progress. :D

Hi LR2014 :)
WAY TO GO!!! :D
So happy that you all are working together in chat and getting things done! :D

Hi Diane :)
YEA!!! for wider goat paths! :D
Some ant colonies can't be killed with spray. You need to poison the queen. They sell ant granules (poison) that the worker ants bring inside to the queen because they think it's food. Doesn't work on the big red stinging ants we have here, they just bury the poison with dirt and ignore it.
Nothing kills those ants here. :(
I killed some big brown ants around here with uncooked grits. They eat the grits and the grits swell up inside them and that kills them. LOL :D

Nothing much happening around here today.
Need to clean the bathroom, should vacuum.
Kitchen is clean.
Looking around in here I see a lot that I want to do but will wait another month before I start my big Autumn cleaning.
With the windows & doors open 24/7 deep cleaning is pointless with all the desert dust/sand always blowing in.
Even the inside of the cupboards & cabinets get dusty.

TTYL :D
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LR2014
Posted: 14 August 2014 - 11:06 AM
Good morning. Wow, great work, diane and Tatoulia! Karl, I hope your Thursday event goes well.

Following up on my goals from yesterday: I only got a little stuff unloaded from my vehicle (in part because of the heat) yesterday, but I did get the other listed goals done. (Yet another box bites the dust! Yea!) As is often the case lately, I got a lot of this work done with the help and encouragement of those who were on the chat. (Thanks.)

I spent much more time yesterday on my financial paperwork than planned. Once I got started on it, I wanted to keep going. This morning, I got outside while it was still cool and worked on getting more things cleared out of my vehicle. Feel good about both of those things.

Hugs to everybody.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 08:25 PM
Today is another day! You did a lot of work today, Diane. For me it was the first day back to work after having friend visit. Luckily I was able to work from home so the transition wasn't too difficult.

I found time to do some more cleaning out of my library closet. Years ago I had California Closets come in and so it has beautiful shelves and filing cabinets for books, paper and china. At some point I can go thru filing drawers and probably reduce papers by 70%. Maybe I will do this weekend.

Meanwhile I am maintaining. Wiping, vacuuming, etc. I am using the tips my friend gave me. I am finally at a point where someone off the street come in for a cup of tea. It's a fragile state. Could be gone, no exaggeration, in a week. I will maintain and continue to purge.

Thanks for everyone's help. Have been reading other and older posts and am gaining strength. I'm creating a daily and weekly to do list.

Wishing everyone a goodnight
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diane
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 07:06 PM
Thanks everyone, today is a new day. Got up and worked in big bedroom for 2 hours, goat trail is now 2 feet wider. Had to see some progress today. Did all dishes. Threw away steamed spinach and a whole cooked chicken that were too old, wiped inside of fridge. Washed those pans. Gathered enough stuff to fill the garbage cart. Put donations in car. Cleaned up all the clutter in entrance from roofing. hung up all wet towels and rugs in walkway. Cleaned up some stuff on deck.
27,000 lightning strikes in past 24 hours in NW, 127 in last 1/2 hour here. Rain will start again soon so will go get towels in.
Found a huge ant mound i n back yard when cleaning up that area, sprayed and sprayed, we are talking a village of ants in just plain dirt. Empty can in garbage. Will spray more tomorrow after rain. Wind is really picking up, guess I will sign off and go get towels etc. Thanks again for all the support.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 10:26 AM
Hello LR! Sorry I had to leave chat last night. Would have loved to chat with you! Sounds like you've done a great job setting your goals for today. Don't you just love the "one box down" feeling? I swear if it's in a box it's much more satisfying then "one blobby pile down". Although that's a great feeling too! Sending everyone lots of love and encouragement.
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LR2014
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 10:19 AM
Good morning. Tillie, I love it that you "make friends" with so many little creatures! Hope today is a much better day, diane! Tatoulia, working on all the new habits sounds great! Karl, good luck with your work today.

I have a lot of tasks to get done today, beginning with unloading things from my vehicle that I didn't unload last night (things I'd loaded for a trip to that rural area). I may show up in the chat room off and on today as I'm working on today's tasks. Some other goals include spending at least fifteen minutes on paperwork, adding to my gratitude list, and going through at least one more box to see what's in it that I can get rid of.

Hugs.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 10:03 AM
Good morning, Tillie!

No watering needed here--raining cats and dogs! Just started on Round 2 of my library closet. Goodbye CDs. Take care! Am keeping up with no dishes in sink and folding and putting away laundry. I once saw something re how long it takes for something to be a habit. I am going to keep up with this. I need new good habits!
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Tillie
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 09:56 AM
Good Morning Everybody :)

Doing some watering this morning.
Monday "Cobby" my little corn snake was out there helping me.
He was getting in my way and I would have to wait till he slowly moved so I could get to where I wanted to go.
Last summer he was always laying on the door mat in front of the door and I would have to be careful not to step on him.
He will probably show up again today when it warms up a little more. :)


always look on the bright side of life
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Tatoulia
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 08:13 AM
Diane, I truly understand your hopelessness right now. I think we've all experienced the feeling of "why bother" and "what's the point." Somehow you will find the point. What works for me is I set a limit on it. I tell myself that I can cry for another half hour or I do the reverse, and say, I'm going to push it out of my mind til noon. And then as the day goes on I'll give myself another round of tears, sadness and ruminating. I know this is pretty simplistic for complex feelings but let me know if you try it.

Such a struggle, this life. I can speak for everybody here when I say that you are wonderful, helpful, inspiring and a good friend. I'm even being so bold as to speak for Nellie right now!

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Karl
Posted: 13 August 2014 - 05:36 AM
During tonight's chat I observed that I have an unusually busy week, with events on Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. My usual Wednesday event ride has let me know that he probably won't be able to make it again -- last week I used the opportunity to visit a different group, but this time I'll probably just stay home. Thursday is a long bicycling run (10 miles each way, probably with a few extra stops). Friday was going to be another of those opportunities to combine multiple locations using a bus pass, but I've just gotten a ride offer, so I'll skip the other stuff and do only the games event this time. For Saturday's event I'm hoping for a ride, but will take public transportation if I don't find one.

I've been good at getting other errands done, but haven't done much decluttering, and I've been careless about putting stuff away. Maybe I can take care of some of that on Wednesday.
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LR2014
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 11:29 PM
Hi, all. Tillie, the salsa sounds yummy. Diane, I'm sorry about all that water/rain situation. Tatoulia, yea for establishing new habits! I hope things are going well with the school prep, Whew!

Several someones in our group have been reminding me to have fun. I haven't scheduled much fun recently. After hearing the news reports yesterday and this morning that diane talked about, I decided that a good way to have fun might be to watch a few of the lighter-hearted R Williams movies or TV shows. Laughter is good medicine. I'll add that to my plans over the next few weeks.

I hope you all have a good and restful evening.
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Tillie
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 09:44 PM
(((HUGS))) Diane
Tomorrow WILL be a better day.
Sleep well and have wonderful dreams.
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diane
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 09:20 PM
thanks tillie and tat. Must admit, I am so down today, crying as I type this, just so much crap to take care of. I am overwhelmed and head is not being my friend today. Suicide of Robin Williams started my sadness, then one thing after another today. Just a very difficult day. Did not get anything done today that I planned, frustrating. Tomorrow will be a better day.
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Tillie
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 09:06 PM
HI :)

WAY TO GO!!! Tatoulia! :D
Sounds like you are developing some really great habits!
Keep up the GREAT job! :D

OH Diane, "heavy sigh".
So sorry the rain came in. :(
I am so looking forward to you hiring help.
Sure, there are things that I could do around here all by myself but I know that doing it would hurt me and cripple me up for a very long time.
I know that some of the jobs I took on when I was younger are the reasons for some of my pain now.
Save your strength and energy for the fun projects like working on your garden and gluing rocks together. :)

Made my fresh salsa. So cool & refreshing. :)
Washed the three area rugs, hung them out to dry on the gate. Folded in half they fit in the washing machine one at a time.
Put a new padding and covering on my ironing board.
Cleaned the kitchen.
All in all it was a good day:)
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Tatoulia
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 07:56 PM
Oh Diane, what a mess. I am impressed with your ability to keep it together. Glad that Nellie is there to support you. Good doggy! I hope you can find someone to help you. I worry about your back and your health in general. Keep your chin up. I stand by your side.
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diane
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 05:53 PM
Big thunderstorm, heavy rain. Well had a big waterfall in walkway, had buckets and bins of water it was so frustrating. It is where I put the metal roofing over where I took that metal crap off that a guy had put up. Didn't realize there was an area open. It was really frustrating last night. This morning I got up and put a gutter and plastic up in walkway, soon it rained and no waterfall today, will go check again. What a waste of time last night and today. Will be so nice when I have someone to help me. It is just too much for me to figure out. It was fun up until the waterfall started gushing. I was drenched as was much of the walkway and crap in the way. Today I pulled all the wet crap out, makes it easy to toss now. Supposed to keep raining, which we really need. Will continue to keep an eye on any leaks, oh boy, so much for a fun relaxing week and a picnic with Nellie. She has been so sweet following me around through all the flooding drama, sure helps having a pet. Will miss her when she goes home Thursday. Good I had lots of towels clean and ready to put out to catch water that missed bins. I see lots of little clutter in here, that I would like to clean up now, and wash a few dishes and load of laundry.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 03:27 PM
Hope everyone is enjoying the day. I took the day off to do laundry. I am doing laundry AND folding it AND putting it away. Takes no time. I dusted the library area and going to vacuum the library and the living room. Need to establish good habits. Need to establish good habits. (Needed to say twice).

Glad you got extra sleep, Tillie. Enjoy those tomatoes!
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Tillie
Posted: 12 August 2014 - 11:45 AM
Good Morning :)

Wore myself out yesterday and ended up sleeping until 8:00am this morning.
Cats have been fed & I have some stuff in the washing machine.
Planning to make some fresh salsa today since I have nine pretty vine ripe tomatoes. :)

Hi Whew :)
WAY TO GO!!! Sounds like a very successful yard sale. :)
Whenever anybody does and decluttering, reorganizing or Spring cleaning the place always looks a lot worse before it gets better.
We have to pull everything out to do this work.
But the rewards afterward are GREAT! :D
Keep working your way through and getting your unneeded stuff out through donations or give aways.
Keep up this fantastic progress in the right direction.

Hi LR2014 :)
YEA!!! YIPEEE!!! WTG!!!
For that clean & clear patio!!! :D
I am so happy for you having gotten this area all done.
Hope you never have to tackle anything else so mousy ever again. (((hugs)))

Hi Diane :)
PLEASE, please, please do find some handymen to hire to do those back breaking jobs. (((HUGS)))
So happy you now have a ready supply of your favorite foods right there in the freezer! :D
Even if the power goes out the freezer will stay frozen for a very long time if you don't open the door. So don't be afraid to keep it well stocked.

Hi Tatoulia :)
So happy you were able to have your friend there helping you.
Now you just need to maintain those areas that are cleaned. Easy to keep clean areas clean. :D

Hi Barb :)
How's it going? Bet you are tired adjusting to this new schedule. :)
(((HUGS)))

Almost finished with my tea so guess I should get dressed. Maybe even brush my hair.

TTYL :D
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Tatoulia
Posted: 11 August 2014 - 09:02 PM
PS to Barb. Hope the day went well! I need to establish good habits. We will work on this together.
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Tatoulia
Posted: 11 August 2014 - 08:59 PM
Whew!!!! Congratulations!!!! You are amazing! Maybe focus on the extra money in your pocket to help remind you of your accomplishments? And the warm feeling of donating baby clothes would be another excellent focus. Just think, you didnt let the rain keep you from moving forward! I think you are amazing!

LR that's a good point--if your intended recipient says no, then it's on to Plan B. No use in Saving something for nobody--space is a valuable commodity!
Congratulations on your goals! Fantastic feeling!

Diane, that is wonderful about your freezer! No wasted money there! Your hard work and facing your discomfort with having someone over! Very proud!

Tillie you keep me together.

My friend cleaned the inside of my fridge today. Its beautiful. She left tonight. We were on the go the entire time she was here and still she found time to take care of some dirty tasks for me. Although I was apologetic, I wasn't embarrassed. If help is here,let's take it. Take it while it is being offered.

Thank you all for being good friends. Have scads of laundry to do tonight. Much love to you all
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diane
Posted: 11 August 2014 - 06:55 PM
WTG LR, so happy to hear your pooop scooping is done and plans accomplished!! How was job Barb? Whew, we all have days like that, just keep working on it.
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diane
Posted: 11 August 2014 - 06:51 PM
After chat last night I went out to do a little watering. The sky got really dark then thunder and lightning then rain. At 9pm I am out there in the rain trying to put up the gutters I thought I was going to put up today. Well had to redo this morning when I could see. Today I put a tarp over the crest of roof where metal roofing is but not attached yet. My back did not like me working up there today. When I moved the ladder I realized that is how I keep hurting my back, could hardly walk. Have to figure out a better way to move that big old ladder. Nellie was out there helping me, she kept saying "time to relax". Once gutters were up and a few other things it was already after noon. Where does the time go.
Looked on craigs list and wrote down the names and numbers of several handymen and cleaning people. Need to just hire some for a couple hours and find out how their work is and if they are good people, if not, no big loss. Just too much for my back right now. Never had back problems before, what a shock to have pain, other than in my teeth!
Storm is coming, 95 degrees again today, enough with the heat--------I am sick of the heat.
My freezer was the best purchase ever. When I ran out of strawberries yesterday, I knew where more were. Today I grabbed a bag from my little freezer and made a smoothie when done working. So happy you encouraged me Tillie and supported me putting it in little room out there, perfect.
I only have a few dishes to wash. Would like to go through a pile of papers, bills are all paid. Need to make a list of phone calls to make tomorrow during work hours. Plus call handymen and cleaners. Still need to put away gutter supplies in garage May put one more up that really should be replaced, no, need to wait until back is better, or handyman, I am done for now with heavy lifting and awkward positions. Ok Nellie time----------thanks for chat last night
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LR2014
Posted: 11 August 2014 - 05:19 PM
Hi, Whew! It is hard sometimes to keep the progress in mind because of all the stuff that still needs to be done. You've done a lot. Yea for the progress!

Me: I wish to annonunce that my back patio now has nothing on it that's not supposed to be there, and my little patio storage room has almost nothing in it at all.
Wheeeeeee!!!
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whew!
Posted: 11 August 2014 - 12:17 PM
Today I'm trying to figure out where to start again.
I am beyond overwhelmed.

We had our garage sale--a HUGE success as far as money goes and as far as actually watching some things walk out the door. Best one we've ever had.

We had TEN full length tables covered with stuff. And I gave myself some limits: Made myself take out there at least 200 books off my shelves. And when it was over made myself take a full truck load to Goodwill.

I also drove to Friends of the Library and donated the books that didn't sell at the garage sale.
I have five boxes of baby clothes by my front door ready to be donated to a local mission with two carseats, a high chair and a swing.

I guess the big wonderful thing is that my husband has gone happily crazy getting rid of much of his saved construction junk. He's even posting free give aways.

HOWEVER, now my house is in even worse shape with stuff everywhere that has been dragged out, and it's even dirtier now.

Sadly, I cannot even tell I got rid of anything!It had all been packed in so deeply.

It rained the entire week we were trying to get ready for the sale, so we spent a lot of physical energy and loads of time trying to keep the rain out. It rained both days of our sale--which didn't stop people from coming. (Go figure!) But this meant my hubby and I had tarp duty, and had to stay awake half the nights all week tweaking and making sure it didn't collapse from the weight of the water.

Then I went out of town...and am back trying to figure out where to start. UGH!
And my school starts in a week, so I also have to be preparing for that and writing.
UGH! UGH! UGH!

I thought when I had the garage sale I would feel lighter and pleased that I have more room...but so far it's just been a huge hassle. :>(

Ahhhhh....the journey toward health and healing is not so peachy sometimes.

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Tillie
Posted: 11 August 2014 - 09:57 AM
Hi :)

Great reading this morning! Lots of interesting things to think about.

Cats have had their breakfast, I did some straightening stuff already and now I am off to water outside.

Everybody try to have a good Monday. :)
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