By personally destroying the hard drive her self Dianne would be positively certain that all her personal info would be safe. Then she can happily deposit the rest of the components at the E waste place for recycling. :D
Or do what other people here do. They bring their old computers to my house. My Hoarder (has degrees in comp tech) then erases the hard drives for them and he gets to keep the old computers that clutter up my life. :D
He sometimes puts together new computers out of all the old bits and gives them to needy students.
Dianne
Posted: 30 December 2013 - 02:50 AM
Hey Karl, yeah I'd like to donate things if I can. Some of it was the first computer stuff we got in the late 90's. I've kept everything because (besides hoarding) I didn't want someone with computer knowledge to get my info.
I literally have no real computer skills and any terminology is like a foreign language to me. I don't know how to delete or get rid of anything. I kind of feel like a chimpanzee poking at things. I could learn but it's a low priority.
My main concern is to maintain privacy while getting rid of all the old computer stuff.
Karl
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 08:27 PM
Dianne, why are you getting rid of the computer in the first place? Is it no longer working, or has it become obsolete from buying something better? I guess I'm wondering whether you might want to donate it instead of trashing it.
There are ways to wipe the information on the disk without physically destroying it. On my GNU/Linux system, I use the "shred" command if I think it's necessary, though for the most part I'm happy with just deleting the files. Reformatting the disk would wipe everything for sure.
Dave
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 06:32 PM
Diane, I offer this with some trepidation, but...
If you search out a blog by Brooks Palmer, you will see an offer of $40 / hour phone or skype clutter busting sessions.
If you scan his blog posts from June to December you will see what I think is a good spectrum of the way he approaches dealing with clutter. (And you will see that he has almost lost his own life over damage to his body caused by helping others to clear their clutter.
Reading his blog posts refreshes me, helps me remember about the general approach I've chosen for dealing with my messes, and encourages me with a gentle no blame approach to helping me and others.
Dave
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 05:23 PM
I am right there with you, with the added difficulty of STILL not being able to throw things away.
I am really really frustrated over the garage situation because I still need to reduce its contents by over 50% and I am unable to look at things and make go choices. I managed to keep some impetus going by ditching the books, laserjet iii printer and refrigerator I talked about in another post; but I still can't clearly see next steps for the garage.
Because of that level of frustration and discouragement, I stayed home from an extended family Christmas gathering because I did not want anymore stuff coming in the house. I still wound up with three things coming in I don't have places for and am very stressed about.
I am considering dropping a bank because of new service charge levels. In doing that, I need to close a safe deposit box for which I am missing one key. It will cost $13 to replace the key. I was going to take 15 mins and empty a cabinet into a box to see if I could find it. Half hour later I had 1 1/2 boxes of stuff, cabinet still partly full. I found money (an expected content in this location), glasses, hand towels (that were there because I didn't want anybody else in the house to have them) tissues, paper towels, receipts(anywhere from 2006 to date), clothing tags (in case of exchange or for bookmarks), torn paper, medicine, flashlights, winter ear bands and gloves, knives, toothbrushes and I don't know what else. I don't know where to put the things I'd like to keep and don't have the mental strength to deal with the paper stuff.
That was immediately before an immediate family gathering for Christmas stockings. After we opened the stockings, I put a number of things, including some things (like a big bag of candy) that I would have liked to keep) in a pile and asked if anybody would like duplicates of things they'd already gotten. Some things disappeared but I still came home with more stuff I have no place to put. I've been spending today (re tillie's post in another thread) regretting the loss of my big candy bag and packet of velcro cable ties because I was trying to control wanting stuff. (I am SURE i will still remember that 20 years from now :).)
I think for the first time in my life, I have some kind of understanding at the visceral level as to why someone would take the route of madness as an avoidance escape from adverse reality events.
One of my three books is Playing Ball on Running Water. I am working hard to remember that feelings are ok and what I am to do is to find what reality is calling me to do next. (I'm pretty sure that is NOT going mad :). )I have to find the focus to get through these depressed feelings and enough clarity to think of some new step of organization or disposal I can hang onto as an example of what I am capable of doing.
I hope that you are able to get through that flaming anger without too much damage to yourself. Unfortunately, I sometimes find that with anger I have to be really focused on lack of reaction and patience to allow time to work for a day or two. I don't know how many times I have done or said things in anger that I have later regretted or had to clean up after.
Dave
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 04:25 PM
IT manager at a former employer (Country Boy) used to say a 30-06 bullet was good for a hard drive.
Dianne
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:52 PM
Thanks Tillie, I'll do salt water. :)
Dianne
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:45 PM
Diane, been there. :(
You made a list recently of all the bad crap that has recently happened to you. That's probably your answer for the anger/rage.
Twenty-five years ago I had a bad breakdown. When I looked at the previous 18 months there was so much trauma that had happened. Even though I thought I was handling stuff ok I crashed.
It's a very rough patch for sure. You're very strong but it sounds like you could use some tender care. Can you hibernate for a day or two with warm blankets and comfort food? Cry, be sad, rant, read some inspirational stuff then climb out and try again.
Do you think taking in an older dog who could be a companion would be a comfort?
God bless ~~
Tillie
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:29 PM
Ways to destroy a hard drive.... smash it with a big hammer drive a nail into the center of it incinerate it leave it sit in a bucket of salty water place it next to a big strong magnet or a combination of the above choices.
:D
Dianne
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:28 PM
Thanks so much Tillie!
Now have to find a screwdriver. :)
Tillie
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:20 PM
Dianne :) OK you can remove the cover from the tower by unscrewing the screws you see on the outside of it. Some screws may even be located on the bottom. Once you have removed enough screws to see inside the cover look for a rectangular box that will also probably be held in with screws on the sides. This box is the HARD DRIVE about 6 inches long 4 inches wide and one inch thick It may look similiar to the disc drive but doesn't have an opening to put a disc into it. The HARD DRIVE has ports on the back side with things like "ribbon connectors" attached to it. Just unplug them. Got It? :D
diane
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:17 PM
Thanks Tillie, I will go for a walk and work outside, don't need to do anymore work inside right now, although I feel like a dictator is punishing me and I must keep working on that pile of crap in craft room. I am noticing my willingness to toss things is returning with the immense anger and disgust at the hoard. Thanks for not criticizing me for being so angry. I feel bad enough about myself today.
Tillie
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:11 PM
Diane (((((HUGS)))))
Let out that pent up anger in constructive ways. More walking outside. Smash some things before they go in the trash. Just let it all out without hurting yourself. (((HUGS)))
diane
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 02:57 PM
I woke up still angry today, angry I still have so much to do. Used the anger to rip into the craft room, there was a bookshelf full of old books, including nursing books from the dark ages, loaded them up, can recycle paperbacks, hardbacks have to go in garbage. Almost just stacked up a bunch of boxes of stuff without looking, then said no, find out what is in them and either toss, donate, or keep and label. Two of the boxes had old jewelry I collected that actually have some value, one box was upholstry crap, one had papers, feels good to actually look and make decisions. I worked for 4 hours straight, anger is less now. Just so frustrating at how bad my hooarding got. About 2 hours ago I came so close to an actual nervous breakdown, feeling angry and overwhelmed and like I just couldn't cope with all this left to do. I know there are cleaning people that could help me and am just pissed off I don't know who would be willing to work helping me declutter at a reasonable price. This is the most frustrated and angry I have been in months, what is going on? I have to figure it out before chat so I don't waste my 15 minutes on anger issues.
Dianne
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 02:48 PM
Hey Tillie,
I know the term *hard drive* but what does it look like, how do I get into the tower and get it out? Thanks!
Tillie
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 02:41 PM
GOOD MORNING EVERYBODY!!! :D Day after day of fog has left my brain all foggy. But the frost is really beautiful covering everything. :)
Hi Diane :) Glad you went out walking again. :D WAY TO GO!!! getting stuff done. Decluttering tends to go in rounds. You tackle an area, toss everything you know can go. Live with it for a while then go back around finding even more things to let go of. The one and only thing that keeps me from having too much stuff is to periodically look through cupboards, drawers, etc and reevaluate the stuff and let some things go. P.S. speaking your mind here is perfectly acceptable. ;)
Hi Karl :) LOL good luck working your way through all her excuses. ;)
Hi Barb :) Great! to see you back! :D WAY TO GO! getting things done!
Hi Dianne :) If you remove the HARD DRIVE from the computer and destroy that you can then relax and get rid of the rest of the computer. All your important information is stored on the hard drive. :)
Hi Roxie :) WAY TO GO!!!! YEA!!!! (((hugs)))
Doing his laundry today. Hanging it to dry in his stinky hoarded bedroom. Did/doing a little to tidy up but mostly just working (playing) on the doll house. Hope to see you all in chat tonight. :D
Dianne
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 01:45 PM
Hey Roxie, you got a lot of good stuff done. :)
My paperwork is slow going. I got some out to the garage then got sidetracked by the boxes of papers out there. Those are newspapers I kept saving to take the shelter for bedding. At least I got it all moved closer to the door for loading in the truck tomorrow.
Anyway I keep coming in here to play a computer game.
Will you get to see your son before he deploys? I'll keep him in prayer. {{{HUGS}}}
Roxie
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 01:34 PM
Hello, all. I won't be up to calling out names, but I want each one of you who has posted to know that I am reading and cheering you along.
So, I took some steps to declutter and clean. I vacuumed two pair of shoes that have been sitting by my computer, new, and prepared them for donating since they are too big for my big feet (now that's saying something). I then vacuumed around that area a bit. I wrapped up the garbage from by the computer (overflowing) and set that by the back door to go out to the bin.
I wrapped up the kitchen garbage and set that by the door. I emptied out the huge box my computer came in and broke it down for recycling. I emptied and broke down the box my Christmas gifts (some) came in.
I did a big load of dishes, wiped down all the counters and the stove top (now, how does that get so dirty so fast when I don't use it much?).
I took a bag of bags into the bathroom to start recycling newspapers into them.
It's progress but there is a lot to go.
Hugs all around. We need them.
Dianne
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 09:07 AM
Hey MayMay, great to hear from you!
Avoiding your family at the holidays doesn't sound bad at all. You are taking good emotional care of yourself. Plenty of time the rest of the year to visit them individually if you want without the combined drama all in one place.
How's your hunky fireguy? And how are all those puppy munches doing?
Have a very Happy New Year sweetie!!
Dianne
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 08:57 AM
Hey Barb, glad that you are out of that stressful situation! Just being away from it is freeing and energizing.
It will feel so good to start getting your environment under control again. Making your own decisions, being your own boss of your time, Happy New Year for real!! :)
Today is cold and rainy here. Instead of feeling down I'm thinking isn't it good to have an uninterrupted day to do things inside. A great day for sorting thru papers and piling trash bags in the garage. Tomorrow should be a good day for getting out to the dump again. The guys there know me now and I got big, Christmas hugs. Those hugs felt really good. :)
Karl I have some computer questions for you. I know nothing about computers not even what a hard drive is. I have 2 keyboards, a big chunky tv like box (what I call the computer but I guess that is the monitor?) and 2 towers I want to get rid of. The keyboards have wires. Are they and the monitor (?) safe to donate somewhere? Where would be good?
The towers have the important info right? My brother said just take a sledgehammer to them and dump the parts. Do you have a better idea of how to get rid of everything so no one else can get info off it? There's nothing I want to save but I did all my online bills and banking on it. Thanks!
Barb
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 03:05 AM
Hi Tillie, MayMay, Kari, Diane, Diana, and everyone else, I haven't been on since August. In August, management cut staff in our department from six to four. My old supervisor was transferred to a new location, and a new supervisor brought in who knew and still knows little about the department. Instead of jumping in when things got hectic, her style is to stand back and yell. As the oldest and longest in the department, problem solving fell on me. The stress has been incredible. Often, I came home and went to bed without even eating dinner. On Dec. 20 I had the option of taking early retirement. I took it. The last few months, I was so consumed by the pressures of work, that I completely lost control of the house at home. All the progress I made last summer disappeared. I spent the holidays with friends and family. On Dec. 26 I had the renewed energy to again tackle the house. I started with the kitchen, as it is the room where I feel most at home. Four bags of garbage from the room in general and three bags of trash from the refrigerator and freezer went out for Saturday morning's garbage pick up. The power was off here for two and a half days and I had a lot of rotted and iffy food in the refrigerator and freezer that had to be dealt with. I am making headway again and it feels great! I'll check in from time to time and let you all know how it is going. Thanks for your support! Happy 2014!
Karl
Posted: 29 December 2013 - 02:35 AM
Housemate's friend came over and suggested some organization, e.g., take some of the crap that's currently piled up in the kitchen and move it to the top cupboards, which are empty. "But I'd forget what's up there." "Tape a note to the cupboard to say what's in it." "The tape will damage the wood." "Use a Post-It note." "It won't stick long enough." I suggested that the inventory could be instead attached to the fridge with a magnet; I'm not sure if she has a rebuttal to that one yet.
diane
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 11:31 PM
Thanks Karl for computer info.
I just finished doing dishes for an hour, got them all caught up-------then-----------------I cleaned some stuff out of refrigerator, and spilled a bowl of old soup on the kitchen throw rug. I took Tillies advice and cleaned it up immediately but it did tick me off. I am short tempered tonight, got annoyed with people not being responsible for their own life, blaming others for their situation, just ticks me off. I have played "victim" for years and now that I am taking responsibility and making my life better, it is not easy to listen to people whine about others behaviors, when in reality, they aren't taking care of their own life. I did that for years, so much easier to blame others for my miserable life, than figure out a way to make my life the best it can be. Sounds like I need a good nights sleep!!
Karl
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 10:29 PM
Glad that was helpful -- I guess that feature is not as well-known as I'd thought. The triad is (Ctrl +) to enlarge, (Ctrl -) to reduce, and (Ctrl 0) to revert to default.
diane
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 08:41 PM
Hello everyone. I had a productive day, cleaned out a file cabinet, some papers were 10 years old, orientations to different jobs etc, why would I keep them 10 years? Went for a walk at 1pm with hoarder friend, I taped toes and was able to walk further today, nice in the sun. Sorted more stuff this afternoon. I see some progress, continue to be amazed how much stuff I still have, I really did have blinders on, and just did not see the hoard growing. So HAPPY days are getting longer. Supposed to be warm all week, although cloudy, so have lots of time to finish all insulation work Cleaned chimney today. Good day today. So nice I have enough time to focus on getting rid of clutter. Hope all is going well with you too.
Tillie
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 01:14 PM
Good morning everybody! :D Woke up at the usual time, was still tired, rolled over and got to sleep in. :)
Hi Roxie :) Getting even the basic stuff done is progress. WTG! :D Good luck with your decluttering & cleaning. :)
Hi Dianne :) Thank you :D
Hi MayMay :) Thank you :D
Hi Karl :) Thank you for that tip! :D Now I don't need to lean in to read the screen.
Hi Diane :) Nope, no cider left. :D Happy you had a nice visit & walk with your friend. Could be the shoes you were wearing or even just the socks. Sometimes socks rub my toes the wrong way, even socks that feel soft. Sometimes it's the seam that rubs us wrong.
Hi Cory :D Thank You! :D Karl's tip about Ctrl + has solved our font size problems. Wishing you all the best this new year has to offer. (((hugs)))
Today I plan to clean the bathroom sweep and vacuum wash up a few dishes
The fog is still thick and the frost has grown longer. It is beautiful to look at but deadly to be out in. So I guess I won't be doing any garden cleaning today. :D
Cory Chalmers
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 11:02 AM
Hi All, I looked into the font size and unfortunately it won't let me change the default setting since each user can change their own font size in each individual message. I guess we just need to try to remember to make our font a little larger for those that have a hard time seeing it or have smaller screens.
Tillie, belated Happy Birthday! Sorry I didn't log in yesterday. Have a wonderful and safe new year and may 2014 bring less clutter, and more joy out of life!
Cory Chalmers HoardingCleanup.com
diane
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 10:01 AM
Thanks Karl for the Ctr +, keys to make bigger, I am self taught on computer so appreciate knowing short cuts. Supposed to be sunny today. My hoarder friend walked up to see me yesterday, we had a fall out when she unfriended me on facebook months ago. She came to see if I was still alive. We went for a walk. She was saying how hard it is to avoid shopping with all the bargains out there, she lit up when talking about shopping, I could relate, just realized what a drug shopping is for me (and her). It was nice seeing her. I have not been walking and today my toes have blisters, from a short walk. Good indication that months of clutter busting must also include walking. Never have had tender toes before this year. I plan to tape toes and walk again today. Good to hear from all of you. Tillie, any cider hang over? A whole bottle, I am impressed.
Roxie
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 07:22 AM
I love you all for being willing to think of changing the text size. But now Karl has introduced Cntrl + to me, I don't need to ask that of you. Karl, big hugs, it makes reading so much easier. Thank you all for being willing to entertain a change for me, but it is fixed now.
I am looking over my kitchen and living room and see that I have some decluttering and cleaning to do...
Karl
Posted: 28 December 2013 - 01:01 AM
Dianne, I think size 2 is the regular size!
Roxie, although I wouldn't mind seeing larger text, it seems like asking everybody to fix it sender-side is problematic. We'd all have to agree, and then we'd all have to remember, and any newcomers would have to be told of the convention. But I've just tried the Ctrl-+ key, and that seems to fix the problem at receiver-side; I see everybody's text larger, without the sender having to take action. Does that work for you?
(It also makes more efficient use of the page; there's a lot of wasted space on the left and right.)
Sorry I haven't been on in a really really really long time. :(
I hope everyone had a great Christmas. :)
I spent my Christmas with the guys at the fire station. I love Christmas at the fire station. I know this probably sounds awful... But I'd rather spend my holidays with the guys at the fire station then with my relatives. There's way to much drama in my family; and I hate being around my relatives with all the drama going on.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY Tillie! :)
Dianne
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 09:59 PM
Hey Roxie, this is size 4 and bold. Work better?
Dianne
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 09:58 PM
Hey Roxie, my last post was size 2 font. This is size 3. Better?
Dianne
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 09:56 PM
Happy Birthday Tillie!!! You have such a lovely way of celebrating! Glad you enjoyed it!!
Roxie, I use a size 2 font because the regular one is too little for me too. Is that an ok size for you to read? I played around with size and font type when I was first posting and sometimes the lines would overlap which was worse.
It's hard for me to read too. I always have to make the whole computer screen bigger.
But if the font goes too large then long postings (like mine usually are) might take up too much space.
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Posted: 27 December 2013 - 08:45 PM
So is it possible to change the default font size to something larger?
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Tillie
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 06:57 PM
Hi Roxie :D
Tillie
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 06:56 PM
Hi Roxie :D
Roxie
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 06:53 PM
I wrote a post earlier today but it never loaded.
If I can ask, can you folks use a bigger font when you type? Getting harder to read as I get decrepit.
Everybody sounds busy. I have not been today, just getting very basic stuff done.
Hugs all around.
Tillie
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 06:42 PM
Hi :D
Karl, sorry that you have such a hard time getting some bread. :( Guess they think people don't need to eat any more this month. ;p
Hi Diane, your singing was music to my ears. :D Thank you (((HUGS))) :D The cake was delicious! And I shared some of it with the birds out in the garden, they liked it too. :) WAT TO GO!!!getting that big cabinet straightened out! :D
The sun never was able to cut through the fog all day. The frost is still thick on everything and by tomorrow it will be even longer.
Since my livingroom isn't cluttered, I lit 6 candles and have them on the coffee table. One for each decade. Been enjoying hanging out in here seeing them. :) I also had a bottle of Martinelli's apple cider (nonalcoholic) and drank the whole thing. :D
Been a good day.
diane
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 05:57 PM
Tillie, did you hear me singing HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU while you were eating your cake, hope you did not choke when you heard my singing voice!!! Good you are enjoying today. Dianne so happy you got a new washer and sunshine. Cloudy here today so I worked inside all day, now sun just popped out but my property is in shade of big houses at this time of day. I worked inside all day. Got a lot done, and have to believe it is good enough for today. Changed some things around. Emptied all the stuff out of a big cabinet in living room and put it back in organized, did not do it first time through so was a lot of junk. Now taking garbage and give away outside when I finish here. Just wanted you to know Tillie, been thinking of you today and hoping birthday cake was great, and you had fun all day.
Karl
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 02:40 PM
Oh, the tax items were for archiving; they're several years old. My taxes are simple this year -- none withheld, none owed, won't file.
I went to bed earlier than usual; woke up to the song of leaf blowers and jackhammers (but well rested, at least). Went to the Salvation Army distribution point to pick up some free bread, but they're closed until January, damn it. I'll take care of some banking business while I'm out.
Tillie
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 12:09 PM
Good morning everybody :)
I have been playing with the cats. Then I fed them breakfast and now they have all gone off to nap. Today we have thick fog and heavy frost. Cold, cold, cold day.
Hi Karl :) WAY TO GO! sorting out more and finding lots to let go of! :D Good luck on finding that power cord.
Hi Diane :) So happy you are enjoying the outdoors. Things like that do so much to refresh our spirit.
New year resolutions should be to release ourselves from the things of the past that are holding us back from truly thriving in the new year.
Hi Dave :)
HI Dianne :) Wonderful to hear from you today! YEA!!!! for the new washer!!!! :D WAY TO GO! for getting stuff done! It is important to take the time to take stock of our lives. This helps us to grow in the right direction.
Need to do the usual daily tasks today. Then I really need to restraighten my closet. Some how I managed to let it get sort of unorganized/messy. That should take me 15 minutes. Then the rest of the day I refuse to do anything that I really don't want to do. I can do that because I am old now. ;D
Do a HAPPY DANCE today, I am.
Dianne
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 12:04 PM
The usual stuff today ~
animal care activities
scrubbing feeding crates inside and out
using my new washer (!!!) non-stop, starting with animal beds
loading the truck for a dump run with trash
scrubbing kitchen, breakfastroom and laundryroom floors on hands and knees
My 62nd birthday is in a couple weeks. Pulling back, taking stock, mindfully using my time more wisely.
The weather here is sunny and beautiful, really does wonders for my mood. :)
diane
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 10:20 AM
I was kidding about 12 step program. I know how lucky I am to be able to enjoy the simple things in life. Thanks Dave for the reminder to live and enjoy the moment, so simple and so easy to forget. I took pictures of sunrise this morning, so pretty, but much colder today. It got up to 57 degrees yesterday, no wonder I had so much fun. Today I will get dishes done, make soup, shake area rugs, vacuum. Tillie hope you have a great time today. Can you believe 2013 is almost over? Bet there will be lots of new year resolutions to "get organized"!! With your help, I will continue to improve living conditions. Still noticed I want to organize a hoard, which as we know is impossible, time to let go of more.
Dave
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 08:04 AM
Karl, That's great on the tax items! (particularly if you have a refund coming.) That's coming up pretty quick and now you have two less things you have to stress about finding a way to duplicate for return information.
Karl
Posted: 27 December 2013 - 02:04 AM
I spent Christmas Day opening boxes, but not in the usual sense. Then more for Boxing Day. I've found a lot of kitchen stuff (both tools and actual food items), but still no luck on the power supply for the monitor. I took several extra items home, including two shopping bags full of banking archives; I then went through them at my leisure, and found that there's only one "keeper" (a tax related item) in each bag. I'll toss the rest into the trash tonight.
Tomorrow I have to return the car, so I'm thinking that I might try getting up early and doing a few long-distance errands while I can.