I am sorry you are going through this with your mother. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer for you. Your mother honestly needs to get therapy, but until she admits she has a problem nothing will change. Do not let her make you feel guilty and turn any of this around on you. There are many resources available, but until she steps up and asks for it, all of your efforts will be ignored and actually just cause more problems. Let her know you love her and you worry about her and that you have resources available when she is ready. In the meantime, go enjoy your college life and try not to carry this burden around. It can destroy your life almost as much as it does hers.