It matters that you do clean up your mess because YOU will feel better. It is sad when family members turn a back on each other instead of helping each other. That's what family is supposed to do. But no matter.Help yourself and love yourself. You are worth it. You can do it in small steps or large steps, depending on what you can handle. Every time you achieve a clutter free space you will feel good and your self esteem will go up! Reward yourself by going out with friends or meeting new people. I avoid the mall so I am not tempted to buy anything.

Have you contacted Adult Protective Services in your area? Or is there some agency that cover aging? (Even if you are not yet over 65, they might know of services that would be available to those with disabilities.) Do you now, or have you in the past, belong to a church? They might be a resource for some help.

Best wishes.

I'm new here. I am a hoarder, but I didn't used to be. I would like all the stuff I trip over and that covers the floors and tables, etc., to go away, but I can't keep up with it all. A lot of it is related to disability and is paperwork that I'm supposed to keep. But then a lot of it is stuff other people bought 'cause they said I needed it and I don't. Because I'm practically debilitated with viruses that have attacked my brain, a recent total hip replacement after a failed surgery for a femoral neck fracture I sustained in a fall, and a broken foot, it's difficult for me to think to figure out what to do with stuff. And I have no help. I think in my state, Arizona, that there are no services for the disabled. I also wonder, because I was "abandoned" by family members when I first became very ill and had to go onto disability, what the point is of me trying to clean up and make repairs when no one cares what kind of environment I'm in. I don't know. I used to be on top of everything, and now I'm drowning. It's so ... too hard.