Hi Arleen :)

Sorry you are having this problem.

Take care of your self.

So sorry to read about your ordeal Arlene,

Unfortunately no there is nothing that you can do. The only that you can help her is if only and I mean only if She wants to change and admit that she wants help, than there is nothing that you can do.

Cory says there are many hoarders that die "buried alive" literally. My mother will be one of them one day maybe. She will never change but she does admit that she understands about the living conditions.

They alone have to change mentally before they can get or seek help otherwise they will never change.
To them the clutter is their security blanket despite the bad conditions, also is shame, guilt, and embarassment for the decision to get help.

Check out the other links on this page to see what other hoarders have posted. But here on the Boards many have changed and are cleaning for the better life and will talk about how they feel.

My mother is sleeping on the floor amidst tons of junk. My mother has a bed actually several. She has three 1,000 + sq ft apartments filled with stuff along with the three two car garages and three storage units filled with stuff. I am not exaggerating. Also, all the yards for those three apartments are filled with stuff. As she feeds the wildlife with leftovers ect she has now got several feral cats living in the apartments and other vermin. I have tried everything. It is really bad now before she never had rotting things. Now things are rotting in there and the associated vermin that accompanies it. My mother has money so it is a sickness. It is a socially unacceptable sickness also. I am so ashamed for her. I am afraid that she will die amongst her filth and it wont get reported until the smell gets so bad. Has anyone found a way to get a hoarder to change there ways. Am I doomed to watch my mother die amongst filth! I have called adult services, fire department etc. When adult services thought she was living in those conditions because I was forcing her to they were going to arrest me. When I laughed and told them I was the one who called. They told me there was nothing they could do. If it made sense it would not happen. I believe I have tried everything.If there is anything that you think I could try let me kno '