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I feel for you and your situation! I have raised most of my chldren by this point, and have been helping one to overcome hoarding. But I feel responsible for her learning that behavior, and one look at my home...well you know. My kitchen table is stacked with stuff, there are papers on my bedroom floor that need sorted. A quick look arround the first floor of my home and there are only 2 horizontal surfaces without clutter of some sort on them. *sighs*
My 18 yr old son still lives at home, and has similar issues. It seems we 'enable' each other if that makes sense. I can't count the discussions him and I have had over the " but your stuff" back and forth...that have gone nowhere. Both of us have valid points, though.
In other words, when one of us gets derailed it seems we both get off track.
For me, one of us moving out would not really help. But if we can work as a team on the same side vs the clutter/messies we stand a chance of beating it. The only way I will be able to see my one daughter is to get this done and keep it done over time.
Guess what I am saying/asking is, wouldn't it be nice if your children could see you making the change and taking action? That could be your motivation factor....Idk, I am new here.
Jan
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