My boyfriend of 4 years buys more than he sells. It's not worthless stuff, it really does have value. He is just so much more preoccupied with a good investment to sell than he is the selling part. It seems much more than just hoarding. There seems to be an element of gambling addiction of sorts. He has 5 plus storage units, one is industrial size. He recently got eviction notice because he had too much large equipment outside. I can't wrap my brain around the compulsion. I was married to an alcoholic previously and I guess I am the relationship addict picking "out of reach" people. I love him, and I don't know how to help him, he has to want it. I see it as different than traditional "addiction" this man seems to wall himself in with no TIME left to really invest in relationships he says he wants. I guess I need to go back to Alanon for myself and my issues as they may contribute in some way. I do not help him obtain more items, but even helping clean seems useless. I don't know what to do exactly. I guess I need to repeat the serenity prayer & keep working on my issues, since I can't control his. I wonder about an intervention.....
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