Hello Becca, thank you for your post, I am new here so i was just checking out the site and the posts when i came across yours. For me it was very refreshing to read someone else perspective on how to approach one who is going through this devastating condition. I too believe we all need to be a little more understanding and compassionate, unless you know what is going on and even then you still need to be ever watchful on how you speak to a hoarder, cause it is a known fact that as soon as you say the "wrong" word or phrase they will shut down, and then it will take a while to bring them back up to where they need to be to help them. I know this only too well because i am a hoarder, i may not be extreme but a hoarder non the less. I have been decluttering for 6 yrs now, and i am still not finished. Yes i see the light at the end of the tunnel but doing it all alone has been the hardest which is why it has taken so long to get it done. I keep plucking away at it in spite of the depression and anxiety, and the negative issues that keep cropping up with the "ex", because i still have 3 little angels at home who need to have a place that they can call home and be safe and free of the clutter that i also grew up with. I have always believed in the phrase "one day at a time" it works for everyone. Well, hope i see you on the board again, Becca, (cool name ;) this is one of my twins name) i hope your struggles are not as challenging as they once were. Take care, and i have sent you a pray to believe in you and one day it will all be right again. God Bless, Bobby.