John, welcome. Do you and/or your brother work? Can you contribute to the costs of staying there? That is one issue. Depending upon how old your mother is, and in what state you live (assuming you are in the U.S.) there may be resources available to her and/or your younger sibling.
Can you call a family meeting to make a plan to clean up the house? Do you need help making that plan?
On Sunday and Tuesday nights there is an online meeting here (Online Support Group), which you access by clicking on the link to the right. It is anonymous and done on a board similar to this but in "real life" time. Each person takes maybe 15 minutes of time to "talk," and gets input. You'll find some kind folks there who've shared similar situations.
Meanwhile, check the resources links and references to books. Hang in there. Even if you lose the house, you WILL be alright. Even if the entire world knew you were a hoarder family, it is NOT the end by a long shot. We know, we've been there.
Keep posting. Come to the Daily posting if you need a more active posting area. Feel free to check on the Online Support Group area as sometimes regular posters "hang in there" for mutual support at odd hours.
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