Welcome, Oodles (cool name!)
It is so important to be discerning about those we surround ourselves with in this time. If someone tries to treat us like a freak, how to deal with them may vary. Some will respond to a firm, tactful explanation of how that made us feel, and best case scenario will apologize and ask how they might do better in future. Others might not be as easy to have a talk with, but if they're basically good natured folk, maybe they'll respond to being given a task to do if they sincerely do want to help. And then there are simply those whom you don't need in your life at this point because they're undermining your efforts.
The opposite problem - trying to find people - is unfortunately too common in our busy overbooked society. And hiring help is out of reach financially for many of us. Then being able if we do find someone to caution them to please not make judgmental comments when we've taken the scary step of letting them into our cluttered places. I don't have a lot of answers besides keep networking; I have trouble finding people too. But it's good when we can still press on and do what we can ourselves; maybe the people will show up at some point.