Cheryl, as another single person (and "mom" of furry kids though not human kids) my heart goes out to you. It seems we find ourselves sometimes damned if we do, damned if we don't. The situation about the trash - so ironic. Landlords can be so cold even if they mean well; they have the pressures on them from above, I guess. I was in a similar situation and was able to find a different place but if I hadn't been able to I'm sure I would've faced eviction too.
It does seem a lot of us in these situations are single women who don't have a support system of people to help - or if we find people maybe we're afraid they'd be judgmental.
I don't know what size community you live in but are there any resources? A friend and I've started attending a support group run by our city-county coalition on hoarding. It's not big enough to provide actual help but it does provide an opportunity to network, and I'm hoping maybe I'll learn of some ways to get help with actual moving of stuff when needed. (I'm on disability so can't afford to hire people.) You might call around and see if there's anything in your area. I know it's hard to do it, though.
One small idea - do you have any friend who owns a home who might be willing to let you put a bag or two in their dumpster once in awhile? Maybe that way the landlord wouldn't see it and it'd be gone. If it's stuff another person can use, I take it to the thrift shop ASAP - and then try not to linger at the thrift shop, LOL! That can be dangerous.
Know that others have gone through similar things and you are cared about and understood and not going to be shamed here. Take care!