Hi, Lymey, and welcome. Tillie has offered good advice already. Does your father have a principle doctor who oversees his care? Start there with asking for information and assistance regarding what can be done for your father. I presume he qualifies for, at least, Medicare, and receives Social Security?

From my own recent health experiences, I have found there is a wealth of services out there to help both financially and physically. There on in-person and online Altzheimer caregiver support forums and groups. Use them, since they can really understand what you are going through.

For your family, ask for a set date and time where all can chip in and go around the house collecting things that need to be discarded, then bagging them and taking them out to the garbage.

Everyone in the house should be doing their own laundry and cleaning their own rooms. Perhaps people can take turns with cooking and cleanup, whatever other tasks that fall heavily on you?

Please keep posting. We all care!

Hi Lymey. Glad you are here. You will find strength and support here. Excellent advice from Tillie. Please keep posting. We will help you.

Hi 🙂

First thing I would do is sit down the husband and teenager and tell them that you desperately need their help and cooperation.
Make up some "house rules" about everybody cleaning up after themselves.
Decide what housework chores they can do and when they need to be done.
Write up a list of all you have to do daily and let them see how hard you are working every day.
Let them know that you are exhausted and discouraged and overwhelmed by it all.

Hope they will change and help you.

It is great that most of the stuff can be sorted out and tossed.
That will make it more comfortable in your home and easier to keep clean.

Good luck and best wishes.
Please keep in touch here. 😀